Ever had one of those days where you swear you’ve been “go, go, go” — but when you finally crash on the couch at night, you’re left wondering: what did I even get done today? Yeah, me too. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy, it’s because your to-do list is kind of a liar.
In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why those long, never-ending lists leave you feeling exhausted but not accomplished. I’ll share the surprising way your brain treats “buy milk” and “land that career-changing opportunity” like they’re the same thing (wild, right?).
We’ll dig into a sneaky trap you probably don’t even realize you’re falling into — and I’ll ask the question that stopped me in my tracks: are you really making progress, or are you just staying busy?
Oh, and there’s one simple, practical shift you can try today that might just change the way you look at your list forever. (Hint: it fits on a sticky note.)
So if you’re tired of ending your day feeling like you worked your butt off but have nothing to show for it, this one’s for you. Hit play now — your future self will thank you.
You’ve made it to the final episode of the Permission to Disappoint series—and let’s be real, we saved the hardest part for last: actually saying the no.
This isn’t about knowing what your boundaries should be. This is about the moment someone asks you for something and your mouth says “Sure!” while your soul quietly packs a bag and tries to escape out the back door.
If you’ve ever:
Agreed to something just to avoid the awkwardness of saying no
Felt responsible for other people’s feelings
Or replayed a conversation 47 times because you’re still second-guessing your “no”...
This episode will feel like a deep exhale.
Pamela’s walking you through the art of delivering a clear, unapologetic no—without spiraling into guilt, overexplaining, or people-pleasing gymnastics. She also breaks down the four most common boundary-pushers (yes, there are types!) and how to handle each one with calm confidence.
✨ Plus, she shares a mindset shift that might just change how you view your relationships forever.
Oh—and if you're wondering what to actually say when you're put on the spot?
That’s where the Boundary Setting Toolkit comes in.
Inside, you’ll find:
10 plug-and-play scripts for tricky boundary convos
A 3-step reset plan for when you slip up
Quick phrases to buy time (because “I panicked and said yes” is a real thing)
Text + email templates when you want to say no without a face-to-face showdown
You can grab it for just $27 👉🏻right here in the show notes or through Pamela’s Instagram @pamelahughescoaching (check the link in her bio).
So here’s your invitation:What would your life look like if you stopped abandoning yourself just to keep others comfortable?
Let’s find out.
🎧 Hit play on this episode—and let Pamela show you how to make your “no” powerful, peaceful, and totally guilt-free.
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it, and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Okay, real talk—
Have you ever said no to something you knew wasn’t right for you…
…only to spend the next 48 hours wondering if you’re a selfish monster who’s just disappointed everyone and ruined everything?
Yeah. You’re not alone.
And also? You’re not a monster. You’re just tangled up in a guilt spiral no one warned you about.
This episode is for the people-pleasers who are so done putting everyone else’s comfort before their own sanity… but still get that pit in their stomach every time they try to set a boundary.
If you’ve ever thought,
"Why does saying no feel so bad, even when it’s the right thing to do?"
—this episode is about to flip that script in a way you didn’t see coming.
Inside, Pamela drops a truth bomb (the kind that feels like a loving slap from your most honest friend):
Guilt isn't your moral compass… it's your withdrawal symptom.
Yep, like caffeine headaches—but for approval.
You'll learn:✨ Where your guilt really comes from (hint: it’s not your fault)
✨ The powerful 3-second move that will save you from a lifetime of regret-yesses
✨ A set of magic questions to ask before you give your next answer
✨ And the surprising reason people get mad when you start saying no (this one will make your jaw drop… and then nod in deep recognition)
There’s even a hilarious moment where Pamela accidentally discovers one of her most effective boundary tools mid-sip of a drink. (Because sometimes clarity shows up when your mouth is full.)
So if you’ve been feeling low-key exhausted from always being the “go-to” person, if your inner monologue sounds like “I should just do it—they’ll be upset if I don’t…”—pause.
And listen.
Because the way out of that guilt trap?
It starts with one small, powerful shift—and Pamela’s handing you the map.
🔥 Want help putting what you just heard into action?
The Boundary Setting Toolkit is your next step. It’s packed with:
A checklist to spot your automatic yes moments
10 word-for-word “no” scripts that don’t sound awkward or mean
Ready-to-use templates for texts, emails, and real-life convos
A 3-step reset process for when you slip up (because you will)
And smart ways to buy time—so you stop saying yes before you even think
👉 Grab the toolkit right now using this link.👈
It’s everything you need to start setting boundaries without the guilt hangover.
Let this be the day you finally make yourself the priority.
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it, and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever catch yourself saying “It’s fine, I’ll handle it” when it is definitely not fine and you absolutely do not have the time, energy, or patience to handle it?
Yeah… same.
If you’re constantly overcommitting, over-explaining, and over-functioning for everyone but yourself, this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the thing—saying yes all the time doesn’t make you a good person. It makes you an exhausted one. And the worst part? You probably don’t even realize just how much it’s costing you.
That’s exactly why I’m kicking off a brand-new, 3-part series called Permission to Disappoint: The Boundary-Setting Masterclass—because setting boundaries isn’t just about saying no. It’s about giving yourself the freedom to stop living for everyone else and start showing up for yourself.
🚨 Ever wonder why you’re always drained, even after a full night’s sleep?
🚨 Or why certain people seem to take more from you than others?
🚨 And what if trying to keep the peace is actually destroying your relationships?
Yeah… we’re going there today.
In Part 1, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of chronic helpfulness—how people-pleasing is draining your energy, disconnecting you from who you really are, and (plot twist!) damaging your relationships more than protecting them.
Plus, if setting boundaries feels impossible—don’t worry, I’ve got you.
👇 Need help setting real boundaries? Start here.
💥 Ready to stop people-pleasing and actually start setting boundaries that stick? The Boundary Setting Toolkit is your next step. This isn't just something to read—it's something to use. Inside, you’ll find:
✔️ A checklist to catch your automatic yes moments before they slip out
✔️ 10 plug-and-play scripts to say no—without overexplaining or feeling rude
✔️ Phrases to help you buy time when you feel put on the spot
✔️ Email, text, and meeting templates for real-life digital boundary setting
✔️ A 3-step reset process to help you bounce back when you slip up
If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say yes to that?”—this toolkit is for you.
You don’t have to keep guessing or winging it. These are the exact tools that will help you go from constantly overcommitting to confidently protecting your time, energy, and sanity.
👉 CLICK HERE to grab it here for just $27: (You can also find the link on Instagram @pamelahughescoaching)
No fluff. Just the tools you wish you had years ago.
Ever catch yourself standing in front of your closet for 20 minutes trying to pick the "perfect" outfit? Or maybe you've got a note app full of business ideas that you're still "researching" months later?
Yeah, we've all been there. And that's exactly why this topic needed to be tackled in this week's episode.
This episode dives into that murky territory between being thoughtfully prepared and being completely stuck in your head. You know that place—where you convince yourself that "just one more Google search" or "just one more pro/con list" will finally give you the clarity you need.
What might surprise you is the complete flip of the script on what we think helps us make better decisions. There's a mind-blowing moment that explains why adding MORE information to your decision-making process can actually make your choices WORSE. (You might need to pause and replay that part!)
The episode explores a question that might stop you in your tracks: "Are you planning to take action, or are you planning to avoid discomfort?" Ouch, right?
And for anyone with a habit of researching vacation destinations for weeks only to never book the trip, there's a ridiculously simple 2-minute technique shared that has helped make decisions that were on hold for months.
The funniest part? There's a confession about overthinking tendencies that you'll probably relate to. Let's just say it involves a project that should have taken days but stretched into months (and we've all been there).
Do yourself a favor and listen to this episode on your commute today. Your future self—the one who actually takes action instead of just thinking about it—will thank you.
P.S. If you've got a friend who's still "planning" to start that side hustle from three years ago, this episode might be the gentle nudge they need. Share the love!
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
You know that moment when you're crushing it at work, checking all the boxes, doing ALL the right things... and then that sneaky little voice in your head whispers "but what if you're not good enough?"
Yeah, that voice. The one that shows up uninvited, like that relative who always has an opinion about your life choices.
🙄
In this week's episode, we're diving into something that might just blow your mind: what if those thoughts aren't even yours? What if, like an old computer running Windows 95, your brain is just operating on an outdated system someone else installed?
Pamela shares a personal story about a recent "aha moment" that completely changed how she thinks about success (spoiler alert: it involves cold coffee and a sunset, and it's not what you'd expect).
You'll discover:
Why working harder isn't always the answer (and what actually is)
A mind-bending question that instantly reveals which thoughts are holding you back
The surprising truth about what successful people actually think about all day
A practical tool you can use next time that voice shows up (no meditation required!)
