Breaking the Masculine Mold: Performance Anxiety, Pleasure & Redefining Intimacy | S3x, Love & Energy Podcast
In this honest and deeply human episode, MJ sits down with Cam Fraser — a sex coach, sexologist, and educator — to dive into the hidden struggles many men face around masculinity, emotional expression, and sexual performance. They explore how society teaches men to detach from their feelings, measure their worth by sexual performance, and suppress vulnerability — leaving many disconnected from pleasure and intimacy.
—The conversation highlights how performance anxiety, porn expectations, and the pressure to “man up” can create fear and shame in the bedroom. Cam shares his personal journey through alcohol-induced impotence and anxiety, and how embracing communication, curiosity, and body exploration transformed not only his sex life but his identity as a man.
✨ Whether you’re a man wanting deeper connection or someone who loves men and wants to better understand them — this episode offers practical insights and liberating perspectives to help transform intimacy from performance into play, pleasure, and presence.
🔑 Key Takeaways
Masculinity conditioning limits emotional expression and intimacy.
Performance anxiety is extremely common — and not a personal failure.
Porn can distort expectations about bodies, erections, and desire.
Self-pleasure isn’t just “getting off” — it’s exploration and embodiment.
Decentering the penis opens the door to more pleasure & connection.
“No big deal” attitudes around sexual mishaps reduce shame & fear.
Communication leads to trust, safety, and more satisfying sex.
Sex can be playful, experimental, and not defined by penetration.
🎙 Guest – Cam Fraser
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In this intimate and eye-opening episode, MJ sits down with Eleni Economides to explore the complexities of female pleasure, libido, and the courage to express desire. Together, they unpack how society conditions women to suppress their sexuality, the ways motherhood shifts their connection to sensuality, and how reclaiming desire becomes a powerful act of self-care and liberation.
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The conversation delves into the emotional and physiological aspects offemale arousal, the role of clitoral stimulation, and the importance of slow, conscious foreplay in helping women reconnect with their bodies. Eleni also shares her insights on overcoming shame, understanding low libido, and developing the courage to communicate sexual needs — paving the way for deeper intimacy and authentic pleasure.
✨ Whether you’re rediscovering your sensuality, navigating motherhood, or learning to own your desires, this episode invites you to reconnect with your body and embrace pleasure as your birthright.
🔑 Key Takeaways
✨Women are conditioned to suppress their sexuality from a young age.
✨Motherhood can disconnect women from their sensual self.
✨Nurturing desire is a vital part of self-care and empowerment.
✨Clitoral stimulation is essential for female orgasm.
✨Foreplay is about emotional and physical presence — not
performance.
✨Courage and communication are key to expressing sexual needs.
✨Low libido often stems from societal pressure and emotional
fatigue.
✨Talking about sexuality breaks shame and builds confidence.
✨Desire thrives when women feel safe, seen, and celebrated.
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🎙 Podcast Guest – Eleni Economides
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In this powerful episode, MJ sits down with Carla Crivaro to explore the importance of embracing desires, breaking shame, and opening up honest conversations about
intimacy and relationships. Through her coaching and women’s circles, Carla creates supportive spaces where women can feel safe, share their vulnerabilities, and step into
greater confidence
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The conversation dives into the dynamics of communication between men and women,
the complexities of non-monogamous relationships, and the role of jealousy and
emotions in partnerships. Carla emphasizes the importance of clarity, patience, and
validation when navigating boundaries, helping individuals feel seen, heard, and
empowered in their connections.
✨ Whether you’re curious about intimacy, navigating polyamory, or seeking tools to
build stronger relationships, this episode offers wisdom, encouragement, and practical
takeaways.
🔑 Key Takeaways
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Overcoming shame and despair leads to true confidence.
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Women’s circles provide safe spaces for deep conversations.
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Confidence grows from owning and sharing vulnerabilities.
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Understanding men’s behaviour helps women build better connections.
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Jealousy is natural in both monogamy and non-monogamy.
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Open communication is the foundation of strong relationships.
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Clarity before conversations creates better outcomes.
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Holding space deepens emotional intimacy.
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Conversations about intimacy should be two-way.
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Exploring new desires requires patience and compassion.
