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Middling Along
Emma Thomas
120 episodes
1 week ago
The Middling Along podcast is for those of us navigating the Messy Middle bit of life - whether that is peri/menopause, the midlife collision of caring upward and downward, overwhelm, burnout, health challenges, and gendered ageism... Often, we find as women hitting a ‘certain point’ in life, that we are so used to people-pleasing, and making sure that everyone else is OK, and their needs are met, that we have lost touch with what we want, what we need, who we are… I started Middling Along with the aim of reclaiming my own ‘midlife’ and finding my happy. Along the way we’ve covered stories of people starting new businesses, changing careers, and taking up new hobbies that have changed their lives forever. We also cover topics such as peri/menopause, midlife wellbeing and positive aging. Join us for a dose of inspiration - and make sure you spend your ’messy middle’ years thriving too!
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The Middling Along podcast is for those of us navigating the Messy Middle bit of life - whether that is peri/menopause, the midlife collision of caring upward and downward, overwhelm, burnout, health challenges, and gendered ageism... Often, we find as women hitting a ‘certain point’ in life, that we are so used to people-pleasing, and making sure that everyone else is OK, and their needs are met, that we have lost touch with what we want, what we need, who we are… I started Middling Along with the aim of reclaiming my own ‘midlife’ and finding my happy. Along the way we’ve covered stories of people starting new businesses, changing careers, and taking up new hobbies that have changed their lives forever. We also cover topics such as peri/menopause, midlife wellbeing and positive aging. Join us for a dose of inspiration - and make sure you spend your ’messy middle’ years thriving too!
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Middling Along
Lou Furby on MenoTalk - how Specsavers walk the talk in menopause support
In this episode I chat to Lou Furby, Specsavers’ UK D&I lead, who shares how Specsavers built a workplace menopause support program from the ground up. We cover the creation of MenoTalk, the importance of inclusive, cross-functional involvement, the role of top-down sponsorship and allyship, practical strategies for creating a supportive workplace culture around menopause, and how to sustain momentum with education, language, and data. Packed with actionable tips for anyone aiming to start or grow a menopause-focused employee resource or wellbeing initiative. Key quotes “Don’t try and do it all on your own. Get the right stakeholders involved. Have a steering group, a co-chair, and a sponsor.” “Pick off the low hanging fruit. Pick off the stuff that you can do and implement quickly.” “It’s a war, not a battle.” (on sustaining momentum and not letting initiatives stall) “Education and information was absolutely key.” (on the foundation for successful engagement) “Language matters. Be direct and transparent about what menopause is.” (on avoiding euphemisms and building credibility) “We can’t mandate everything in a joint venture, so we rely on leadership visibility and storytelling to drive engagement.” Practical takeaways for HR & wellbeing teams: Start with a steering group: bring cross-functional representation (HR/ER, facilities, IT, wellbeing/D&I) and appoint a co-chair to share the load. Secure an advocate sponsor: a trusted, visible leader in the business to champion the initiative. Listen first: let people’s needs drive the program; avoid overloading participants with campaigns before trust is built. Use language that’s clear and factual: don’t shy away from the terminology of menopause and related symptoms. Connect with external expertise: partner with specialists to provide credible education and resources.  Implement quick wins: pick “low hanging fruit” that deliver tangible benefits.  Align with broader wellbeing and D&I goals: link the initiative to accreditation (Wellbeing of Women Workplace pledge) and overall staff welfare programs. Consider store-level realities: in retail, tailor adjustments to individual roles (e.g., door duty vs. back office) and support teams accordingly. Support managers with tools and training: give managers a framework for having compassionate, validating conversations. Provide holistic support: combine access to private care, wellbeing apps (Headspace), and flexible adjustments to support employees. Three actionable next steps you can take Create a cross-functional steering group and appoint a co-chair and a sponsor to lead a menopause initiative in your organization. Sign up for the Wellbeing of Women Workplace pledge and plan an introductory menopause education session with an external expert. Start a candid conversation with your HR/ER team about how to support line managers in having empathetic, validated conversations about menopause with their teams; aim to roll out basic manager training.   Resources: Connect with Lou over on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lou-furby-49290844/ For menopause training and awareness sessions: www.managingthemenopause.com   If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/ 
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1 week ago
38 minutes

Middling Along
Erin Gallagher on Hype Women: Breaking Free from Mean Girls, Patriarchy, and Systems Silencing You
My guest this time is Erin Gallagher - CEO of Ella and author of Hype Women: Breaking Free from Mean Girls, Patriarchy, and Systems Silencing You. Erin shares the inspiration behind the Hype Women movement and subsequent book. She explains how a single, intuitive post about celebrating other women sparked a global movement that reframed how women show up for one another. The conversation dives into unlearning decades of conditioning, rebuilding an “operating system” that prioritizes calm and self-care, and reconfiguring the ways women deploy their various forms of capital (human, social, financial, political) to support each other. Erin also walks through practical strategies for boundaries, managing expectations within family and work circles, and the daily actions that accumulate into meaningful cultural change. We end with practical takeaways for listeners to start hyping other women and creating a more supportive, less competitive ecosystem.   Key takeaways Unlearning and rewiring your operating system takes time and deliberate effort. It’s not overnight, but small, daily shifts accumulate into lasting change. Hype is active and transactional: hype requires action. It’s about transferring capital (not just admiration) to support other women and yourself. The hype economy rests on four forms of capital: Human capital: your experience, expertise, and knowledge you can share. Social capital: your network and the introductions you can make. Political capital: your reputation and platform. Financial capital: money and investments you can deploy. Boundaries are powerful and often resisted by others who benefited from your lack of boundaries. Erin shares this quote from Emma Gannon: “The only people who get upset when you start setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having them.” It’s possible to reparent and renegotiate relationships with family (especially parents) as you evolve. This can be painful but is often essential for long-term wellbeing. The “could, should, would” framework helps decision-making: Could: are you capable of doing this? Should: does it serve a greater goal or bring usefulness? Would: would you still choose this option given your values and desires? Owning your worth and choosing yourself is a form of radical self-respect that challenges intergenerational patterns of self-sacrifice. Reclaiming unpaid labor and boundaries can free substantial time and energy, enabling more impactful engagement with work and family. Gatekeeping among women is common but counterproductive; sharing knowledge and opportunities strengthens everyone. Real conversations with close family (even when difficult) can accelerate healing and transformation. If direct dialogue isn’t possible, writing or voice recordings can help you process and release trauma. Suggested actions for listeners Do a personal life audit: where are you depleted, and where do you feel energized? Reallocate time and energy away from draining activities toward high-leverage, fulfilling ones. Practice boundary-setting: start with small steps and observe who reacts; use boundaries as a compass for where your time and energy should go. Identify and deploy your own four forms of capital to support other women (and invite them to contribute to you in return). Read or listen to Hype Women to understand the practical frameworks Erin shares and apply them to your own life. Hype Women: Breaking Free from Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You (out 7 October in the UK and October 14 in the US) https://www.hypewomen.com/about https://www.waterstones.com/book/hype-women/erin-gallagher/9781394329502   If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. Where to find me: Join me over at www.holdingupthesky.com  Book in coaching with me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   Find my menopause in the workplace support at www.managingthemenopause.com  Connect with me at https://www.linkedin.co
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1 month ago
44 minutes

Middling Along
Nicky Denson-Elliott on Good Girl Economics, redefining our worth and unlearning internalized misogyny
My guest this time is Nicky Denson-Elliott – serial entrepreneur, founder of the Wilder Collective and host of the Women’s Business podcast. Nicky is focused on elevating female founders and redefining success beyond conventional hustle culture.   We explore the realities of building businesses as women plus the latest research behind internalized misogyny (the internal dialogue and conditioning that influences how women value their work and themselves). Join us as we take a tour through Nicky’s career pivots, from launching an events business to starting a unisex kids’ clothing brand during the pandemic, to launching her own podcast and the birth of The Wilder Collective. We delve into reframing success beyond money and status and the reality of balancing entrepreneurship with life, expectations, and authenticity... We’re lucky enough to get an early insight into the gloriously titled ‘Good Girl Economics’ research Nicky has been conducting over the summer with (past guest of the podcast) Leila Ainge which aims to quantify and illuminate how women price their services and perceive other women’s success.  You can find Nicky at: thewildercollective.co.uk  https://www.instagram.com/wilder.ones  https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicky-denson-elliott-44103418/?skipRedirect=true    If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. Where to find me: Join me over at www.holdingupthesky.com  Book in coaching with me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   Find my menopause in the workplace support at www.managingthemenopause.com  Connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   Follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  Or subscribe to my weekly(ish) Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/    
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1 month ago
32 minutes

Middling Along
Bonus Episode: Are You Holding Up The Sky? Then come join us...
Welcome to this bonus episode with me, and fellow coach and burnout expert Lisa Tyler. We'd love to tell you about the new project we have just launched... Do you sometimes feel like you’re Holding up the Sky? You’re exhausted from being all things to all people. Madly juggling parenting, elder care, job, health. Maybe you’re also supporting your young adults who aren’t quite ‘fully fledged’. If you feel like you’re constantly teetering on the brink of burnout and playing ‘Whack-a-Mole’ with possible peri/menopause symptoms… Then Holding Up The Sky is the safety net you didn’t know you needed but is going to change the game for you. A community that builds in: group coaching (with two accredited coaches, alternating once per fortnight) expert workshops (on topics like breathwork, dealing with burnout, yoga therapy, perimenopause, navigating SEND systems, divorce, elder care, bereavement and more) quarterly Q&A sessions with GP and BMS Advanced practitioner Dr Beth Thomas community support - dip in and out as much as you wish available on desktop or app, toggle between both on the go practical advice and resources (links, books, podcasts, worksheets) so you can navigate your way through the “midlife collision” without losing your sh*t… This is for you… if you’re a midlife woman feeling like they are doing Everything, Everywhere, All At Once...and want to rewrite your narrative before you reach burnout. This isn't… another program promising to "fix" you in 30 days. This is a membership space built from hundreds of conversations about what we actually need: Permission to not have it all figured out Practical tools that work in real life (not just on Instagram) A community that gets it without you having to explain Expert guidance from people who've walked this path We'd love to welcome you in to our community space, come and find out more at www.holdingupthesky.com or subscribe at https://holdingupthesky.circle.so/checkout/launch-monthly-membership Thanks for listening! 
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1 month ago
11 minutes

Middling Along
Jane Moffett on Redefining Retirement - how to find the right path for you
In this episode, Emma welcomes Jane Moffett, a coach and author who specializes in helping women navigate the transitions in their careers and lives. Jane is the founder and director of Kangaroo Coaching, a company that works with organisations who are committed to creating progressive workplace cultures. She runs coaching programmes for new parent employees and their line managers, offers 1:1 and group coaching, and is a researcher and writer. Her most recent work is with women who are navigating their way out of work and into their next stage of life. She regularly runs her ‘Empowered Women’ courses aimed at the late-career stage, and her book ‘What next? The savvy woman’s guide to redefining retirement’ is out on 9th September.   Key Points & Takeaways Postmenopausal Zest: coined by Margaret Mead, this concept refers to a renewed sense of purpose and clarity that many women experience after menopause. Jane emphasizes the importance of authenticity during this stage, encouraging women to pursue what truly lights them up. The Third Stage of Women’s Careers: This stage is characterized by a shift from “work you need to do” to “work you want to do.” Jane highlights the importance of leveraging past experiences and networks when transitioning into new ventures. Entrepreneurship Among Women: The fastest-growing cohort of entrepreneurs is women in their fifties. Jane encourages bravery and proactivity, urging women to draw on their strengths and reach out to their networks. Navigating Empty Nest Syndrome: Acknowledging the psychological transition when children leave home can help women focus on their own identities and aspirations. Investing in Intangible Assets: Jane discusses the concept of investing in productive, vitality, and transformational assets to enhance longevity and fulfilment in life. Self-knowledge and community involvement are crucial for successful transformation. Finding Purpose: The Japanese concept of "Ikigai" is introduced as a framework for finding purpose by combining what you love, what you’re good at, and what contributes to others. Jane shares practical exercises like free writing to help individuals discover their purpose. The Gender Pension Gap: Women often retire with significantly less in pension savings compared to men, primarily due to salary disparities and career breaks. Jane stresses the importance of considering pension wealth in life planning, especially during major life transitions like divorce. Redefining Retirement: The traditional binary view of work and retirement is evolving; people are exploring varied paths that may include part-time work, entrepreneurship, or new hobbies. Planning for retirement should focus on creating a fulfilling and personalized experience. Resources Jane’s Website: Kangaroo Coaching – where you can find resources and a workbook for self-reflection: https://kangaroocoaching.net/from-retired-to-redefined  Jane’s Book: What Next? The Savvy Woman's Guide to Redefining Retirement – available from September 9, 2025 Exploratory Writing by Alison Jones – a resource for reflective writing practices. If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. Want to work with me? Join me over at www.holdingupthesky.com  Coaching with me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   Menopause in the workplace support at www.managingthemenopause.com  Connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   Follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  Or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/ 
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2 months ago
32 minutes

Middling Along
Dr Rachael Chrystal on Navigating Burnout and Perimenopause
In this enlightening episode I chat with Dr Rachael Crystal, a GP and accredited menopause specialist, about the complex relationship between burnout and perimenopause. We explore how hormonal changes, stress, and life pressures intertwine, impacting women's mental and physical well-being during midlife. Rachel shares her Masters research on the lived experiences of professional women navigating burnout during perimenopause, revealing key themes like loss of identity, the importance of support, and pathways to empowerment. If you're curious about recognizing burnout, understanding hormonal impacts, or seeking ways to thrive through midlife, this episode is packed with valuable insights and hope.   Key Points & Takeaways: Burnout & Perimenopause Overlap: Many women experience symptoms like exhaustion, brain fog, and emotional detachment during perimenopause, often exacerbated by stress and life pressures. These symptoms can be mistaken for other issues, leading to confusion and delayed support. The Role of Hormones: Fluctuating oestrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels during perimenopause impact brain function, resilience, and stress management, making women more vulnerable to burnout. Research Insights: Rachael's qualitative research with 15 women uncovered four key themes, including the "lost in transition" feeling—women feeling a loss of identity and grappling with the invisible pressures of work and life. Challenges in Diagnosis: Many women struggle to get clear answers, often being misdiagnosed or told their symptoms are due to stress or depression. Blood tests may not always provide clarity in perimenopause. Pathways to Empowerment: Supportive interventions like hormone replacement therapy (HRT), coaching, counseling, and building community can help women regain confidence, set boundaries, and re-evaluate their lives. The Power of Community & Support: Normalizing conversations about menopause and burnout, creating safe spaces, and sharing stories can reduce stigma and foster resilience. Hope & Positive Change: Many women find empowerment and renewed confidence after navigating these challenges, often emerging with clearer boundaries, stronger self-awareness, and a sense of freedom.   Connect with Rachael and learn more about her work at Manchester Menopause Hive (https://manchestermenopausehive.co.uk/) and via The Burnout Revolution podcast and Substack newsletter (https://rachaelchrystal.substack.com/podcast)  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. Want to work with me? Join me over at www.holdingupthesky.com - our new community for women navigating the "midlife collision" Coaching with me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   Menopause in the workplace support at www.managingthemenopause.com  Connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   Follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  Or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/  
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3 months ago
37 minutes 5 seconds

Middling Along
Jacqueline Hooton on Strength, Fitness, and Living Life to the Full in Midlife
In this episode I chat to personal trainer and author Jacqueline Hooton about the importance of strength and fitness for women in midlife and beyond. Jacqueline shares her insights on how to start exercising safely, debunks myths about strength training making women bulky, and discusses how fitness can support independence, health, and happiness as we age. Whether you're new to exercise or looking to enhance your current routine, Jacqueline’s practical advice and motivational stories will encourage you to invest in your health today for a healthier, more vibrant future.   Key Topics Covered: The motivation behind Jacqueline’s book, Strong: The Definitive Guide to Active Ageing Why strength training is vital for women in midlife and beyond The relationship between menopause, aging, and health risks like cardiovascular disease and bone loss Practical tips for beginners: starting with walking, bodyweight exercises, and resistance bands Debunking myths about strength training and muscle bulk How to adapt training during injuries and health challenges The importance of visualizing your future self and setting meaningful goals Fun ways to stay active, including dance and outdoor activities Building a sustainable, enjoyable fitness routine with support and accountability Resources:   Jacqueline’s website: https://www.hergardengym.co.uk/  Jacqueline’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hergardengym  Strong: The Definitive Guide to Active Ageing  https://harpercollins.co.uk/products/strong-the-definitive-guide-to-active-ageing-jacqueline-hooton-2?variant=41459815219278   If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org / www.managingthemenpause.com / www.holdingupthesky.com  connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/  follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/ 
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3 months ago
32 minutes 58 seconds