Fair warning: This episode might make you question everything you thought you knew about success. But in the best possible way.
Ready to upgrade your mental operating system? Hit play now. Your future self will thank you.
How to Connect With Pamela:
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever catch yourself scrolling through Instagram at midnight, looking at people doing exactly what you dream of doing, and think "I could do that... if only..."?
Yeah, I see you there. That little voice in your head that whispers "you're meant for more" while another voice quickly jumps in with "but what if you fail?"
In this week's episode, we're diving deep into that space between knowing your potential and actually living it. (And trust me, as someone who spent two decades in one career before making a massive pivot, I know this territory well!)
What's waiting for you in this episode:
The sneaky way your brain tricks you into thinking you're being "logical" when you're actually just hiding
A mind-bending perspective shift about confidence that turns everything you've been told on its head
The surprising truth about what happened when I faced my biggest career fear (spoiler: it's not what you think)
A practical exercise that will help you turn down the volume on self-doubt (without trying to silence it completely)
This episode is for you if:
You've ever looked at your life and thought "Is this really it?"
You're tired of watching other people live your dreams while you stay stuck in "planning mode"
You catch yourself saying "I'll do it when..." (but "when" never seems to arrive)
You're ready to stop letting self-doubt run the show (even if you're not sure how)
Real talk: This isn't another "just believe in yourself" pep talk. We're going way deeper than that. I'm sharing actual, science-backed strategies that helped me navigate my own journey from "someday" to "starting today."
🎯 Your Next Step: Hit play now and grab a notebook - trust me, you're going to want to write some of this down. This is the conversation I wish someone had had with me years ago, and I can't wait to share it with you.
Ready to go deeper? DM me @PamelaHughesCoaching with "EPISODE 123" and let me know which part of this episode hits home for you. I read and respond to every message personally.
P.S. If this episode description is already making you think "Oh wow, I needed this," just wait until you hear the full thing. Your future self will thank you for hitting play today.
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
"I'll do it when things calm down..." "I just need to get through this busy season..." "Once I finish this project, I'll have more time..."
Sound familiar? (Yeah, I thought so.)
In this week's episode of Unstuck Your Life, we're diving into the one excuse that's probably costing you more than you realize. Hint: It's not about time management – it's about something way deeper.
Ever notice how the busiest people you know are often the ones accomplishing the least? Or how about that friend who seems to "have it all together" but is constantly telling you how overwhelmed they are? There's a reason for that, and it's probably not what you think.
This episode might make you a little uncomfortable. Good. Because we're about to challenge everything you think you know about being "busy" – including the real reason you might be wearing it like a badge of honor.
Warning: If you're looking for another productivity hack or time management system, this isn't it. But if you're ready to get honest about what's really keeping you stuck in the hamster wheel of busy, this episode is for you.
You'll discover:
The surprising link between "busy" and fear (this one hit me hard)
What your schedule actually reveals about your priorities (even if you don't want it to)
The generational impact of our "busy" addiction (parents, this one's especially for you)
A radical new way to think about time that changes everything
Plus, we'll explore the question nobody's asking but everyone needs to answer: What if being busy isn't the problem – or the solution?
P.S. If you've ever caught yourself saying "I don't have time" while scrolling social media for an hour, this episode is definitely for you. Just saying... 😉
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever catch yourself in a quiet moment, looking at your life and all you've accomplished, and feeling like something's still... missing?
You're not the only one secretly wondering if you missed a memo about how success is supposed to feel.
This week, we're diving into that confusing space between achieving goals and actually feeling fulfilled. (Spoiler alert: If you've ever felt guilty for not being "happy enough" with your success, this episode is going to be a game-changer.)
In this conversation, we're exploring: *The sneaky way your achievements might be hiding what you really want *Why checking off goals isn't filling that empty feeling inside *The question successful people are afraid to ask themselves *A mind-shifting perspective that changes everything (and no, it's not about gratitude journals)
Plus, a revealing exercise that shows you exactly where fulfillment has been hiding all along. Hint: It's closer than you think.
💫 THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: *You've ever achieved something big and still felt empty inside *Your life looks perfect on paper but feels different in reality * You're tired of feeling like you're always chasing the next big thing *You secretly wonder if you're the only one who feels this way
Ready to discover what's really going on when success leaves you feeling empty? Hit play to join the conversation that might just change how you think about achievement forever.
