In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive into STEP 5 of their eight step recovery model for men struggling with out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as porn use and sex addiction. Titled "Disassembling," this step focuses on breaking down the underlying patterns and coping mechanisms driving these behaviors. The conversation explores how unresolved trauma—whether big or small ("big T" or "little t")—often plays a hidden role, even when many men minimize or dismiss their own experiences.
We discuss the importance of acknowledging and addressing past trauma, recognizing harmful thought patterns, and understanding the self-perpetuating cycle of unhealthy coping mechanisms. We also touch on the resistance many men feel to labeling past experiences as traumatic, the societal stigma around acknowledging vulnerability, and the ways trauma impacts both individuals and their relationships. The episode encourages listeners to confront difficult truths, question negative self-beliefs, and seek healthier ways to cope and heal, all while emphasizing that meaningful change, though uncomfortable, is both possible and worthwhile.
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Timestamps00:00 "Disassembling and Setting Boundaries"
06:13 "Mislabeling Childhood Sexual Abuse"
08:52 Recognizing Hidden Emotional Trauma
10:40 Disassembling Harmful Coping Mechanisms
15:00 Realizing and Overcoming Negative Coping
19:56 Systems Resist Change
20:58 Recovery Brings Challenges and Change
25:03 "Understanding Triggers and Actions"
28:50 "Affairs Aren't Real Life"
31:48 Breaking Harmful Coping Patterns
34:45 Surface vs. Deeper Behavioral Analysis
37:30 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer"
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive deep into the impact of the "silent father" archetype on men’s emotional and sexual health. We reflect on how having an emotionally distant or stoic father often shapes sons’ ability to understand and express their feelings, and we share some of our own experiences as well as what we’ve seen in our clients. We talk about the ways this dynamic can lead to struggles with emotional awareness, difficulties in relationships, and even compulsive behaviors later in life.
We also look at why these patterns repeat across generations and discuss the confusing family messages that so many of us received growing up about emotions and vulnerability. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of starting small—just noticing your feelings—and being patient with yourself as you develop new emotional skills, even if it feels awkward at first. We even touch on how partners can support each other through this process.
This conversation is personal, honest, and packed with insights for anyone looking to better understand the effects of father-son dynamics and how to start healing and breaking those cycles.
Timestamps
00:00 Impact of the Silent Father
04:46 Silent Dads, Silent Emotions
08:01 Traditional Male Problem-Solving Methods
11:52 Reflecting on Masculine Emotional Resistance
14:06 Family Image and Secrecy
18:26 High School Sneak Out Drama
20:22 Impact of Upbringing on Adulthood
25:00 Emotional Suppression and Addiction Cycle
27:54 Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
29:57 Emotional Awareness Post-Crisis
33:45 Parental Emotional Disconnect
36:36 "Embrace Noticing and Trying"
40:21 Parenting and Emotional Growth Analogy
43:26 Podcast Disclaimer: Informational Use Only
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into Step 4 of their eight-step recovery model: defining the real problem behind compulsive sexual behaviors like porn use. They emphasize that while porn might seem like the core issue, it’s actually a symptom of deeper emotional needs—such as a lack of affirmation, respect, or validation—that aren’t being met in healthy ways. The conversation explores how therapists help clients uncover these underlying issues by looking for themes in their personal histories and recurring emotional patterns. Jose and Dr. Hinman share insights on the challenges men face in identifying their “why,” including resistance to change, never having reflected on their motivations before, and societal habits of compartmentalizing problems. The episode ends with practical advice for those struggling to define their core issues, encouraging gentle self-reflection and curiosity to find healthier coping mechanisms rather than relying on porn or other destructive habits.
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Timestamps:
00:00 "Defining the Problem: Step 4"
06:27 Identifying and Addressing Needs
07:08 Life's Bird's Eye View Insights
11:43 Resistance to Change
15:49 Identifying Roots of Conflict
18:35 Reflect on Past to Heal Future
22:34 "Understanding and Disassembling Coping Mechanisms"
24:57 Overcoming Negative Behaviors
27:09 Personalized Coping Mechanism Discovery
33:41 Introspective Coping Without Unhealthy Habits
36:04 "Be Your Own Detective"
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman break down what to expect during your first visit to a sex therapist. They discuss common anxieties and misconceptions—like embarrassment, fear of judgment, or not knowing what sex therapists actually do—and reassure listeners that sex therapy is professional, confidential, and supportive.
The conversation covers what typically happens in a first session (mostly talking, no physical exams!), the range of issues sex therapists help with (from desire differences and dysfunction to infidelity and sexual identity concerns), and practical tips on how to prepare. Above all, they encourage listeners to feel comfortable seeking help early and highlight the importance of honesty, openness, and humor in the therapeutic process.
Timestamps
00:00 First Sex Therapy Visit Guide
04:59 Lack of Sex Therapy Education
07:03 Talking Openly About Sex
12:41 Therapy Avoidance Phenomenon
15:07 Confidentiality and Honesty Encouraged
18:16 Problem Identification and Solutions Collaboration
20:32 Unique Challenges in Sex Therapy
25:08 Misconceptions About Sex Therapy
27:09 Define Therapy Goals
32:18 Restoring Lightness in Relationships
33:18 Lightening Awkward Conversations
38:06 Sex Therapy Insurance Coverage
42:07 Detached Perspective on Sex Therapy
43:20 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer"
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, Jose and Brad get real about divorce—how messy, confusing, and emotionally tough it can be, especially for guys. They talk about everything from couples using divorce as a threat, to the weird “should we/shouldn’t we?” dynamic around sex during and after splitting up. The hosts dive into how divorce can seriously mess with a guy's sexual confidence, self-worth, and even lead to things like erectile dysfunction, especially when jumping into new relationships too soon.
They also tackle the myth of staying together “for the kids” (spoiler: the kids almost always know what's up), and remind listeners that it’s way more important to work on yourself, figure out what went wrong, and give yourself time before diving into something new. There’s a lot of honesty here—about heartbreak, confusion, and healing—and the big message is: don’t go it alone. Therapy, reflection, and reaching out for support can make a massive difference when you’re picking up the pieces after a divorce. If you’re in the thick of it or just coming out the other side, this episode is a comforting, no-judgment look at how to move forward with a little more clarity and self-compassion.
Timestamps
00:00 "Divorce and Sexual Health"
06:18 Sex During Imminent Divorce
07:44 Confusing Intimacy and Relationship Status
13:03 Divorce: Men's Sexual Self-Esteem
16:14 Sex, Relationships, and Emotional Confusion
18:40 Misconceptions After Relationships End
20:53 Fear of Vulnerability and Intimacy
23:40 "Double Heartbreak Reflection"
28:49 "Relationships Complicated by Kids"
32:40 Kids Sense Troubled Relationships
34:56 Triggers in New Relationships
37:30 Post-Divorce Therapy Guidance
40:21 Divorce and Sexual Health Strategies
43:42 Self-Reflection for Personal Growth
47:53 "Growth Through Divorce Challenges"
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into the topic of men experiencing lower libido than their partners—an issue they note is more common than people might think. They discuss the emotional challenges men face, such as feelings of shame, fear of rejection, and worries about not living up to societal expectations regarding masculinity and sexual desire. The conversation covers various factors that can impact male libido, including stress, mental health, medications, sleep habits, and relationship dynamics.
Jose and Dr. Hinman also explore how comparison—whether through social media, friends, or unrealistic cultural narratives—can create added pressure and dissatisfaction. They tackle the misconception that men should always be ready for sex and highlight the importance of open communication between partners. The episode concludes with practical advice for men, emphasizing the value of emotional connection, taking personal responsibility for one’s sexual experiences, and seeking support when needed.
Whether you’ve found yourself questioning your own libido or are supporting a partner through this experience, this episode offers validation, insight, and actionable tips for navigating sexual desire and fostering healthier relationships.
Timestamps
00:00 Addressing Lower Male Libido
03:47 Male Compartmentalization Myth
07:33 "Stress, Sex, and Personal Relief"
11:17 Rejection Anxiety in Relationships
15:56 Newness vs. Monotony in Desire
19:08 Porn, Masturbation, and Sexual Desire
22:43 "Importance of Open Communication"
25:35 Enhancing Desire Through Connection
26:43 Owning Your Sexual Desire
31:51 Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman discuss STEP 3 of their eight-step recovery model for addressing out-of-control sexual behavior—"Progression." Building on previous steps (creating distance from the behavior and examining sexual history), they dive into understanding the ups and downs of sexual behavior over time. They explore why it's crucial to identify periods of high and low use, examine what circumstances contributed to those patterns, and discuss the importance of recognizing escalation or tolerance in behavior. The conversation highlights the value of looking beyond surface-level triggers to understand the underlying reasons and needs driving the behavior, while also emphasizing the importance of focusing on healthy coping mechanisms and not falling into shame. The episode is practical, encouraging listeners to reflect deeply on their own patterns and to recognize hope and personal agency in their recovery process.
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Timestamps
00:00 Behavioral Reset and History Analysis
03:58 Addiction: Understanding Progression
08:20 "Internal vs. External Influences"
10:18 "Coping with Life's Challenges"
13:59 Empowering Control Over Life Choices
16:58 "Building Emotional Depth"
19:39 Reflect on Internet Usage Patterns
23:04 Extracurricular Sexual Activity's Impact
27:12 Escalation of Content Tolerance
29:19 Assessing Progression in Relationships
32:28 Cycle of Addiction Explained
35:54 Finding Lessons in Life's Challenges
39:22 Revisiting Past Efforts for Success
44:02 "Client Empowerment in Next Steps"
46:27 Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer
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In this insightful episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into the widespread issue of erectile dysfunction (ED), exploring its causes, effects, and potential solutions. The discussion highlights how ED is increasingly becoming a concern for younger men, not just older demographics. By examining both biological and psychological aspects, the hosts aim to shed light on why this condition is prevalent and its multifaceted impact on men’s lives.
Throughout the episode, Gonzalez and Hinman emphasize the complex interplay between mental health and sexual performance. They discuss various causes of erectile dysfunction, ranging from medical and physiological issues to emotional and relational stressors. By sharing experiences from their practice, they provide valuable insights into the importance of addressing both the physical and mental health dimensions of ED. Listeners are encouraged to consider holistic approaches to treatment, such as consulting with medical professionals and exploring therapy for underlying psychological issues. This episode is crucial for anyone seeking to understand or manage erectile dysfunction more effectively.
Timestamps
0:29 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction in Younger Men
8:38 Substance Effects on Sexual Performance and Mental Components
11:48 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction and Its Psychological Factors
19:44 Body Image and Its Impact on Male Erectile Dysfunction
25:12 The Impact of Sexual Trauma on Intimacy and Relationships
27:41 Complex Problem-Solving Requires Patience and Multiple Solutions
30:01 Exploring Erectile Dysfunction and Its Impact on Relationships
36:10 Applying Work Logic to Food and Life Decisions
37:00 Training Techniques for Improving Erection Quality
41:36 Mindfulness and Mental Health in Sexual Function
44:53 Discussing Erectile Dysfunction and Seeking Professional Advice
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we talk openly about what dads really go through during pregnancy and those early months of fatherhood. We shared our personal stories, highlighting the excitement, anxiety, and even feelings of being left out that often come with the territory.