Middling Along
Julie Smith is here to Coach you Confident!
In this episode we chat to Julie Smith about the nuances of confidence and practical strategies to boost yours. Julie shares insights from her coaching experience and her award-winning book, Coach Yourself Confident, offering tips on overcoming self-doubt, managing setbacks, and cultivating humble confidence.   Key Topics Covered: Why confidence often hides behind other development themes The concept of humble confidence — aligning your capabilities with your self-view The importance of realistic, grounded self-assessment Common misconceptions about confidence and success The impact of societal norms and gender differences on confidence Recognizing and managing internal saboteurs like comparisonitis and perfectionism Practical exercises to strengthen your confidence muscle Handling external setbacks and life's inevitable challenges The power of awareness, language, and self-compassion in building confidence Special Highlights: The "full stop" technique to combat negative self-talk Naming your inner critic (sorry Nigel!) for greater self-awareness Embracing the idea that confidence fluctuates — it’s normal to feel confident sometimes and doubtful others Insights from The Authority Gap on gender and confidence Julie’s book Coach Yourself Confident is a finalist for a prestigious business book award, with a special Kindle offer for just 99p until mid-August 2025: https://mybook.to/CYC-eb Connect with Julie: Website: talentsprout.co.uk LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-smith-talent-sprout/  Resources: Download Tara Mohr’s cheat sheet on minimizing language in emails: https://www.taramohr.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Before-You-Hit-Send-Checklist-Tara-Mohr.pdf  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/
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4 months ago
37 minutes 20 seconds

Middling Along
Dr Giselle Goodwin asks...Can women really have it all?
In this episode I’m joined by author, speaker, and researcher Dr Giselle Goodwin. With over 25 years of entrepreneurial experience and a PhD exploring women, work, and well-being, Giselle shares her expert perspectives on the societal pressures women face, the evolution of gender roles, and practical strategies for reclaiming happiness and balance in midlife. From unpacking the cultural myths around "having it all" to redefining masculinity and supporting women in the workplace, this conversation offers empowering insights for women navigating the complexities of modern life.   Inside this episode: - The cultural messaging that has shaped women’s perceptions of what they should be and do   - How societal expectations around gender roles have evolved over the last century   - The concept of the "third job" women undertake (beyond work and family) and its impact on health and happiness   - Practical tips for setting boundaries, delegating, and embracing your authentic self   - How to challenge the "good girl" persona and prioritize your well-being   - The importance of engaging men and boys in creating more equitable relationships and societal norms   - Strategies to support working mothers, carers, and those with dual roles in the workplace   - The science of happiness and how behaviours can boost well-being     So can we have it all? [Spoiler alert: probably not, or at least, not all at the same time…] You can find out more at https://gisellegoodwin.com  and take the quiz to discover your next steps: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/1137296/136174346959848534/share  Follow Giselle on Instagram: @GiselleGoodwinWrites Find Giselle on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gisellegoodwin  Buy a copy of Can Women Really Have It All at https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/106877861X?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_4W08MB5PP8KRT2X7XZRV&    If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org and www.managingthemenpause.com  connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/  follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/
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4 months ago
38 minutes 50 seconds

Middling Along
Emma Bardwell is back with The 30g Plan to beat food overwhelm
Get ready to bust through nutrition overwhelm with brilliant nutritionist Emma Bardwell as she returns to the podcast to share insights from her latest book, The 30g Plan. If you're feeling a bit ‘headless chicken’ reading all the endless diet advice and trying to juggle balanced eating, Emma’s here to cut through the noise and give you a straightforward plan to boost your fibre, protein, and plant power.   In this episode, Emma shares her top hacks and hints to make healthy eating achievable and enjoyable. Discover the magic of storage p*rn—yes, beautiful food prep that motivates you! Learn how to tweak and swap ingredients to keep meals exciting, even if you're cooking for fussier family members.   Emma emphasizes that imperfection is okay: it's what we do most of the time that truly counts. If aiming for three perfect meals a day feels daunting, start small: focus on getting a nutritious breakfast right, and build from there.   Plus, Emma reveals her favourite quick recipes and lunchtime ideas, along with her top time-saving hacks, shortcuts, and must-have gadgets that make healthy cooking a breeze—all designed to fit into busy, overwhelmed schedules and ready in 30 minutes or less!   And don’t miss her tip on Myota, a gentle fibre supplement that supports gut health without fuss.   Whether you're looking to overhaul your diet or just find simple ways to eat better without the stress, this episode is packed with practical advice to help you thrive.   Tune in and get inspired to make nourishing, fuss-free meals part of your everyday life!   If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at http://www.thetripleshift.org   connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/ 
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5 months ago
28 minutes 47 seconds