Got thoughts after listening? Share them with me on Instagram @PamelaHughesCoaching using #UnstuckLife – I read every comment and love hearing your insights!
P.S. Know someone who needs to hear this? Share this episode with them. Sometimes the greatest gift we can give is letting others know they're not alone in their struggles.
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever catch yourself crafting the "perfect" text message for 15 minutes? Or lying awake at night replaying that "awkward" comment you made in a meeting three weeks ago? (No judgment - we've all been there!)
In this episode, we're diving deep into why we're all so hooked on seeking validation, and more importantly, how to break free from this exhausting cycle. Because let's face it - being your own worst critic is a full-time job none of us applied for.
What you'll discover:
The surprising reason your brain is actually being "logical" when it spirals into approval-seeking mode Why that constant need for validation might not be what you think it is (this was a game-changer!) A simple 10-second practice that can stop an overthinking spiral in its tracks
Plus, you'll learn a mind-blowing reframe about self-trust that will change how you view every decision you make moving forward.
Ready to break free from the validation hamster wheel? Listen now and discover how to trust yourself without having to pretend you're immune to human emotions.
📱 Connect with Pamela: Instagram: @pamelahughescoaching Website: www.pamelahughescoaching.com
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Ever feel like you’re waiting for the stars to align, the perfect moment to magically appear, or for life to finally give you a green light? Spoiler alert: that moment isn’t coming. But here’s the good news—action doesn’t have to be perfect to move you forward. It just has to happen.
In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky traps of perfectionism and how they keep you stuck in the same place, spinning your wheels. You’ll discover why taking action before you’re ready is the ultimate power move, how one small step can lead to massive momentum, and why waiting for “ready” is the quickest way to stall your dreams.
But we’re not stopping there. We’ll dig into what’s really holding you back (hint: it’s not what you think) and explore practical, no-fluff ways to shake off the fear and just get started—even if it’s messy, sweaty, and feels wildly uncomfortable.
If you’re tired of feeling stuck, overthinking every decision, or postponing your dreams until “someday,” this episode is for you. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about showing up for yourself in the smallest, sweatiest ways and watching how those small actions create life-changing momentum.
So grab your coffee, hit play, and get ready to rethink what it means to take action. Because your life doesn’t need perfect—you just need to start.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
This episode is your permission slip to take messy, sweaty, imperfect action—because your dreams are too big to stay stuck.
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever feel like you’re almost satisfied with where you are… until you see what someone else is doing? Yep, we’re talking about that all-too-familiar “compare and despair” spiral. It sneaks up fast, doesn’t it? One minute you’re fine, and the next, you’re questioning your entire life because someone else posted yet another picture-perfect vacation or landed another promotion. Sound familiar?
In this episode, Pamela digs deep into that relentless comparison game that leaves so many of us feeling like we’re forever falling short. But here’s the twist: what if everything you’re feeling is just a trick your mind is playing on you? Today, Pamela shares an unexpected insight that flips the script on comparison and reveals why chasing someone else’s version of “success” keeps you stuck in self-doubt.
Here’s what we’re unpacking:
Why Comparison is a Trap – Find out why measuring your behind-the-scenes against someone else’s highlight reel will always leave you feeling less-than.
An Unexpected Insight – Pamela shares a surprising mindset shift that can instantly pull you out of that comparison spiral and put the focus back on your journey.
A Powerful Question – Next time you catch yourself comparing, ask this one question to ground yourself in what’s actually going right in your life.
A Practical Exercise – A simple but impactful exercise to remind you of your progress and help you break free from that constant need to measure up.
Ready to stop chasing someone else’s path and start owning yours? Hit play to discover how to leave comparison behind and finally feel like you’re enough.
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever find yourself collapsed on the couch at 11 PM, completely exhausted, with a to-do list that somehow got longer during the day? Yeah, we need to talk about that. In this game-changing episode, former talk show host turned life coach Pamela Hughes gets real about why running faster on life's treadmill isn't getting you where you want to go.
You know that voice in your head saying "If I just work a little harder..." or "I can't slow down or everything will fall apart"? Pamela's been there (spoiler alert: her own wake-up call came after leaving her broadcasting career), and she's got some seriously refreshing insights about why "rise and grind" might be keeping you stuck.
Here's the thing: what if the solution isn't about doing more, but about getting crystal clear on what actually matters? Pamela shares a brilliant car analogy that will completely change how you think about your daily hustle (hint: flooring the gas pedal isn't always the answer 😉).