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sexuality, and empowerment.
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🎙 Podcast Guest – Carla Crivaro
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In this episode, MJ and special guest Leanne Hutchinson dive deep into the realities of single parenting from overcoming loneliness and rebuilding self-worth to finding joy, balance, and personal fulfillment. 💫
Whether you’re navigating the emotional challenges of dating as a single parent, learning how to set healthy boundaries with an ex, or discovering the importance of self-care, this conversation is filled with practical advice and empowering insights to help you embrace your journey with confidence.✨ What you’ll learn in this episode:How to cope with loneliness and rebuild self-worth after a breakupWhy “me time” and self-care are essential for single parentsTips for dating as a single parent without guilt or pressureThe role of communication in blending familiesHow to prioritise your happiness and avoid toxic relationships🔑 Key takeaways:✔️ Look after your own needs first✔️ Don’t rush into a new relationship✔️ Communication is everything when blending families✔️ It’s better to be happily single than stuck in toxicity⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Introduction to Single Parenting Challenges03:00 – Navigating Loneliness and Self-Worth05:50 – Finding Personal Fulfillment as a Parent08:37 – Dating as a Single Parent: Tips and Advice11:48 – Introducing New Partners to Children14:36 – Blending Families and the Power of Communication17:34 – Overcoming Dating Fears and Embracing Life--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------🎧 Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/9DsiQCqBZhYGuest information:📲Follow Leanne’s Instagram @lifeafterplusone👩🏼💻Leanne’s linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lifeafterplus1/🌐Check it out Leanne’s website: https://www.lifeafterplusone.com/📚Leanne’s Ebook Collection Just for Single Parents: https://www.lifeafterplusone.com/supporthub📲Follow MJ's Instagram: @Thepower of MJ 📹 Follow Sovier's Instagram @sovier.agency 🌐 Learn more: @S3xloveenergy
We always talk about red flags… but what about the green ones? In this episode of Sex, Love & Energy, MJ and Sugira, flip the script to spotlight the positive relationship traits that show someone’s worth holding onto.From attention to detail and good communication, to patience, trust, and yes — even a partner who helps you save money 💵 . we break down the habits, behaviours, and mindsets that make a relationship thrive.We also share:✨ Why being detail-oriented matters in love (and in date planning!)✨ How patience can make your connection stronger in a world of instant gratification✨ Why giving each other space is a major green flag✨ The difference between being bisexual and pansexual — and why labels can be both helpful and limiting✨ The hottest red flags we still watch out forIt’s raw, real, and full of laughs, plus, you might discover green flags you’ve been overlooking.💬 What’s YOUR biggest green flag? Drop it in the comments , we’ll read some of your answers in the next episode!📲 Follow MJ on Instagram: @Thepowerofmj🎙 Listen to the podcast on all platforms: https://youtube.com/@S3xloveenergy?si=DKzx_DcvNICqOGBI
From being bullied and battling social anxiety to becoming a confident style influencer, Bhav’s journey is one of resilience, authenticity, and fearless self-expression.
🌟In this episode of the S3x, Love & Energy Podcast, Bhav opens up about overcoming rock bottom moments, discovering the power of “dopamine dressing,” and building confidence through fashion.You’ll discover:
✨ How fashion can be a tool for self-expression and confidence
✨ Practical style tips for experimenting, thrifting, and wardrobe evolution
✨ How to overcome fear of rejection and embrace authenticity
✨ Why growth comes from stepping outside your comfort zone
✨ Bhav’s personal story of turning pain into power through self-beliefThis conversation is packed with actionable advice, heartfelt insights, and motivation to help you step into your true style and shine.
