Faking orgasms, pornstar-style moans, pretending to like things you're really not into... Performative sex shows up in a whole range of ways. There are some truly valid reasons why women are faking their pleasure during sex, but what lives on the other side of performative sex is a drool-worthy world of authenticity and bliss.
Melissa Vranjes is an internationally certified Holistic Sex Coach based in New Zealand and she joins me for this episode to talk all about the impacts of performing in bed, as well as the beautiful benefits of being authentic in your sexuality. Some of the things that come up during this episode are...
And literally SO much more. This episode is here to show you that your pleasure MATTERS.
Want to connect with Melissa? Check out her Instagram here to see how she supports hundreds of women to step past the fear and shame that sex brings and feel unbounded with the possibility of their sexuality and relationships.
Vulnerability consistently shows up within sex. But is it vulnerability that adds to the intimacy and depth of the experience, or does your vulnerability become overwhelming and stop you from making your desires come true?
Having sex with the lights on, sending naked pictures, making the first move... vulnerability can be present in all of these things. And this episode is here to show you how you can view vulnerability is a positive light, rather than doing your best to repress it and avoid it.
I'm getting vulnerable here and sharing my own experience with how I almost let my vulnerability dictate my experience of sending frisky pics to my partner, plus a whole lot of other stories, insights and tips that are going to transform how you think about and respond to your vulnerable moments.
PLUS get your FREE TICKET to my upcoming workshop on Resurrecting your Libido here. In just 60 minutes, reconnect with your sexual energy and crank the heat up on your sex life. It's gonna be juiiiiicy. Happening on the 22nd of August at 7pm (NZ time).
Interested in learning more about how I can support you to create a thriving relationship with your sexual self, and a life that is literally dripping with pleasure? Send me a message on IG (@_sofielouise) or flick me an email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com) and let's chat.
The naked body does not need to be stigmatized and sexualized and surrounded by shame. Naturism is all about reversing the taboo that we've associated with getting naked, and creating safe and empowering spaces for people of all genders and sizes to liberate their relationship with their bodies.
Rikki Yeowart is a nude yoga teacher and an avid member and coordinator of the Queensland naturist community. She loves to get naked, and she loves to empower others to do the same, safely and from a space of deep acceptance and empowerment.
Want to hear all about the connection between body positivity and naturism, the sexualization and liberation of the naked body, and the power of naturist communities? This conversation between Rikki and I is for you.
Check out more of Rikki's work by following the links below...
Rikki Yeowart: Website, Facebook
Naked Awakening (women's workshops): Instagram, Facebook, website
Get Naked Australia: Instagram, website
Having sex without foreplay is like trying to fly a plane without a runway, or light a fire without any kindling. It is essential. And in this episode, I'm not just talking about the fun and fiery foreplay that happens in the bedroom (though this is a key aspect of the episode), but also the mindset shifts that need to happen for sex to be bloody amazing, like loving your body and building up your capacity to feel pleasure.
If you want to have deeply pleasurable, orgasmic sex, you've got to do the prep. And in the case of foreplay, it's ridiculously fun and rewarding prep. Check out this episode to hear all the different reasons why incorporating more foreplay into your sexual experiences is going to benefit you ten-fold (no exaggeration), some spicy and intimate foreplay ideas to try, and the importance of foreplay in self-pleasure.
Kink and BDSM are forms of sexual exploration that, unfortunately, often come seeped in shame. This shame can stop us from trying new things and it can also rob us of our pleasure.
In this week's episode, Olivia Merwood (professional dominatrix, emotional alchemist and pleasure priestess) and I sit down with the intention of normalizing these topics. Because there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to get kinky!
We chat about what it means to be a dominatrix, how you can communicate your boundaries clearly and sexily, and some tips for newbies who are wanting to try their hand at BDSM, among other things.
Quite simply, this episode is hot as hell.
If you've ever felt like there was something blocking your throat and stopping your from talking during sex...
Or you've been scared that communicating what you like in bed will leave your partner feeling insulted...
The simple and implementable communication tips in this episode are going to completely transform your sex life.
Communication is essential to having enjoyable, pleasurable sex. There's no way around it.
But speaking up for your desires doesn't need to be awkward or uncomfortable. This episode is going to help you to communicate your turn-ons and turn-offs with ease, confidence, and in a manner that your partner is going to love.
Get ready to learn how to love talking about sex before, during and after you get into the bedroom.
You might have heard about conscious sex, but how about conscious sex toy use?
Whether you've never touched a sex toy in your life, or you've got a whole bedside table drawer full of them, this episode with Sophie from Clean Satisfaction shares a new way of engaging with sex toys.
If you've ever been worried that your partner will be insulted about you requesting to bring your sex toys into the bedroom, or you've felt like your relationship with your vibrator could be more empowering and less shameful, this episode is here to change the sex toy game.
Gone are the days of buying shit quality toys off aliexpress that are inevitably going to mess up your vagina's pH and give you some sort of infection.
Join us to learn all about conscious toy purchasing, how to have those "awkward" sex conversations (and make them a whole lot of fun), and how to use toys to up your self-love game.
