Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and effective strategies for going to a medical provider with a hypothesis and being taken seriously.
(Much like the dizziness episode, we’d love to hear from you if learning about HS helps you understand something that is affecting you)
Links:
Bringing HS (Hidradenitis Suppurativa) Out Of The Dark | Jackson Gillies | TEDxSantaBarbara
FSP Season 2, Episode 14: Introduction to Food and Body Awareness
FSP Season 2, Episode 18: Introduction to Food (and Body Acceptance)
Season 2, Episode 20: Food Again. This Time, It’s Personal?
Hidradenitis SuppuraDIVAS - Podcast (Apple Podcasts)
FSP Season 1, Episode 18: The New Hotness
Twins (1988 film)
FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101
Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience some of the same issues as Emily, please drop us a line at feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
Links:
Dizziness Handicap Inventory (PDF)
Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS)
FSP 2025: The Car Accident Experience
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe.
Links:
Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended)
The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Megan Anna Neff (Recommended)
Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview)
A rad comic about emotional floor plans by Erika Moen
(Based on Emily's book, Come Together.)
A Black Lady Sketch Show: No Makeup (Youtube)
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle (By Emily and Vestigial Toe)
Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride.
Image: What it looks like to nap during a parade.
Links
Non-binary (gender identity)
Agender (gender identity)
Mercury Stardust: The Trans Handy Ma'am
How To Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom by Johanna Hedva
This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life.
tl; dr: Other people may have more than you, but they are not WORTH more than you.
Drink Water & Mind Your Business:
A Black Woman’s Guide to Unlearning the BS & Healing Self-Esteem by Dr. Donna Oriowo
Buy Donna's book from:
Join Donna's In My Black Feelings group
Follow @dr.donnaoriowo on:
Links:
"Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so."
"Let It Burn" from Paradise Square the Musical featuring Tony Award Winner Joaquina Kalukango
Sunrise on the Reaping by Suzanne Collins
Good Sex by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons
(Amazing book!)
My Pronouns are Dr. T-shirt by Dr. Lexx Brown-James
(Dr. Lexx rules)
RaQuel Hopkins, Capacity Expert (instagram)
Centering (and Studying!) Black Women's Pleasure, a conversation with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe
Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss.
Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic Trick
Signed paperbacks at Book Moon
The Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. Siegel
“The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun via PubMed
The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt
Aristotle’s Rhetorical Triangle
“The Field” - see Come Together page 276
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
Out Beyond Ideas by Rumi
FSP Live: turning down your pain sensors (Amelia on Youtube)
Catching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity by David Lynch
Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery.
Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle.
(Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? You can sign up here for free.)
Links:
FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the Fire
Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Youtube
In an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D.
Complete the stress response cycle - See chapter 1 of Burnout
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
Emily’s newsletter post about neuroplastic pain
The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv
Explain Pain Supercharged by G. Lorimer Moseley & David S. Butler
Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast.
tl;dr
Green Dot Bystander Intervention
Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!
(From now until the end of the Murderbot show.)
It’s hard not to shop when the things you rely on are discontinued or out of stock. Hashtag Supply Chain. Let’s see how Amelia’s been managing.
None of these are affiliate links:
IKEA ARTBUSKE cactus watering can
Derma E Tea Tree Vitamin E Antiseptic Cream
(Discontinued, it looks like.)
George Howell Coffee - we love, love, love a real light roast coffee.
Uncle Harry’s Natural Products
Community Supported Agriculture (CSA)
Dana K. White (A Slob Comes Clean)
Grove Collaborative (look for the recycled trash bags)
You need to pinky swear you listened to the previous episode before you listen to this one. We’re trusting you.
Links:
Season 2, Episode 2: We’re Stronger Than the Fire
Lebanon Bologna (Sausagepedia)
Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
Good Calories, Bad Calories by Gary Taubes
Every Time Brennan Has Talked About Loving Heavy Food [Compilation] (from Gastronauts on dropout.tv, this is on Youtube)
Salt Sugar Fat by Michael Moss
Ultra-Processed People by Chris van Tulleken
We're going to talk about food and nutrition next week. But first, we need to talk about beauty.
Spoiler warning: You're beautiful.
Links:
Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!
(From now until the end of Murderbot.)
⭐️ Drink Water and Mind Your Business by Dr. Donna Oriowo ⭐️
(Emily loves this book and blurbed it!)
Get it from:
The Whites of Our Eyes is a short documentary film that follows Dr. Yaba Blay as she returns to her familial homeland of Ghana to explore the relationships between beauty, bodies, and b/Blackness
Rad Bod or Dad Bod (Youtube)
Lindsay Ellis explains The Little Mermaid (Youtube)
FD Signifier explains edgelords (Youtube)
Jessica Kellgren-Fozard explains ugly laws (Youtube)
Wreck-it Ralph villain support group (Youtube)
Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by Da’Shaun Harrison
Good Calories, Bad Calories: Fats, Carbs, and the Controversial Science of Diet and Health
Why Diets Make Us Fat by Sandra Aamodt
FSP 2020 Episode 18: The New Hotness
(it looks like Amelia’s episode with Turia isn’t up yet.)
Amelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to help. tl;dr When it comes to helping, ask first. And listen to what they need.
There’s a bit of Disney, too.
Your Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca.
Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK. It all maps out to ventral spaces, Polyvagal Theory and accessibility, too.
Content warning for a tragic but not graphic story of an accident at the resort from about 53 - 56 min.
Links:
FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101
Insights from Disney’s 30-Foot Trash Can Rule
Disney’s Polynesian Village resort music loop (Youtube)
(If you can’t relax to this, I don’t know what to tell you.)
Meeting Mary Poppins on Paige's Make A Wish Trip (Youtube)
(You will cry. In a good way.)
The Dapper Dans - If You're Happy and You Know It (Youtube)
Happily Ever After fireworks show
(Also, apologies to Emily but the original illumations show at epcot was better even though she had to trick me into sitting still for it -editor)
Season 2, Episode 2: We're Stronger Than the Fire
Emily’s pleasure book is Come Together
WDW Chronicles: History of the Hoop-Dee-Doo Musical Revue
Wintering: The power of rest and retreat in difficult times
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body.
There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode.
PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern:
https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject
Links:
FutureCanoe (Youtube)
BlackForager (Youtube)
Internet Shaquille (Youtube)
What Cooking is Like for Someone Who Doesn't Cook (Youtube)
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things?
Definitely stick around to the VERY end.
PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern:
https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject
Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear.
Help is available right away.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website
Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website
Links:
FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing (Emily on Youtube)
Monty Python - Dead Parrot (Youtube)
FSP 2020 episode 8: The Monitor
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PHD (book)
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering.
Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here:
https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject
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Links:
Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean
https://www.aslobcomesclean.com
This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SCIENCE OF A HUMAN OBSESSION
By Daniel J. Levitin
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration!
Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here:
https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject
Links:
Project for Awesome:
https://www.projectforawesome.com
Wax Oil Wick:
https://waxoilwick.com/collections/all
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit.
Links:
Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna
FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral.
Links:
Saturn Ion (Wikipedia)
FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101
Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets)
Cas Aarssen (Youtube)
Kay Patterson (Youtube)
Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list)
FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
