In this powerful conversation with Courtney from Boston College, I go deep into my personal journey with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and – most importantly – the role shame played in all of it.
I open up about:
💬 My first experiences with food restriction at age 9 – and how it was modelled to me at home.
💬 Why I believe so many binge eating diagnoses are actually misdiagnosed bulimia.
💬 How perfectionism, overachieving, and people-pleasing kept me trapped for decades.
💬 The difference between the suppressed self and the soul self – and how to know which one you’re feeding.
💬 The rock-bottom moment on my kitchen floor that changed everything.
💬 Why shame thrives in secrecy and can only truly be healed in relationship with others.
💬 The deep connection between childhood needs not being met, shame around simply being human, and developing an eating disorder.
💬 How I learned to face my fears, stop being a victim to myself, and choose recovery every day.
💬 Why body image work was the missing piece in my healing – and how I used social media to normalise my bigger body.
This is a raw, unfiltered, and deeply human conversation. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” if you’ve struggled to love yourself in your body, or if you’ve wondered why recovery feels so damn hard – this one is for you.
💬 Favourite quotes from this episode:
💬 “Every single thing we do or don’t do is either an act of love or a cry for love.”
💬 “Shame keeps us stuck, silent, and separate – the only way it heals is in the light.”
💬 “Allowance always creates space for choice.”
💬 “Whatever you nourish will flourish – your suppressed self or your soul self.”
💬 “Recovery is guaranteed if you’re willing to face your fears.”
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