In this enlightening episode, I sit down with Tiffany Byrd, a NC & SC family law and estate attorney to discuss a topic that can significantly impact your financial security and property investment decisions, especially if you’ve gone through a divorce.  Tiffany and I dive deep into the concept of co-ownership agreements, which are crucial for protecting your hard-earned equity when purchasing a property with a partner you’re not married to. We start by exploring the reasons why such an agreement is necessary and beneficial and we'll break down the key components of a co-ownership agreement, including terms regarding the proceeds if the relationship were to end. Additionally, we discuss practical tips for bringing up the topic of a co-ownership agreement with your partner and how to navigate the potential discomfort around these conversations. The customization, flexibility and revision opportunities of these agreements make it the proactive protection tool you need if you're considering buying a home with a partner you're not married to. Tiffany's insights shed light on the importance of planning and open communication, not just for the protection of your assets but also for the health of your relationship. This episode is a must-listen for any woman considering co-owning a property post-divorce. It’s about empowering yourself with the right knowledge and tools to make confident, informed decisions. Whether you’re navigating new relationships, rebuilding your life after a divorce, or simply exploring your options, this conversation provides the guidance you need to protect your investments and secure your future. Tune in and learn how to take control of your financial and personal well-being.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   CONNECT WITH TIFFANY: http://www.modernlegalnc.com   - - -  Episode Moments: 04:57 Understanding Co-Ownership Agreements 09:40 When to Establish a Co-Ownership Agreement 15:59 Key Components of a Co-Ownership Agreement 24:56 Flexibility and Revisions in Agreements 27:36 The One Sign it May Be Time to Pause     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.  

In this insightful episode, we sit down with Corinne Brown, a seasoned business owner who shares her personal story of running a business through marriage and divorce, not once, but twice. With candor and insight, Corinne shares her experiences of running a business while dealing with the personal turmoil and challenges of two divorces. There are so many unexpected feelings that surface, oftentimes leaving you questioning yourself in the aftermath of a divorce. From the financial implications to the emotional roller coaster, Corinne offers valuable lessons and advice for other women entrepreneurs facing similar situations.   Learn about the importance of legal and financial consultations, maintaining mental wellness, and balancing personal and professional life, especially when children are involved. This episode is a beacon for businesswomen navigating the complexities of divorce, offering advice and encouragement for maintaining balance between personal and professional life.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Corrine Brown is the founder of The Fresh Expert, Tupperware Leader, Direct Sales Expert CONNECT WITH CORRINE: Website | Instagram   - - -  Episode Moments: 04:03 Divorce and Business Challenges 10:57 Business Impact and Personal Struggles 15:15 Financial Realities of Self-Employment 20:24 Navigating Emotional Turmoil in Business 24:23 Reevaluating Priorities and Embracing Flexibility 29:01 Practical Advice for Business Owners Facing Divorce 38:10 Don't Go it Alone     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

In this episode I'm diving into a topic that I wish more women knew to spend more time on in their divorce process: the importance of having a detailed and specific divorce agreement.   This crucial episode explains how clarity in your agreement can prevent future disputes, protect you legally, and provide peace of mind. I'll share practical tips and real-life examples, highlighting areas such as being specific with dates, timelines, financial details, and defining terms, to ensure your agreement is as precise as possible. Need help making sure it's drafted with that intention? Sure thing! In addition to working with an experienced professional, I'll cover a few of my top tips to make that happen such as reviewing it with a trusted source and revising it, thinking about long term scenarios and the importance of documenting everything - and what exactly that means.   Whether you're just starting the process or revisiting your agreement, this episode is packed with essential insights to help you safeguard your future.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   - - -  Episode Moments: 03:51 Why Clarity and Precision Matter 07:59 Key Areas to Specify in Your Agreement 10:52 Financial Obligations and Asset Division 16:39 Defining Terms and Responsibilities 24:32 Legal Perspectives and Practical Tips 34:24 Safeguarding Your Future     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