💡 Key Takeaways:✔ Fashion is about expressing yourself, not chasing trends✔ Confidence grows when you experiment with your look✔ Authenticity is magnetic — your uniqueness is your power✔ Personal growth is a daily practice of resilience and self-belief
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transformation.#FashionJourney #StyleTips #Confidence #SelfExpression #PersonalGrowth #Motivation #S3xLoveEnergyPodcast #DopamineDressing #ThriftStyle #Authenticity #Inspiration
✨Let's connect: 📲Follow Bhav’s Instagram @bhav.xo🎧 Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/HxITupcD0_4📲 Follow MJ’s Instagram: @thepowerofmj📹 Follow Sovier’s Instagram: @sovier.agency🌐 Learn more: @s3xloveenergy
We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are.In this episode, Ginger and I dive deep into the wild world of dating, unhealed traumas, toxic masculinity, and how our unresolved wounds shape the people we let into our lives. It’s raw, real, and a little too relatable.This one’s for anyone who’s ever looked at their dating history and thought… damn, maybe it’s me.#DatingTalk #TraumaHealing #PodcastHighlights #ToxicDating #UnfilteredConversations #RealTalk
In this special episode, MJ and Sugira dive deep into the unforgettable viral moment of the guy caught on the Coldplay kiss cam! 🎤💋 Watch as we break down the hilarious reactions, the crowd’s energy, and why this kiss cam clip took over social media.*The full story behind the viral Coldplay kiss cam guy moment*Why the video is trending worldwide and capturing hearts*MJ & Sugira’s funniest and most honest reactions*How kiss cams bring fans and artists closer live at concerts*What this viral moment means for fan culture and social media buzz*If you love viral music moments, concert highlights, and real-time reactions, don’t miss this episode! *Hit subscribe and ring the bell to stay updated with all MJ & Sugira specials. #Coldplay #KissCam #ViralVideo #MJandSugira #ConcertMoments #ViralReactions #FunnyKissCam #ColdplayFans
Sometimes you’ve gotta face your own sh*t to grow. I’m off to a wellness retreat to unplug, reflect, and deal with the things I’ve been avoiding. It’s not always pretty — but it’s necessary.Time to heal, reset, and come back better.See you, MJ---------------------📲 Subscribe S3x, Love & Energy: @S3xloveenergy🎧 Watch the full episode → • Your body know the vibe with Pauline Ryeland 📲 MJ’s Instagram: @ThepowerofmjMJ📹 Sovier’s Instagram: @sovier.agency🌐 Learn More: @S3xloveenergy
🔥In this enlightening episode of the S3x, Love & Energy Podcast 🎙, MJ sits down with intimacy, sex, and libido educator Pauline Ryeland to explore the many layers of intimacy, sexual wellness, and self-connection.With over 15 years of experience , Pauline shares a holistic approach to addressing sexual challenges—from improving communication in relationships to navigating trauma and emotional blocks. You’ll learn how understanding love languages , letting go of expectations , and harnessing sexual energy can lead to deeper connections and personal growth.This powerful conversation also offers practical tips including body-based exercises like shaking 🌀 and imprinting techniques 🌟 to help you reconnect with your body, create new cellular memories, and embrace intimacy without pressure.💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:🗣 How communication can transform your relationship💌 The role of love languages in sexual and emotional connection💔 Ways to navigate trauma and emotional baggage🔥 How to harness sexual energy beyond physical intimacy🌀 Simple body practices to reconnect with yourself🌸 The benefits of releasing expectations during intimacy⏳ Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to Intimacy and Connection02:39 – Holistic Approaches to Sexual Wellness05:48 – The Importance of Self-Connection08:30 – Communication in Intimacy11:19 – Understanding Love Languages14:01 – Navigating Trauma in Relationships17:03 – Exploring Sexual Energy19:59 – Letting Go of Expectations in Intimacy22:45 – Practical Tips for Reconnecting with Your Body----------------------------------------🎙 Podcast Guest – Pauline Ryland📲 Instagram: @intimacywhisperer🌐 Website: https://paulineryeland.com👩🏽💻 LinkedIn: Pauline Ryland – https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulineryeland-intimacy-whisperer/📕 Empowered Conscious Sexuality →https://paulineryeland.com/empowered-conscious-sexuality/---------------------📲 Subscribe S3x, Love & Energy: @S3xloveenergy🎧 Watch the full episode → https://youtu.be/8lcJkbt0dNU📲 MJ’s Instagram: @ThepowerofmjMJ📹 Sovier’s Instagram: @sovier.agency🌐 Learn More: @S3xloveenergy
