You are not for everybody, and that’s the best news of your life. In this episode, we dive into the freedom that comes when you finally stop chasing universal approval and start showing up as who you really are.
Most of us confuse connection with validation. We’re so afraid of rejection that we shapeshift, hoping to be accepted by everyone. But validation without authenticity is fragile, it crumbles the moment you change context. Authenticity, on the other hand, creates stability and attracts the right people, the ones who actually see you.
As we close out Season 1 of The Adults’ Table, I reflect on what this season has taught me, the power of starting, and what’s coming next for Season 2.
If you’ve ever felt torn between fitting in and being yourself, this episode is your reminder: you’re not for everybody, and that’s exactly what makes you magnetic to the right people.
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Do you really hate socializing—or do you just hate certain kinds of socializing? In this episode of The Adult’s Table, I unpack my love/hate relationship with being around people.
As someone who often feels pressure to “be more social,” I share what it’s like to navigate friendships, connection, and introversion as an adult, especially after moving countries and hitting my 30s.
We’ll talk about why socializing feels draining sometimes, how to tell the difference between not liking people vs. not liking certain settings, and how to redefine what friendship and connection look like for you. If you’ve ever thought “I hate socializing” (or felt guilty for not wanting to go out), this conversation is for you.
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We all say we want to “be authentic,” but do we even know what that means? In this episode of The Adults’ Table, I dig into the real meaning of authenticity – beyond the Instagram quotes and overused buzzwords.
We’ll talk about why showing up as your true self is so difficult, how personas and validation shape who we think we are, and why belonging often clashes with authenticity.
You’ll hear about the shadow side of your personality, the friction you’ll face from family and friends, and why being authentic can sometimes feel selfish (but isn’t).
If you’ve ever felt torn between being accepted and being yourself, this conversation is for you.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the real meaning of discipline and why it’s the key to true freedom, especially if you don’t consider yourself naturally disciplined or full of willpower.
We break down the myths around discipline, showing it’s not about punishment or living a strict, joyless life. Instead, discipline is about self-respect, honoring your commitments, and taking responsibility for your own growth.
Whether you’re struggling to stick to your goals, tired of feeling like a victim of your circumstances, or just want to level up your consistency, this conversation is for you.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
We’ll also discuss insights from James Clear’s “Atomic Habits,” Steven Pressfield’s “The War of Art,” and practical tips for organizing your life, even if you’re not naturally organized.
If you’re ready to stop making excuses, take ownership of your life, and finally build the discipline you need to achieve your goals, pull up a chair and join the conversation.
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You are creative. Even if you’ve convinced yourself otherwise. In this episode, I’m breaking down why creativity isn’t just for “artists” or “geniuses” — it’s a force that lives in all of us.
I share why so many of us stopped believing we were creative, how resistance shows up to block our ideas, and why we confuse creativity with inspiration, artistic talent, or being disruptive.
Then, I’ll walk you through what creativity really is, and how you can start inviting it back into your life – whether that’s at work, in your art, or just in the way you solve everyday problems.
If you’ve ever said “I’m just not a creative person,” this conversation is for you.
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Feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore?
If life feels unfamiliar, if you’re questioning your path, your choices, or even yourself – you might be in an identity crisis. And that’s exactly what we’re unpacking in today’s episode of The Adults’ Table.
We’ll explore:
Whether you’re 16 or 60, you’re not alone in this. Identity crises are part of our developmental process, and embracing them can actually expand our consciousness and bring us closer to who we truly are.
So, come have a seat at The Adults’ Table, and let’s talk about what it really means to answer the question: “Who am I?”
You can’t have it all at the same time, but you can have what matters. In this episode, I’m breaking down the myth that happiness means having every area of your life at its peak all at once – and replacing it with something more realistic: focus on what you truly value.
But first, you have to know what that is… and be willing to accept the consequences of choosing it.
What we’ll talk about:
Coming to terms with the fact that time and energy are limited resources
How to figure out what your true priorities are
Owning your priorities, and the consequences of choosing them
Aligning your actions with what actually matters
Re-thinking what you say yes (and no) to
Maximizing your time so you can do more of what matters
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We often romanticize relationships so much that we lose touch with reality. In this episode, I share 20 honest truths about love: the beautiful, the difficult, and the ones no one talks about.
