Okay, real talk—
Have you ever said no to something you knew wasn’t right for you…
…only to spend the next 48 hours wondering if you’re a selfish monster who’s just disappointed everyone and ruined everything?
Yeah. You’re not alone.
And also? You’re not a monster. You’re just tangled up in a guilt spiral no one warned you about.
This episode is for the people-pleasers who are so done putting everyone else’s comfort before their own sanity… but still get that pit in their stomach every time they try to set a boundary.
If you’ve ever thought,
"Why does saying no feel so bad, even when it’s the right thing to do?"
—this episode is about to flip that script in a way you didn’t see coming.
Inside, Pamela drops a truth bomb (the kind that feels like a loving slap from your most honest friend):
Guilt isn't your moral compass… it's your withdrawal symptom.
Yep, like caffeine headaches—but for approval.
You'll learn:✨ Where your guilt really comes from (hint: it’s not your fault)
✨ The powerful 3-second move that will save you from a lifetime of regret-yesses
✨ A set of magic questions to ask before you give your next answer
✨ And the surprising reason people get mad when you start saying no (this one will make your jaw drop… and then nod in deep recognition)
There’s even a hilarious moment where Pamela accidentally discovers one of her most effective boundary tools mid-sip of a drink. (Because sometimes clarity shows up when your mouth is full.)
So if you’ve been feeling low-key exhausted from always being the “go-to” person, if your inner monologue sounds like “I should just do it—they’ll be upset if I don’t…”—pause.
And listen.
Because the way out of that guilt trap?
It starts with one small, powerful shift—and Pamela’s handing you the map.
🔥 Want help putting what you just heard into action?
The Boundary Setting Toolkit is your next step. It’s packed with:
A checklist to spot your automatic yes moments
10 word-for-word “no” scripts that don’t sound awkward or mean
Ready-to-use templates for texts, emails, and real-life convos
A 3-step reset process for when you slip up (because you will)
And smart ways to buy time—so you stop saying yes before you even think
👉 Grab the toolkit right now using this link.👈
It’s everything you need to start setting boundaries without the guilt hangover.
Let this be the day you finally make yourself the priority.
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About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it, and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.