This week on The Thing Is…, we’re getting real about a truth many of us avoid , some people don’t actually love you; they love their access to you. They love your energy, your peace, your effort… but not the boundaries that protect them.
In this episode, Tatayanna dives into the difference between connection and convenience ..how to recognize when people show up only when it benefits them, and how to stop confusing availability with loyalty.
We’re talking boundaries, emotional maturity, and what accountability really looks like in relationships, friendships, and even family dynamics. Because protecting your peace isn’t punishment ..it’s self-respect.
Tune in to The Thing Is… on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Amazon Music for your weekly dose of reflection, healing, and soft girl honesty.
This week on The Thing Is… we’re unpacking a truth most of us have felt but rarely admit ..sometimes, people don’t fall in love with you. They fall for the version of you that serves them, the calm you, the healed you, the one who fits their fantasy but not your reality.
We discuss what it’s like to be loved for your potential, not your presence, and how to recognize when connection turns into projection. From romantic relationships to friendships and even family dynamics, this episode.
It’s time to stop performing for love and start standing in your truth because the real you deserve to be chosen, not curated.
Boundaries are often misunderstood as rejection, distance, or punishment but the truth is, boundaries are love too. In this episode, we unpack how boundaries are actually an act of self-respect, a reflection of self-love, and a gift to the people around us.
From relationships to friendships to work, saying “no” isn’t selfish—it’s clarity. Boundaries protect our peace, preserve our energy, and prevent resentment from building. They show us where love can thrive without turning into obligation.
Listen in as we talk through:
Why boundaries are necessary for healthy relationships
How to see boundaries as self-love in action
The difference between rejection and clarity
'18Real-life examples of boundaries that protect both you and others
If you’ve ever struggled with guilt around saying no or worried that boundaries would push people away, this conversation will remind you: the right people will respect your limits and those limits will make space for deeper connection.
This week on The Thing About Love, we’re unpacking the real cost and reward of putting yourself first.
It doesn’t always look pretty. Choosing yourself can feel selfish, lonely, or even wrong at first. You may lose people, face guilt, or be misunderstood. But here’s the truth: protecting your peace and setting boundaries is the only way to stop abandoning yourself.
In this episode, I share the hard truths, the emotional challenges, and the freedom that comes with choosing peace over approval. Because the glow-up isn’t just external, it begins when you finally prioritize yourself.
We grow up believing that real love is supposed to last forever — but what if it’s not? In this raw and reflective episode of The Thing Is…, Tatayanna unpacks the myth of “forever love” and explores what it means when love ends. From the unshakable bond of family to the fleeting beauty of romantic and platonic relationships, this conversation dives into the idea that love doesn’t have to be endless to be real.
Some love stays for a lifetime. Some love teaches us in a season. All love leaves a mark.
✨ Tune in as we ask: Does love have to last forever to matter?
Hope is tricky... it’s the thing that keeps us going when everything feels heavy, but it can also feel fragile, almost out of reach, when life gets too real. In this episode, I’m unpacking what hope actually means in our everyday lives, why we cling to it even when the odds are stacked against us, and how small sparks of hope can grow into something that changes everything.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on empty, this one’s a reminder: hope doesn’t have to be big, loud, or flashy. Sometimes, it’s just the quiet belief that tomorrow might feel a little lighter than today.
Hope doesn’t always come in big, bright bursts sometimes it’s just a tiny flicker. In this mini Monday episode, I share how even the smallest spark can carry us through the hardest moments. Tune in for encouragement, perspective, and a reminder that you are enough.
We carry so much in silence ,the pain we don’t admit, the struggles we hide, the feelings we stuff down just to get through the day. But silence gets heavy. In this episode, I’m talking about the cost of holding it all in, why we’re so quick to say “I’m fine” when we’re not, and how finding the courage to speak up can literally save our lives.
If you’ve been carrying too much on your own, this one’s for you. You’re not a burden, and you don’t have to do it alone.
Not everyone’s battles are visible. In this episode, I talk about silent struggles, high-functioning pain, and why admitting you’re not okay doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human. If you’re holding on to a heavy heart, this one’s for you.
In this episode, we dive into the tough but necessary conversation around mental health and suicide awareness. Together, we unpack the stigma, share real experiences, and talk about why reaching out for help is a sign of strength—not weakness. Whether you’ve faced these struggles yourself or want to better support someone you love, this episode is here to remind you that you’re not alone.
In the U.S., dial 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (available 24/7).
You can also text HOME to 741741 to connect with the Crisis Text Line.
For resources outside the U.S., visit findahelpline.com.
Healing isn’t a straight line—it’s full of twists, setbacks, breakthroughs, and lessons we never saw coming. In this episode of The Thing Is…, we get real about what healing actually looks like, why we often expect it to be “perfect,” and how to give ourselves grace in the process.
Whether you’re navigating friendships, self-growth, heartbreak, or simply trying to show up for yourself, this conversation is here to remind you: progress counts, even when it doesn’t look like it. 💕
✨ Listen in for:
Why healing feels messy (and why that’s okay)
The danger of comparing your journey to others
How to keep moving forward even when you feel stuck
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “behind” in your healing, this one’s for you. 🎧
We all know the strong friend, the one who always shows up, holds everyone together, and never seems to break. But what happens when the strong friend is silently falling apart? In this episode of The Thing Is…, we’re getting real about the unspoken weight of being that person. From the burnout of constant emotional labor to learning how to set boundaries and ask for help, this conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt unseen while carrying everyone else’s load.
It’s time to remind the strong friends: you deserve softness, support, and space to be human too.
In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between loving someone and being aligned with them and how to know when it’s time to stop holding on. From mutual effort and healthy boundaries to walking away with peace, this is the real talk you need if you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I asking for too much?”
They heard you the first time, they just chose not to listen.
In this episode of The Thing Is…, we’re talking about the emotional exhaustion of repeating yourself, begging to be understood, and performing for people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
Whether it's in friendships, family, or relationships, constantly re-explaining your worth is not your job. Period.
Let this be your permission slip to stop shrinking, stop explaining, and start protecting your peace. You’re not crazy. You’re just tired of being unheard.
Real talk. Soft tone. Grown energy.
The Thing Is… is your weekly dose of unfiltered conversations about boundaries, healing, identity, and everything we’re tired of repeating.
Hosted by Tatayanna Spry for the ones who say less but feel more.