Whether you’re single, dating, or married, these insights will help you see relationships more clearly and build something that lasts. We’ll cover:
Come have a seat at The Adults’ Table, and let’s get real about relationships!
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02:55 Do You Really Want a Relationship?
11:51 A Relationship Is Between 4 People
19:11 Adjusting to a Healthy Relationship
21:39 Independence and Making Space for a Partner
28:34 Why Disagreements Can Be Healthy
31:41 Love as a Conscious Choice
33:38 When Your Partner Becomes Your Family
38:57 Growing in Love Over Time
40:36 Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness
Whether you live abroad, dream of it, or love someone who does – this episode is for you.
In our first roundtable, I sit down with Glauci Fernandes and Nathália Santos Lohmann, two brilliant women who’ve built international careers and have been living abroad for over a decade.
We talk about the highs, the hard parts, and what it really takes to build a life that feels like your own, even far from home
00:00 Introduction to the Guests
05:29 Planning vs. Spontaneity in Moving Abroad
13:45 The Emotional Challenges of Living Abroad
30:33 Raising Children in a Foreign Land
37:04 Cultural Barriers and Family Dynamics
38:14 Raising Bilingual Children
40:07 Maintaining Connections with Family Abroad
44:01 Building Friendships in a New Country
51:24 Humbling Experiences of Living Abroad
58:01 Navigating Language and Accent Challenges
01:10:07 Final Thoughts and Advice for Living Abroad
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Join us at The Adults' Table for a captivating conversation with Edmar Ferreira – a tech entrepreneur, investor, and co-founder of Coeus Ventures, a cutting edge Venture Studio dedicated to creating AI-driven companies.
In this episode, Edmar explores the future of AI, the inherent paradoxes in technological progress, and the ethical questions that arise as we advance.
05:12 You are not special, but you can still create
22:30 Personal career insights
31:34 The Limits of Technology and Society
33:03 The Evolution of Human Challenges
34:28 The Impact of Intelligence and Technology
42:19 The Role of Struggle in Human Growth
48:56 The Potential and Risks of AI
52:08 The Future of Education with AI
55:33 Concerns About Power Concentration
01:00:55 Final Thoughts and Advice in the era of AI
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A freestyle conversation covering Bad Bunny ticket manifestation, Justin Bieber internet drama, marathon training as mental discipline, Tyler the Creator's creative wisdom, and why you have to be careful with your desire to save others.
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Sometimes the biggest thing standing between us and what we want… is us.
Not because we don’t care, or aren’t capable, but because fear and self-protection run deeper than we realize.
In this episode, we explore the quiet, often unnoticed ways we get in our own way.
From perfectionism and procrastination to over-planning and fear of success, I break down how self-sabotage works – and how to catch it with curiosity instead of judgment.
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From short bobs to lip fillers to “that girl” aesthetics, beauty can feel like nothing more than the ability to conform to what’s considered desirable. In this episode, I offer a different perspective: what if real beauty is the enjoyment of being who you are, without naively dismissing the role of external appearance?
I talk about how true beauty comes from awareness and self-confidence, and how to build both.
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The real reason we all want to look alike
What separates magnetic people from the merely pretty
Why honoring your word to yourself is the most underrated glow-up
How to stop outsourcing your worth to strangers online
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We’ve been sold the dream: Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life. But is that true?
In this episode, I get honest about how chasing your “passion” can sometimes be a trap. We’ll talk about the difference between a job, a career, a hobby, and a vocation, and how fulfillment can show up in surprising ways.
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We lose so much in life by avoiding the amateur phase. In this episode, I dive into our collective fear of being seen as inexperienced or not good enough, and how that fear stops us from becoming who we want to be.
From childhood praise to social media pressure, we explore how self-image is formed and how deeply it affects the risks we’re willing to take.
If you’ve ever held back on a dream or a hobby because you didn’t want to look “clownish,” this conversation is for you.
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Bad Bunny isn’t just topping charts. He’s reshaping how we see Latin identity, masculinity, and giving voice to multiple generations.
