When people talk about attachment styles in popular culture, it’s usually within the context of a romantic relationship. But understanding your attachment style can actually be super beneficial for your friendships as well. In this week’s episode, Daysha goes over:
What the three major attachment styles are
How we, as a culture, have been thinking about independence all wrong
And how she learned how to manage her anxiety in her friendships
So, if you’ve always wondered:
What does a secure friendship look like?
How do I recognize when my attachment style is sabotaging my friendships?
How to become a more secure friend?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
What Attachment Styles Teach Us About Our Friendships; Lane Moore
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends by Marisa G. Franco
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find–and Keep–Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
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For our last episode in the friendship and money series, Daysha has a mini coaching session for y’all this week that dives into ways you can turn down group outings in a clear and kind manner when you don’t have the funds. In this episode she:
Offers strategies on how to define your financial boundaries
Walks you through a step-by-step example on how to say no and what to do when faced with push back
And reveals personal tactics that she uses when telling people no
So if you’ve always wondered:
What do I say when I can’t afford to go out?
How do I handle friends who pressure me to spend money?
How do I set money boundaries with my friends?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
The Book of Boundaries: Set The Limits That Will Set You Free by Melissa Urban
The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
EP 10: To Communicate or Not Communicate Our Boundaries FT. Calix Vu-Bui
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Do your friends make more money than you? Or are you the friend who outearns their friend group? Regardless of where you fall, talking about money and budgets and limitations is already extremely stressful, but when you add friendship on top of it — it can really make or break some relationships. So, this week, Daysha sits down with licensed financial therapist, Aja Evans, to discuss:
How to create community when there are income differences among friends
How to deal with conflict around money with friends
How to ease into conversations around money with friends
As well as how to deal with allllllll the complicated emotions that money can bring up in us
So, if you’ve always wondered:
Can friendships survive income differences?
How do I talk about money struggles with my friends honestly?
How do I set financial boundaries with friends?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
Aja Evans is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, speaker, and author specializing in Financial Therapy. With over a decade of experience, Aja is determined to help more people break the taboo of keeping money and emotions secret. In addition to her practice, Aja is the president-elect on the board of the Financial Therapy Association, consults with FinTech companies, and is the author of Feel Good Finance accepted this December.
Aja has been featured in a variety of major news outlets including The New York Times, Business Insider, NerdWallet, Time, and Teen Vogue. Aja is on a mission to get more people engaged in living their best lives while attuning to their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors around money. Outside of work, you can find Aja chasing after her two young children as they hunt down the next delicious place to eat.
To connect with Aja:
Website: http://ajaevanscounseling.com/
IG: @AjaETherapy
REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
Feel Good Finance by Aja Evans
The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
The Overcoming Overspending Podcast (formerly The Money Love Podcast)
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Welcome back to the second half of season 2, besties! For our first episode back, Daysha wanted to talk about her journey of being the “broke friend” for the last 11 months as she dealt with a long period of unemployment.
Specifically, she’ll be discussing:
The emotions that came up for her this time around
How her conversations changed with her friends
And why being the “broke friend” is not as awful as we think it is
So, if you have always wondered:
Why do I feel ashamed of being the broke friend?
Can friendships survive income differences?
How do I talk about money struggles with my friends honestly?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
How The Mighty Fall by Jim Collins
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Hi y’all! I know it’s been a minute but Daysha has a quick life update and the Friendship Pain Point survey is now OPEN! Please fill out the survey so Daysha can learn more about you and how to best tailor future episodes to meet your needs.
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The time has come for our mid-season break! But before heading off into summer, Daysha wanted to offer up some coaching this week on how to make time for friendship since it is one of the biggest challenges for people when trying to make friends in adulthood.
We’re always saying we’re too busy to hang out. But are we really, tho? Or are there other underlying emotions blocking us from finding the time to connect? In this episode Daysha discusses:
What are time boundaries and how to set them
How to identify your time boundary violation triggers
Inspiration for how to make more time for connection
And why spontaneity is the secret sauce when it comes to connecting with friends
So, if you have always wondered:
How do I make time for friends as an adult?
Why is it so hard to maintain friendships when you're busy?
How can I balance work, life, and friendships?