Divorce is an emotional rollercoaster and I've certainly been experiencing the turbulence while dealing with my divorce, even years after the separation. When you're riding the wave, it can be easy to respond with emotionally charged reactions, especially when it comes to communicating with your ex. However, maintaining your sense of self-control is so important, even if it's not easy.   In this episode I'm going to highlight several cues that can help you identify when you're emotionally charged and provide six practical strategies for managing your emotionally charged state so you can regain control of your responses. Join me as I navigate the complexities of post-divorce emotions and encourage you to find your own path to healing.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn  - - -  Episode Moments: 03:40 The Importance of Self-Control During Divorce 06:00 Recognizing Emotionally Charged Cues 13:37 Strategies for Maintaining Composure 18:55 Community & a Guiding Light     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

Getting a teen to open up isn't always the easiest, so how do we do it in this especially difficult time? How do we regulate our own emotions so that we can support them in regulating theirs? And most importantly, is it possible to actually strengthen our relationship with our teens during and after a divorce, and if so, how do we do that?   This episode continues the conversation with parents of teens educator, Ann Coleman, diving into how you can maintain and even strengthen your bond with your teenage child during this transition. Learn tips on the parenting style that fosters autonomy, empathy, and open communication. Discover how to respect their feelings and how to listen in a way that encourages them to share more. We also tackle the challenge of managing your own emotional turmoil, offering strategies for stress reduction and emotional regulation that can model resilience and emotional intelligence for your teen. Whether you're worried about rebellion, co-parenting confrontations, or simply striving to be the parent your teen needs during this time, this episode is a beacon of understanding, packed with actionable insights and compassionate advice to help you and your teen navigate this journey with grace and closer connection.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   CONNECT WITH ANN COLEMAN: https://SpeakingOfTeens.com Browse Ann's List of Freebies Ann's Facebook     References: Emotional Agility by Susan David Episode 71   - - -  Episode Moments:   04:31 Understanding Teen Guilt and Communication Challenges 05:52 The Impact of Parenting Styles on Teen Communication 08:38 Encouraging Open Dialogue Around Co-Parenting Arrangements 15:71 The Importance of Emotional Regulation for Parents 22:59 Understanding Teen Brain Development and Reactivity 31:32 Strengthening Parent-Teen Relationships    

It can be tempting to think of your teens as mature enough to handle more information than what you may tell the little ones, but what is actually appropriate to communicate with them when telling them about your divorce? Does that differ if you're not able to sit down with your soon to be ex and tell your teen together? Do we ask their preferences and involve them in the decision making process to the upcoming transition? What type of expectations do we set with them?   Discover expert advice on how to talk to your teens about separation, the delicate balance between sharing and withholding information and navigating decisions that need to be made post-separation that affect them. Teen parenting educator, Ann Coleman, joins us to shed some light on how you can create a supportive environment for your teen's development during these challenging times.   Whether you're in the midst of navigating parenting through a divorce or just keen on understanding the teenage brain better, this episode sheds light on creating stability, understanding, and love in the changing dynamics of a family.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   CONNECT WITH ANN COLEMAN: https://SpeakingOfTeens.com Browse Ann's List of Freebies Ann's Facebook   - - - Episode Moments:   05:14 Giving Your Child the Best Version of You 09:19 Expert Advice on Discussing Divorce with Teenagers 13:34 Addressing Teenagers' Needs and Questions During Divorce 19:28 Decisions on Living Arrangements Post-Divorce 25:34 Separating the "Ex" from the "Parent" 29:02 Navigating Changes and Maintaining Honest Conversations with Teens  

