Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting 

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better. Doing something from beginning to end helps us move forward in life creating a bit of order in the chaos. Managing our anxiety or ADHD, its helpful to pick one things at time, to work through it, and close the loop on the task to feel we are getting things done. #closingtheloop #orderfromchaos #ADHD #anxiety #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It might be helpful to control what we can in the moment. Just a reminder that we have gotten through every hard thing we have ever been dealt before now. Protect your peace. #dontgiveup #seasonaldepression #protectyourpeace #controlwhatyoucan

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We can notice that some people will use us to validate how they feel about themselves. It is helpful to notice if you are playing into their narrative. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after those confrontations. Increase your awareness of what your own emotional experience is in the interactions with people you often find yourself in conflict with. #relationshipconflict #emotionalexperience #confrontation 

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace, and compassion. It might be helpful to work on looking back and recognizing how far we have come, being proud of the version of us who did some hard work. Take a moment to day to acknowledge your past you and be proud of them. #proudofyou #growth #hardwork #learningeveryday #youhavecomesofar 

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings 

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for longer. They help us get through things or are going through the same things. Having connections help make the hard times a little easier. There is a grief that comes from losing those connections but there is also gratitude for having someone with you at the time. It takes effort to maintain those connections but the reward is worth it. 

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can choose to change for the better and sometimes for the worse. With consistency and consciously we can become a different version of ourselves. It will take effort, it will mean failing, and it can lead to some amazing opportunities. It is up to you. #change #evolution #growth #skillsandtools 

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even when our heart wants something different. It is helpful to allow space for your feelings so we can process our way to a fuller picture of what are dealing with. It might also be helpful to clean up our head, shifting our internal voice to something a little kinder. Doing so will create a path to trusting ourselves. This piler of alignment creates a safer way move throughout the world. #trustyourself #feelyourfeelings #manageanxiety #bekind #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about positivity versus reality. There are times we work hard to "stay positive" in the face of challenges. It might be a better use of energy to be realistic about our capacity for engagement, choosing consciously who we can be real with. #realist #authenticity #ominouspositivity #toxicpositivity 

Today, we are talking about feeling accepted in our relationships. Are we being seen and understood, all of our parts at the same time? Are we seeing and accepting ourselves. It can ben challenging to be aware of how we show up in relationship when we are too busy criticizing ourselves. Take an opportunity to see who shows in your life if we appreciate all of who we are. #acceptance #relationships #beinghuman #selflove

Today, we are talking about the concept of proving love or earning love. Often, we start in one place in relationship and can get off course as life happens. When we feel like love is transactional, it makes the whole point of connection and acceptance more challenging. #proveyourlove #connection #relationships #receivinglove

Today, we are talking about hook up culture and dating on the apps for connection. It is helpful to consider how our brain and endorphins play into connection. Thinking about what the goals are when engaging in dating, in which ever you choose to do it. #hookup #mentalhealth #dating #connection  

Today, is hard podcast. I want to acknowledge this is different from my other content. We are experiencing so many weird things including human rights violations. Protect your mental health. Protest peacefully, mindfully, and stay safe. Curate a feed social media that doesn’t further your anxiety. Talk to people. Reach out to your friends. “Let not any one pacify his conscience by the delusion that he can do no harm if he takes no part, and forms no opinion. Bad men need nothing more to compass their ends, than that good men should look on and do nothing. He is not a good man who, without a protest, allows wrong to be committed in his name, and with the means which he helps to supply, because he will not trouble himself to use his mind on the subject.” John Steuart Mill   Protest safely  

Today, we are talking about dysfunctional families. I think all families function to the level of awareness. There are helpful and unhelpful parts of these systems. As we increase and change our awareness, we can add tool and skill to create better systems and better functional families. #dysfunctionalfamlies #familysystems #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #changingpatterns

Today, we are talking about men's mental health. Men are struggling, and consequently, woman are feeling those effects. With marriage rates down and social media movements of men bashing, I wanted to add a different perspective to the conversation. Check in with the partners, friends, dads, brothers and others. Help create a space for their vulnerability.  #mensmentalhealth #boyshavefeelingstoo #healthypartners #strongindependentwomen #mensemotions

Today, we are talking about the myth of perfection. So often we have an idea of what something should feel like, look like, of be and we lose sight of what it is. I was inspired by listening to "The Gift 14 lessons to save your life" by Dr. Edith Eger who is a holocaust survivor, mother, and psychotherapist. She has been through really challenging horrible things and continues to live a beautiful life. #notperfect #existentialtherapy #controlwhatyoucan #mentalhealth #wdnc