In this episode, I sit down with two-time Survivor winner and author Parvati Shallow for a raw and refreshing conversation about intuition, expression, and reclaiming your inner villain.
✨ We dive into:
Intuition + Self-Trust: how developing a deeper connection with your body opens access to guidance, clarity, and a friendlier relationship with the world around you.
Freedom of Expression: moving beyond self-auditing and PR-trained polish to share experiences authentically—without rehashing every word later.
Gaslighting & Self-Trust: how building inner trust becomes the antidote to external invalidation.
Villain Work: why embracing your shadow is essential for healing, boundaries, and personal power.
We also talk about Parvati’s time winning Survivor: Australia vs. USA, her new book Nice Girls Don’t Win, and the launch of our upcoming course How Villains Are Made—a six-week live program designed to help you step into your unapologetic self.
💥 If you’re ready to explore your edges and embody the parts of yourself you’ve been told to hide, join us here: https://kalisomatics.com/howvillainsaremade2
This is the final free workshop offered by me for the foreseeable future—and it’s a potent one.
In this session, we dive into the often-overlooked survival strategy of fawning at work—where you overextend yourself, blur boundaries, and people-please in the name of job security, approval, or stability.
You’ll learn:
What workplace fawning looks like (and why it’s not your fault)
How it’s connected to your nervous system, safety, and family dynamics
Grounding practices to reconnect with your body and your “no”
How to recognize urges and somatic cues before burnout hits
Practical tools to start setting boundaries without sabotaging your livelihood
This episode includes real participant shares, somatic exercises, and honest conversation about the cost of chronic overgiving at work—and how to begin to build a new pattern from the inside out.
If you want to go deeper, I also share details about SHED, my 6-month live somatic program for people who intellectually understand the fawn response but don’t know how to stop doing it.
🌀 To learn more and register for SHED, click the link below:
https://kalisomatics.com/SHED
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What happens when you spend your life reading everyone else’s emotions but feel disconnected from your own? What’s the cost of peacekeeping at the expense of your truth?
In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist Meg Josephson, whose new book Are You Mad at Me? comes out August 5th. We explore the fawn response—the lesser-known survival strategy characterized by overthinking, chronic conflict avoidance, and compulsive people-pleasing.
Meg shares her personal story, including the impact of growing up with a rageful father and a mother with Alzheimer's, and how these shaped her fawning patterns. We also discuss:
Anger, grief, and nervous system healing
The pressures of self-disclosure in a digital world
Boundaries that feel good in the body
Writing about trauma with integrity
Why fawning is more than just “being nice”—it’s a trauma response
This is an honest, grounded, and tender conversation about what it means to reclaim your needs, your body, and your voice—especially when you’ve been wired to abandon them.
📖 Preorder Are You Mad at Me?: https://megjosephson.com
🎧 Learn more about my current offerings: https://kalisomatics.com/SHED
In this special workshop replay, I guide you through the somatic foundations of sexual fawning—why it happens, how it shows up, and what to do with the shame, confusion, and disconnection that often follows.
Whether you’re a recovering fawner or just beginning to realize how often your body says “yes” while your mind says “no,” this episode offers a grounded space to reflect and reconnect.
We explore:
• Why sexual fawning is not about being manipulative—but about safety
• How trauma responses can show up in “safe” relationships
• The subtle and overt ways we override our boundaries for connection
• How to begin reclaiming your inner no (and your real yes)
🧠 Want to go deeper? Join my 6-month somatic program SHED. We start August 27th : https://kalisomatics.com/shed
🌿 Join me in Greece, May 2026: https://kalisomatics.com/greeceretreat
⚠️ TW: This episode includes mention of sexual trauma, coercion, and dissociation. Please care for your body and nervous system as you listen.
Dr. Ingrid Clayton is no stranger to the complexities of trauma. A clinical psychologist with over two decades of experience, she’s worked at the intersection of psychology, addiction recovery, and trauma healing—long before those words became buzzwords.
But her work got deeply personal with the release of her memoir Believing Me, where she named, for the first time, the covert abuse and emotional enmeshment that shaped her nervous system. It was raw, unflinching, and revolutionary in how it gave language to experiences so many of us carry but can’t name.
Now she’s back with Fawning: The Trauma Response We Don’t Talk About—a book that goes deeper into the trauma pattern she knows all too well. Not fight, not flight, not freeze. But fawn. The survival response that looks like being “easygoing,” “helpful,” or “good,” while your body quietly braces for impact.