Can you have meaningful friendships without seeing each other often?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships by Kat Vellos
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
The Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits by Nedra Glover Tawwab
The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
EP 10: To Communicate or Not Communicate Our Boundaries FT. Calix Vu-Bui
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Over the last several years, there has been a cultural push in America for mothers and daughters to become best friends. For last week’s episode, Daysha sat down with a licensed therapist to get her take. So, this week she decided it only made sense to reach out to her mom to see if she ever had a desire to be best friends with her or her siblings. In addition to her mother, Angela, her sister, Erika, who is a new mom, joins them to have the realest conversation on motherhood, parenting and grace.
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Happy almost Mother’s Day to all the mamas out there!
With Mother’s Day coming up this weekend in the US, Daysha decided to use the next two episodes to explore this cultural trend she’s noticed over the years: mothers and daughters being “best friends.”
This week, she sits down with licensed therapist Aaliyah Nurideen to discuss:
Can mothers and daughters actually be best friends?
Is it healthy for mothers and daughters to be best friends given the inherent power differential between them?
What do we gain or risk by becoming best friends with our mom?
And how can we approach building a relationship with our moms in adulthood.
Aaliyah Nurideen, LCSW, LCSW-C is a multi-passionate licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, healing justice advocate, and owner of Ashé Mental Health & Wellness Space. With 10 years of experience in community mental health, psychotherapy, and organizational leadership, Aaliyah brings a dynamic and compassionate approach to creating spaces where mental health and creativity intersect. Her career has been dedicated to fostering environments of care, safety, and authenticity, particularly for Black and Indigenous communities. Aaliyah’s expertise lies in building systems that prioritize mental wellness and empower individuals to thrive. She is also the creator of Connections Cards™ and the brand Therapy is Not a Bad Word™, both of which reflect her commitment to making mental health accessible, engaging, and culturally grounded.
To connect with Aaliyah:
Personal IG: @aaliyahnurideen
Private Practice:@ashemhspace (IG) @ashemhspace (TikTok)
Connection Cards IG: @connectioncardsdeck
REFERENCES:
Mean Girls (2004)
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We all want friends, right? But have you ever thought about why you want them? Having healthy friendships is an important part of your wellbeing, and we go over in episode 8 how friendship impacts your mental health with a licensed therapist.
But Daysha can’t help but notice how often people seem to be treating their friends more like accessories than people lately. Yes, vibing and taking cute photos at brunch are a fun part of having adult friends. But what about when friends lean on us for more complex needs like a ride to the airport or to give their car a jump in the middle of the night? As astutely noted by a commenter on TikTok, “everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.”
So this week’s #BetterYouBetterFriend episode, Daysha provides some coaching on:
Why meaningful friendships are inconvenient, but worth the price of admission
How to discover why friendship matters to YOU
And how to honor your closest friendships through better communication
Because as sistah auntie queen Maya Angelou once said: “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
So if you are wondering:
Why do adult friendships feel so one-sided?
How do I know if my friend actually values me?
What should I expect from close friends?
And how can I communicate better in my friendships?
Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships by Kat Vellos
The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker
Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo
EP 7: The Line Between Love and Friendship (The Triangular Theory of Love)
EP 10: To Communicate or Not Communicate Our Boundaries FT. Calix Vu-Bui
EP 28: What If I Don’t Have Friends of My Race (part 2) FT. Dannyell Rasco
https://www.cdc.gov/social-connectedness/risk-factors/index.html
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/history/article/how-bicycles-transformed-world
https://www.tiktok.com/@thesashawhitney/video/7457217985099353375?lang=en
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Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends, Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained.
This week, Daysha reconnects with Rachel, a close high school friend that she fell out of touch with after Rachel moved to Germany. But upon reuniting for a girl’s trip and having the funniest, realest moment about where their relationship currently stood, they come together today to reflect on how their friendship began, share favorite memories, and open up about the ways they can grow and strengthen their bond moving forward.
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In this powerful follow-up episode, Daysha continues the conversation about what it means to grow up without many (or any) friends of your own race—and how to authentically build those connections later in life. In part 1, Daysha shares how her upbringing brought her through a variety of spaces that allowed her to form diverse friendships throughout her life. But it wasn’t until she worked at BuzzFeed that she felt like the diversity of her friendships were signaling to some that she wasn’t “Black enough.”
Joined by licensed therapist, Dannyell Rasco, they explore the challenges of BIPOC people who were either raised outside of their racial community or who felt excluded for superficial reasons–leading to feelings of not being [Black, Asian, Latino, etc] enough. They discuss:
How racial identity impacts friendship and belonging
Coping with anxiety tied to race and community
Healing from past hurts within your racial group
Strategies for reconnecting with your cultural community
Building genuine, affirming friendships as an adult
Dannyell Rasco is a wife, mom and therapist who believes in keeping it real while supporting people through life’s toughest moments. As a true girls' girl, she’s passionate about helping others navigate life, relationships, parenting, and personal growth with honesty and grace. With a deep love for opening minds and shifting perspectives, she reminds people that while life can be hard, it won’t always feel this way—and sometimes, all we need is a little support to realize that everything will eventually be okay.