Why buying yourself flowers or going on a solo date is a powerful act of self-care and self-loveHow to balance your sensual, soft feminine energy with fierce independenceWhat it truly means to step confidently into your soft era without losing strength or boundariesThe importance of setting healthy boundaries and protecting your energy for emotional well-beingMy personal journey of embracing authenticity, building self-confidence, and learning self-trust✨ Whether you’re feeling low confidence, navigating your feminine and masculine energy balance, or simply want to live more authentically aligned with your true self — this pep talk is for YOU.-----------------------------------------------------------------Connect with MJ:🔗Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepowerofm...👩🏽💻Media & Production: / sovier.agency 💬 Comment below: How do you make every moment special? What does your soft era look like?👍 Like, subscribe, and share to join a community dedicated to sexual wellness, feminine empowerment, and personal growth.#SelfLove #FeminineEnergy #SoftEra #SexualWellness #Empowerment #SelfCare #Authenticity #Confidence
Well… this birthday didn’t go quite as planned 😅 In this juicy episode, I spill the tea on one of the wildest surprises I’ve ever received for my birthday. From good vibes to awkward phone calls and a lesson I’ll never forget — you’ll want to hear how this one unfolded!Expect laughs, honesty, and a reminder that sometimes life loves to keep us humble. Hit play and let’s get into it 👀✨Subscribe for more wild storytimes, dating diaries, and unfiltered real talk.#Storytime #BirthdaySurprise #UnfilteredTalk #DatingDiaries #LifeLessons
In this juicy episode, I sit down with the incredible Federica, cofounder of Senses Collective to talk about the hottest s3x toys of 2025 — sleek, minimalistic, and powerful designs that every woman, whether a total beginner or a seasoned pro, should have in her collection.
We dive deep into the world of pleasure, the importance of exploring your body, and why investing in your sensuality is a radical act of self-love.
But it’s not just about the toys. We also unpack the very real challenges we face as sexuality educators and advocates on social media — from censorship to double standards — and why it’s more important than ever to keep these conversations alive and unapologetic.
This episode is for the women ready to own their pleasure and rewrite the rules.
Tune in and treat yourself to the best toys of 2025. Use code MJ11 for a cheeky discount. 🔥
In this solo episode, I’m getting real about something we’ve all been guilty of — falling in love with someone’s potential, instead of who they actually are.
I’m breaking down the illusion we create in our minds, chasing the idea of what someone could be if they healed, grew, or finally stepped into their higher self. Sis — it’s time to stop dating the fantasy and start recognising the reality.
We talk about choosing people who are already living in alignment with who they say they want to become, and letting go of the f*ck boys, time-wasters, and anyone who makes you shrink. Because your energy is sacred, and you deserve to be met, not managed.
Tune in, it’s raw, it’s honest, and it’s exactly what you needed to hear today.
We’re back, and this season it’s personal. The State of Love episode is all about the raw, unfiltered conversations we actually need to be having about love, intimacy, and the energy we allow into our lives.
In this season, I open up like never before including spilling the tea on how I was once married to a woman, what that chapter taught me about myself, and how it’s shaped what I now seek in a partner.
We dive deep into the importance of choosing the right people to surround yourself with — lovers, friends, and collaborators who lift you, challenge you, and see you for the badass you are. Because love isn’t just romance; it’s the energy you build your life around.
Expect real talk, a few confessions, and powerful reminders about standing in your truth when it comes to love, s3x, and who gets access to your energy.
It’s unapologetic. It’s raw. It’s time.
Welcome to the Sex,Love and Energy! In today's episode, our host MJ and Anastacia dive deep into the nuanced world of kinks and fetishes. They explore the importance of education and open communication, and how experiences and traumas can shape sexual preferences. We'll hear about Anastacia's personal journey and the lessons she's learned from various partners. MJ shares a thought-provoking conversation about how childhood traumas can influence fetishes. The discussion touches on the essentials of consent, setting boundaries, and negotiating before engaging in intimate activities, particularly in BDSM practices. They also offer invaluable advice on reigniting the spark in long-term relationships, incorporating role play, and exploring new settings and techniques. Lastly, Anastacia and MJ candidly discuss the impact of societal expectations and the path to living authentically. So get ready for an episode filled with insightful conversations, practical tips, and a bit of humor to guide you through the complexities of sexual exploration. Let's jump in!