Middling Along
Sara Barnes on resilience, rediscovering nature (and herself) and redefining adventures
Join us for a gorgeous conversation with writer and passionate cold water swimmer Sara Barnes.     Over the past decade, Sara’s journey has been nothing short of remarkable. From barely being able to walk in her fifties to reclaiming an active, outdoor life amidst the stunning landscapes of the Lake District, she’s navigated major surgeries, embarked on solo campervan adventures through Scotland, and published not one but two compelling books: The Cold Fix and her debut novel, The Winter of Our Lives.     In this episode, Sara shares her transformative story of resilience, discovery, and connection. Discover how cold water swimming became a powerful tool for overcoming anxiety and reconnecting with nature—and yourself. She reveals creative ways to get your own "Cold Fix," the importance of community, and how immersing in nature can shift your perspective on aging, confidence, and what’s possible.     Sara also discusses her solo adventures, including a campervan journey that taught her invaluable lessons about adapting, slowing down, and embracing the present. Plus, she explores her dream of moving to France and how health scares helped her realize what truly matters—less stuff, more experience, and the freedom of just being.     Whether you're a seasoned swimmer or curious about taking the plunge for the first time, Sara’s insights will inspire you to step outside your comfort zone, reconnect with nature, and discover your own limits and capabilities.   You can find Sara and her beautiful images of wild swimming at https://www.instagram.com/bumblebarnes/?hl=en Sara’s books: The Cold Fix (Vertebrate Adventure Books, 2022) The Winter of Our Lives (HarperCollins, 2023)  (and for the interview with Siobhan Daniels I mention in this episode, check out: https://middlingalong.com/episodes/middling-along-13-siobhan-daniels-on-the-retirement-rebellion-and-her-solo-vanlife-travels-around-the-uk/)  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org   connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/  or subscribe to my Substack at https://middlingalong.substack.com/  
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6 months ago
33 minutes 34 seconds

Middling Along
Elizabeth Willetts on Flex, career pivots, and taking control of your career journey
Join us in this inspiring episode as we sit down with Elizabeth Willetts, the founder of Investing in Women, a groundbreaking job board and community dedicated to empowering women and promoting family-friendly workplaces. With over 17 years of recruitment experience, Elizabeth is passionate about helping professionals find fulfilling flexible and part-time work that fits their lives.   What You’ll Learn: The mission behind Investing in Women and how it supports both women and forward-thinking employers. Elizabeth’s journey in the recruitment industry, including her experiences at one of the Big 4 firms and a leading UK recruitment agency. Insights into the benefits of flexible work arrangements and how they can help close the gender pay gap. A behind-the-scenes look at Elizabeth’s debut book, Flex, a dynamic guide for anyone seeking to build a successful career on their own terms. Tips for career pivots, including how to leverage your network and build relevant skills when transitioning to a new industry. Key Highlights: Discover the challenges faced by parents in the job market and how Investing in Women addresses these issues. Hear Elizabeth’s thoughts on the importance of hybrid roles and flexibility in today’s workplace. Learn about Subject Access Requests (SAR) and how they can empower individuals who have faced redundancy. Elizabeth shares her top advice for those considering a career change, including the significance of crafting thoughtful cover letters and documenting achievements. You can get your own copy of Flex: Smart Strategies to Build a Successful Career Around Your Life at https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Flex-by-Elizabeth-Willetts/9781394267798 Find Elizabeth at https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-willetts/ and sign up to her newsletter and/or job board at https://investinginwomen.co.uk/ If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org and connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/   
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6 months ago
28 minutes 16 seconds

Middling Along
Lucy Melville on midlife reinvention after a double dose of loss
What do you do when life throws you two cataclysmic curve balls in a short period of time that fracture your whole identity? My guest today is Lucy Melville. Lucy is a widow, and mother of three young people. Her husband Brian died of stage IV lung cancer in July 2023 just 6 weeks after diagnosis whilst her youngest child was still at school. Just one year after losing her husband, Lucy was unexpectedly made redundant from the job that kept her functioning through her grief.  In this moving and emotional interview, Lucy talks us through the surreal process of finding out about Brian’s diagnosis and navigating the speed of his illness and ultimately his death just a short time later. She describes the impact on her and her children of losing the husband and father they adored, and then being rocked again by dealing with both an empty nest as her children left home, and the compounded grief of losing the job (and second ‘work family’) that had kept her steady through her bereavement.  Lucy talks honestly about how isolated, invisible, and abandoned she felt at this time in her life, but also the subsequent reinvention after her long dark night of the soul, and finding hope and renewed sense of identity through her new business venture River Light Press.  Listen in to hear Lucy’s advice for anyone grappling with difficult times right now, and be inspired by her heroine’s journey to light and a new life.  You can find Lucy at https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucymelville and River Light Press at https://www.aurorametro.com/river-light-press/  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode with someone who might need to listen or writing us a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org and www.managingthemenopause.com or connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/
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6 months ago
37 minutes 36 seconds

Middling Along
Lauren Currie is a woman on a mission - to start a confidence revolution
My guest today is Lauren Currie OBE, the Founder of UPFRONT, an organisation on a mission to change confidence, visibility, and power for 10 million women.  I start by asking Lauren what does confidence means to her personally and how she has learned to cultivate it? Lauren describes confidence, not as a lack of doubt or feeling ready, but learning to show up and speak up even when full of doubt. She is, she says, still on a confidence journey. The world is not a place that is kind to confident women - she is continually unlearning, reconnecting with her gift for being onstage and inspiring others, and saying yes to hard things before feeling ready for them. Confidence differs across our lives and it’s vital we all can see that being modelled to us.  We might appear very confident to others, but just because they can’t see our inner critic or our fears, doesn’t mean they’re not there. We all have moments of self doubt and nervousness, and confident people don’t feel confident all the time… Lauren explains how the Upfront Bonds work: impressively, the average salary increase post-attendance is 46%, and 82% of attendees are more likely to apply for a job they wouldn’t have applied for before the Bond.  Lauren also talks about past career mistakes: rather than failures, she sees these as lessons in disguise, data, insights, information, and opportunities to be better and grow.  We also discuss her upcoming book “Taylor Meets The Trick” which aims to help children and families understand the patriarchy and was inspired by her son Atlas, who has long blonde hair and is often mistaken for a girl. Taylor learns about the rules for boys and rules for girls, and through the book starts challenging the neat little boxes that we are expected to fit into. There are also guides and resources at the end to support adults to continue the conversation. Tune in to listen to all of this, plus Lauren’s experience of moving to Sweden, her advice for anyone with a young family thinking about moving to another country, and what she would change if we gave her a magic wand!    You can find out more about Lauren and her work at Upfront by visiting  https://www.weareupfront.com/, and https://www.instagram.com/upfrontglobal/  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org and connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/
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7 months ago
32 minutes 29 seconds

