At 28, Nelly Naisula made a choice most African women are told is too bold — she decided she never wants children, and made it permanent by tying her tubes.
In this unapologetic, real-talk conversation, Nelly opens up about:
Sis, motherhood has always been sold as the ultimate “you’ve made it” badge for women… but lately, more and more young African women are asking, “Is it actually for me?”
In this unfiltered convo, we’re pulling up a chair for both sides:
The mamas — riding the rollercoaster of pregnancy, childbirth & those sleepless newborn nights
The child-free queens — owning their choice, breaking traditions & building life on their own terms
From cultural pressure to the price tag of raising a child, to the new definitions of legacy & fulfillment — this two-part heart-to-heart gets real.
What if you could test for STDs from the comfort of your own room—no awkward clinics, no judgment, no waiting weeks for results?
This week on That’s What She Said, we’re joined by biotech innovator Violette Defourt, the brilliant mind behind a 15-minute at-home STI self-test kit that’s changing the game for young women everywhere.
Let’s be real—STDs are awkward to talk about, but silence is way worse.
Too many of us are navigating our sexual health in the dark because of stigma, fear, or straight-up lies we were told in school (or never told at all ).
Think only “promiscuous” people get STDs? Think you'd definitely know if you had one?
Think again.
In this episode, we break the shame and spill the facts:
Sis… can we talk?
Sex is everywhere — in the music, the memes, the movies. But when it comes to actually talking about it? It’s still whispers, awkward silences, and way too much guesswork.
From the gaps in sex ed to the pressure to perform, to reclaiming pleasure as a right (not a reward) — we’re unlearning, unpacking, and saying it all. No filters. No shame. Just real talk.
If you’ve ever felt confused, silenced, or lowkey faking it — this one’s for you.
Sis… can we talk?
Sex is everywhere — in the music, the memes, the movies. But when it comes to actually talking about it? It’s still whispers, awkward silences, and way too much guesswork.
From the gaps in sex ed to the pressure to perform, to reclaiming pleasure as a right (not a reward) — we’re unlearning, unpacking, and saying it all. No filters. No shame. Just real talk.
If you’ve ever felt confused, silenced, or lowkey faking it — this one’s for you.
We live in a patriarchal society—and the thing about patriarchy? It eats its own children.It protects abusers, and punishes survivors. It teaches us to be quiet, to endure, and to blame ourselves when things go wrong.In this episode, we sit down with Njeri Migwi founder Usikimye to unpack how deeply this system runs—from the way we silence survivors, to how we excuse violent men as “good guys who made a mistake.”
LET'S BE REAL GUYS....We need to talk... About the questions that come before compassion. About the whispered judgments. About how survivors become suspects in their own stories. In this episode, we unpack the toxic culture of victim blaming—why it persists, how it silences women, and what it means to finally believe survivors without conditions. Because the truth is: women don’t get assaulted because of what they wore. They get assaulted because someone chose to hurt them.
You don’t need therapy, you need prayers.” “It’s not depression, it’s demons.”
Sound familiar?
In this powerful, unfiltered episode of That’s What She Said, we’re holding a mirror to the cultural silence and shame around mental health. We’re unpacking the emotional trauma passed down through generations, the pressure to always be “the strong one,” and how religion is often used to replace — instead of support — real healing.
We’re talking toxic family dynamics, emotional labor, spiritual gaslighting, and why so many African girls are suffering in silence.
You don’t need therapy, you need prayers.” “It’s not depression, it’s demons.”
Sound familiar?
In this powerful, unfiltered episode of That’s What She Said, we’re holding a mirror to the cultural silence and shame around mental health. We’re unpacking the emotional trauma passed down through generations, the pressure to always be “the strong one,” and how religion is often used to replace — instead of support — real healing.
We’re talking toxic family dynamics, emotional labor, spiritual gaslighting, and why so many African girls are suffering in silence.
This week on That’s What She Said, we sit down with popular Kenyan influencer Lydia Wanjiru, who opens up like never before.
In a world where women’s bodies are constantly policed, praised, and picked apart — Lydia shares her raw and deeply personal journey with body image, bullying, and her decision to get on Ozempic after years of struggling in silence.
From rangi ya thao to mkorogo creams, skinny teas, and snatched waists — today’s beauty standards are wild, expensive, and sometimes even dangerous.
We’re asking the uncomfortable questions:
Why are we still bleaching in 2025?
Would you still want a BBL if men weren’t watching?
Can you be “that girl” without changing yourself?
It’s real, it’s raw, it’s personal — and it’s the conversation we all need to have.
This week on That’s What She Said, we sit down with popular Kenyan influencer Lydia Wanjiru, who opens up like never before.
In a world where women’s bodies are constantly policed, praised, and picked apart — Lydia shares her raw and deeply personal journey with body image, bullying, and her decision to get on Ozempic after years of struggling in silence.
From rangi ya thao to mkorogo creams, skinny teas, and snatched waists — today’s beauty standards are wild, expensive, and sometimes even dangerous.
We’re asking the uncomfortable questions:
Why are we still bleaching in 2025?
Would you still want a BBL if men weren’t watching?
Can you be “that girl” without changing yourself?
It’s real, it’s raw, it’s personal — and it’s the conversation we all need to have.
We live in a patriarchal society—and the thing about patriarchy? It eats its own children. It protects abusers, and punishes survivors. It teaches us to be quiet, to endure, and to blame ourselves when things go wrong.
In this episode, we sit down with Njeri Migwi founder Usikimye to unpack how deeply this system runs—from the way we silence survivors, to how we excuse violent men as “good guys who made a mistake.”
LET'S BE REAL GUYS....We need to talk... About the questions that come before compassion. About the whispered judgments. About how survivors become suspects in their own stories. In this episode, we unpack the toxic culture of victim blaming—why it persists, how it silences women, and what it means to finally believe survivors without conditions.
Because the truth is: women don’t get assaulted because of what they wore. They get assaulted because someone chose to hurt them.
In this powerful final part of the episode, we sit down with Dr. Stella Bosire to explore the deep-rooted cultural and religious beliefs that make women feel ashamed for making informed choices about their bodies.
Why is it so hard to talk about reproductive health in African households?
And what happens when culture starts controlling care?
From maternal health to policy gaps and personal stories — this one peels back the layers.
It’s raw. It’s bold. And it’s the convo you didn’t know you needed.
Sis… who lied to us?!
We’re breaking down all the contraceptive myths that STILL shape how women protect themselves — or don’t.
From “the pill makes you infertile” to “condoms ruin the vibe” and everything in between, we unpack why so many of us are scared of contraception and left to figure it out alone.
It’s messy. It’s real. It’s the truth we wish we learned earlier.
When is the right time to talk about sex with teens? Why do so many girls feel clueless? And why are we STILL more scared of a baby than an infection?
Let’s be honest...
Most of us were raised hearing “don’t get pregnant” — but no one ever talked about STIs, pleasure, or protection that actually works.
In this part we’re getting into the fear, confusion, and shame that surrounds sex, pregnancy, and family planning — especially for young women.
In this powerful final part of the episode, we sit down with Dr. Stella Bosire to explore the deep-rooted cultural and religious beliefs that make women feel ashamed for making informed choices about their bodies.
Why is it so hard to talk about reproductive health in African households?
And what happens when culture starts controlling care?
From maternal health to policy gaps and personal stories — this one peels back the layers.
It’s raw. It’s bold. And it’s the convo you didn’t know you needed.
