You don’t have a purpose problem—you have a commitment problem.
Most high performers waste months (even years) searching for clarity, waiting for some “aha” moment before they take action. But purpose isn’t something you find—it’s something you activate.
In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why you feel stuck, how to move faster toward what you actually want, and the 3 mindset shifts that will change everything.
🎧 YOU’LL LEARN:
✔️ Why you STILL haven’t found your purpose (and what to do instead)
✔️ The sneaky way high performers sabotage their next level
✔️ How to move 10x faster & create massive momentum
✔️ The role of ego death in unlocking success
✔️ A 30-day challenge to help you build clarity & confidence—fast
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We’re baaaack, and life is coming at us FAST. Laura’s pregnant & engaged. I just announced my business partnership with Nolan at Deep River Jewelry—while also scaling Fully Alive.
And let’s just say… we’re both in a masterclass on identity shifts, surrender, and navigating massive life transitions in real-time.
In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on:
🔥 The grief & magic of outgrowing your old self (and why no one talks about this enough)
🔥 Navigating life at turbo speed (without spiraling into overwhelm)
🔥 What surrender actually looks like when you stop clinging to control (especially in relationships)
🔥 The evolution of partnership—romantic, business, and everything in between
🔥 How our friendship is shifting as Laura steps into motherhood (and what we’re learning from it)
This is one of those raw, unfiltered, behind-the-scenes conversations where we’re figuring it out as we go. If you’re navigating your own season of expansion (and occasional WTF moments), you’re gonna feel right at home.
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🎧 Hit play & let’s dive in.
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They say never mix love and business… but what if doing it right made both even better?
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the 4 must-have systems Nolan [my fiancé] and I have implemented while growing our luxury jewelry brand, Deep River Jewelry—so we can scale with success and keep our relationship stronger (and hotter) than ever.
Because let’s be honest—working with your partner can either be a dream or a disaster… and the difference? Systems.
If you’ve ever dreamed of working with your partner (or are already in it and want to make it better), this episode is for you!
🚀 YOU’LL LEARN:
✅ How we clearly define our individual zones of genius (so we don’t step on each other’s toes!)
✅ The 2 weekly meetings that keep both our business and relationship thriving
✅ The exact tools & systems we use to stay organized, streamlined, and sane
✅ The key tasks we outsource to free up more time, energy, and intimacy
🎧 Hit play and let’s dive in.
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For all my multifaceted ladiessss 🎙 If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck choosing between your passions, businesses, or which parts of yourself are “allowed” to show up online—this one’s for you.
Spoiler alert: You don’t have to choose.
In today’s episode, I’m spilling the tea with a leaked voice note from Slack office hours with a client (with permission, because it’s just that good). We’re walking through the exact steps to break out of the box and step into your next season: becoming the woman who has it all.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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We’re BACKKKKKK! Hi my loves, I’ve missed you! Laura (@itslaurapatriciamartin) & I sit down to have a girl chat & recap what tf happened in 2024. We dive into the lessons & blessings, as well as setting intentions for the year ahead.
Grab a journal, your poppi, and your bad self to listen in & use these prompts for your own 2024 reflection.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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IT HAPPENED 💍 We’re making it official! There’s a ring on it AND I have the man himself here to answer all your juicy questions, my fiancé, Nolan Sponsler.
In this episode, Nolan and I share the details on our engagement, plus we dive into what it takes to go all-in on a shared vision and make your relationship a true partnership—both in love and in business.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Exciting News In Personal Life & Business
5:50 How Did You Know You Were Ready To Get Engaged?
8:57 Did Stef Know?🙈 & About The Ring
16:37 What Does It Mean To Be Ready?
18:42 The Proposal Story (In Spain!)
22:44 What Has Shifted For Each Of Us Since We’ve Gotten Engaged?
34:07 Sharing A Vision: Our Partnership In Business
43:35 What Are You Most Excited For In The Future?
45:30 When’s The Wedding?!?
