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Be Better.

Harrison Orr

53 episodes

1 hour ago

We’ve all been told not to take things personally… but what if that’s the exact thing holding you back from becoming the man you’re meant to be? In this episode, I break down one of the most misunderstood emotional habits for high-performing men: taking things personally. As a recovering Nice Guy, I used to spiral with self-doubt anytime I felt criticized. But I’ve since learned that every trigger is a mirror—and owning that mirror is the gateway to becoming more grounded, resilient, and powe...

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We’ve all been told not to take things personally… but what if that’s the exact thing holding you back from becoming the man you’re meant to be? In this episode, I break down one of the most misunderstood emotional habits for high-performing men: taking things personally. As a recovering Nice Guy, I used to spiral with self-doubt anytime I felt criticized. But I’ve since learned that every trigger is a mirror—and owning that mirror is the gateway to becoming more grounded, resilient, and powe...

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Episodes (20/53)

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Why You SHOULD Take Things Personally (If You Actually Want to Grow) l EP. 52 l

We’ve all been told not to take things personally… but what if that’s the exact thing holding you back from becoming the man you’re meant to be? In this episode, I break down one of the most misunderstood emotional habits for high-performing men: taking things personally. As a recovering Nice Guy, I used to spiral with self-doubt anytime I felt criticized. But I’ve since learned that every trigger is a mirror—and owning that mirror is the gateway to becoming more grounded, resilient, and powe...

2 hours ago

24 minutes

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3 Game-Changing Shifts That Transformed My Relationship (Without Needing Her to Change) l EP. 51 l

If you want a deeper, more connected relationship without needing your partner to change, this episode is for you. I share the 3 most powerful relationship shifts that have radically improved my marriage — and they all start with me, not her. Inside this episode: Why a regulated nervous system is your #1 relationship tool (not date nights)How sleep deprivation is secretly killing your connection (and her sex drive)The real reason self-development matters more than couple’s therapyHow to lead ...

2 weeks ago

20 minutes

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The Hidden Reason Your Wife Doesn’t Trust You Anymore (Hint; She's Sees Right Through You) l EP. 50 l

Most men think they’re being loving partners. They help more around the house. They plan date nights. They buy flowers. But deep down, there’s an agenda — “If I do this, maybe she’ll finally…” This is the hidden Nice Guy contract that destroys trust, attraction, and intimacy. In this episode, Harrison exposes the real reason your wife feels closed off, even when you’re “doing all the right things.” He breaks down why your good intentions are actually a form of manipulation, and w...

2 weeks ago

19 minutes

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Evolving Beyond the Nice Guy: Emotional Awareness and Control l EP. 49 l

Ever lose your cool, bottle it up, or find yourself hijacked by emotion—only to feel regret, guilt, or disconnection after? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. But you are missing a core skill almost no one teaches men: Nervous system mastery. In this episode, I unpack the hard truth nice guys and high performers need to face: You can’t “think your way out” of reactivity, anger, or emotional shutdown. We cover The pivotal story of my epilepsy diagnosis and why mastering state isn’t...

3 weeks ago

21 minutes

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Make radical change FAST by learning this one skill. If all your self‑improvement still isn’t working, you’re fixing the wrong thing. l EP. 48 l

You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve tried the date nights, the breathwork, the routines… So why are you still stuck? You haven't mastered this one, high level skill. In this episode, I break down the brutal truth every high-performing “Nice Guy” needs to hear: You’re solving the wrong problem. This episode unpacks: Why doing more doesn’t equal progress (and what to do instead)The dangerous lie of productivity and dopamine-chasing ...

1 month ago

20 minutes

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How to Stop Being Triggered & Reactive All the Time (Without Becoming a Doormat) l EP. 47 l

If you feel like you’re constantly snapping at your kids, shutting down around your wife, or just one comment away from losing it — this episode is for you. Harrison Orr breaks down exactly why high-performing Nice Guys stay reactive, defensive, and emotionally volatile… and how to finally shift into calm, grounded masculine presence without becoming a pushover. Inside this episode: Why reactivity is a symptom of unowned truthHow “being triggered” is actually a reflection of your shadowThe ne...

1 month ago

28 minutes

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The ONLY 3 Futures of Every Nice Guy (Pick Wisely) l EP. 46 l

In this episode, I step into the role of your “Nice Guy Medium” to lay out the three possible futures every self-aware Nice Guy faces — and the brutal consequences (or rewards) of each one. Whether you’re currently stuck in people-pleasing patterns, feel like your marriage is hanging by a thread, or just can’t seem to lead with power at home or work, this episode will cut through your excuses like a hot knife through butter. You’ll hear: The hidden cost of doing nothing (even if things aren’t...

2 months ago

32 minutes

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If You’re Only Growing to Save the Marriage, You’re Not Growing at All - The 6 Phases To Evolve No One Talks About l EP. 45 l

If you think doing the work will save your marriage — you’ve already lost. This episode walks you through the full transformation from Nice Guy to mature, grounded masculine leadership. And more importantly, why doing it for her, the kids, or anyone else is still part of the pattern that’s killing your power. You’ll learn: Why chasing self-improvement to “get her back” still comes from lackThe covert contracts you’re still making that sabotage your trustHow to rebuild confidence, not with hac...

2 months ago

52 minutes

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Why Nice Guys Never Get What They Want (And What Respected Men Do Instead) l EP. 44 l

This is the brutal truth most high-performing men refuse to admit... You're successful in business. You’re respected at work. But at home? You're either being ignored, resented… or silently losing your wife’s trust — one “nice guy” moment at a time. In this episode, I break down: The hidden trait that keeps "nice guys" stuck in resentment and rejection Why your covert contracts always backfire — especially in relationships How your inability to regulate your nervous system is silently de...

2 months ago

18 minutes

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Why Being a Nice Guy Isn’t Enough (and What She’s Actually Waiting For) l EP. 43 l

Most men think being nice, helpful, and easygoing will make their wife love them more. But here’s the truth: She doesn’t want you to do more. She wants you to be more — more decisive, more grounded, more of a man she can trust to lead. In this episode, I pull back the curtain on why “nice guys” are unknowingly killing their polarity, trust, and intimacy — and what to do instead. If you’ve felt the confusion of doing everything “right” but still not getting ...

3 months ago

32 minutes

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The Truth About Leading Your Relationship - She Won’t Just Hand You the Reins — Why Leading as a Man Requires Earning It l EP. 42 l

You said you wanted to lead your wife, your relationship, your family — good. But don’t expect her to hand you the reins without a test. In this episode, I unpack the mistake most men make when stepping into their masculine: they expect leadership, respect, and intimacy to just be handed over because they’ve “woken up.” But leadership isn’t given — it’s earned. And every moment of pushback is the exact opportunity to prove you’re ready for it. Expect resistance. Expect the test. And lea...

3 months ago

21 minutes

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Why Being ‘Easygoing’ & 'Agreeable' Is Slowly Destroying Your Marriage l EP. 41 l

Breaking down one of the most dangerous traits holding nice guys back: being too agreeable. You’ll learn why saying “I’m easy” or “whatever you want, babe” is eroding trust in your relationship, killing polarity, and costing you respect. More importantly, you’ll walk away with clear tools to lead with direction, set boundaries without being reactive, and reclaim the kind of grounded masculine presence your partner actually craves. This one might sting — but if you feel it, that’s where your g...

3 months ago

36 minutes

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4 Uncomfortable Lessons Every Nice Guy Needs to Learn (If He Wants to Grow Up) - This Is What Changed My Life (And Why Most Men Never Learn It) l EP. 40 l

Most men are doing the work — reading the books, listening to the podcasts, grinding away — But still feeling stuck. In this episode, I share 4 of the most powerful (and confronting) lessons that transformed how I show up as a man — from insecure, anxious and reactive… to calm, grounded, and clear in who I am and where I’m going. This isn’t theoretical. These are the tools, frames and shifts I personally used to: Rebuild my confidence from the ground upRegulate my nervous system and st...

4 months ago

33 minutes

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The 5 Core Beliefs Every Nice Guy Has To Overcome If He Wants To Evolve l EP. 39 l

Being a “nice guy” isn’t the problem. Believing it’ll earn you love, respect, or results — that’s the problem. In this episode, I break down the 5 core beliefs that most men are operating from — and why they’re keeping you stuck in resentment, reactivity, and low-level results (no matter how good your intentions are). Here’s what we cover: Why “avoiding conflict” makes you untrustworthy (not safe)How tying your worth to your productivity is draining your powerThe cost of suppressing your nee...

4 months ago

37 minutes

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The Reason She’s Pulling Away (And Why Being ‘Nicer’ Isn’t Working) - Chasing Her Validation Made You Weak — And What to Do Instead l EP. 38 l

You’re terrified of losing her. But what if that fear is the very thing driving her away? In this episode, I open up about the old version of me — the insecure, anxious nice guy who clung to his partner like his life depended on it. I was checking her stories. Re-reading messages. Sending “casual” memes just to get a reply. All of it… just to feel some sense of control. What I didn’t realise was this: 👉 When your partner becomes the reason for your worth, your power, and your pea...

4 months ago

19 minutes

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Why Hustling Harder Was Making Me a Worse Father & Slowing Down Felt Like Weakness — That Was Wrecking My Marriage l EP. 37 l

Most men think they’ll just “figure it out” when fatherhood hits. I thought the same — until my old habits nearly wrecked the one thing that mattered most: my presence. In this episode, I break down the hardest mindset shift I had to make becoming a dad. Not just learning how to change nappies… but how to change my state. ⚠️ What I thought made me productive — high pressure, less sleep, more caffeine — made me anxious, irritable, and reactive. What I really needed was: Nervous sys...

4 months ago

20 minutes

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5 Nice Guy Habits That Almost Destroyed My Marriage (& what to do about them) l EP. 36 l

In this episode of The Be Better Podcast, I break down 5 Nice Guy Traps that nearly ruined my relationship, my leadership, and my masculinity—and exactly how I broke free. We cover: Why indecision kills trust and attraction (and what to say instead of “I don’t care”)How mirroring your woman’s mood is silently wrecking your relationshipThe one listening skill that will unlock connection, intimacy, and leadership at homeWhy defensiveness is a red flag for your own shadowHow to set boundaries wi...

4 months ago

39 minutes

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The 3-Step Cure to Nice Guy Syndrome (Without Becoming Everything You Hate) l EP. 36 l

If you’re a man who’s sick of being the nice guy — the people-pleaser, the pushover, the guy who bends until he breaks — this episode is your wake-up call. I break down the 3 exact steps to evolve into a grounded, respected, embodied masculine leader who can say no without guilt, lead without ego, and finally reclaim your edge — without becoming an asshole in the process. This is for the dad, the business owner, the high performer who looks successful on paper but feels soft...

4 months ago

25 minutes

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The Death of the Nice Guy: Why Doing Everything Right Is Making You Invisible l EP. 35 l

In this episode, I break down the Nice Guy persona — and why so many good men end up feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected despite doing everything "right." I dive deep into my own experiences and the patterns I’ve seen in the men I work with. We’re talking about approval addiction, emotional dishonesty, performance-based identity — and how these habits sabotage our relationships, kill attraction, and drain our sense of self-worth. I’ll also walk you through what it ...

5 months ago

38 minutes

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The Belief That’s Burning You Out: Why Hard Work Alone is Costing You Everything l EP. 34 l

In this episode of The Be Better Podcast, I speak directly to the business-owning dads who pride themselves on being the hardest workers in the room. I used to wear that badge with honour too—until I realised the belief that helped me rise was the same one pulling everything else in my life apart. I break down why the “grind harder, be better” mindset is actually keeping you stuck, and how it's costing you your presence, your peace, and your family. If you've ever told your...

5 months ago

23 minutes