We discussed how easy it is for men to ignore their own emotions while focusing on providing for their family—something that can lead to isolation or unhealthy coping if left unchecked. Both of us emphasized the importance of communicating, not only with your partner but also with other dads who’ve been there, and having a plan to take care of your own mental health.
Ultimately, we encouraged expectant fathers to stay engaged, reach out for support, and not to bottle up what they’re feeling during this huge transition. If you have questions or want to share your own experiences, we’d love to hear from you!
Timestamps00:00 Preparing for Fatherhood Discussion
05:58 Fathers' Financial Concerns and Childcare
06:56 Task-Oriented vs. Emotional Support
12:51 Coping Through Withdrawal and Focus
14:04 Vulnerability to Acting Out
17:10 Planning for Success in Challenging Times
20:41 Unaddressed Attraction Issues Ruin Marriage
23:35 New Fatherhood: The Need for Mentorship
28:34 "Importance of Relationship Building"
32:58 Expressing Men's Hidden Emotions
34:22 Scary Birth Experience Concerns
40:03 Bonding Essentials for New Parents
41:27 Navigating Parenting Routines
44:46 The Importance of Support Systems
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Join us as we delve into the world of sex therapy, sharing our personal journeys and insights. Learn how our specialized training enhances therapy sessions by incorporating discussions about complex sexual issues. Discover the dynamics of sex therapy compared to conventional therapy, and explore the challenges and rewards we face as therapists. This episode offers an informative look into our profession, providing guidance for anyone considering therapy for sexual issues. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation around the intricacies of intimacy and mental health.Timestamps
0:29 Journey Into Sex Therapy: Personal Stories and Inspirations
7:01 Becoming a Certified Sex Therapist Requires Extensive Training and Supervision
9:15 Understanding the Unique Role of Sex Therapists in Counseling
21:09 Challenges in Seeking Therapy for Relationship Issues
22:14 Navigating Perceptions and Challenges as a Sex Therapist
26:53 The Weight of Bearing Clients' Secrets and Trauma
30:59 The Transformative Power of Therapy in Relationships and Addiction
34:51 Exploring the Benefits and Misconceptions of Sex Therapy
42:54 Podcast Disclaimer and Social Media Promotion
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In Episode 23 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we continue our series on addressing problematic sexual behaviors and pornography recovery with STEP 2 of our model. This episode focuses on exploring sexual history as a crucial step in treatment. We discuss the importance of understanding a person's sexual past, including porn use, sexual experiences, and relationships, to identify patterns and themes. Dr. Hinman emphasizes the value of asking clients about their first sexual experiences and how those experiences have shaped their behavior.
We stress the significance of using this information to develop healthy coping skills and move towards a healthier future. We also underlines the importance of being supported by a therapist throughout this reflective process, to manage potential feelings of shame and overwhelm. The episode aims to provide guidance and structure for individuals seeking to improve their relationship with their sexual behaviors.
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Join hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman as they dive into the complexities of pornography and its impact on relationships in this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast. They explore diverse definitions, cultural perceptions, and the psychological nuances of porn consumption, drawing insights from interviews with college students. Discussing the interplay of pornography with loneliness, stress, and intimacy, they also touch on the controversial topic of AI-generated explicit content. This episode provides an in-depth look at how societal views on pornography can shape individual experiences and behaviors.
Timestamps:0:31 Defining Pornography: Intent, Nudity, and Cultural Perceptions
6:08 Debating Pornography Addiction and Its Societal Perception
9:47 The Complexities of Pornography, Morality, and Relationships
20:19 Exploring Loneliness, Addiction, and Fantasy in Pornography Use
26:19 The Complex Relationship Between Pornography, Morality, and Personal Values
33:54 The Destructive Cycle of Shame and Its Impact on Behavior
37:31 AI's Role in Unconsensual Content and Addiction Concerns
43:47 College Students' Reactions and Podcast Disclaimer
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In Episode 21 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we discuss the importance of talking to children about sex and pornography from a young age, focusing on kids between the ages of 1 to 10. We emphasize starting these conversations by age four, as children are likely to be exposed to related content early, often at school or through peers. The episode underlines the importance of having age-appropriate, ongoing discussions around sex, consent, and body autonomy. as well as the need for parents to create a safe environment where children feel comfortable asking questions without fear of judgment.