Middling Along
Elizabeth Dalziel on capturing menopause through the camera lens
My guest this time is Elizabeth Dalziel - a photographer with an illustrious string of assignments under her belt. She’s lived and worked in more countries than most of us will visit in our lifetimes! She has won awards for her work covering the Iraq war, the 2004 Tsunami in Asia, and - closer to home - documenting the homeschooling of her children during the pandemic. After being diagnosed with breast cancer aged 48, she was put into a chemically-induced menopause and plunged immediately into a maelstrom of hot flashes, mood swings, brain fog, depression and more.  She felt like she was falling apart….but Elizabeth has used her experience to fuel her creativity and created a brilliant photojournalism project that includes self-portraits, images of friends (depicting their own symptoms and struggles), images from different cultures around the world, and images of prominent activists and medics working in the menopause space.  Tune in to find out more about Elizabeth’s personal experience of menopause, her creative processes, and the insights she has gained from her work with women in other cultures and countries.  You can find the series at https://www.elizabethdalziel.com/index     If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a review. You can also find me at www.thetripleshift.org and connect with me at https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmacthomas/ 
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8 months ago
33 minutes 25 seconds

Middling Along
Christine Armstrong on workplace trends, getting visible, and why indecision is expensive!
My guest today is Christine Armstrong, a keynote speaker, researcher, and author focused on the world of work. Over the past four and a half years, she has produced more than 200 videos in her weekly vlog, addressing major work-related topics such as hybrid working models and the role of AI in productivity. Each Friday morning, over 6,000 viewers from more than 20 countries tune in to gain insights into the future of work. Christine is also the author of The Mother of All Jobs: How to Have Children and a Career and Stay Sane(ish), published in 2018. This book is based on six years of interviews with working parents, employers, leadership experts, and caregivers. We begin our discussion by exploring the recent trend of larger companies implementing Return to Office (RTO) policies and the public’s reactions to these changes. Christine references U.S. research indicating that 43% of Americans would prefer to divorce their partner rather than return to the office full-time! She highlights that flexibility is often sacrificed for what she terms “endless contactability,” where employees feel compelled to check emails late into the evening. Unfortunately, many older male leaders, who have benefited from traditional work models, struggle to understand this shift. Christine also cites research by Nick Bloom, which shows that since the pandemic, companies have begun hiring from broader geographical areas, resulting in doubled commute times and making full-time office work less appealing. She predicts that we will see a variety of working arrangements tailored to each company's brand and talent pool. In terms of making the most of time spent in the office, Chistine’s advice is to be strategic about using that time: use it to build strong networks, figure out ‘who do I want a relationship with?’, ‘how do I build that?’    We hear a lot now about the importance of personal branding and I ask Christine for her advice on how to do this when we have been socialised not to brag about our achievements and doing it gives us the ick? First of all, she suggests we initially have to accept and get comfortable with the fact that some people just won’t be ‘our people.’  Her second piece of advice is to imagine talking about ourselves to our friends - if what we’re saying feels uncomfortable it’s probably too showy, but if you talk about what you’re good at and it’s objectively true, then go for it! If you can, use humour, and vulnerability always tends to endear your audience to you.    I ask Christine about AI in the workplace and where she sees this having the most impact on the workplace in the next 5 years.  Her response was that some jobs will require people who can manage the AI in combination with very strong technical skills (using AI to enhance what they are doing already), many other roles will require strong communication skills, ability to make ethical decisions, and to be able to strategize. I was interested late last year when I saw Christine talking about how she and her husband use an adapted version of the ‘Workshop your life’ methodology to plan out their year ahead. As Christine advises, we need to stop seeing work and life as separate and start to view it as one system and think about the whole and how it all fits together.  Doing this exercise once a year helps them to tackle tricky issues but not in the heat of the moment and get aligned so that they are not constantly bumping up against negotiating those difficult conversations when flashpoints occur. I’ve included a few links below in case you feel like giving it a try yourself!    We conclude by discussing the current trends Christine and her team are exploring, particularly the rising unpredictability, polarization, and stress levels in today’s world. In uncertain times, people tend to adopt black-and-white thinking, become more anxious, and prioritize immediate concerns. Therefore, the role of leaders is crucial; they must provide reassurance, clarity, and effec
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8 months ago
30 minutes 22 seconds

