That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, and track emotional competency before you fall too fast. This episode isn’t about killing romance—it’s about making sure your heart doesn’t pay the price for fleeting attraction, and why slow-burn connections with intentional boundaries are the real game-changer.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice