Breaking the Masculine Mold: Performance Anxiety, Pleasure & Redefining Intimacy | S3x, Love & Energy Podcast
In this honest and deeply human episode, MJ sits down with Cam Fraser — a sex coach, sexologist, and educator — to dive into the hidden struggles many men face around masculinity, emotional expression, and sexual performance. They explore how society teaches men to detach from their feelings, measure their worth by sexual performance, and suppress vulnerability — leaving many disconnected from pleasure and intimacy.
—The conversation highlights how performance anxiety, porn expectations, and the pressure to “man up” can create fear and shame in the bedroom. Cam shares his personal journey through alcohol-induced impotence and anxiety, and how embracing communication, curiosity, and body exploration transformed not only his sex life but his identity as a man.
✨ Whether you’re a man wanting deeper connection or someone who loves men and wants to better understand them — this episode offers practical insights and liberating perspectives to help transform intimacy from performance into play, pleasure, and presence.
🔑 Key Takeaways
Masculinity conditioning limits emotional expression and intimacy.
Performance anxiety is extremely common — and not a personal failure.
Porn can distort expectations about bodies, erections, and desire.
Self-pleasure isn’t just “getting off” — it’s exploration and embodiment.
Decentering the penis opens the door to more pleasure & connection.
“No big deal” attitudes around sexual mishaps reduce shame & fear.
Communication leads to trust, safety, and more satisfying sex.
Sex can be playful, experimental, and not defined by penetration.
🎙 Guest – Cam Fraser
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