Love Is Blind! I’m ranting, reflecting, and dropping some truth bombs about what went wrong this season of the popular Netflix series. I'm unpacking the messy dynamics and explaining how you can avoid making the same mistakes. The season proved that love isn’t blind, but your standards don’t have to be—if you’re willing to do the work. We’re diving deep into why “love will grow” outside of attraction is just a fairy tale in most cases, why one-sided caretaking kills chemistry, and how to date with more intention and clarity. Listen for the laughs, stay for the lessons, and leave with the tools you need to build better relationships. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety actually makes intimacy hotter. Plus, a look at Hily’s new Consent Guard Feature that protects you from any unsolicited spicy pics or sexts. If you’re dating online, this is your playbook for confidence, clarity, and connection. Download Hily Here:  https://hily.go.link/8i2VX Learn More About Dr. DeSeta Here: https://www.instagram.com/drmindydeseta   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how men are drawn to women who can be both vulnerable and self-aware. He also touches on the importance of understanding one’s own worth and behavior, especially when dealing with conflict and making decisions as a couple. Get ready to hear about what men need from women in a partnership and why it’s essential to align with these desires if you want to build a strong, lasting connection. This episode will leave you with a deeper understanding of the dynamics between men and women and how to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power by stepping into your own vulnerability.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize avoidance, and understand that his limitations do not define your self-worth. If you’re ready to stop holding onto someone else’s dysfunction and start owning your healing journey, this episode is your roadmap.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Join the Skool Community https://www.skool.com/heal-your-attachment-style-1096   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, and track emotional competency before you fall too fast. This episode isn’t about killing romance—it’s about making sure your heart doesn’t pay the price for fleeting attraction, and why slow-burn connections with intentional boundaries are the real game-changer.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical prompts to turn any activity into healing work. Plus: details on Eli’s Oct 19 Chicago in-person wellness day benefitting a local nonprofit serving immigrants and refugee human rights. Link in show notes or DM Eli to learn more!   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, Eli tackles everything from avoidant attachment to starting your therapy journey. Get ready for a raw, unedited Q&A session that feels less like a podcast and more like a strategy session with your wisest, most unfiltered friend.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

You don’t need six months to see the truth—you need a process. In this episode, Eli gives you a three-date blueprint to identify avoidant patterns early: intentional check-ins, direct values alignment (marriage, kids, faith, location), and real talk about conflict and repair. You’ll learn how to calm an anxious attachment by building self-trust, practice reparenting with curiosity and compassion, and recruit a tiny “accountability squad” to keep you from texting your ex. It’s bold, loving, and wildly practical—designed to help you choose the partner who can meet (or exceed) your standard.   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In a refreshing and honest conversation on the Selfhype Podcast, Eli Vasquez welcomes the infectiously positive Suzi Jalowsky to share the story behind her viral fitness fame. What began with workout DVDs in her garage after putting the kids to bed has blossomed into a million-follower community inspired by her simple and effective approach to health. Together, Eli and Suzi explore the power of starting small, the mental game of showing up for yourself, and how to build a life where fitness feels like a reward, not a punishment. Tune in for a dose of real-world motivation that cuts through the noise and proves you don’t need fancy gyms or complicated diets to transform your life.   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Why does dating feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment? Eli dives into the sneaky ways social media rewires our brains to expect heartbreak, distrust, and division in love. From heartbreak content loops that keep wounds open, to confusing growth with potential in relationships, he exposes the traps that leave so many burnt out in the digital streets. But it’s not all bad news—Eli shares how to break free from the heartbreak algorithm, lean into real self-awareness, and start creating connections that actually feel good.   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Episode Introduction: Erin Valente is a compassionate therapist and content creator whose deep curiosity about people and their stories fuels her mission to make mental health more approachable and relatable. On this episode of the Selfhype Podcast, Erin joins Eli Vasquez to unpack the realities of trauma, healing, and the human experience. With years of experience supporting clients through diverse challenges, Erin empowers others to embrace vulnerability, discover their unique paths to resilience, and recognize that feeling “broken” is simply part of being human. Through honest conversation and her multi-faceted therapeutic approach, Erin—alongside Eli—offers listeners practical insights and encouragement for their own journeys.   