Middling Along
Dr Nicky Keay banishes the Myths of Menopause
My guest this time is Dr Nicky Keay: Nicky is a medical doctor with expertise in the field of exercise endocrinology and a lecturer at University College London. Her clinical and research work is focused on women experiencing peri/menopause and with exercisers, dancers and athletes. Her book Myths of Menopause was published at the end of 2024 and Nicky has taken a novel approach to the subject, using the theme of Greek mythology, with Athena, goddess of wisdom as the cover star!     The book itself brings together chapters from a wide range of experts in their individual fields, from brain health to bone health to exercise. Nicky and I discuss some of the most prevalent myths of menopause in this episode, not least the negativity around menopause and the ‘narrative of decline’ that links in to the pervasive gendered ageism in society (or Western society at least!). We discuss lifestyle changes and the temptation to believe in (and spend money on) ‘quick fixes’ that are out there.    We also touch on myths around HRT, risks relating to breast cancer, and the under-emphasis on cardiovascular disease, which ultimately causes the deaths of many more women each year.  Nicky also offers advice for those who are under 45 and struggling with symptoms but not being listened to by their doctor.    You can find out more about Nicky at https://nickykeayfitness.com/ and Myths of Menopause is available at https://www.amazon.co.uk/Myths-Menopause-Increasing-Wisdom-Sequoia/dp/1914110404    If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a short review online!  If your workplace wants to become more ‘menopause friendly’ then please let them know about the work I do at http://www.managingthemenopause.com  You can also find me over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/managingthemenopause   Join our newsletter, The Messy Middle: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/323784/90772270045202190/share  We’re delighted to be listed as one of the Top 25 podcasts for midlife and menopause here: https://www.lattelounge.co.uk/podcasts-about-the-menopause/  
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9 months ago
36 minutes 43 seconds

Middling Along
Carla Miller on how to deal proactively with Overwhelm
This week I delve into ‘the Big O’ - aka Overwhelm, with Carla Miller.  Carla is a leadership coach and best-selling author of ‘Closing The Influence Gap: A practical guide for women leaders who want to be heard’ which reached #1 in the Amazon charts for Business Leadership Skills and was a finalist in the 2023 Business Book Awards.  Carla was CEO of Tiny Tickers and then Managing Director of Charity People, a leading charity recruitment consultancy alongside founding her own coaching business. She is also the host of the chart-topping podcast – Influence & Impact for Female Leaders    We start with chatting about Carla’s own brushes with overwhelm, and move on to examine how overwhelm and burnout are linked, plus Carla’s experience of early menopause and why menopause can often contribute to feelings of overwhelm.    Carla tells us a few of her strategies for managing overwhelm including: Normalising that most people feel overwhelm at some point in their lives. No one is giving 100% all the time. Figuring out what we might be able to ‘care less’ about at times we might be struggling. Coping with company cultures that have a tendency to keep overloading employees: I love Carla’s suggested wording “that sounds amazing, we are fully committed at the moment, so if we are going to start doing that what are we going to stop, to make the space for that?” How to avoid over committing - how many ‘shoulds’ are real and how many are our own expectations of ourselves or perceived expectations of others. Unless it’s a ‘hell yes!” don’t commit to things on the spot - buy yourself some time to think about it before saying yes and then regretting it (or worse, resenting them!).   We also cover ‘non-promotable tasks’ in the workplace (aka office housework), as well as the differences in the types of feedback that men and women get in the workplace. Coincidentally, the same day I wrote these shownotes, I came across these stats from a recent report: About 76% of top-performing working women received negative feedback from their bosses compared to just 2% of high-achieving men (according to a new report from management software company Textio, which analysed stats performance reviews for more than 23,000 workers across over 250 organisations). About 88% of these outstanding women workers receive feedback on their personalities, while the same is true for only 12% of their male counterparts, according to the report.   As Carla rightly points out, prioritizing our own needs is not selfish. Many of us feel uncomfortable advocating for ourselves (in and out fo work), but the only person that’s going to be the best advocate for you, is YOU! (I wish I had understood this better in my 20s and 30s…and 40s!).   You can find Carla at https://carlamiller.co.uk/ and if you want to work on ‘how to say no’ then why not sign up for her free 5 day “how to say No” challenge at carlamillertraining.com/sayno  And if you struggle with people-pleasing behaviours, you might also find this episode with Nat Lue helpful: https://middlingalong.com/episodes/middling-along-natalie-lue-helps-us-discover-the-joy-of-saying-no/   If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a short review online!  If your workplace wants to become more ‘menopause friendly’ then please let them know about the work I do at http://www.managingthemenopause.com  Follow me over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/managingthemenopause   Join our newsletter, The Messy Middle: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/323784/90772270045202190/share  We’re delighted to be listed as one of the Top 25 podcasts for midlife and menopause here: https://www.lattelounge.co.uk/podcasts-about-the-menopause/
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11 months ago
34 minutes 25 seconds

