Is it true that lesbian couples have the highest divorce rates? Are we really doomed—or just misunderstood? In this eye-opening episode of The Lesbian Love Podcast, relationship coach Pamela Gort (aka The Lesbian Love Coach) digs deep into the viral statistic that’s had the internet buzzing. You’ll uncover the truth behind the studies, the social and emotional dynamics that affect lesbian relationships, and—most importantly—what conscious love really looks like.
Whether you're married, dating, or U-Haul-curious, you'll walk away with powerful, practical strategies to protect your relationship from burnout, over-processing, and emotional overwhelm. Plus, learn how mental fitness rewires your mind for lasting love and deeper connection.
Chapters
00:00 Understanding Lesbian Divorce Rates
05:03 Debunking Myths and Misconceptions
10:00 The Role of Conscious Love
14:48 Actionable Advice for Healthy Relationships
Keywords:
lesbian divorce, lesbian marriage, lesbian relationships, lesbian couple advice, LGBTQ+ relationship coach, mental fitness for couples, same-sex divorce stats, conscious love, queer love coach, lesbian dating struggles, lesbian intimacy, lesbian love advice
Tags:
#LesbianLove #LGBTQPodcast #QueerRelationships #RelationshipCoach #LesbianMarriage #DivorceStats #MentalFitness #ConsciousLove #LesbianCouples #EmotionalIntimacy #LGBTQSupport
Podcast Summary: In this powerful episode of The Lesbian Love Podcast, Pamela Gort launches her “Lesbian Luminaries” series Episode #2 with a deep and inspiring conversation with Mary Ann Horton—transgender activist, speaker, author, and true trailblazer. Mary Ann shares her personal journey of self-discovery and transition, highlights her groundbreaking work to advance transgender equality in corporate America, and opens up about the emotional realities of living as her authentic self. From workplace advocacy, family dynamics and public education, Mary Ann’s story is rich with vulnerability, courage, and wisdom.
Her memoir, Trailblazer: Lighting the Path for Transgender Equality in Corporate America, serves as a central thread throughout the conversation and offers a must-read account of her pioneering journey. Whether you’re seeking to better understand the trans experience, exploring identity, or simply love great storytelling—this episode is not to be missed.
Detailed Breakdown: Questions Pamela Asked Mary Ann Horton
1. Can you share a little about your early life before transitioning? What were some defining moments?
2. What is your definition of transgender, and what does the term include?
3. What were the key phases in your transition journey, and how did you come to the decision to live full-time as Mary Ann?
4. How did your spouse respond to your desire to transition?
5. What are the four spectrums of identity you teach in your Transgender 101 presentations?
6. What was it like living a double life before you came out fully? How did that affect you emotionally and mentally?
7. Can you share the story of how you advocated for inclusive language in Lucent Technologies' non-discrimination policy?
8. What were some of the biggest obstacles you encountered during your transition?
9. How did your family, especially your sons, respond to your transition?
10. What challenges did you face attending places like church or school events as a trans parent?
11. Did you ever consider going back to presenting as male after transitioning? How did you know you were truly done with that part of your identity?
12. Do you find it difficult to revisit your past as a man while living fully as a woman today?
13. What inspired you to be an activist before you transitioned? What was your motivation?
14. Why did you decide to be “out” and visible as a trans woman instead of living stealth?
15. What inspired you to write your memoir Trailblazer?
16. How did you gather the data shown in the “ice cream cone” slide, and what does it reveal about the range of trans identities?
17. What advice would you give to someone considering transitioning?
18. What are the WPATH standards of care and why are they important?
19. How should we approach trans kids who are exploring their identity at a young age?
20. How do you respond to religious arguments that suggest being trans is a mistake?
21. How has society’s perception of transgender people evolved over the years?
22. How has media representation of transgender individuals changed, and why is that important?
23. How do you personally celebrate your identity today?
24. Why are pronouns important, and how can people make a respectful effort to use them?
25. Who did you write Trailblazer for, and who has been most impacted by it?
26. Can you share the letter you wrote to your mother when you came out, and her response?
27. What are some misconceptions about trans individuals you wanted to clear up in your book?
Connect with Mary Ann Horton:
Website: MaryAnnHorton.com
Book: Trailblazer: Lighting the Path for Transgender Equality in Corporate America (Available on Amazon & Google Play)
Speaking Inquiries: Via her website (small community groups or formal keynotes available)
Note: This was recorded on 9/1/23.
Welcome to The Lesbian Love Podcast special series, Lesbian Luminaries, where we dive deep into the stories, struggles, and triumphs of lesbians who are making a real impact—locally and globally. I’m Pamela Gort, also known as The Lesbian Love Coach, and I’m thrilled to bring you this special episode, kicking off our brand-new series celebrating the pioneers, activists, and trailblazers who have shaped our community.
And who better to start with than Dr. Bonnie Morris!
If you’re a history buff, a sports enthusiast, or simply someone who loves hearing about badass women breaking barriers, you’re in for a treat. Dr. Bonnie Morris is a powerhouse—an award-winning author, historian, and professor who has spent decades documenting and preserving lesbian culture and women’s history. She’s written over a dozen books, but today, we’re focusing on her latest: What’s the Score?—a deep dive into the hidden history of women’s sports and the lesbian athletes who’ve paved the way.