Welcome back to Sex,Love and Energy! In today's episode, Mj and Erica delve deep into the transformative power of confronting and releasing past traumas. They explore how acknowledging and experiencing pain is a crucial step in the healing journey. Erica, a Kundalini bodywork facilitator, offers insights into what to expect in a Kundalini session, including setting intentions and breath work, and shares how this practice can help process and transform suppressed emotions. The conversation takes a fascinating turn into topics of sexuality, self-image, and the influence of social media on our perceptions, particularly regarding body image. Mj and Erica discuss their personal journeys toward self-acceptance and the excitement of future motherhood. They emphasize the importance of truthful energy in relationships and effective communication to foster deeper connections. Listeners will also hear about the impact of upbringing on sexuality, the significance of sex education, and the hosts' desire to provide better guidance to the next generation. Erica shares her personal journey to becoming a Kundalini practitioner, including her spiritual awakening in Bali, and both hosts discuss the profound changes energy work has brought to their lives. Don't miss this enlightening episode that promises to leave you inspired to tap into your own energy and embrace a more present, blissful state. Make sure to subscribe for more enriching conversations, and as always, Mj and Erica end the segment with a heartfelt expression of love and gratitude. Make sure to tune in and don't forget to like and subscribe
Welcome back, passionate listeners, to another soul-stirring episode of MJ S3X LOVE AND ENERGY. I'm your host, Mj, joined by the ever-enlightening Ginger. Tonight, prepare to dive deep as we unravel the mysteries of Tantra, a transformative journey beyond the quick-fix thrills of the modern sex scene.In episode 2 of our illuminating first season, we're not just scratching the surface; we're going beneath the layers society has pressed upon us, dissecting the disconnect that pornography has wedged into our intimacy. Tonight, we'll traverse the path of true connection with Ginger Aria, who will share her personal awakening into the world of Tantra. Together, we'll explore how society has hardened our exteriors and numbed us to the finer aspects of sensuality. We'll converse about the critical role of communication and vulnerability in laying bare our deepest desires, and we'll confront the haunting specter of infidelity, seeking to understand its roots in emotional disconnection.Prepare for a thought-provoking session where we detail the sacredness of a tantric experience, from eye gazing and breathwork to the dance of shiva and shakti. We'll discuss the nuances of our personal approaches with clients, revealing how an intentional touch can redefine one's sexual confidence and connection.Join us on a quest for deeper intimacy through energetic orgasms and non-penetrative exchanges that aim to satisfy the soul. It's not just sex; it's a revolution of love and energy. Get cozy, open your hearts, and let's begin this intimate exploration together. Stay connected.📲 Follow MJ on Instagram for more insights: @thepowerofmj
🎙️ Welcome to the debut episode of "S3x, Love, and Energy" Second season! Join MJ, a dedicated Tantra practitioner, along with special guest Shannon, as we embark on an enthralling journey to explore the essence of living authentically. Get ready for real-life insights and transformative discussions with industry experts and friends in the field. In this captivating episode, we delve into the realms of self-discovery, intimacy, and personal empowerment. Discover how embracing your true self can lead to profound transformations and unlock the full potential of your life. Tune in now to ignite your passion, awaken your spirit, and embark on a journey towards a more fulfilling existence. Our guest shannon gives amazing advice on how men can attract the women of their dreams and really how we can live within our authentic selves Don't miss out on this extraordinary exploration! Subscribe and join us on this empowering quest. 📲 Follow MJ on Instagram for more insights: @thepowerofmj Ready to take your intimacy to the next level? Book a call with MJ, proud podcast host and creator of this groundbreaking show, to further enhance your sex life and holistic well-being. Email: contact@thepowerofmj.com
In this episode, I'm opening up to share my personal journey because I believe my story can inspire you to embrace deeper emotions, explore new horizons, and foster self-discovery. I encourage you to be open with yourself and let go of anything that might be holding you back. I understand that it's challenging to stay true to oneself in today's world, but I emphasize the importance of authenticity in expressing emotions. I don't have everything figured out, but I'm here, working on myself.
Join me on this ongoing journey of personal growth and discovery.