In this episode, we talk about:
How Fawning builds on the foundation of Believing Me
Why fawning is so often missed—even by therapists
The biology of appeasement and what it costs over time
What it means to stop being “the good one” and start being real
And the long road from trauma bonding to boundary setting
Ingrid doesn’t just write about trauma. She brings a level of clarity and honesty that cuts through the noise—no posturing, no sugar-coating, just deep clinical insight and lived truth.
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Connect with Kallie on social media at @kali.somatics
Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026
https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT ____________
Connect with Dr. Ingrid Clayton on social media at @IngridClaytonPhD
Pre-order her new book at:
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/
Ever gone from smiling sweetly through discomfort… to fantasizing about slapping someone in the face?
Yeah. Same.
In this episode, I break down the people pleaser to rage pipeline—what happens when your body has been stuck in a fawn-freeze loop for years, and then finally starts to thaw. Spoiler: it’s not always cute. Sometimes, it’s loud, messy, and full of backlogged “no’s” that come out all at once.
I share my own story of how learning French (and drinking cheap wine) unlocked a rage I didn’t even know I was holding—and what it taught me about the biology of fawning, freeze responses, and unexpressed boundaries.
We also get into:
* Why rage is a natural part of recovery from people-pleasing
* Why cathartic rage practices (like screaming or punching pillows) aren’t always trauma-informed
* How to work with anger in a way that’s titrated, embodied, and safe
* The power of translating somatic cues into real-life boundaries
If your body has been whispering “I’m not okay” for years—this episode is your permission slip to start listening.
💥 Want to dive deeper into somatic anger work?
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My signature on-demand course VENOM has two full modules on anger + boundaries. Check it out via the link in my bio 🐍
Connect with Kallie on Instagram + Tiktok at @kali.somatics
Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https:// kalisomatics.com/venom
To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026
https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT
In this engaging conversation, Rachel Leviss shares her recent transformative experiences at a sound healing retreat in Mexico. She discusses the profound impacts of sound healing, the importance of using one's voice, and how she has transitioned from a chaotic environment to a life of healing and self-fulfillment. Rachel also opens up about overcoming the challenges of being misunderstood and the journey to authenticity. Dive deep into the therapeutic aspects of sound healing, the significance of supportive communities, and the empowering process of setting and maintaining boundaries.
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Connect with Kallie on Instagram + Tiktok at @kali.somatics
Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026
https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT
Connect with Rachel on Instagram at @RachelLeviss
Ever feel like you weren’t allowed to ask for what you needed?
Like your desires got buried under being “easygoing,” “nice,” or “low maintenance”?
This episode is for you.
In this recorded workshop — The Body Remembers What You Forgot to Ask For — we explore how unmet needs don’t just vanish. Your body holds onto them. And if you’ve spent years silencing your voice to keep the peace, this is your chance to start rebuilding that connection.
Inside, we cover:
Why your body stores unmet needs (and how to actually listen)
Somatic tools for reconnecting with buried desires
What embodied repair looks like — giving yourself what was missing
Practical rituals to rebuild trust between your body and your voice
This is somatic work for people who’ve been told they’re “too sensitive” or “too much” — and learned to shut themselves down to stay safe.
🎧 Listen now and take what you need. Your body’s been waiting for you.
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You can sign up for Kallie's next free workshop at the following link: https://stan.store/kalisomatics
Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026
https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT
Stop Burning Your Own Witch is a free somatic workshop for recovering people pleasers who are ready to stop exiling their “bad” parts and start building real nervous system safety around their bigness, their bitchiness, and their truth. We’ll explore how shame shows up in the body, why it keeps us stuck, and how to finally stop self-abandoning—one curious breath at a time.
🖤 What to Expect
A guided somatic exploration of how shame lives in your body
The protective purpose of shame + how to interrupt the cycle
Parts work + IFS: why we fragment, and how to meet those parts with love
A somatic meditation to soften around your exiled parts
A live Q&A to deepen your practice and get support
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You can sign up for Kallie's next free workshop and explore all her current offerings at the following link:
https://stan.store/kalisomatics
Ever wonder why you can’t say “no” without feeling guilty? Or why you always end up playing the peacekeeper even when it’s costing you your sanity? It might be because all that anger you’ve been taught to swallow is screaming for some boundaries.
In this episode, we’re unpacking:
• The biology of anger and why it’s actually a protective mechanism
• How chronic people-pleasing and fawn responses bury that anger deep
• Somatic practices to safely access your anger and honor the boundaries your body craves
• Real-world strategies for setting boundaries in social situations without all the guilt
• A live Q&A where we answer your burning questions
This isn’t about becoming “less nice” or “more assertive.” It’s about getting real with yourself and letting your body lead the way.
Ready to get fierce about your boundaries?
Hit play and let’s get into it.
To learn more about VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
To inquire about 1:1 sessions: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
To learn more about the Bali Retreat (2 spots left!):
https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat
Sebastian Conelli is a New York-based improviser, comedian, and actor known for his work with the Upright Citizens Brigade and his endearing and hilarious podcast Loud About Nothing.
In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, Kallie and Sebastian unpack self-discovery, masculinity, and the unfiltered truth about personal growth. From navigating societal norms to using comedy as a mirror, they dive deep into:
✔️ The hidden cost of traditional masculinity
✔️ Why vulnerability is the ultimate power move
✔️ The art of comedy as truth-telling
✔️ How relationships reveal the rawest parts of ourselves
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To connect with Sebastian on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sebastianconelli/?hl=en
His podcast, "Loud About Nothing": https://www.instagram.com/loudaboutnothing/?hl=en
To connect with Kallie on social media: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/
https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somatics
To learn more about Kallie's Bali Retreat: https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat
To learn more about Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom
Could mushrooms be the missing piece in your mental health toolkit? Jeremy from MushMore Supplements joins us to unravel the truth about medicinal mushrooms.
💡 In this episode, we cover:
✅ The real difference between microdosing and macrodosing
✅ Common myths & misconceptions (it’s not just about “tripping”)
✅ How mushrooms can support mental health, anxiety, and depression
✅ What you NEED to know before trying magic 🍄
If you’ve ever wondered whether fungi can actually heal, or if you’re just curious about expanding your mind (responsibly), this episode is for you.
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Connect with MushMore at:
https://www.mushmoresupplements.com
Use code “FREETRAILMUSHMORE”
Instagram: @mushmore_mentalhealth_
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Connect with Kallie on Instagram & Tiktok at:
@kali.somatics
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Are you tired of outsourcing your decisions to group chats, family, or the endless spiral of second-guessing? This webinar dives deep into how and why so many recovering people pleasers struggle with decision-making—and how to reclaim your power with somatic tools.
During this webinar, you’ll:
✨ Learn why people pleasers often hand over their decision-making process to others
✨ Discover how a “yes,” “no,” and “maybe” feel in your body
✨ Understand the difference between traumatic overcouplings (like anxiety) and true gut feelings
✨ Learn to align your sensations with your actions so you can make decisions with integrity and confidence
Your body already knows what it wants—it’s time to learn how to listen.
Next Steps for Your Journey:
Ready to dive even deeper? Check out VENOM, my flagship program, designed to help you recover from people pleasing with somatics. It has modules on understanding the fawn response, embodying boundaries, embracing healthy anger, and more.
https://kalisomatics.com/venom
🌺 Dreaming of a retreat in paradise? My Bali Retreat is happening this June, and there are only 4 spots left until it’s completely sold out! This retreat is a chance to immerse yourself in somatic practices, connect deeply with yourself, and experience the magic of Bali.
Learn more here: https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat
Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, consultant, and speaker specializing in complex trauma. She is the leading translator of Dr. Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory for both clinical and general audiences, and the best-selling author of Polyvagal Practices, Polyvagal Card Deck, and more. She is founding member of The Polyvagal Institute, a consultant to Khiron Clinics, and an advisor to Unyte.
Deb Dana is known for her work coining the term "glimmers" defined by noticing small micromoments of safety.
In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, Deb Dana and Kallie chat about exactly what glimmers are and how they relate to your nervous system. They answer the questions you previously submitted: Why do I feel sad sometimes when noticing glimmers?; What's the difference between mindfulness and a glimmer practice?; Why is sharing so important when it comes to glimmers?; And more...
This is an incredible episode with an absolute legend in the somatic psychology world. Give it a listen and let us know what you think.