You’re a multi-passionate entrepreneur with a biiiig vision—and you’re ready to expand into more than one venture. But does adding new paths mean you’re drifting from your purpose? In this episode, learn how to align your mission across all your ventures so you can scale without scattering your focus or slowing down your impact. YOU’LL LEARN: - Identify your “through line” to unify every passion into one movement. - Fixed vs. fluid purpose - Strategies to stay laser-focused on your purpose while scaling. - BTS: How I scale 2 business under one clear movement. - Structure secrets to manage multiple ventures—minus burnout.
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome-Are You A Multi-Passionate Entrepreneur?
2:53 Combatting the Fear of “Losing Your Purpose” & Creating A Fluid Purpose
10:16 Personal Example-Playing With Sources of Wealth
13:37 The 3 Levels of Purpose
17:09 Tips to Manage Multiple Ventures
22:43 Stay In Touch, We Appreciate You!
We’re back baby!! After a quick pause (sorry, I’ve been getting engaged 💍), Laura @itslaurapatriciamartin and I sit down in-person to peel back the curtain on what’s actually been going down behind the scenes for the last month.
Plus, our take on breaking out of the coaching matrix, slowing down for sustainability, and handling identity shifts while getting sh*t done.
YOU’LL LEARN
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The time has finally come. In this episode, I sit down with none other than Jacqui—my angel mama, healer, coach, and absolute light in this world. We talk about one of the most powerful, yet challenging, aspects of motherhood: raising children to follow their true purpose, even if that means watching them struggle or fail along the way.
From breaking generational patterns, healing through divorce & breast cancer with grace, to releasing control as a parent, this conversation will inspire you to support your kids as they find their own path—even if that journey is messy.
YOU’LL LEARN:
RESOURCES DISCUSSED:
Our Fave Binaural Beats 10-Min Power Nap
TO DIVE DEEPER:
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 Hello From London & Introducing A VERY Special Guest
3:59 What Makes You Happy? The Significance of This Question.
11:03 Jacqui’s Passion For Research & The Brain
15:20 Trusting Your Loved One’s Self-Growth Journey
29:42 Breast Cancer Catalyzing Coming Back To Herself-Living A Full Life vs. Living A Fine Life
44:03 Navigating Familial Boundary Setting & Taking Time Daily To Connect With Your Heart
1:00:01 Listener Questions: Generational Cycles, Beauty Secrets & More
In this episode, I’m sharing the exact systems and mindset shifts I’m using to make sure my business + life are set up for taking 3 weeks off to travel throughout Europe.
Many talk about the ‘freedom lifestyle,’ but what does it actually take to live it?
Whether you're planning a trip, want an inside look at running a business + traveling, or just want to streamline your routine, I’m sharing alll the practical strategies to get organized so you can be PRESENT on your trip away.
YOU’LL LEARN:
MY NOTION TRAVEL DASHBOARD (FREE)
TO DIVE DEEPER:
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CHAPTERS
0:00 The Reality of Traveling Internationally While Running A Business
3:51 Where We’re Going & What We’re Doing On This Trip
5:03 Personal Life Mindset Shift-Tricking Your Body
7:55 Personal Life Systems-Packing Timeline, Planning Outfits & More Hacks
12:23 Business Mindset Shift-How Travel Really Enhances Your Business
15:11 ⚡️Your Understanding Of Your X-Factor Doesn’t Go Away, It Goes With You Everywhere⚡️
19:06 Business Systems-Pre-Batching Necessary Content, Setting Expectations, & Prepping A Key Project
23:46 Yes It Is A Dream…And It’s Also A Lot
25:06 What’s Coming Up!
WE BACK N DEEPER THAN EVER. Laura (@itslaurapatriciamartin) & I sit down for what we thought was going to be a ~comedic relief~ episode, yet turned into a deep chat on the hidden patterns of control and fear of love leaving that often show up for high-performing women. We explore how these patterns manifest in relationships, business, and personal growth. This conversation is all about surrendering and trusting in love, letting go of the need to control, and embracing the power of vulnerability.