In this episode, I share my take on how Bad Bunny has been constructed as an artist, why his work resonates so deeply, and the layers behind his most recent album, Debí Tirar Más Fotos.
Part cultural analysis, part personal reflection, this is a conversation around culture and authenticity.
00:00 Intro
4:59 Who Is Bad Bunny?
7:42 Relatability & Projection: How People Become Famous
10:20 Why Is Bad Bunny So Famous?
17:20 The Cultural Context When Bad Bunny Became Famous
21:39 The Relationship Between The US and PR
28:00 Living Abroad and The Search For Identity
40:44 Analyzing Debí Tirar Más Fotos
44:22 The People Behind Debí Tirar Más Fotos
48:30 Visual Storytelling: El Club, Pitorro de Coco, DTMF Short Film
52:50 The Symbols Behind DTMF
01:00:29 Fashion & Marketing
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In this heartfelt and empowering conversation, I sit down with my friend Glauci Fernandes – an accomplished program leader with a global career at companies like Disney and Mattel, and now, a mother navigating purpose and ambition with grace. Glauci opens up about moving abroad, learning to lead in different cultures, and how motherhood reshaped her view of success and identity. We also dig into the pressure women feel to “choose” between career and family, and why Glauci believes becoming a mother made her more creative, more productive, and more powerful.If you’ve ever felt torn between ambition and motherhood, or unsure if the timing of your life matches society’s expectations, this one is for you!
00:00 Introducing Glauci: Global career, big transitions, and building community
2:30 What does a program manager do?
4:08 Ambition, moving abroad, and working in the US and Brazil 10:16 Ambition and motherhood 13:15 Meeting your partner in your 30s
16:15 Having kids in your 40s & realizing what really matters
23:00 Traveling the world
27:03 Maternity leave and the 1st year after having a baby
34:00 Learning to be ok with what we can't control
36:00 Are good mothers always "selfless"?
40:15 The maternal instinct
42:28 Your kid makes you want to live longer
44:04 Guilt and control
46:30 Advice to future mothers and women afraid of losing their careers
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Anger has a purpose. It’s not evil, it’s not shameful — and if you know how to listen to it, it can become one of your greatest tools for change.
In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we unpack how many of us were taught to reject anger and other so-called “negative” emotions, and what happens when we don’t.
I also walk you through six types of anger (yes, six!), why you might be angry at someone when you’re really angry at yourself, and how inherited anger plays out in our adult lives.
If you were taught that good people don’t get angry — this one’s for you.
00:00 The truth about anger
01:26 Why we fear negative emotions
02:10 Anger as fire: how it can burn or empower you
03:02 Boundaries, forgiveness, and the fuel to move on
04:09 You don’t need to be more positive — just real
05:29 The six types of anger (Bert Hellinger)
09:53 How to process and integrate your anger
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In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we dive into one of the hardest lessons in relationships: accepting people for who they are — not who we wish they’d be.
Whether it’s in friendships, partnerships, or group dynamics, we often exhaust ourselves expecting others to mirror our efforts, give what we give, or show up the way we do.
But the truth is: people give what they have to give. And sometimes, they just don’t have what we’re asking for.
I talk about why understanding this can save you frustration, how to stop keeping score, how to own your role in a group, and how to communicate your needs without expecting others to change. Oh, and yes — I use a snake and a dog metaphor. Don’t judge me ’til you hear it.
00:00 People give what they have to give
01:27 Group roles
02:45 Embrace your role (if you’re good at it)
04:18 “Accept it, and it will hurt less”
07:42 Let people deal with consequences
09:31 Accepting isn’t the same as allowing
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People pleasers aren’t just “nice”. They’re manipulators. I know that’s hard to hear, but I’m saying it because I need to hear it too.
In this episode, we’re unpacking the truth behind people-pleasing: why it’s not as selfless as it seems, how it disconnects you from your true self, and how it’s ultimately a form of control rooted in the fear of being unloved.
If you’ve ever found yourself constantly saying yes, avoiding conflict, or becoming whoever someone else needs you to be just to feel safe... this episode is for you.
00:00 Intro
1:11 why are we people pleasers?
5:12 why it’s hard to change
6:01 manipulating others
9:24 you’re loved for who you are