Women’s sports have always been a battleground for equality, but did you know just how deeply intertwined they are with lesbian history? In this episode, Dr. Morris shares fascinating, little-known stories of resilience, activism, and triumph—from the locker rooms to the Olympic podiums. She paints a vivid picture of what it was like for lesbian athletes who had to navigate homophobia, sexism, and the ever-present pressure to stay closeted while fighting for their place in the game.
But this isn’t just about the past. Dr. Morris also discusses the current state of women’s sports, the ongoing struggles for inclusion, and the pushback against LGBTQ+ athletes today. With the increasing politicization of sports and identity, these conversations have never been more relevant.
Beyond sports, we get personal. Dr. Morris opens up about her own journey—her early days as a student-athlete, the mentors who inspired her, and the moments that solidified her passion for preserving our history. We talk about why representation in sports matters, how lesbian visibility has evolved over the decades, and what we can do to continue advocating for change.
This episode is more than a history lesson; it’s a call to action. Whether you’re an athlete, a fan, or someone who simply wants to see justice and equality in every arena of life, Dr. Morris’s insights will leave you feeling inspired, informed, and ready to cheer even louder for the incredible women breaking barriers today.
So, get ready to step onto the court, into the locker room, and behind the scenes of some of the most game-changing moments in women’s sports history. Tune in, turn up the volume, and join me for this eye-opening conversation with the one and only Dr. Bonnie Morris.
Dr. Bon's website - https://www.bonniejmorris.com/
You can reach Dr. Bon at - https://www.bonniejmorris.com/contact
🎧 Listen now on The Lesbian Love Podcast!
Breaking Barriers in Women’s Sports: A Conversation with Dr. Bonnie Morris
Self-care is vital to our existence and yet many of us forget to do it. What self care techniques do you use and do you schedule them into your day and week? I share 5 of the sensual, in your body ideas to help you have a deeper experience of you. These tips will make you happier and in more ease and flow, especially #5 which is my favorite. I hope #5 is one you include at least weekly. It will make you a better lover and reduce your stress.
For a FREE copy of my ebook: 5 Ways To Love Myself Better: A Guide for Lesbian Self-Care, go to: https://lesbianrelationshipcoach.com/products/lesbianselfcare
What is self-care?
Meet Sally Green, The Self-Care Rockstar
What inspired your self-care journey?
Self-care is not selfish!
How it benefits us?
Habits to replace
Self-care practices - meditation, exercise in nature, healthier eating, art/hobbies, journal, sleep, social media breaks
Schedule time for things that bring you joy
Take care of your mental, physical & emotional state
Sally's gift to my listeners - Self-Care Rockstar Journal with 7-days of writing promptshttps://www.theselfcarerockstar.com/
Today I interview Cuyla Coogan who is an up and coming star in the Queer community. CUYLA is a Mindset & Fitness Coach who helps leaders live a liberated life. She helps those who have felt oppressed in their sexuality, gender or identity expression and helps them live a liberated life through mindfulness and fitness 1-1 and group coaching programs.
Cuyla is the founder of the Queer Leader Community where she offers free Facebook and LinkedIn groups along with a monthly mastermind to help solve our individual and collective challenges.
She is also the founder of the Purpose-Driven Party, the high vibe community for social impact where she brings together humans passionate about social impact eery month on a free party call with a LIVE DJ and facilitates breakout sessions to share resources and network with each other.
If you'd like a free call with Cuyla, schedule it here: https://calendly.com/cuylacoogan/cominghomecall?month=2021-02
Instagram.com/cuylacoogan
Facebook.com/cuylacoogan
free Facebook & LinkedIn groups for the queer community are:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/queerleadercommunity
https://facebook.com/groups/comingalivecommunity
https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13835628
For a complimentary call with The Lesbian Love Coach, schedule here: https://calendly.com/lesbianlovecoaching/complimentary-strategy-session
Breakups suck! But can they be transformational? I share my most recent breakup and what I went through. Then I outline 5 steps that will help you more easily and completely heal and make it out the other side.
I discuss how important forgiveness is to your current and future love relationships. We will explore:
What is forgiveness all about?
Why should you forgive?
Is anything unforgivable?
How to forgive easily and effectively?
- Write a letter to the person who offended you - mail it or burn it
- Call them and forgive them
- Ho'oponopono Practice
1. I'm sorry
2. Please forgive me/ (I forgive you)
3. Thank you
4. I love you
Book: Zero Limits - The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace & More by Joe Vitale
- The Forgiveness Diet
The Only Diet That Works - The Forgiveness Diet by Stacy Corrigan
https://phoenixrisingcollective.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/the-forgiveness-diet.pdf
Gratitude can be your best friend even with past relationships that have ended. Use a daily gratitude practice to celebrate all the gifts that life brings even during tough times. How my back injury and this pandemic have made me stronger.
In this podcast I share my process of getting your headspace right, preparing your online profile for success and how to engage online and offline for amazing dates and how to weed out the crazies.
For a free copy of my e-guide: Use code LOVE
https://lesbianrelationshipcoach.com/products/5-ways-to-find-keep-an-amazing-lesbian-relationship
My back story and what I learned from a 17 and 8 year relationship, 5 years of online dating and a ruptured disk
What this podcast is all about