Dating today can feel like a strange mix of hope, confusion and digital fatigue.
In this episode, I share why dating apps never really worked for me, what I’ve learned from countless awkward dates, and how I’m navigating connections differently now.
From Latin dance floors to language meetups, I walk you through the spaces that feel more natural to me when it comes to meeting people.
No quick fixes here, just honest thoughts and experiences.
Maybe you’ll hear something that makes your own dating path feel a little lighter.
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If you’ve ever felt too quiet, too sensitive, or too unsure to really connect while travelling, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I share what helped me move from isolated and unsure to feeling deeply connected, even as an introverted traveller.
You’ll hear about
• How communication became the foundation for real friendship
• How I choose people and spaces that actually feel safe
• And what helps with connections without burning out
If connection feels hard for you, you are not broken. You may just need a new way in.
Come listen. It’s not about being louder. It’s about being more you.
📲 Instagram: @connection_enthusiast
🌐 More of me: www.silbuch.de
I was never soft enough.
Never graceful enough.
Never “feminine” in the way the world seemed to reward.
For years, I thought that meant I was failing at being a woman.
In this episode, I open up about my journey to redefine femininity on my own terms, beyond the roles I thought I had to perform to feel a sense of belonging.
I share moments of shame, confusion, rebellion, and quiet clarity.
What does it mean to be a woman if you don’t fit the picture?
If you’ve been told you’re too much, too intense, too opinionated, too loud, maybe this is the conversation you didn’t know you needed.
I don’t have the final answer. But I know this:
I’m not interested in shrinking anymore.
And maybe you aren’t either.
🎧 Come join me in this honest unraveling.
📲 Let’s connect on Instagram: @connection_enthusiast
🌐 More of me: www.silbuch.de
This one’s for the women who’ve ever felt the quiet confusion after a casual connection, hoping for more and getting less.
In this episode, I share raw reflections on dating in Bansko's nomad scene: the hunger, the neediness, the red flags... and the moment I realised I was offering my body in hopes of earning real connection.
It’s not about shaming men. It’s about seeing clearly.
About calling back my energy.
About finally saying: my body isn’t for trade.
If you’ve ever felt unsafe, unsure, or unseen in dating — especially in so-called conscious communities — this one’s for you.
And yes, I might step on some toes.
But maybe it’s time we did.
Find more at www.silbuch.de and message me or follow on Instagram: @connection__enthusiast
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
This conversation changed me.
I sat down with a Black American woman and a Korean woman to discuss what it’s like to navigate the world in our different bodies.
We spoke about dating, stereotypes, safety, visibility, and how each of us has been shaped, sometimes praised, sometimes punished, for who we are.
And somewhere in that space between our stories, I started to understand something deeper about privilege.
Not as a weapon. Not as a shame-label.
But as a lens. A structure. A responsibility.
This episode isn’t about blame.
It’s about noticing.
About making space for voices we might not hear when we only stay in our own lane.
I’m still learning. I always will be.
But this moment — this conversation — opened something I want to keep open.
🎧 If that kind of opening speaks to you too, I’d love to hear from you.
📲 Instagram: @silbuch
🌐 More of me: www.silbuch.de
What happens when your dream of success turns into public pressure, online hate, and deep burnout?
In this raw solo episode, I share the untold story behind my former business, Be a Yogipreneur , how I rose quickly, became visible in the german yoga and spiritual scene, and then hit a wall.
I open up about the shitstorm I faced, the C-PTSD I was navigating, and how authentic relating and trauma therapy helped me rebuild trust in myself.
If you've ever felt afraid to speak your truth, worried you’re "too much," or unsure if your voice matters, this episode is for you.
Find more at www.silbuch.de and message me or follow on Instagram: @connection__enthusiast
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Let’s Start Again: 30 Day Podcast Challenge
What if I just started? What if I stopped waiting for perfect clarity and simply turned on the mic?
For the next 30 days I’m challenging myself to record a 10 minute podcast episode every single day. Not because I have the answers. Not because I’m trying to teach anything. But because I’m ready to step into the light with my voice, my stories, and my questions.
This is an open invitation to explore friendship, gender, and relationships not from a place of expertise, but from my lived experience. I’m not here to be right. I’m here to be real.
If you’re craving deeper conversations and a space where we can gently challenge the norms we’ve inherited, come along. Let’s unlearn, wonder, and connect.
Follow me on Instagram and share your thoughts: @connection__enthusiast
“I don’t think the spiritual coaching world is healing most people. In fact—I think it’s hurting them.”
The spiritual scene promises transformation, connection, and growth—and many of us come with open hearts, ready to heal.
Behind the polished Instagram quotes and cacao ceremonies, there’s a deeper truth: spiritual bypassing, unspoken power dynamics, and a growing culture of emotional gaslighting masked as “empowerment.”
In this raw and grounded episode, Silja shares her journey through yoga, tantra retreats, and the coaching industry—and what finally made her say: enough.
This episode isn’t about cynicism. It’s a wake-up call.
A reclamation of what healing was always meant to be: human, messy, relational, and real.
💬 Tune in if you’ve ever felt like something in the “healing” world didn’t sit right—but couldn’t quite name why.
Check out Siljas work: www.silbuch.de
Feeling awkward in social situations—even when you want to connect?
