Beautiful, successful, self-aware...and still single? You’re not alone. In this episode of Time For Us, I sit down with Sacha Jack, South Africa’s only certified matchmaker trained by the prestigious School of Matchmaking and Relationship Sciences in New York.
We unpack the real reasons finding love feels so hard, how much of it is timing vs. choice, the green flags we’re overlooking, and the shifts that happen when you date from alignment instead of scarcity.
Visit sachajack.com to discover more about her elite matchmaking and relationship services.
What does it mean to be a man in today’s world, when the old maps no longer work, and the new ones haven’t yet been drawn?
In this episode, I sit down with Craig Makhosi Charnock, a men’s work facilitator, to explore masculinity in its raw, real, and healing forms. We discuss the absence of male role models, the quiet epidemic of isolation many men face, and the cultural cost of losing rites of passage.
Craig shares his story, from training as a Sangoma to stepping into his purpose of guiding men through transformation. Together, we question the lone wolf myth, honour the power of brotherhood, and speak to the importance of community, expression, and ceremonial thresholds.
Whether you’re a man on the edge of becoming, someone raising sons, or simply curious about the evolution of masculinity, this one’s for you.
Craig Makhosi is a men’s work coach and facilitator dedicated to helping men reconnect with purpose, power, and emotional integrity.
He offers one-on-one coaching, consultations, group programs, retreats and free content to support men on the path of personal growth and mission-driven living.
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Disclaimer:
This conversation is based on personal experiences and opinions. We’re not claiming to have all the answers – just sharing stories, perspectives, and thoughts that might spark something in you. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and always do what feels right for you.
Let’s talk about sex (but not like you’re used to).
In this insightful conversation, Clinical Sexologist and Trauma Therapist Dr. Marlene Wasserman (aka Dr. Eve) joins us to explore the deeply intertwined relationship between sex, trauma, healing, and desire. We unpack the questions no one asks out loud:
– How much sex is “normal”?
– Does being horny mean you’re 'healthy'?
– Can sex help heal sexual trauma, or hurt you further?
– Are your kinks risky, or are they revealing something deeper?
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, confused by what turns you on, or unsure whether your sex life reflects connection or coping, this one’s for you. Get the tools and insights to build safety, intimacy, and curiosity into your relationship with your body and others.
🎧 Follow @dreve_sa and visit www.dreve.co.za to connect with Dr. Marlene.
Disclaimer:
This conversation is for educational and reflective purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or trauma-informed care. If you are navigating sexual trauma or experiencing distress, please seek support from a qualified mental health professional, trauma specialist, or licensed medical provider.
What if addiction isn’t about the substance, but about what’s underneath?
In this deeply honest episode, I’m joined by clinical psychologist Tracy Kruger, who brings a compassionate and trauma-informed lens to addiction. Together, we explore the patterns we struggle to name, the shame that keeps us silent, and the quiet turning points that can spark real change.
Whether it’s alcohol, work, relationships, or control – addiction can wear many faces. Tracy helps us understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how recovery isn’t just about quitting, but about rebuilding our connection to self, others, and the present moment.
This conversation is gentle, grounding, and offered with all the love and intentionality it was recorded in.
If you would like more information, you can reach out to Tracy here Tracy@mindful.co.za
www.mindful.co.za
Disclaimer:
This conversation is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health or medical advice. If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction or mental health challenges, please seek support from a licensed professional or trusted healthcare provider.
What if love wasn’t limited by monogamy? In this eye-opening conversation, we unpack the nuanced world of polyamory and open relationships – from personal readiness to boundaries, intimacy shifts, and confronting jealousy. Whether you're curious or sceptical, this episode invites you to rethink what commitment really means.
Join me in conversation with Nita, sexuality coach, counsellor, and founder of Casa Kink.
I am officially unmedicated, (hide your kids, hide your wife) hahahaha JK. I'm fine. After two years on antidepressants, I made the decision to stop. What came next? A mix of challenges and clarity. I’m sharing what led me to medication, what it was like to transition off, and how my unplanned experience with yoga became my biggest support system along the way.
Disclaimer: The views expressed in this podcast are based on personal experiences and opinions. While I strive for accuracy, I cannot guarantee it—please fact-check independently. This podcast is for informational and storytelling purposes only and should not be taken as professional advice. Always consult a qualified expert before making any decisions based on what you hear. By listening, you acknowledge that I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from reliance on this content. All content is provided as-is, without warranty.
What makes you 'you'? And what happens when you realise most of it is just a choice you made once...
Are you building an identity or are you just collecting labels? And lastly, SHOULD HAVING AN IdEnTiTy MATTER SO MUCH?
You’re overthinking. You’re personalising everything. You’re suffering. (And by 'you' I mean 'me' – obvs). Some thoughts on how to actually detach and reclaim your inner peace.
I get to make up my own rules on this pod, and for that reason, I'm abruptly ending Season 2. I know I've been scarce, and you have my sincere apols. I give you a bit of an update in this episode, and I'm hoping I've finally worked through whatever block was withholding me from doing this for the last few months. Thank you for your love and patience.
It's so good to hang out again. Here's to 2025!