We also touch on strategies for handling common scenarios such as sleepovers, emphasizing the necessity for children to have the agency over their own bodies and to understand the implications of unwanted touching or exposure. We encourage parents to equip their children with the knowledge to manage these situations effectively, helping to prevent issues related to secrecy and misinformed understanding of sexuality.
Timestamps:
00:00 "Discuss Sex by Age Four"
04:48 Early Exposure Impact on Development
08:25 Parental Guidance on Kids and Porn
12:23 Approaching Sensitive Topics with Kids
13:24 Parenting as Sexual Guidance Guardrails
17:37 Encouraging Open Conversations with Kids
22:14 Talking to Kids About Sexual Behavior
25:32 Sleepover Safety Concerns
28:54 Parenting Styles and Child Personalities
32:10 Child's Fear Hidden by Bravery
34:00 Consent: Teaching Children Boundaries
38:29 "Discussing Consent and Sexual Education"
40:45 Open Conversations on Sexual Health
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In this enlightening episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman delve into the intricate world of sexting, exploring its potential risks and benefits. They unravel the complexities surrounding this modern form of communication, particularly focusing on how sexting can impact both minors and adults. The hosts share insightful anecdotes from their professional experiences, drawing attention to the legal and emotional consequences often overlooked in online sexual interactions.
Amid discussions on sexting between consenting adults and its role in relationships, Gonzalez and Hinman caution parents about the potential hazards for minors. They share case studies highlighting the unintended legal ramifications when minors engage in sexting, portraying how minor-to-minor exchanges can still fall under the purview of child pornography laws. The hosts emphasize the importance of open dialogue between parents and children, encouraging a better understanding of the long-lasting impacts digital interactions can have on one's life, reputation, and legal standing.
Timestamps
0:30 Exploring the Complexities and Dangers of Sexting
3:49 The Legal and Privacy Risks of Sexting
9:09 The Dangers of Sextortion and Peer Pressure Among Teens
15:29 Teen Sexting and Its Legal Consequences
19:27 The Dangers and Consequences of Sexting in the Digital Age
25:04 Unexpected Legal Consequences of Child Exposure to Adult Activities
26:46 Navigating Digital Consent and Privacy in Online Interactions
32:33 Bridging the Gap Between Online and Real-Life Interactions
34:25 Protecting Against Online Exploitation and Sextortion
44:15 Disclaimer and Purpose of the Wet Dreams Podcast
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Join sex therapists Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman as they dissect the portrayal of therapy and relationships in the TV show "Private Practice". This episode delves into the fictional portrayal of therapists' boundaries, client choices, and the complexities of sex and relationships. The hosts offer insights on handling sensitive topics like marriage woes, sexual dysfunctions, and more, while reflecting on how real therapy would navigate these scenarios. Whether you're curious about the realities of therapy or enjoy TV drama, this episode offers both insight and entertainment.
Timestamps
0:30 Reacting to Private Practice's Depiction of Therapy
1:49 Therapist's Unusual Investment in Client's Divorce Decision
5:53 Navigating Marital Challenges and Communication Barriers
9:05 Understanding Sexual Dysfunction and the Need for More Information
11:01 Therapists, Divorce, and Miscommunication
14:50 Exploring Vaginismus and the Quest for Intimacy
24:07 Challenges and Misconceptions in Treating Sexual Dysfunction
27:36 Exploring Connections Between Food, Sex, and Relationship Dynamics
35:33 Medical Dilemmas and Interpersonal Conflicts in a Clinical Setting
44:40 Medical Ethics and Confidentiality Challenges in Patient Relationships
49:01 Complex Relationships and Unresolved Grief
54:10 Therapists' Dilemma: Supporting Clients Through Poor Choices
58:49 Exploring Complexities of Sex and Relationships in Marriages
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In this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, Dr. Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez introduce STEP 1 of an innovative eight-step model designed to assist in overcoming pornography and sex addiction. We discuss the importance of creating distance from addictive behaviors as a crucial initial step and explore this approach in depth.