To connect with Dannyell:
IG: @Dannyellxo +@IdWantToKnow
Email: dannyellrasco@gmail.com
Email List: https://blue-flower-82495.myflodesk.com/o43oya84bn
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence by Daysha Veronica
The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin
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Do you think your friendship would be able to survive an 1,100 mile trek through the deserts of the Middle East? Or that you’d both be able to write a book about it together afterwards?
This week, Daysha sits down with Miles Spencer, half of the writing duo behind the Amazon bestseller, A Line in the Sand. They discuss how Spencer and his “adventure bestie,” Wells Jones, sought to better understand the Middle East for themselves in a post-9/11 world after reading Seven Pillars of Wisdom by TE Lawerence.
Inspired by Lawrence’s ability to translate his experience and understanding of the Middle East to the westerners of his time, Spencer and Wells not only take up his journey mapped out in Seven Pillars IRL, but they also go on the journey of a lifetime–writing a historical fiction novel together. And it is through both of these journeys that they hope to lead readers of our time to a deeper understanding of the Middle East, and the complex ways in which decisions of the past still continue to haunt the present.
Miles Spencer is a curious guy from Pittsburgh that asked a lot of questions and strayed a long way from home. He has been a mentor of tech founders for the last 30 years and previously worked as a Venture Principal at Capital Express, hosted MoneyHunt on PBS (which is the Shark Tank before Shark Tank), he has led over 1,500 people across 14 miles of open sea on kayak, and trekked 1,100 miles through the deserts of Saudi, Jordan and Syria–the experience from which his novel, A Line in the Sand, was born and ended up becoming an Amazon Bestseller in the Middle East.
To Connect with Miles:
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/milesspencer/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/milesspencer
Website: https://milesspencer.com/
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
A Line in the Sand- Paperback, Kindle, Audible
Seven Pillars of Wisdom by TE Lawerence
Episode 11: How To Deal With Boundary Crossers FT. Calyx Vu-Bui
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses the topic of sexual assault, but features no graphic depictions.
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center reports that:
81% of women and 43% of men have reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime
One in three female victims of completed or attempted rape experienced it for the first time between the ages of 11 and 17
About one in four male victims of completed or attempted rape first experienced it between the ages of 11 and 17
This means that there is an unfortunately high likelihood that some you know, someone you are friends with and someone that you love has experienced sexual assault. You also might be someone who has experienced sexual assault. So, if you have struggled with either how to tell people or with how people have responded to learning what has happened to you, this episode is for you.
This week, Daysha invites sexuality journalist and former high school classmate, Katie W. Simon on the podcast to discuss her new book, Tell Me What You Like: An Honest Discussion of Sex and Intimacy After Sexual Assault, as well as how we can all be a better support system to our besties that have experienced sexual assault.
Katie W. Simon is a sexuality journalist who studied creative writing at NYU, Columbia, and the University of East Anglia. Her writing has appeared in Vogue, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and the anthology, Anatomy of Silence. Her first book, Tell Me What You Like: An Honest Discussion of Sex and Intimacy After Sexual Assault, offers a positive approach to healing based on empathy and community from the stories of sexual assault survivors themselves. The book aims to provide the understanding and the tools for survivors to navigate their trauma and to cultivate the sex lives they desire and deserve. It will be published this year on July 29th and you can pre-order it at the links below. She currently lives in Texas with her dog, Babka.
Pre-Order Here:
Amazon (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases)
To connect with Katie:
IG: @Katiewsimon
BlueSky: @katiewsimon.bsky.social
Substack: https://katiewsimon.substack.com/
Website: https://www.katiewsimon.com/
Producer: Becky Harris
Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy
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With it being the beginning of March, which ushers in Women's History Month and International Women's Day, Daysha decided to chat with her favorite feminist bestie, Becky Harris, on what it means to be a "girl's girl" in 2025.
How are we actually showing up for and supporting women in an intersectional way in 2025? What are we trying to communicate when we say another woman is a girl’s girl? And are there ways in which we weaponize this phrase to silence other women?