Plus, you'll discover:
If you've ever felt like you're sprinting through life but somehow standing still, this episode is your permission slip to pause, breathe, and find a better way forward.
🎯 Ready to stop spinning your wheels? Hit play to learn how to trade exhausting hustle for authentic progress. Trust me, your future self will thank you for this one.
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How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever feel like you're constantly swimming against the current, trying to change things (or people) that just won't budge? Like you're stuck in a never-ending battle with the universe? Well, buckle up, because this episode is about to blow your mind and potentially change your life.
In this game-changing episode, I'm diving deep into the "Let Them Theory" - a powerful mindset shift that'll revolutionize how you approach, well, everything. It's all about recognizing what you can control (hint: it's you) and letting go of what you can't (spoiler: it's pretty much everything else).
Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover:
This episode is for you if you're tired of feeling drained, frustrated, and stuck in the same old patterns. It's time to let go of what you can't control and focus on what you can - being your amazing self.
So grab your headphones, find a comfy spot, and get ready for some real talk that'll leave you feeling empowered and ready to tackle life head-on.
Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs to hear this!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever found yourself wide awake at 3 AM, your mind racing through every possible scenario for a meeting that's weeks away? Or spent hours agonizing over the "perfect" response to a text message? If so, you're not alone in the overthinking club.
In this engaging and humorous episode, Pamela Hughes dives into the world of overthinking, exploring why our brains seem hardwired to worry and how we can regain control of our runaway thoughts. Drawing from evolutionary psychology and modern neuroscience, Pamela explains why our caveman brains might be ill-equipped for the social media age.
But this isn't just about understanding why we overthink - it's about practical strategies to break free from the cycle. Pamela shares a toolkit of techniques to help overthinkers:
The "Brain Dump" method for clearing mental clutter
How to play "Fact or Fiction" with your worries
Simple mindfulness practices that don't require a meditation cushion
The power of taking imperfect action to break decision paralysis
Throughout the episode, Pamela's relatable anecdotes and self-deprecating humor make complex concepts accessible and entertaining. Whether you're a chronic worrier, an indecisive planner, or just curious about the inner workings of the overthinking mind, this episode offers insights and strategies to help you reclaim mental peace.
Don't miss this opportunity to turn your overthinking tendency from a burden into a superpower. Tune in and discover how to harness your brain's energy for productivity and creativity, rather than endless worry loops. It's time to show your overthinking brain who's boss!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Have you ever found yourself avoiding a task, conversation, or opportunity simply because it made you uncomfortable? You're not alone.
Many of us instinctively shy away from discomfort, viewing it as something to be avoided at all costs. But what if that very discomfort you're dodging is actually the key to unlocking your potential?
In this thought-provoking episode, Pamela Hughes challenges the common perception of discomfort, revealing how it can be a powerful catalyst for personal growth and transformation. Drawing from cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience, Pamela explores why stepping out of our comfort zones is essential for developing resilience, creativity, and overall life satisfaction.
But this isn't just about theory. Pamela gets personal, sharing her own humbling (and often hilarious) journey of embracing discomfort through learning to swim as an adult. Her story illustrates how facing our fears and insecurities head-on can lead to unexpected breakthroughs and a renewed sense of self-confidence.
Throughout the episode, Pamela offers practical strategies for incorporating beneficial discomfort into your daily life, including:
How to reframe nervousness as excitement
The power of setting weekly 'discomfort' goals
Techniques for building your "uncomfortable muscle"
Why celebrating effort, not just outcomes, is crucial for growth
Whether you're looking to advance in your career, improve your relationships, or simply break free from a rut, this episode provides a roadmap for harnessing the power of discomfort to propel your personal growth.
Don't miss this opportunity to transform your relationship with discomfort and unlock new possibilities in your life. Tune in and discover why the path to getting unstuck might be a little uncomfortable - in the best way possible!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of planning and dreaming, but never quite making the leap into action? Or perhaps you've felt paralyzed by indecision, unsure of which step to take first?
If so, you're not alone. The gap between our intentions and our actions can often feel like a vast, uncrossable chasm.
In this inspiring episode, Pamela Hughes explores the final and crucial component of her T.E.A. Framework - Action.
She uncovers how our thoughts and emotions, discussed in previous episodes, ultimately manifest in the real world through our actions (or lack thereof).