Want to check out the sustainable and beautiful products that Clean Satisfaction offer? Head to their website or their Instagram to feast your eyes on their wonderful creations.
Let me know your thoughts on this episode and share all of your awkward and wonderful sex toy stories with me via Instagram or my email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com).
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For so many women, sex feels like a chore. It's not all that enjoyable, it doesn't feel particularly good, it's not something that you get excited about. Perhaps you're having sex because you know your partner wants to, or because you feel like you should.
This episode is going to completely transform that. Before you know it, you'll be having sex because you actually, genuinely want to. You'll be having sex because it is a drool-worthy experience full of more pleasure than you've ever experienced.
Over the course of this value-packed episode, I share with you my top tips to actually enjoy sex, like the importance of speaking up for your desires, how self-pleasure is going to amplify your partnered sexual experiences, ways to stay present in the moment, and, of course, the importance of foreplay (but taking this three steps further than you ever have before).
You're seriously going to want to be taking notes for this one.
Let me know your thoughts and share with me how your sex life transforms after listening to this episode via Instagram (@_sofielouise) and/or email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com).
I currently have limited spaces available for new 1:1 clients. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here.
Emotional intelligence is not something that we're taught.
As a result, we often go around thinking that our emotions are here to be controlled, or repressed, or fought against.
Susie Tagarro and I sit down in this episode to break down these beliefs and to share with you why emotions (even ones like grief or anger or fear) get to be so bloody delicious. We talk about how they can be a source of so much pleasure, information and motivation, and how you can bring the skill of emotional regulation into your life by bringing your body into the equation.
Emotional intelligence will impact every aspect of your life, from business to relationships to sex. There are literally no downsides to learning more about this.
You can find Susie via her Instagram or her website.
I'd absolutely love to hear any feedback, questions or a-ha moments that have come up for you while listening to this episode. I love chatting with you! Flick me a message through my Instagram or send me an email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com).
I currently have limited 1:1 coaching spaces available. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here.
Sex, at it's core, is a delicious dance between giving and receiving pleasure... But often it can feel uncomfortable to fully lean into either of these dynamics.
Do you find it hard to fully relax and surrender while you're receiving pleasure?
Do you struggle to enjoy giving to others as much as you enjoy receiving?
Do you perhaps give from a place that holds an expectation that you'll receive the same back in return?
Then listen up, because this episode is for you.
This episode covers some juicy details like...
I'd absolutely love to hear any feedback, questions or realizations that have come up for you while listening to this episode. I love chatting with my listeners! Flick me a message through my Instagram @_SofieLouise or my email uncensoredwellness@outlook.com.
I currently have limited 1:1 coaching spaces available. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here.
Your body is so much more than a vessel that exists to be controlled, critiqued and/or ignored.
This episode is all about what it means to nourish your relationship with your body so that you can appreciate its appearance and its functionality. Because your body deserves to be treated right.
Tune in now to hear more about...
If you're ready to fully embrace a loving and appreciative relationship with your body, Befriend your Body begins on April the 6th. Learn more and secure your space here.
I'd absolutely love to hear any feedback, questions or insights that may come up for you while listening to this episode. You can get in contact with me via Instagram (@UncensoredWellnesss) or email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com). I'm always honored to provide you with the support that you desire.
There's a whole lot of misinformation out there when it comes to sex, sexuality and pleasure, and, in fact, this misinformation can be pretty damn harmful. This episode is here to expose some of the most common sex myths around, and replace these falsities with fact.
Grab your favorite bevvy and let's chat about...
This is just some of the juicy stuff that goes down in this episode. Get ready to up your sexual literacy and acquire some new facts that you can share with your friends and family the next time that sex comes up in conversation.
I'd love to hear any feedback, questions or insights that have come up for you while listening to this episode. You can get in contact with me via Instagram (@UncensoredWellnesss) or email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com). I'm always honored to provide you with the support that you desire.
The impact of endometriosis goes much deeper than tissue damage and the sensation of pain. This disease impacts your emotions, behavior, relationships and sex life. So how can you still live a satisfying life with endometriosis? In part 2 of this episode, Lucy shares what she does to make the most of each day, while managing her pain levels, accomplishing her goals, and maintaining thriving relationships.
Download this episode now to hear Lucy discuss...
It was such an honor to have Lucy talk about her lived experience with endometriosis for this two-part episode. I'd love to hear any feedback, questions or insights that have come up for you while listening to this episode. You can get in contact with me via Instagram (@uncensoredwellnesss) or email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com). I'm always honored to provide you with the support that you desire.
For more information about endometriosis, Endometriosis New Zealand is a great source of information about the topic, and Spine Health provides more information about the circles of pain.
Endometriosis is estimated to impact 1 in 10 people with uteruses. So let's talk about it...
For this juicy two-part episode, I have my incredible friend Lucy with me to talk about her experience with endometriosis. This episode is a valuable listen for anyone who has been diagnosed with endometriosis, as well as for anyone who wants to learn more about it so that they can better support those in their life who suffer from endo.