Divorce is more than just an emotional rollercoaster; it's a significant financial transition that demands careful planning and consideration. Often, the elements of finance in divorce, such as asset division, long-term impacts on finances, and considerations for future needs, are overlooked in the rush to finalize the separation.   Joined by Jessica Garcia, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Divorce Coach, we dive into the intricacies of managing financial assets and liabilities during a divorce, providing insights and strategies to help you navigate these turbulent waters with greater confidence and foresight.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Jessica Garcia is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and a Certified Divorce Coach. CONNECT WITH JESSICA: http://www.brainstormingwomen.com Facebook   - - - References: Episode 55 - Navigating Mortgage Options to Keep Your Home in a Divorce   - - -  Episode Moments: 06:21 Tax Implications in Divorce 11:27 Overlooked Financial Impacts 17:52 Opportunity Costs and Decision Making in Divorce 22:45 The Importance of Proactive Planning 29:14 Creating Your Best Strategy     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

Splitting your assets in a divorce is no fun, and for many situations it can be convoluted and confusing. There's marital property, separate property, some states have divisible property... how do you differentiate between it all?   I've asked family law attorney, Theresa Viera, to join me today and help us understand the nuances of what constitutes separate property versus marital property, and to offer specific examples to illustrate how assets like retirement accounts and homes are evaluated and divided. Learn about the impact of contributions to marital assets and how that can create a marital interest even in what you may have thought was only separate property.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Theresa Viera is a Family Law Attorney, Family Financial Certified Mediator, and the Founder of Modern Legal. CONNECT WITH THERESA: https://ModernLegalNC.com YouTube    - - - Episode Moments: 06:00 Understanding Community vs. Equitable Distribution States 10:31 Marital vs. Separate Property: Definitions and Examples 19:46 The Impact of Marital Contributions on Separate Property 27:00 Factors Influencing Equitable Property Division 32:08 Valuing Personal Property in Divorce 37:27 Protecting Your Interests       DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

As women, we tend to carry a burden and responsibility in our minds that's considering everyone else but us. And we hardly speak up about it. When we do start to think about what we want, we somehow find a way to downplay it, dismiss it or even try to convince ourselves we're being unreasonable. "I should be able to just get over this." "I just have too high of expectations." Statements like that can lead to pressure and shame spirals, which lead to overwhelm.   Too much overwhelm can (and certainly will) lead to an elevated and reactive emotional state. A divorce presents its fair share of overwhelm, but is still best navigated when you can keep your wits about you. This episode is all about offering you an antidote to your overwhelm so you can better manage your emotions and reactions, ultimately promoting a calmer, more reflective state of being. By the end, you'll have five quick tricks you can implement today to get your emotions under control before the overwhelm hijacks you.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   - - - Episode Moments:   03:42 Build Up of Overwhelm 07:42 The Impact of Judgment-Free Emotion Management 11:49 Five Techniques to Manage Emotions 21:12 Lifelong Applicability       DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

If you're at your wits end with your marriage, feeling lost, and have a thousand questions swirling in your head about your future's unknown, this is the episode is for you. This episode provides emotional support and practical advice for women considering divorce, feeling overwhelmed by the decision-making process.   We discuss how intense emotions like anxiety and stress biologically messes with your ability to process information and make decisions, so you can understand why it's so hard for you to figure out what to do first. Then I'm going to share what you want to do first, in the very beginning, if you're considering a divorce. This first step is going to give you the tool you need to gain clarity on what you need to know, who can help you, and offer you guidance that you can take throughout the entire divorce process if that's what ends up occurring. If you want to dissipate the brain fog and find a clear path, then tune in to learn from those who have been where you are.   References: Episode 56   The accompanying worksheet can be found in the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative's free resource library. Please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   - - - Episode Moments: 04:10 The Science Behind Your Overwhelm 09:15 Your First Practical Step 14:35 Navigating Key Areas of Divorce 22:22 Empowering Yourself     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

We naturally have a tendency to react emotionally during communications with a soon-to-be ex-partner, but directing those emotions at them can greatly compromise your divorce process. Even if you're not labeled as "high conflict" within your proceedings, you can still encounter challenges if you aren't equipped with some best practices for communicating with your ex.   I've asked Christina Butler, a certified High Conflict Divorce Coach, to join me today to help us understand what those risks are and how we can do our best to avoid them. With a masters in counseling and having experienced divorce herself, she understands the natural emotional reactions we have but has also witnessed how it can negatively impact your settlement and future and will share some of that with us today.   She'll give us the practical advice you need to help you avoid your communication being used against you in court, offer strategies on how to not let your emotions hijack you, and guidance on the best communications modes when it comes to your divorce. We want to help you get through the short term pain so you can reap the long term benefits.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   CONNECT WITH CHRISTINA: https://www.hopekinleycoaching.com/   --- Episode moments:   07:27 Understanding Emotional Hijacking in Divorce Conversations 14:08 The Importance of Grieving in the Divorce Process 17:54 The Consequences of Letting Emotions Hijack Communication 22:49 Mindset Shifts for Parents in Divorce 30:28 Best Modes for Divorce Communication       DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

Are you feeling a little out of place in your social circles now that you're going through a divorce? Do you feel like you get invited to less things by your couple friends. Is your new co-parenting schedule making it a little difficult to get on the same page as your friends? Maybe you're like me, and you find yourself not relating to your neighborhood the way you once did. Life in suburbia certainly can feel different once your family dynamics shift after a divorce.   It can be a struggle to find your footing again in social settings after you separate and you may naturally retract from some of the social landscapes you were once a part of. Today's episode is meant to help set you up with potential expectations so you'll 1) feel less isolated if it occurs and 2) know how to cope with it so you can navigate the changing social landscapes more peacefully and rebuild a newly aligned social life.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   --- Episode Moments: 03:28 Pressures as a Working Mom 06:33 The Impact of Divorce on Social Circles and Friendships 10:12 Finding Support 16:08 Rediscovering Joy 20:16 Looking Forward         DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

After marriage - and especially after having children - it can be hard to maintain or even create a friendship circle outside of your marriage if you aren't ever able to really get out to see spend time with them. Some women begin to feel so isolated and alone within their own home and aren't able to experience the connection with friends they once enjoyed so much, adding to the overwhelm and loneliness when their marriage is ending.   I've invited a local divorcée, Rosa Sprinkle to share her personal journey of navigating life and building supportive friendships after a taxing marriage and subsequent divorce. Married for 12 years and a stay-at-home mom of four, she details the challenges of lacking adult interaction and feeling subordinate in her marriage, which eventually led to her decision to leave for a healthier life. Like most women, she didn't know what her future held, but she needed more. Going from hardly ever having social time outside of her family with her, to now finding joy in hobbies and activities with friends who share similar experiences, Rosa's story is a testament to the power of friendship, self-discovery, and the pursuit of happiness post-divorce.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   - - - Episode Moments: 04:45 Craving Social Interaction and Support 07:44 Life Before and After Kids: A Shift in Social Life 11:15 The Turning Point: Deciding to Leave 12:40 Building a New Life Post-Divorce 17:36 The Power of Someone that Gets It 26:10 Finding Joy and Connection in New Friendships

Kids can really struggle when they're experiencing their parents separating. And the little ones especially don't know how to communicate what they're feeling or the circumstances, and it can in turn affect their behavior. Today Natalie Parmenter, a former elementary school teacher of ten years, and I delve into how children's behavior in the classroom can reflect their experiences of divorce at home.  In this episode we're discussing the importance of expanding your kiddo's support system and maintaining a stable environment for them in their school environment - a place they spend a huge amount of their day in. She'll give us practical advice on how to inform your child's teachers about your divorce, including what information to share and the best methods for communication, along with how to handle co-parenting dynamics with the school.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Natalie Parmenter is the founder of Primary Focus: the parent's guide to elementary school. Snag her free Email Templates to Send to a Teacher CONNECT WITH NATALIE: http://www.primaryfocus.tv Instagram | YouTube   --  Episode Moments: 03:51 Teacher's Perspective: Observing Children's Behavior During Divorce 08:00 A Teacher's Insight: Adapting to Children's Needs Amidst Divorce 11:31 Sharing Divorce News with Teachers: Timing, Methods & Details 17:47 Understanding the School's Role and Limitations in Divorce Situations 20:39 Real-Life Consequences of Inadequate Communication with Schools 24:33 Co-Parenting Strategies for Academic Success     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.  

I'm tired of hearing that women aren't the best at managing the financials. It's a stereotype that is outdated and it's not serving us. You are capable. In fact, what if I told you that statistically, women are actually better investors than men?   Today I am joined by Sarah Charles, who had found herself on the sidelines of her own financial life in her first marriage. At the age of 33 and facing divorce, Sarah decided to get her financial shit together. Today, not only is she a financial advisor, she is a champion of women’s financial empowerment and an advocate for increasing women’s confidence when it comes to approaching your financial strategy, including but not limited to investing.   So if you want to become more confident about your capabilities, rewrite your own narrative and take back control of your financial life, this episode is for you.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠   Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Sarah Charles is the Co-Founder & Managing Principal of Sanctuary Financial Planning, an Investment Advisor, CSRIC®, AIF®. Book your complimentary 15 minute confidence call with her here. Listen to Sarah's full money story CONNECT WITH SARAH: Instagram | LinkedIn -- Episode Moments:   05:08 Understanding the Concept of a Money Story 10:02 The Evolution of Financial Responsibility and Women's Role 17:04 Step 1 to Building Your Confidence 20:06 Step 2 to Building Your Confidence 26:59 Step 3 AND the Power of Incremental Outperformance 36:00 FUQs: Frequently Unasked Questions     *DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.    

I never would have imagined that focusing more on me, rather than who or what triggers me, would actually help me more than weighing my pros and cons list. This one practice has been the foundation to rediscovering my peace and finally being connected to myself in ways I never had before. And I want you to experience the same.   Get ready to decode subtle cues your body emits when you're triggered, discover practical methods for deconstructing such triggers, and understand the profound influence they hold over your life choices and relationships. Tune in and prepare to transform your understanding of yourself, your relationships, and your life.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.⁠     Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   -- Episode Moments:   04:07 Understanding Triggers: A Therapist's Perspective 05:11 The Role of Body Cues 10:27 The Role of Disassociation in Trigger Responses 13:34 Creating Boundaries and Communicating Needs 16:10 A Challenge for You to Compassionately Uncover the Root Cause 17:25 Separating Behavior from Person     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.  

Can collaborative law actually work? You and your ex can barely stand speaking to one another so how could you actually be in a collaborative process together? What if I told you that it could work even in high conflict cases, but that there are actually things you need to be on the lookout for to ensure it works effectively?   This is Part 2, following episode #62, and I'm continuing the conversation with NY family law attorney, Jackie Caputo, who highlights that collaborative divorce is not a one-size-fits-all approach and while it may not be suitable in all circumstances, it certainly can work in a wide array of cases (including high conflict) and provide a potentially healthier and more constructive framework.   There's a common misconception that in order for collaborative law to work, everyone has to be amicable and unfortunately it's even a misconception that some attorneys have if they haven't been properly trained on the process. This discussion will guide you in what you need to know to set yourself, and your case, up for the best possible outcome. You'll learn what it is you need from the representation on both sides of the table for this to work properly and the questions to ask to help you choose the right attorney for the job.     For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Jackie Caputo is an Associate Attorney at Joseph Law Group in in New York, specializing in Mediation and Collaborative Divorce Law.   - - -  Episode Moments: 00:00 Understanding Who Collaborative Law May Work For 02:26 The Importance of Choosing the Right Divorce Strategy 05:32 The Misconceptions Surrounding Collaborative Law 07:39 The Importance of Proper Training in Collaborative Law 10:57 Questions to Ask to Help You Choose the Right Collaborative Law Attorney 14:11 The Paradigm Shift of Collaborative Law 18:51 Making the Right Decision for You     DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.