You’re not broken.
You’re likely just carrying a nervous system shaped by trauma.
In this episode, I unpack why human connection can feel so strange, scary, or overwhelming—especially if you've experienced emotional pain, rejection, or chronic loneliness.
✨ Learn how trauma impacts your ability to connect
✨ Discover why your “weirdness” is actually wisdom
✨ And explore a gentle path back into nourishing relationships—without pretending, fixing, or performing
We get hurt in connection.
But we can also heal in connection.
🌿 Want to practice real, honest connection in a safe space?
Join one of my Authentic Relating Game Nights in Lagos, Portugal – soulful evenings to meet others beyond small talk.
→ All details & dates: www.silbuch.de
💛 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who feels a little “weird” too.
You're not alone.
Have you ever felt unseen in a conversation—like the other person wasn’t really interested in you? 💭
Curiosity is the secret ingredient to friendships that feel deep, alive, and meaningful.
But too often, we hesitate to ask real questions, assuming we already know enough or fearing we might overstep.
In this episode, I explore:
✨ Why curiosity is essential for strong friendships
🔬 The science behind how asking questions builds trust & deepens connection
🎲 An Authentic Relating game that will help you practice deeper curiosity
💡 Practical ways to ask better questions & create richer conversations
🔊 Listen now & discover how curiosity can transform your relationships!
📍 Want to experience Authentic Relating in real life? Join my next Authentic Relating Game Night—a space to practice connection in a fun, meaningful way: www.silbuch.de
Why is it so damn hard to say no in friendships?
Why do I feel like the bad guy when I set boundaries or walk away from a connection that doesn’t feel right?
In this episode, I dive into my ongoing struggle with people-pleasing in friendships.
Saying no, disagreeing, or even ending friendships – these are moments when my desire to be liked kicks in hard.
I reflect on why setting boundaries is so difficult, how I’m learning to choose friendships with more intention, and why being a friend shouldn’t mean being a therapist or a coach.
If you’ve ever felt guilty for prioritizing yourself in friendships, this episode is for you. Let’s get real about connection, authenticity, and the messy beauty of it all.
Find me here: www.silbuch.de
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you're friends with the people in your life? Are they there by default, or did you choose them intentionally?
For most of my life, I didn’t think much about what kind of friendships I actually needed. I connected from a place of loneliness, afraid to set boundaries, thinking that being a "good friend" meant accepting everything, even when it hurt me. But something shifted when I started practicing Authentic Relating. I realized that true friendship isn’t about avoiding conflict—it’s about showing up fully, communicating openly, and trusting that connection can hold space for both joy and discomfort.
In this episode, I share my journey of moving from unconscious, scarcity-based friendships to deep, intentional connections. We’ll explore how to navigate triggers, set boundaries, and embrace the discomfort that comes with real, authentic relationships. Because friendship isn’t just about fun—it’s about growth, healing, and mutual support.
More about Silja: www.silbuch.de
Ever wondered what really happens at an Authentic Relating game night? In this episode, I take you inside my workshops, sharing not only the structure but also the deeper emotional layers behind them. From my own struggles with connection to the transformative power of play, I open up about what makes these nights so powerful.
We explore why vulnerability is at the heart of real connection, how our childhood wounds show up in relationships, and why laughter and lightness can be just as healing as deep emotional work.
If you've ever felt unsure about joining a workshop like this, I hope this episode dissolves some of that nervous energy and invites you into a world of authentic human connection.
Get ready for a mix of honesty, humor, and heartfelt reflection—I can’t wait to share this with you!
More to my work here: www.silbuch.de
I almost didn’t record this episode. Not because I didn’t want to—but because I was afraid it wouldn’t be good enough.
For years, I believed I had to be perfect in friendships and relationships—to never make mistakes, never disappoint anyone, never show the messy, human parts of myself. But I’ve learned something life-changing: Perfectionism doesn’t create connection. It kills it.
In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey with perfectionism and how it kept me from experiencing real closeness with others. We’ll talk about:
💛 Why perfectionism is just fear in disguise
💛 How I learned to let go of the need to be "perfect" in relationships
💛 The surprising way vulnerability leads to deeper, more meaningful connections
If you’ve ever felt like you have to earn love by being flawless, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about what happens when we stop striving for perfection—and start embracing the beauty of being real.
🎧 Listen now!
For years, I thought relying on others made me weak—until I realized it was the key to real freedom.
In this episode, I dive into why deep friendships don’t take away our freedom—they expand it. I’ll share how the myth of self-reliance keeps us disconnected, why meaningful friendships create real security, and what it actually takes to build relationships that nourish and support us.
Here’s what I explore in this episode:
✅ Why friendships are the strongest foundation in an unpredictable world
✅ How we’ve been conditioned to see dependence as weakness—and why that’s a lie
✅ The difference between deep friendships and casual connections
✅ Practical steps to build meaningful, lasting friendships
If you’ve ever felt the tension between wanting deep connection and fearing dependency, this episode is for you.
🌍 Come join me for the next Authentic Relating Game Night in Lagos! Let’s have real conversations, create meaningful connections, and experience what it’s like to truly be seen.
🔗 Learn more about my work: www.silbuch.de