Painful periods are not the norm. And yet, it can take years of expensive doctors appointments and invalidation to receive an endometriosis diagnosis.
That's why Lucy and I spend part 1 of this discussion chatting about...
If you desire more information about endometriosis, www.nzendo.org.nz is a great place to learn more.
Don't hesitate to get in touch with me via Instagram (@UncensoredWellnesss) or through email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com) with any questions, insights or feedback that you have regarding this podcast, or with inquiries to work together. I'm always honored to provide you with the support that you desire.
This week I'm trying something a bit new! I love serving you and your interests, and thus this episode has been created in a question and answer style. You sent in your questions via my Instagram (@UncensoredWellnesss), and I'm going to answer them in-depth. These questions are such valuable and common ones to be curious about, and I'm excited to share my insight around...
I'll be sharing lots more juicy tidbits along the way, so make sure you're paying attention to this special new episode.
I'd love to know whether you enjoyed this new episode format and would like more question and answer podcast episodes. You can always get in touch with me via Instagram (@uncensoredwellnesss) or through email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com) with questions, insights or feedback about this podcast, or with inquiries to work together. I'm always honored to provide you with any support that you may desire.
Slut is a word with a significant negative charge behind it. It's most commonly used in a derogatory, insulting way.
But what if slut could be a powerful sexual identity? What if you embraced the slut within you as an archetype that is powerful and unashamed?
In this episode, I take you through my own journey of coming to embrace my slut fully and with so much love to show you that it can be done!
This extra slutty episode covers...
If you're ready to embrace the full spectrum of your sexual expression, however that looks for you, you're going to love this.
Always feel free to reach out to me at @uncensoredwellnesss on Instagram, or to email me at uncensoredwellness@outlook.com. I deeply value your feedback, responses and/or questions regarding this podcast. And I am always honored to provide you with any support that you may desire.
The tendency to put the needs of others before your own is a prevalent one, and it's one that doesn't serve you. How are you going to get where you want in life if you don't stand up for your needs and desires?? This episode is here to remind you that you are worthy, your needs are valid, and you can put yourself first.
People-pleasing is a learned behavior that we pick up over time, and I'm here to help you to unlearn this behavior.
This episode of the Uncensored Wellness Podcast touches on...
It's time to take charge of the direction of your life, and to recognize your worth in the world.
Always feel free to reach out to me at @uncensoredwellnesss on Instagram, or to email me at uncensoredwellness@outlook.com. I deeply value your feedback, responses and/or questions regarding this podcast. And I am always honored to provide you with any support that you may desire.
P.s. Keep an eye out for my Valentine's Day offer coming out soon that is D.R.I.P.P.I.N.G. with all of the self-love that you need to start putting yourself first.
The Uncensored Wellness podcast is welcoming in 2022 by chatting about vibrators, dildos, and all things sex toy related!
The world of sex toys is exciting, ever-expanding, and, at times, a bit daunting. Whether you're buying your first ever toy, or adding to your existing collection, this episode breaks down all that you need to know, including...
Engaging with sex toys can be such a fun and exciting way to explore new and different forms of pleasure. They can help you to deeply embody the idea that your sexuality is something to be engaged with in a pressure- and expectation-free way, by making play the focus of your experience.
The sex toy stores mentioned in this episode are...
Toys aren't just for children. Go and play!
Always feel free to reach out to me at @uncensoredwellnesss on Instagram, or uncensoredwellness@outlook.com. I deeply value your feedback, responses and questions regarding this podcast.
Pleasure isn't just something that comes to the party during sex. Sex and Relationship Coach Laura Ellen and I discuss how pleasure can be incorporated into all aspects of your life, including the challenging and emotional moments.
Tune into this episode to learn how you can bring more pleasure into your life, alongside discussions about...
...and so many more juicy topics!
It was such an honor to have Laura on the Uncensored Wellness Podcast for this episode. If you're interested in learning more about the incredible work that she's sharing with the world, check out Laura's website (laura-ellen.com) and her Instagram (@_laura_ellen) for more.
This is the final episode of 2021, but I'll be back in February to share more pleasure-based wisdom with you. As always, I'd love to hear any thoughts that you have about this podcast, and you can get in touch with me via my Instagram (@uncensoredwellnesss) or through my website (www.uncensoredwellness.com).
Happy holidays!
You've likely heard of shadow work before, but you might be wondering what it actually is and why on earth you should do it?! Kendall Brown and I go in depth into the ways that shadow work helps you to tap into your best self, so that you can live the life that you deeply desire. Step back from triggers, shame and people pleasing, and move into living a life that you have agency over.
In this week's episode, Kendall and I discuss topics like...
And so many more integral aspects of the intersection between shadow work and sexuality.
To connect with Kendall Brown and the integral work that she puts out into the world, head over to her Instagram @kendallbrownwellness.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode via my own Instagram (@UncensoredWellnesss), email (uncensoredwellness@outlook.com) or by leaving a review through your preferred podcasting platform.