Visit Deb Dana's website at
https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/
You can pre-order her upcoming book, "Glimmers Journal: Reflect on the Small Moments That Bring You Joy, Safety, and Connection" at:
https://www.amazon.com/Glimmers-Journal-Reflect-Moments-Connection/dp/1324082070?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&gQT=1
Connect with Kallie on social media
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somatics?lang=en
Check out Kallie's Bali Retreat at:
https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/bali/bali-with-kali-somatics-jun-2025?earlybird=true
Kallie and Dana ( @danadozzyy) discuss the impact of online culture on personal expression, the fear of being "canceled", and the importance of managing one's own feelings and opinions. They also explored the concept of taking responsibility for one's own safety and well-being, and the need for individuals to find environments and communities that align with their values and beliefs.
To learn more about the Bali Retreat, click the link below: https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat
Enjoy this interview with David Bedrick about his recently published book, "The Unshaming Way". Kallie and David discussed the concept of shame and its impact on self-awareness and self-love, with a focus on its relationship with chronic symptoms and the importance of recognizing the intelligence and sensitivity that these symptoms may represent.
They also explored the concept of boundaries and their impact on physical and emotional well-being, and the need to unshame and address the perpetrators of religious trauma. Lastly, they emphasized the importance of empathy, understanding, and treating one's body like the earth in fostering a sense of community and promoting self-love.
Connect with Kallie on social media
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somatics?lang=en
Connect with David on social media:
https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/?hl=en
Purchase David's book, "The Unshaming Way" on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/Unshaming-Way-Compassionate-Dismantling-Shame-Heal/dp/B0CWL19X7G/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28ZR20MRZUTUL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.dIgEgvkswCed1qNf315uP2zfrZyDRMSg9e5GQn-80r7GjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.NewpLXbHZD0btJq1t3Grrls6qAaTzQUeMLpZE5JPpAQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+unshaming+way&qid=1734455154&sprefix=the+unshaming+way%2Caps%2C260&sr=8-1
Matthew, also known as "@CasuallyMatthew", introduced his passion for cozy hobbies and games, which he found to be a healthy escape from grief and stress.
Kallie and Matthew discussed the benefits of non-screen activities, the concept of 'hygge' from Scandinavia, and how to cope with seasonal affective disorder. They emphasized the importance of slowing down, finding time for self-care and hobbies, and incorporating small, enjoyable activities into daily routines to enhance comfort and well-being.
To connect with Kallie:
On Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/?hl=en
On Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somatics?lang=en
To connect with Matthew:
On Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/casuallymatthew_/
Join Kallie and Dr. Justine Weber, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and Therapist, for a free workshop on navigating challenging narcissistic family dynamics during the holidays. We'll explore practical tools and techniques to help you approach the season with more peace and clarity. What we cover: Culty family dynamics Navigating family estrangement What to do with narcissistic in-laws Setting boundaries and creating space for yourself during the holidays ___________ To discover Kallie's holiday support course, click below: https://kalisomatics.com/holidaysurvi... To connect with Kallie on social media, check her out below: / kali.somatics To connect with Dr. Justine Weber, check out her website and social media links below: https://drjustineweber.com/
During this workshop, you will:
- discover how somatics can support you during the annual people pleaser Olympics (the holidays, baby!)
- explore a practice to support you in embodying boundaries
- learn a practice to use your body as a compass to decide what parties to go to, when to leave, and everything in between
"The Holiday Survival Guide for Recovering People Pleasers" will be available to purchase at over 60% off between October 24th - November 4th.
https://stan.store/kalisomatics
➡️ For a free trial of ✨medicinal mushies ✨ use code "SOMATICKALI" at checkout for a free microdose blend 15 pack at https://www.mushmoresupplements.com/
In this episode, we sit down with Pauline Peck, a specialist in culturally sensitive therapy, to explore the vital role that boundaries play in the healing process. We dive into how cultural backgrounds, particularly the contrast between collectivism and individualism, shape our understanding of boundaries. Learn how these cultural perspectives impact the way we navigate relationships, therapy, and personal space. Whether you're a therapist, a client, or simply curious about the intersection of culture and mental health, this conversation offers deep insights into building trust, adapting therapy to diverse experiences, and creating meaningful change. Connect with Pauline on social media: Instagram: @paulinethepsychologist Website: https://www.noortherapyandwellness.com/ Connect with Kali Somatics: Instagram and Tiktok: @Kali.Somatics Follow Your Own Medicine Podcast: Listen on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3jIfObo... Podcasts Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...