RESOURCES:
https://chaninicholas.com/your-guide-to-venus-retrograde-in-aries-and-pisces/
https://www.tiktok.com/@nobodyspecialforreal/video/7463567166127000878?lang=en
https://www.buzzfeed.com/kristenharris1/do-you-think-these-celebrities-are-girls-girls
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With Black History Month coming to a close, Daysha wanted to explore how the race of our friends can impact how we are perceived by others. When it comes to BIPOC people who either have fewer or no friends of their race, the implication is often that they aren't [Black, Brown, Asian, etc.] enough, but how much truth is there to that assumption? And is it possible for us to exist in a world where we don't have to think about these things as marks against our love of our culture?
RESOURCES:
Original: https://www.tiktok.com/@agiftfromtodd/video/7467699509397556526?lang=en
EDM Remix: https://www.tiktok.com/@veryveryvinny/video/7468329650037525790?lang=en
Full Song: https://open.spotify.com/album/7AMxD4Uhlhi7KkdfY6dews?si=pMbeHWV5ToicBey37Mw4ug
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. (As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases)
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Happy Galentine's Day and almost Valentine's Day, besties!
Have you been struggling with having romantic feelings for your best friend? Are you unsure about whether or not you should tell them? Well, Daysha has definitely been there and invites her BuzzFeed bestie, Curly Velasquez, on the podcast to discuss the pros and cons of revealing your feelings and risking your friendship for romance.
Curly Velasquez is a Salvadoran Los Angeles-based creator. He began his career working for celebrity photographer David LaChapelle, and design icon Jeremy Scott. Curly began work with BuzzFeed as a receptionist but quickly became a viral sensation and one of the founding members of one of the largest digital Latino platforms—Pero Like. You can also see Curly on Hulu’s VIDA (Seasons 2 and 3), Netflix’s documentary Mucho Mucho Amor, E!, and PBS’ Dead and Buried—oh, and his iHeart podcast with his best friend Maya Murillo called the super secret bestie club.
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BESTIES! The moment you've been waiting for is here. Season 2 has officially kicked off and for our first episode back, Daysha sits down with her bestie/producer and favorite white woman, Becky Harris, to discuss what it means to be in an interracial friendship in 2025.
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Can you believe it's the end of season 1?! For the final episode of the season, Daysha decides to talk about a popular negotiation concept that she adapted for personal relationships within her book, Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence.
With the new year quickly approaching, Daysha wanted to make sure that you have all the tools you need to make important decisions about your friendships and where you want to take them in 2025.
RESOURCES:
https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/negotiation-skills-daily/what-is-negotiation/
Getting To Yes: How To Negotiate Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher, William Ury, and Bruce Patton
Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence by Daysha Veronica
Feel The Fear... And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
The Mind and Heart of the Negotiator by Leigh Thompson
Judgment in Managerial Decision Making by Max H. Bazerman and Don A. Moore
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Isn't it crazy how much we love when people are vulnerable with us, but we HATE being vulnerable ourselves? Vulnerability is key to deepening our friendships, but will it ever be possible to get comfortable with being vulnerable?
This week, Daysha decides to sit down with licensed mental health counselor, Sharmishtha Gupta, to find out:
Why is vulnerability so hard?
Why do we think we look weak when we express it?
How we can practice getting better at expressing it
And gets some much needed healing from her conflict with her uncle's wife
Sharmishtha Gupta is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (NY) with over nine years of experience supporting adolescents and adults. Currently based in Singapore, her practice serves local and expatriate communities in Singapore as well as clients online in New York and across Asia.
As an adult Third Culture Kid (ATCK), her journey to develop her own sense of self has shaped her calling to help clients navigate cultural identity, adjustment, assimilation, and family dynamics. She aims to create a safe and supportive space for clients to fully unravel the layers of their individual experiences and find connection, meaning, and belonging in this ever-so-complicated world.
Outside of work (and sometimes in between sessions!), Sharmishtha enjoys naps and cuddles with her partner and two kitties, cozy gaming, and singing endless amounts of karaoke.
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Website: https://www.odysseywellness.co/
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Mercury retrograde is upon us, y'all! And while it is commonly known for its chaos and delays, it is also a time that is best used for reflection and reconnection. So, this week Daysha does a light deep dive on what Mercury retrograde is, and how you can best use this time to reconnect with past friends or grieve and let go of the relationships that no longer serve you.
RESOURCES:
Free Birth Chart Reading - Cafe Astrology
Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence by Daysha Veronica
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