We provide useful insights into the world of sex addiction therapy, revolving around pivotal actions such as establishing accountability, identifying triggers, and implementing effective coping mechanisms. Emphasizing key factors like neural pathways and autopilot behaviors, we stress the urgency of creating mental and physical distance from pornography. Our discussion also covers the potential benefits and limitations of accountability software and partners, highlighting the need for individuals to take personal responsibility in their recovery journey.
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0:29 Introducing an Eight-Step Model for Overcoming Pornography Addiction
3:02 Creating Distance and Accountability in Pornography Addiction Recovery
10:41 The Role of Accountability Partners in Managing Sexual Compulsions
18:43 Overcoming Porn Addiction Through Accountability and Trigger Identification
21:27 Understanding Triggers and Habits in Pornography Consumption
25:59 Understanding Porn Use as a Coping Mechanism
32:41 Developing Coping Skills to Match Triggers and Times
33:06 Strategies for Overcoming Porn Addiction Through Enjoyable Activities
39:08 Breaking the Dysfunctional Relationship with Porn
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In Episode 16 of the "Wet Dreamz Podcast," hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the complexities of relationships during pregnancy from the male perspective. They emphasize the importance of communication and intentional relationship nurturing throughout the pregnancy journey, cautioning against complacency during more stable periods like the second trimester.
The episode highlights the pressures men face while trying to conceive, the emotional strain during the third trimester, and significant adjustments required postpartum. The hosts advocate for open discussions on typically silenced topics like miscarriages and child loss, stressing their impact on relationships. By encouraging listener engagement through polls and social media, they aim to foster a supportive community and shared understanding. This episode serves as an insightful guide for couples navigating the emotional and relational challenges of pregnancy.
Timestamps:
00:00 Exploring men's challenges post-baby, relationships, recovery.
07:02 Women bear more fertility burden than men.
10:00 Focus on love; sex follows naturally.
13:58 First trimester challenges: nausea, uncertainty, low energy.
15:41 Pregnancy stresses relationships; intimacy fears arise.
20:14 Support her; nurture relationship; understand both perspectives.
23:01 Open communication about feelings and needs.
27:39 Increase date nights, improve energy, address complacency.
28:47 Unspoken needs can lead to problematic behavior.
34:23 Third trimester causes breathing, eating challenges.
37:39 Discuss fears to alleviate relationship concerns.
38:35 Taking care of oneself ensures usefulness, support.
43:04 Male needs overshadowed; solution is communication.
46:31 Communication helps express feelings after childbirth.
50:07 Podcast: Informative, entertainment only; not professional advice.
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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman react to street interviews about why people watch porn, uncovering various reasons such as trauma, disconnection, and unmet personal needs. They explore how social media can serve as a gateway to porn and discuss the chemical stimulation that makes it addictive. Brad addresses common misconceptions, highlighting that porn use often stems from emotional voids, not sexual dissatisfaction.
The episode also delves into the religious shame associated with porn and stresses the importance of age-appropriate sexual education to prevent future addiction. They examine different types of trauma, like sexual abuse and neglect, that contribute to porn addiction. Emphasizing the importance of meaningful relationships and open conversations about sex, they recommend resources like "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures." The hosts wrap up by discussing the secrecy, shame, and loneliness often tied to porn consumption and advocate for societal changes to address these issues.
Timestamps:
00:00 Reacting to street interview video about sex.
05:00 Men often misinterpret their own sexual abuse.
10:01 Social media can indirectly lead to porn.
11:17 Concerning trend: TikTok-style brief porn videos.
14:22 Religious shame impacts interactions with pornography.
17:16 Clients with porn issues love and value partners.
21:42 Skewed view: Need to fix/change partner.
25:28 Discuss good vs. bad pictures calmly with children.
27:22 Discussing wet dreams stickers for school water bottles.
32:45 People are uncomfortable sitting in silence alone.
36:21 Secrets often kept to protect, not deceive.
37:16 Lack of deep relationships leads to isolation.
41:51 We welcome viewer questions and reactions online.
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In Season 2, Episode 5 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the intricate process of rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity. They debunk the myth that cheaters always want to leave their partners and underscore the importance of patience and slow-paced physical intimacy. The episode emphasizes the need to avoid pressuring a partner into sex, manage the harmful effects of compulsive porn use, and maintain open communication about sexual desires. Strategies for emotional reconnection include planning non-sexual date nights, learning new activities together, and setting aside time for meaningful relationship discussions.
Jose and Brad highlight the necessity of validating feelings, being honest, and taking responsibility to rebuild trust. They stress that mutual effort and understanding can ultimately strengthen the relationship after infidelity. The hosts also include a disclaimer, reminding listeners that the content is for general information and entertainment, not professional advice. Engaging the audience, they encourage sharing experiences and thoughts on infidelity and relationships. Timestamps 00:00 Rebuilding trust after infidelity, intimacy after cheating. 04:17 Initial fallout, emotional settling, long-term intimacy decline. 07:46 Rebuilding trust after emotional turmoil in relationships. 10:16 Men must take initiative in relationships. 14:42 Acknowledging change and improving relationships to prevent infidelity. 19:29 Clients hesitate due to fear of hurt. 22:20 Validate and appreciate, even for small actions. 23:35 Honesty and discomfort key in relationships. 27:46 Heterosexual guys lack frame of reference. 30:45 Bonding over discomfort, scheduled relationship talks recommended. 33:20 Seeking intimacy over sex in relationships advice. 38:58 Respect their pace; don't rush reconciliation. 41:26 Seeking input on infidelity experiences for podcast. LinkTree: www.linktr.ee/wetdreamzpodcasthcs Facebook: www.facebook.com/wetdreamzpodcast TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@wet.dreamz.podcast Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI
5 Part Series (Part 4) In Episode 14 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast titled "Initial Fallout," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the emotional chaos following infidelity in relationships. They discuss:
- The injured partner's search for validation and the offending partner's shame.
- Trust issues leading to extreme monitoring behaviors, which can exacerbate guilt and shame.
- The need for constructive trust rebuilding through empathy and understanding, rather than surveillance.
- The motivations behind behaviors post-infidelity, emphasizing self-protection rather than malice from the injured partner.
- The challenge of rebuilding trust amid societal pressures for quick fixes and differing gender perspectives on processing infidelity.
The episode underscores the importance of mutual listening and working together to achieve either joint or individual happiness. It concludes with a teaser for the next episode on rebuilding trust. This is part of a five-part series focusing on navigating the complex aftermath of infidelity.
Timestamps:
00:00 Series covers infidelity and rebuilding trust.
03:53 Partners cheat due to lack of validation.
07:07 Understanding temptation and love despite infidelity.
12:24 Watching porn doesn't mean someone will cheat.
16:58 Men feel shame but also seek relief.
17:54 Describing a communication breakdown with an analogy.
22:59 Listening and responding to partner for happiness.
24:08 Key to overcoming infidelity is togetherness.
30:10 Women multitask, men focus on one thing.
31:46 Struggle for support after partner's therapy. Hurtful.
33:46 Confiding in others can aid in recovery.
37:39 Rebuilding trust in a relationship through phone-checking.
40:22 Victim self-blames, seeks to not be fooled.
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