Middling Along
Lyndsey Simpson is Redefining life (and work) for us over-50s...
My guest this time is Lyndsey Simpson: founder & CEO of 55/Redefined. Recognising a gap in the market for a brand that answers the call of the ‘bet-your-ass-I-can’ over-50s, Lyndsey set up 55/Redefined to fly the flag for those who may be getting older but have no intention of slowing down (inspired - not retired!).    Just five years ago, Lyndsey was planning to retire early from her role as CEO of an HR firm when a special assignment lit a fire in her imagination. She was shocked that the hundreds of retired bankers she recruited for that assignment almost all agreed that retiring had been a huge mistake…   The statistics are quite stark: by 2030 50% of the UK workforce will be 50 and over (and in places like Spain, Italy, and Germany they are already almost hitting that marker).    Over 50s now are healthier and wealthier than previous generations: we don’t dress or think like our parents did and mostly don’t want the same things - but society (and the world of work) has not caught up with this…   Listen in to our fascinating chat to find out more about:   100 year lives and how many of us will want or need a more harmonious and blended life phase of work and life in our Third Quarter (50-75) and potentially even into our Fourth Quarter; How the over 50s are the only growth talent pool and the only growth consumer pool; How, despite the extent to which advertising is skewed to youth (at present), 75% of all wealth is held by 50-70 year olds and by 2040 62p of every pound spent online in the UK, will be spent by an over-50 consumer (brands take note!); Why companies who ‘get it’ are seeing great results from mirroring demographics across customer service roles, product design, marketing, and advertising, and focusing on multigenerational teams; The work 55/Redefined is doing to smash inaccurate stereotypes around older workers: for example, the data shows that over 50s are 200% less likely to take a day off sick and five times less likely to leave for another job within their first 18 months in a company than employees under 30; Why we are all underestimating our own longevity by decades: a 40 year old now will have a life life expectancy of 98! The massive benefits that come from creating blended intergenerational teams; The need for a radical shift in working patterns, since flexibility is THE number one thing that would keep people in work for longer (whether that is in order for them to balance caring responsibilities, change careers, find better work life balance or spend time travelling) - and that mindset shift will need to come from both companies and individuals; How mindset shifts around salaries, prestige and self-worth will also open up opportunities for change and growth in our Third (and Fourth) Quarter; Lyndsey also shares the example of her own brother, who, after 30 years working in supermarket retail, has retrained as an audiologist in his late 40s and started an entirely new career    If you want further inspiration and examples of people who have pivoted and careers check out https://life-redefined.co/    If you’d like to check out roles from employers that are actively hiring over 50s take a look at https://jobs-redefined.co/    If your organization wants to read the research and reports created by Lyndsey’s team (or work with them), check out https://work-redefined.co/  You can follow Lyndsey herself on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndsey-simpson-045b034/?originalSubdomain=uk If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a short review online!  If your workplace wants to become more ‘menopause friendly’ then please let them know about the work I do at http://www.managingthemenopause.com  You can also find me over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/managingthemenopause   Join our newsletter, The Messy Middle: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/323784/90772270045202190/share  We’r
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11 months ago
34 minutes 32 seconds

Middling Along
Nahid de Belgeonne is here to Soothe our frazzled selves!
This is the 100th episode of the Middling Along podcast!  In a week of overwhelming world political developments, this podcast feels particularly timely... This time I welcome Nahid de Belgeonne: Nahid has had a varied career having previously worked fashion, publishing, technology and wellness.  During her perimenopause, she swapped bricks and mortar studios in central London for her online clinic and now lives by the sea. Her Soothe Programme helps women recover from Burnout, anxiety and trauma and she has translated all her expertise into a book called ‘Soothe, the book your nervous system has been longing for.’   Nahid talks to me about her own struggles with chronic anxiety, stress-related skin conditions, neuralgia, and almost dying from gangrenous appendicitis because she refused to listen to her own body - and subsequently learning how to ‘rewire’ the brain through movement.  Her in-depth research into why certain things work and why they are good for you led her to write ‘Soothe’ and the programme it is based on.    Listen to our chat to find out more about: How we are conditioned to do more, and more, and more…putting ourselves at the bottom of the priority list; How if you regulate yourself you also non-verbally regulate those around you - a win-win; How important it is to carve out time when your brain is not being constantly stimulated; How, if you are wholly engaged with what you are doing, your levels of contentment go up; That you feed information to your brain through your senses, interoception - listening in to the signals your body is sending you; Why we need to internalize our comfort instead of externalizing it; Why we need to be dealing with microstressors as they happen throughout the day instead of saving them all up and trying to ‘deal’ with them at the end of the day.  What the seemingly simple act of rocking can do for our bodies and brains. As Nahid says in the book: “The brain’s job is to keep us alive by budgeting our resources…Your brain is constantly predicting what will happen to you next…” Our brains are working so incredibly hard in the modern world aren’t they? Did you know that our visual distance gets fixed if sitting all day looking at a screen, which sends alarm signals to the brain. Walking in green spaces is a great antidote, even just for a short period of time - but walking in general is also helpful, the way our eyes move when we walk is also calming for our brains!     Nahid also suggests that we treat your phones as a rare and precious commodity rather than an appendage! The importance of social connections and interactions for a healthy nervous system cannot be underestimated...there's so much more in this episode I'd love you to discover.   For now, I’ll leave you with my favourite quote from the book: “...what if ambition, speed and acquisition were not the only human goals? What if we also valued sensing, exploring, learning, the beauty of the process, resting, creating, pausing, resetting, repairing, calibrating, or even compassionately being?”    You can find more about Nahid’s work on her website: www.thehumanmethod.co.uk  Buy the book at https://www.waterstones.com/book/soothe/nahid-de-belgeonne/9781800817104  You can find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehumanmethoduk/  You can also find her on Substack: https://nahiddebelgeonne.substack.com/  If you enjoy the podcast please help us grow by sharing this episode, or writing a short review online!  If your workplace wants to become more ‘menopause friendly’ then please let them know about the work I do at http://www.managingthemenopause.com  You can also find me over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/middlingalong_podcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/managingthemenopause   Join our newsletter, The Messy Middle: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/323784/90772270045202190/share  We’re delighted to be listed as one of the Top 25 podcasts for midlife and menopause here: https://www.lattelo
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1 year ago
31 minutes 39 seconds

Middling Along
The Middling Along podcast is for those of us navigating the Messy Middle bit of life - whether that is peri/menopause, the midlife collision of caring upward and downward, overwhelm, burnout, health challenges, and gendered ageism... Often, we find as women hitting a ‘certain point’ in life, that we are so used to people-pleasing, and making sure that everyone else is OK, and their needs are met, that we have lost touch with what we want, what we need, who we are… I started Middling Along with the aim of reclaiming my own ‘midlife’ and finding my happy. Along the way we’ve covered stories of people starting new businesses, changing careers, and taking up new hobbies that have changed their lives forever. We also cover topics such as peri/menopause, midlife wellbeing and positive aging. Join us for a dose of inspiration - and make sure you spend your ’messy middle’ years thriving too!