Pamela delves into the powerful connection between our inner world and outer reality, revealing how even small, intentional actions can create ripple effects of positive change in our lives.
Through relatable stories and practical examples, she illustrates how action is the key that unlocks the door to transformation.
But this isn't just about motivational pep talks. Pamela equips listeners with concrete strategies to bridge the gap between intention and action, including:
How to break down overwhelming goals into manageable, actionable steps
Techniques for overcoming fear and resistance when taking bold actions
The power of consistent, small actions in creating lasting change
How to align your actions with your thoughts and emotions for maximum impact
Throughout the episode, Pamela offers insights and tools that listeners can immediately apply to their own lives, whether they're looking to advance their career, improve their relationships, or simply cultivate a more fulfilling daily routine.
Don't miss this empowering conclusion to the T.E.A. Framework series. Tune in and discover how to transform your aspirations into reality, one intentional action at a time.
It's time to stop dreaming and start doing - your unstuck life awaits!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Have you ever felt like your emotions were running the show, leaving you as a mere passenger in your own life? You're not alone. In this compelling episode, Pamela Hughes pulls back the curtain on the mysterious world of emotions, revealing how they can either empower us or hold us back.
We've all been there - heart racing before a big presentation, fuming after a frustrating conversation, or riding high on unexpected good news. But what if you could understand and harness these emotional currents instead of being swept away by them?
That's exactly what Pamela explores in this deep dive into the "E" of her transformative T.E.A. Framework. She uncovers the hidden link between our thoughts and emotions, showing how this connection shapes every aspect of our lives - from our relationships and career decisions to our day-to-day happiness.
But this isn't just about understanding emotions - it's about mastering them. Pamela equips listeners with practical, easy-to-use tools that can turn emotional turmoil into emotional intelligence. Imagine being able to:
Instantly recognize and defuse emotional triggers
Transform anxiety into focused energy
Use negative emotions as catalysts for positive change
Cultivate emotional resilience in the face of life's challenges
Throughout the episode, Pamela breaks down complex concepts into bite-sized, actionable insights, including:
A four-step process to navigate emotional storms with grace
The "pause and question" technique for emotional clarity
How to reframe negative situations for a more balanced perspective
Whether you're a busy professional trying to keep cool under pressure, a parent navigating the emotional rollercoaster of family life, or anyone seeking greater emotional balance, this episode offers a roadmap to emotional mastery.
Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the power of your emotions and take a crucial step towards unsticking your life. Tune in and discover how to transform your emotions from silent saboteurs into your secret superpower!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, mind racing with worries about things that haven't even happened?
Or perhaps you've talked yourself out of an amazing opportunity because you convinced yourself you weren't good enough? If so, you're not alone. Our thoughts, often operating behind the scenes, have an incredible power to shape our lives - for better or worse.
In this eye-opening episode, Pamela Hughes delves into the "T" of her revolutionary Spilling the T.E.A. Framework, unveiling the hidden influence our thoughts have on every aspect of our existence.
She explores how these silent narrators in our minds can turn a simple misunderstanding into a full-blown crisis, or transform a mundane moment into an opportunity for growth.
But this isn't just about exposing the mind's tricks. Pamela provides listeners with practical, easy-to-implement tools to recognize and reshape their thought patterns. You'll learn how to:
Identify common thought traps that keep you stuck
Transform negative self-talk into empowering internal dialogue
Use the "Thought Catcher" technique to gain clarity and control
Harness the power of your thoughts to create positive change in your life
Throughout the episode, Pamela breaks down complex concepts into relatable, actionable insights.
Whether you're a busy professional trying to manage stress, a creative person battling self-doubt, or anyone looking to cultivate a more positive mindset, this episode offers a roadmap to mastering your thoughts.
Don't miss this chance to peek behind the curtain of your own mind and discover how to turn your thoughts from potential saboteurs into powerful allies.
Tune in and take the first step towards unsticking your life and creating the reality you truly desire!
How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Ever feel like you're stuck in a mental maze, constantly asking "why" but never finding your way out? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive into:
Plus, discover the research-backed strategy that's helping people break free from overthinking and start living their best lives.
Whether you're dealing with a past heartbreak, a career setback, or just feeling stuck in general, this episode offers a fresh perspective that could be the game-changer you've been looking for.
Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start moving forward? This is the episode for you.
Key takeaways:
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How to Connect With Pamela:
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.