Have you been told you need a bulldog of an attorney for your divorce... maybe that's the initial thought bc you've heard of people being dragged through court for months or even years just to settle for less than they ever wanted in the first place.   Let me ask you, When you hear the word collaborative in divorce, what comes to mind? Many people think it means amicable and so they assume this couldn't be the right route for them if they think they need a bulldog in their corner. But what if I told you, the idea of you and your spouse needing to be amicable for a collaborative law process to work is a total misconception?   Joining me today is NY family law attorney Jackie Caputo to educate to you on what collaborative law is as it's intended to be, how it Differs from Traditional Divorce Processes, what the benefits are, and even address the concerns that some may have about this process. She believes that this route can minimize much of the emotional trauma that often accompanies a litigated divorce and will help each of the parties involve to grow, to become happier and healthier as they take the steps to move forward in their life.   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Jackie Caputo is an Associate Attorney at Joseph Law Group in in New York, specializing in Mediation and Collaborative Divorce Law.   - - -  Episode Moments:   01:48 Understanding Collaborative Law and Its Benefits 04:39 The Role of Professionals in Collaborative Law 07:37 The Pitfalls of Rushing into Litigation 10:17 The Importance of Considering All Options 16:20 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions about Collaborative Law   DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.  

Who am I now? I'm no longer a wife. I don't feel like I fit in to the social circles I've been a part of. I feel like an outlier in the mom groups. What do I even enjoy? Why do I feel a bit lost, like I need to find myself again?   If any of these thoughts have crossed your mind as you find yourself navigating this whole divorce thing then this episode is for you.   It's normal for us to feel a little lost and have to re-learn who we are. It's natural to feel a bit of a loss of our grip on our sense of self when we are now suddenly single again, especially depending on the length of your marriage. But we want to help avoid the crisis part of an identity crisis so you can navigate it more peacefully.   To help me with that, today I am joined by Emily Reiner, a Licensed Clinical Counselor, and we're discussing the concept of an 'identity crisis' specifically as it relates to times of transition, such as divorce. Emily explains that what we often perceive as our identity is usually a collection of labels we assign ourselves or have assigned to us, but spoiler alert, it's not actually what makes up our identity. She shares with us what we can do to prevent crisis mode and ways that you can re-connect with yourself at a deeper level so you'll know who you are regardless the role you're fulfilling.   To snag your free copy of the mini-journal Emily mentions, use the code FREEAF2024!   For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   Emily Reiner is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and Certified Relationship Counselor. CONNECT WITH EMILY: https://www.emilyrcounseling.com/ Instagram @emilyrcounseling   - - - References:   Identified Self Mini-Journal (use code FREEAF2024 to download your free copy)   - - -  Episode Moments:   00:49 Exploring the Concept of Identity 06:12 Preventive Measures for Identity Crisis 13:36 The Power of Curiosity in Navigating Your Identity Identity 21:08 Embracing Learning New Things About Yourself 26:08 Exploring Identity Beyond Labels    

Divorce brings a mix of emotions that can catch you off guard. Some days you're so relieved to finally have made the decision to part ways and sometimes it hits you like a ton of bricks.   Are there significant events that trigger those more intense emotions? What if I told you yes there are, so that you know what you might be able to expect?   If you could create a little more space for yourself in some of those most triggering firsts, would you be able to experience a little more peace in the midst of it?   In this episode I open up about my own experiences and share tips for navigating the unexpected emotional waves during divorce. To help you feel a little more emotionally prepared, I'll take you through 7 different firsts you'll experience after you separate and the emotions that may accompany them. Some of these emotions you may expect, some you may not, and some that may not be yours but land at your door anyway - even if they come in the form of flowers.   So if you're wondering what can you expect emotionally those first months after your separation, this is the episode for you.     For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info    Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.  CONNECT WITH JAMIE: https://JamieMilam.com  Instagram | LinkedIn   - - - References: Episode 57     - - -  Episode Moments:   04:25 Navigating the First Week of Separation 10:35 Transforming Shared Spaces 16:15 Coping with Firsts of Being Alone 18:16 Navigating Shared Parenting and Co-Parenting Transitions 28:08 Dealing with Anniversaries and Milestones 33:54 Signing Divorce Papers: A Moment of Mixed Emotions