Welcome back to another edition of #Unplugged, our monthly segment where we invite you into our raw, unfiltered girlchats on what we’re moving through in business, leadership, love, and life — bc let’s be real the world, needs a little more human.
It’s raw, it’s unhinged, it’s unplugged.
WE CHAT:
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All the time I have clients ask, “How do I make sure I feel the power of my purpose every day & not get distracted?!”
My answer? It’s way simpler than you think.
In this episode, I’m disclosing the 2 things I do every single morning to reprogram my subconscious & activate my purpose throughout the day, without spending hours on it, so you can set yourself up for kicking azzz in business & life.
YOU’LL LEARN:
Resources Mentioned:
TO DIVE DEEPER:
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome & The Significance of Mornings For Staying On Purpose
1:44 The Entrepreneur Trap of Diving Straight Into Work
2:50 The Trap of a 2-3 Hour Morning Routine
4:22 Crash Course: Basic Neuroscience of Mornings 101
7:20 Step 1-Create Your “Thrive List” & My Personal Non-Negotiables
9:43 Step 2-Identify Your “Buckets” & My Bucket Action Items
16:25 The Beauty of Habit Stacking
Yes, you can lead your team incredibly well—but can you lead yourself in the same way? Or in the past, have your business results come at the expense of your body, mind & spirit?
In this episode, we’re redefining what it means to the ‘boss’ of yourself & your business—without running yourself into the ground, burning out, or wearing how much you DO as a badge of honor.
If you’re ready to speed up your manifestations & go full send on your purpose for the rest of 2024, this one’s for you.
YOU’LL LEARN:
- The secret to faster manifestations
- How to lead without burnout
- 4 Archetypes of the Inner Boss
- Repairing trust with your inner ‘boss’
- Holy hustle vs. sacrificing your mind, body, spirit
- Why self love is actually the most efficient, time saving path.
TO DIVE DEEPER:
🌟 Ready to uncover your specific expertise, so you can get paid for your purpose?
💸 Book Your 1:1 X-Factor Analysis HERE.
⚡️ Snag the X-Factor Free Course HERE.
Ready to take your purpose and/or business to the next level? Apply to work together | HERE
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Mid-Year Check-In. What’s working?
2:53 Hard Truth: You Cannot Outsource Your Power & Why
5:58 Do You Trust Yourself To Lead Yourself? Feeling Safe In Your Leadership
11:21 Becoming The Boss of All Facets of Your Life Not Just Your Business
13:02 The 4 Shadow ‘Boss’ Archetypes
18:45 Reflection: Imagine Your Dream Boss
You know those people who just have 'it'? Their personal brand is beyond cookie cutter & generic — it makes a statement. They know exactly who tf they are & the value they bring. Oh, and they get paid well.
This isn’t by accident—it’s the power of their X-Factor.
In this episode, we unpack the 3 elements that define YOUR specific brand X-Factor—aka the unique value you bring to your industry that could not possibly be replicated—so you can articulate your genius, and get paid as the expert you know yourself to be
YOU’LL LEARN:
TO DIVE DEEPER:
🌟 Ready to uncover your specific expertise, so you can get paid for your purpose? 💸 Book Your 1:1 X-Factor Analysis HERE.
⚡️ Snag the X-Factor Free Course HERE
LET’S BE FRIENDS ON IG & TIKTOK:
CHAPTERS:
0:00 Introduction: Standing Out in Your Industry 3:04 The Importance of Harnessing Your Unique X-Factor 6:36 How Your X-Factor Allows Your Business To Go Far
9:44 The Three Key Pieces of Your X-Factor 14:00 The Everlasting Impact of Embracing Your Genius
15:29 FREE X-Factor Course & X-Factor Analysis Offerings
After helping over 100 clients find & get paid for their purpose, I am peeling back the curtain on the 4 key steps I have noticed almost every human goes through as they move from going through the motions of life to taking action on their purpose.
