Breakup? I KNOW you are capable of healing and putting it behind you. I have created this special meditation track to help.
Remember, I want to be your breakup buddy. Schedule your free first session here.
AND - download my free guide to navigating breakup brain here.
Your breakup is the chance for a new beginning. If you let it be.
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Breakup? Broken heart? Your grief is real and what you are going through is very normal and natural for people who are ending relationships. That is why I developed my own concept of Breakup Stages of Grief:
Devastation
Denial
Realization
Relief
Today I am going to be focusing on the “denial” stage and how to navigate second guessing your breakup and yourself.
Breakup brain is real! Download my free guide to navigating it here: https://janiceformichella.com/resources/#BreakupBrain
In this episode I cover:
-What breakup denial is
-Thoughts we may have during this stage
-Things we may find ourselves doing during this stage
-Ways to navigate breakup denial
The stages of grief for breakups are each temporary and although they are painful, intentionally working through each one can help you move onto the next and then to putting your breakup behind you.
Does learning about the breakup stages of grief help? Check out these resources:
Episode 201: Breakup? It’s time to indulge.
Blog post: Broken heart? Spoil yourself!
Episode 103: Stages of grief for breakups
Remember – I am here for you. Book a free first breakup coaching session at https://janiceformichella.com/
#breakups #stagesofgrief #breakuptips #brokenheart
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
-Do you avoid dating “avoidants?” Do you struggle with avoidant attachment and want to be more understood? This week’s episode is for both of you!
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Yay! I am having a great “attachment nerds” chat today with colleague and — certified attachment coach Ashley Kaylor about all things related to the dismissive/avoidant “type.” We break it down! A few things we cover:
-The characteristics of dismissive/avoidant attachment behavior
-Some “causes” of avoidant attachment
-Navigating dating someone who with dismissive/avoidant attachment tendencies
-Overcoming dismissive/avoidant attachment
-Myths and misconceptions about “avoidants”
Go show Ashley some podcast love!
Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.com
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Breakup? Schedule a free coaching session here.
There are stages of grief that are specific to divorce and breakups. I have developed the concept of Breakup Stages of Grief:
Devastation
Denial
Realization
Relief
Today I am going to be focusing on the “devastation” stage and how to navigate the shock of a breakup.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Episode 201: Breakup? It’s time to indulge.
Blog post: Broken heart? Spoil yourself!
Episode 103: Stages of grief for breakups
Remember! I am here to help. Schedule a free first breakup coaching session or hit me up on IG to discuss:
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? I hope you will join me to use the remaining weeks as a chance to educate yourself, spread awareness, advocate, and create visibility for this often under-discussed societal issue.
Domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence, battering, or spouse abuse) is a pattern of abusive behavior used in a relationship to gain control and power over an intimate partner. It happens to everyone across race, gender, socioeconomic status, education, and sexual orientation.
Every minute, roughly 20 people are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States.
Every year in the United States, more than 10 million women and men become victims of domestic violence.
More women lose their lives to intimate partner violence than any other means. In the U.S. alone, more than 55 percent of murdered women are killed in relation to intimate partner violence.
Nearly one million women have been shot by an intimate partner and have survived.
Nearly 1 in 10 women (9.4%) in the US have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
It is a persistent issue that finds victims feeling powerless and without means of support or escape. Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender at rates of 77% for women ages 18 to 24, 76% for ages 25 to 34, and 81% for ages 35 to 49.
Domestic violence continues to go unnoticed by many because it is underreported with only 52% of victims reporting the crime to the police in 2019.
What you can do this month to support victims and survivors:
Educate yourself. Read up on the issue.
Share what you learn with others. Post on social media. Be brave. Be bold.
Learn about what to do if someone comes to you for support. I will drop a separate mini-sode on this issue.
Make a donation to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. You can visit them at https://ncadv.org/ and using the link in the show notes.
Don’t just consume true crime for entertainment. A lot of the stories portrayed in our favorite documentaries and podcasts are sad examples of the terror that a lot of women around the country are faced with daily. Share what you consume and talk about the content and the stories with friends and on social media. Again, be brave.
Commit to sharing content on the topic all year long.
Thank you for listening. Please keep following my podcasts as I will be dropping more content through the month.
This show is about healing. And this episode is about how you can help someone else to do it.
Get a pen and paper - today I am going to tell you five of the best ways to help a friend through a breakup. These are tips based on my own experience and what I have seen as a breakup coach.
Be the friend that will add useful support to your friend’s healing journey.
I share:
-How/why to give your friend time
-The usefulness of suggesting activities
-Resisting giving un-asked-for advice
-Taking sides: should you?
-Reserving being flaky for another time
Want to support my work? Join my Patreon here.
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Always be learning! In this fun, FUN rewind one of my besties and I chat about the relationship lessons we learned in the year prior to recording.
EACH - EVERY relationship and breakup teaches us something……….IF we let them. In this classic episode Jessie Maree and I chat about the lessons:
When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.
Actions always mean more than words.
It’s okay to take a break or re-calibrate.
Take relationships slow!
It is OKAY to end things.
Don’t date someone’s potential.
Single is awesome!
It is CRUCIAL to maintain your support network no matter what your relationship status.
Enjoy!
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Does people pleasing play a role in your lack of satisfaction in your relationships?
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
We are often motivated to people please and sacrifice our own time, comfort, energy, and even happiness from a place of lack. It also comes from a place of not loving and respecting ourselves fully, which can never lead to vibrant, mutually supportive relationships.
There is hope in the knowledge that people pleasing can be un-learned. We can always discover and adopt new ways of showing up for ourselves and others.
Remember, when we put ourselves first the rest falls into place. These affirmations are powerful messages to help you internalize how important and safe it is to do so.
I encourage you to listen once a day while you work to turn a corner on your process. I will read each twice, giving you time in between to say each to yourself.
It’s safe for me to set boundaries with myself and others
I love expressing myself
My time and energy are worth protecting
I confidently communicate
I am striving to learn what being authentic means to me
I love showing people different parts of myself
It is good to take time to make decisions
My friendships are best when I show up as myself
I surround myself with strong, capable people
I am a strong, capable person
I am capable and worthy of love and respect
I allow others to see my authentic self and enjoy doing the same
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
Are you willing to use your breakup as a catalyst for growth? Conscious Uncoupling is one roadmap for doing just that. Heather Garbutt is a Conscious Uncoupling coach and this week she walks us through the process and lovingly encourages ME and everyone listening to use separations from people and relationships to learn about ourselves and where our opportunities for growth are.
PLUS ways to create space with an ex using new agreements and commitments to show up for yourself in new ways.
Please go show Heather some podcast love and learn more about her work. Visit her website, HeatherGarbutt.com here.
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
It’s time for another replay! This was one of my most popular episodes in 2023 and I think it deserves more attention. It is all about what I learned during and after my last breakup. In some ways the experience was a breath of fresh air as I got to see the efficacy of my methods. I hope you will find it useful.
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
The lessons I cover:
-It can hurt to lose something that isn’t good for you.
-You are allowed to keep the positive things that someone, even an ex, reflects on you.
-You are allowed and SHOULD toss out the things that someone says from a place of hurt.
-Breakups really bring out the worst in us!
-You are not obligated to stay friends with or continue doing favors for anyone you have broken up with.
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
How we breakup with someone can have a LOT to do with how we heal from it. Today I am sharing my three-pronged method to making it as painless as possible for everyone. Grab a pen and paper and get ready to take notes on my very own “Three C’s of Breakups.”
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Breakups can really mess with the mind, but why? If you are struggling to put your breakup or ex behind you I want you to know that it is so normal and almost healthy, because the human brain is designed to process it in a way that really sucks. Today I share some of my research on the topic, along with what you can do about it.
I’ve got you!
Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 157: ❤️Breakup? You’ll get through this. Here’s why. ❤️
Episode 13: How to ask for help after a breakup
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
How do you decide who to date? Who do you pursue second dates with? Today, Lena Enhrenberg and I talk about her 3-part method to making sure you start off on the right foot with each potential match. Push play and then resume swiping.
👉👉Show Lena Ehrenberg some podcast love! Please go follow her now and ask her about coaching on IG at HaveMoreLove
Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com
and my IG: @janiceformichella
Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Sometimes healing is about the most practical and tangible things. Did you know that your phone may be the biggest barrier to you moving on from your breakup? Today I’m talking all about how allowing yourself to go to the next phase of your healing journey might be at your literal finger tips.
Get out your phone and get ready to take action.
Episodes mentioned:
My Ex Texted - Should I Reply? (115)
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Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Quotes from this episode:
“Your phone may be the thing that is keeping you stuck in your breakup and connected to your ex.” -Janice Formichella
“When contact with an ex ends, looking at texts can give us a similar “hit” to what we get when we communicate directly with them.” -Janice Formichella
“The contact with an ex doesn’t have to be positive for us to feel relieved by it.” -Janice Formichella
“Remember: we can crave things that are bad for us.” -Janice Formichella
“Resisting the urge to keep in touch with an ex opens up so much space for healing.” -Janice Formichella
Want to connect?
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Breakups can REALLY hurt - no matter who they are with and no matter the type of relationship. In some cases a friend breakup can be even worse than a romantic one. Let’s talk about it!
Check out my new website here!
This week I am so happy to be sharing a conversation I had with Dr. Peter McGraw that originally aired on his podcast, Solo: The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life. It is all about friend breakups and covers:
-Our stories of deciding to breakup with a friend
-How friend breakups compare to romantic breakups
-My “3-C’s of Breakups” and how to breakup with someone
-Our stories of being broken up with by a friend
Go learn more about Dr. Peter McGraw and the Solo movement! Check out his website here.
Want to connect?
Visit my website: JaniceFormichella.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
New series! Do you have a dating, sex, or relationship question? We are here to help! Send us your queries. Today we answer:
-Sex gaps: when do I tell people I’m dating that I want to experiment sexually now that I’m divorced?
-I matched with someone overseas, are they catfishing me?
Do you have a breakup, dating, sex, or relationship question? DM me on IG here!
Want more dating and sex tips? Check out these resources mentioned in the episode:
Sex and the Solo Girl episode 2: Sex communication
Sex and the Solo GIrl episode 30: Let’s get kinky!
Want to learn about my coaching services? Check out my website: JaniceFormichella.com
Check out my new website! JaniceFormichella.com
Cheating — wow. What a thing to navigate. WELL - Christine and I are going to help you do it.
This week one of my besties and I discuss:
-Statistics about cheating (do you know what US cities have the highest rates??)
-Christine’s story about being cheated on by her ex-husband
-What is cheating?
-Is cheating ever understandable?
-How to start to recover from cheating
👉Go show Christine Lalonde some podcast love!
Christine Lalonde is the host of the hilarious podcast Fifty Shades of Bullshit. You can listen everywhere you get your podcasts and on Apple here and Spotify here.
Stay up to date with the show on IG here.
More learning: check out these great episodes from my podcast network:
WTF was I thinking? (for a good laugh)
Want to connect?
Visit my website: JaniceFormichella.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Trigger warning: coercive control, sexual coercion, religious abuse.
👉My new eBook: Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
Welcome to the show another Janice 💜.The author and producer of the book and podcast Divorcing Religion and a therapist specializing in religious deconstruction and and sexual shame, she is here to speak with us today about setting ourselves free from both.
BUT FIRST! Go support Janice and her powerful work.
Follow her podcast, Divorcing Religion here (and wherever you listen to podcasts).
Subscribe to her YouTube channel here.
Buy the book, Divorcing Religion, here.
And register for the Shameless Sexuality conference here.
In this very important episode Janice and Janice discuss:
-Our very personal stories with sexual shame and sexual shaming
-Our very personal stories involving religious trauma
-How we got out
-Purity culture
-Steps to overcoming sexual shame and reclaiming your sexuality
More resources: episodes mentioned for more learning
-Sex Communication (episode 2: Sex and the Solo Girl)
-Asking for what you want in sex (The One Podcast with Gina Catherine)
Want to connect?
Visit my website: JaniceFormichella.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
👉My new eBook: Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
Let’s get real…having someone tell you they no longer want to continue a relationship really hurts.
AND - you can learn SO much from it.
I am lucky to have a very high value man come on the show this week and talk about being broken up with multiple times. Welcome to the show Chris Gillis.
In this powerful and yes…Vulnerable chat we cover:
-Why talking about being “dumped” hurts so much-Chris’s multiple stories about being cheated on-What Chris has learned from feelings of rejection-Using rejection as protection-Words of wisdom for people who have been broken up with
Go show Chris some podcast love!
Follow him NOW:
Hit me up on IG: @janiceformichella
EMAIL: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
I want to connect with you!
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Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid.
As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
This short and sweet episode has a powerful tip for you to implement today.
And it is actually fun…
Good luck!
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