If you think something enough times it can create a prolonged change in your feelings, emotion and behaviour... So much so that it can become a part of your personality. Our personality's dictate how we interact with the world, oh and did I mention that we LITERALLY GET HIGH off of our own bio-chemical reactions which can keep us in a loop that makes change extremely difficult... In this episode we look at Dr. Joe Dispenza's book, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself." I hope you enjoy it - I found this stuff WILDLY FASCINATING. I'm also trying a new podcast format - 20mins : 2 Parts... Let me know what you think.
Say yes to the person you want to become by exercising self-boundaries.
A continued conversation on the New York Times Bestseller "Set Boundaries, Find Peace – A Guide To Reclaiming Yourself" by Nedra Glover Tawwab (licensed counsellor, sought-after relationship expert and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram). To quote the synopsis "End the struggle, speak up for what you need and experience the freedom of being truly yourself."
This episode is sponsored by Dr. Huskisson from Winelands Laser & Skin Care Clinic - Subscribe to my newsletter for a 15% discount on your first appointment (yes, that's 15% off of Juvederm filler and Botox!!! If that interests you, if not that's also perfectly fine). The link to subscribe is HERE.
There's no one I trust more with my facial aesthetics - srsly, Dr. H is incredible.
This episode is also sponsored by Leonista – 100% Karoo Agave Spirit. The product I feature in the pod is the Honey Reposado.
One of the root problems behind anxiety, codependency, power struggles, burnout and depression – a lack of healthy boundaries. Yikes! This week I take you on a private tour of the New York Times Bestseller "Set Boundaries, Find Peace – A Guide To Reclaiming Yourself" by Nedra Glover Tawwab (licensed counsellor, sought-after relationship expert and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram). To quote the synopsis "End the struggle, speak up for what you need and experience the freedom of being truly yourself."
This episode is sponsored by Dr. Huskisson from Winelands Laser & Skin Care Clinic - Subscribe to my newsletter for a 15% discount on your first appointment (yes, that's 15% off of Juvederm filler and Botox!!! If that interests you, if not that's also perfectly fine). The link to subscribe is HERE.
There's no one I trust more with my facial aesthetics - srsly, Dr. H is incredible.
This episode is also sponsored by Leonista – 100% Karoo Agave Spirit. The product I feature in the pod is the Honey Reposado.
Veronica Rottman is a Chicago-based Somatic Trauma Practitioner and Educator. We discuss learning to read the language of your nervous system, what it means to "re-sensualise" vs. "regulate", and how to (as women who have always been told to be 'good little girls') practice healthy aggression. I am so incredibly proud of this episode. The sheer knowledge you will gain through Veronica's wisdom is profound.
Follow Veronica on Instagram at @wakingwomb for more.
Exploring the question "Whom do I deserve?" by reflecting on my upbringing – specifically how my relationship with my dad shaped the woman I am today and the subsequent romantic choices I've made.
Annnd that's a wrap... what a journey it's been. Catch up on what went down during my unexpected hiatus and how it led to some major personal revelations. I've taken a look back over my shoulder to see how far we've come and what I've learned along the way, from realising my negative worldview needed a serious overhaul to learning the art of dedication and trust. And let's not forget the wild ride of recording this podcast in cities around the globe – trust me, it's been a scene!
I would 10/10 recommend watching this episode with video, and not just listening because MY GOD I am unhinged. You know when you crack yourself up?? That's the energy I got from this lol.
Love you all! Here's to Season 2!!! Yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!
We sit down with Carla Gubb, for a deeply personal episode about her journey through cannabis addiction and rehabilitation. With unwavering honesty and vulnerability, Carla shares the highs and lows of her battle with dependency, from the initial struggles to the pivotal decision to seek help.
In my early twenties, I embraced Christianity wholeheartedly, only to find myself grappling with certain aspects of the faith later on.
Don't worry I'm not here trying to convert anyone, mainly telling the pretty hilarious story of getting baptised at 21, and my once paralysing fear of the devil - ya know... all that good stuff.
This is an opportunity to get to know Luke Volker a little better. We chat about Luke's effervescent acting career and get to understand more about his love for the industry. For the first time in a public forum, Luke shares the heart-wrenching story of losing his starlet fiancée, Charlbi Dean. His openness and resilience are truly commendable, and I am incredibly grateful for the trust he's placed in me to share such a personal story.
A huge SHOUT OUT (watch/listen and you'll understand) to LUKE for his vulnerability and grace.
Thank you for listening lovelies.
Keep up with Luke's moves by following him on IG : @lukechasevolker
From shedding my vanity, to challenging racial prejudice... Tune in to discover the heartfelt reasons behind the bold move to shave my head. It's not a decision I made lightly, but it is a decision I'm so happy I made!
Let me know what you thought of this episode.
Let's talk about the realities of chasing success, and take a look at some of the illusions surrounding the journey towards one's dreams. From battling internal conflicts to navigating societal pressures, this episode offers an exploration of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with pursuing passion. Whether you're on your own journey towards success or simply seeking validation in your struggles, I think it's worth a listen, and I feel pretty delulu even talking about this, which kind of speaks to how necessary this convo truly is!