If you’re someone who’s felt the tug on your heart to live a greater life than just going through the motions — wake up, get to work, come home (too exhausted to do anything), repeat til you’re 65,
Or if you’re a business owner who LOVES the work they do, yet feel disconnected from their deeper mission & impact, then you’re exactly in the right place.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Hello & Overview of Today’s Episode.
3:24 Activating vs. “Finding” Your Purpose
5:20 Step One: The Vision
10:08 The Trade Off
14:47 Step Two: The Deeper Why
20:32 The Three Layers to Your Why
21:17 Step Three: The Snowball Effect
23: 35 Step Four: The Movement & Refined Skills
25:37 Action Item: Where Are You Currently in These Phases?
When is your body actually calling you to rest & slow down vs. when might “slowing down” be self-sabotage in disguise?
In this hot episode of Unplugged, YA GIRLLLS ARE BACK. Laura (@itslaurapatriciamartin) and I go live after a morning of essentially the most intense cramps of my life (TMI, but real), to get real about the cute dance between honoring your body through rest & honoring your personal commitments by showing up regardless.
We discuss how we manage our energy as entrepreneurs, the up level in personal responsibility that business requires, knowing when to rest, and the victim vs. leadership mentality.
It’s real, raw, and unhinged. Grab your matcha / cacao / kombucha, and let’s dive in.
WE DIVE INTO…
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You see all over social media, “Omg I just made $$ at the beach,” but how is it really done?!
In this episode, I am peeling back the curtain to share with you exactly what I did to generate multi 4-figures in sales & cash PLUS an opportunity straight off my vision board (listen to find out what it is 🤩) while on boating & beaching with my family on vacation.
Only working on average 30 mins / day with zero posts.
Truth is, my greatest intention in business is not only to make an impact through my purpose, but to setup structures that allow me to be fully presenttt with the people I love the most. Now, I’m sharing with you how to do the same.
YOU’LL LEARN:
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0:00 Hello & Overview of Today’s Episode.
1:57 I just got back from Family Vacation-What was my priority?
4:55 One of the coolest parts…What Happened on the Business Side.
7:17 What this “Week Off” looked like (REALISTIC).
11:01 How the Income & Opportunities Came About.
12:34 4 Tips To Achieve This
12:56 One-Speak Your Goals Aloud.
15:08 Two-Systems for Sustainable Success
17:53 Three-Creating a Memorable Mission
21:02 Four-Say YES
21:57 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going —> New Coaching Openings!
🚨 Alert: only listen if you want to be motivated & lit tf up by your purpose again ‼️ This one’s for you if you’ve felt a little far from your vision, lacking creativity, or stuck in a rut in your business.
You know there’s a massive vision & fire in your soul to create a movement that magnetizes millions, but for some reason you haven’t been feeling “on it” lately.
In this episode, we’re going to blast through your funk and equip you with the 6 steps to refocus & make that trip to funky town work in your favor so that you can get back to serving the mission you know you’re here to serve.
YOU’LL LEARN…
MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: Michael Singer's Weekly Talks | HERE
The Daily Stoic Book | HERE
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It’s officially my birthdayyyy!! In honor of another trip on this wild planet, I share with you my 4-part process for reflecting on the past year, anchoring in the lessons, and setting powerful intentions for the year ahead (awesome to use as your own personal mid-point reflection as we are smack in the middle of the year).
I take you through this process in REAL TIMEEE with me, as I share with you how my values have shifted, biggest milestones, moments that rocked my world, what I’d tell the younger version of me, and what I’m taking with me into the year ahead.
Grab your cake (or matcha), and let’s celebrate.
YOU’LL HEAR:
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You walk into the room with the kinda presence that leaves everyone wondering, “Who is THAT?!”
In this episode of the Fully Alive Podcast, we dive deep into how to use the art of magnetism to transform your networking game, so you can walk into any room absolutely confident, and attract the opportunities, clients, and impact you know you’re capable of.
YOU’LL LEARN:
🌟 Ready to uncover your specific expertise, so you can get paid for your purpose? 💸 Book Your 1:1 X-Factor Analysis HERE.
CONNECT WITH STEF
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You can also watch this episode on Youtube | HERE