Learn More About Erin Here: https://www.erinvalentetherapy.com/    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this raw and real episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez delivers a no-nonsense wake-up call about the trap of falling for "potential" in relationships. With his signature wit and straight talk, Eli breaks down why chasing someone’s unrealized potential is a recipe for heartbreak and how to shift your focus to reality. He gets candid about his own journey, from his "dusty" days to becoming "Mr. Clean with good ass hair," emphasizing that real change starts with self-awareness, not wishful thinking. Eli challenges you to stop enabling toxic patterns, set clear boundaries, and ask yourself tough questions: Why are you so scared to lose someone who disrespects you? Why are you betting on their potential instead of your own worth? He offers practical steps, like identifying small, actionable changes to test a partner’s commitment, and stresses the importance of a baseline of trust, curiosity, and consideration. Tune in for a hilarious yet heartfelt push to prioritize partnership over pipe dreams, reflect on your own insecurities, and take control of your dating life.    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Brittani Ard, a resilient architect and storyteller who transformed personal pain into a powerful narrative. Brittani shares her gripping story with Eli, diving into her experience with a manipulative relationship that unraveled a web of deception, leading to her viral podcast season that reached #1 in five countries. Through raw vulnerability, she reflects on her childhood trauma, the longing for love, and the self-reflection that helped her reclaim her worth.   Discover how Brittani turned heartbreak into healing, connecting with women across the country to uncover shared stories of resilience. She offers candid insights on spotting red flags, embracing flaws, and navigating the messy world of dating with grace. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about self-acceptance, the courage to be vulnerable, and the power of owning your story.   Learn more about Brittani Ard Here: https://brittaniard.com/about   Want To join my dating and healing program w/ exclusive clips and guest coaching from the show? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice  

This week Eli breaks down how we constantly end up with same type of people and how on a inner work level challenge yourself to uncover not only why you do so but how to break the cycle for good. All so you can finally have the healthy, mature love you so desperately deserve!    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Michele Locke, a dynamic divorce lawyer who’s lived every angle of family law—from navigating her parents divorce as a child to facing her own after 22 years of marriage. Michele shares her raw and inspiring journey with Eli, diving into how her life-altering decision to prioritize herself which led to profound transformation while sharing knowledge on Divorce as well. Michele talks how she turned pain into purpose while building a platform to empower others through her legal work, content and podcast, Love, Lust, Law. She offers candid insights on recognizing red flags in relationships, the power of saying “no,” and the importance of protecting your peace post-divorce.    Learn more about Michele Lock Here: https://www.michelelocke.com/   Want To join my dating and healing program w/ exclusive clips and guest coaching from the show? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In this raw and heartfelt birthday episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez opens up about his journey with mental health and its profound impact on love and life. Recorded just before his birthday getaway to Orlando, Eli shares how he’s taking a well-deserved break to reflect and celebrate with loved ones. With unfiltered honesty, he dives into the struggles of anxiety, depression, and self-doubt that once consumed him, revealing how facing those dark moments led to creating his transformative brand. Eli challenges the stigma around mental health, emphasizing that your worth isn’t diminished by your struggles—it’s amplified by your resilience. Tune in for an inspiring reminder that you can navigate adversity, seek love, and embrace your enoughness, no matter where you are in your journey. Get ready to feel seen and empowered! 💪   Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This week Eli we discuss men's mental health and so much more with Kristofer Goldsmith who is a combat veteran, investigative researcher, and nationally recognized expert on disinformation and domestic extremism. He is the founder of Task Force Butler Institute and the On Offense media project, and a co-host of the Find Out Podcast—platforms that use investigative journalism and viral content to expose authoritarian threats and mobilize grassroots action. Goldsmith leverages his voice to normalize progressive values and empower communities targeted by far-right movements. We talk fatherhood, mentorship and how to the hard moments shape your life for the better.    Learn more about Kristofer Here: https://www.krisgoldsmith.com/ His Story About Being A Nazi Hunter: https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/nazi-hunter-fascism-antifa-veteran-1234672732/   If you or someone is struggling please reach out to hotline below: For mental health support, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available by calling or texting 988. Additionally, the Crisis Text Line can be reached by texting TALK to 741741   Want To join my dating and healing program w/ exclusive clips and guest coaching from the show? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This week we are talking all things accountability! Why it so important, how to create a healthy inner child healing system around your own accountability and why men struggle with it. We dive into the nitty gritty so you can stop venting to your poor friends over and over again - so you can start doing the work of interpersonal healing like a boss!    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This week we are answering community questions! That is right! We are diving into answering questions about your musty, dusty, rusty man. Cheating, how to heal in ways no one talks about and more!    Want To Join My My Healing Program? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice