I took a year off from drinking, dating, and going out — and it completely changed how I see myself. In this episode, I’m sharing how slowing down helped me find real happiness and start choosing what actually feels right for me.

In this episode, I open up about my self-love discovery and journey. For most of my life, I lived in doubt, fear, and anxiety — just trying to survive. It wasn’t until I made one small change that everything started to shift. I didn’t even realize I was beginning a self-love journey; I just knew I wanted something to change. Now, after committing to meditation and self-awareness, I finally understand what it means to truly love myself. If sharing my story or the tools that helped me can comfort or inspire someone else, then it’s all worth it. This episode is raw, heartfelt, silly and real — enjoy.

#selflove #mentalhealthawareness #mindfulness #selfcare #loveyourself #healing #inspiration #positivevibes #growth #real

He set the time, made the plan, then canceled last minute — and I still felt calm. Because the goal wasn’t the date, it was to see how he’d show up. This episode is about emotional growth, detachment, and remembering that how someone treats you is their reflection, not your value.

#GrowthJourney #Storytime #EmotionalGrowth #DatingTruths #StandardsNotSettling #SelfRespect #HealingPath #BoundaryEnergy #LettingGoStrong #PeaceWithin

So many of us pour into others without realizing we’ve run empty ourselves. This episode is about taking your power back, filling your own cup first, and remembering: you can’t overflow if you’re running on fumes.

Instagram: @ spillingtea_quila Personal Instagram: @ ariannacantor_TikTok: @ spillingteaquilaPersonal TikTok: @ ariannacantor #SelfLove #MentalHealthMatters #SelfCareFirst #EmotionalWellbeing #PourIntoYou #HealingJourney #DontBurnOut #FillYourCup #YouMatter #InnerWork

In this episode, I open up about how deeply insecure I felt throughout my 20s and the ways it shaped me. Ironically, as I step into 30, I’ve never felt more confident in who I am. I’m grateful for the lessons, the mistakes, and even the struggles, because they’ve all led me to this version of myself. If you’ve ever felt lost in your 20s, this one’s for you.

This episode is about why being “unattainable” is actually fake, exhausting, and not confidence at all. I’ve struggled with this pressure to be the girl no one can have, but the truth is I’m not built for games. I’m built for honesty — and I’m tired of dating being a mind f*ck just because people are scared to say what they want.

In this episode, I dive into how every ending in my life has actually been an upgrade in disguise—and why breakups don’t mean you’re losing, they mean you’re leveling up

Insert

In this episode, I dive into why it’s actually dramatic to believe we can’t change our own lives. I share stories from times when I felt stuck, convinced things would never shift, and how I slowly retrained my mind to see my power differently. If you’ve ever felt like change is impossible, this conversation will remind you that you hold more control—and more choice—than you think.

In today’s funeral for the ego we discuss how we’re happy that the ego is no longer with us. Ego only held us back from living our most genuine life. Grab a glass of tequila & dive into the why your ego should pass away too :)

In this episode, I dive into why surface-level living just doesn’t cut it. From friendships to dating to career, I share personal experiences that pushed me to crave more depth, more truth, and more meaning. Society loves to keep us comfortable with the bare minimum — but I believe that’s boring. Life gets so much more exciting, fulfilling, and real when we stop settling for surface level and start demanding depth.

Everyone talks about toxic breakups — but what about the ones that seem healthy? In this episode, I’m opening up about a relationship that didn’t end in cheating or chaos… but in denial, ego battles, and emotional confusion. From gaslighting wrapped in gifts to trying to shrink myself for a version of love I didn’t want to settle for, I share the raw truth about knowing when it’s time to walk away — even when nothing’s technically “wrong.”

We dive into why so many of us get stuck in potential, how ego sabotages even the kindest endings, and why it’s okay to admit a relationship isn’t aligned. Whether you’ve been ghosted, gaslit, or just scared to disappoint someone you love — this one’s for you.

Let me take you back to the moment I caught feelings way too fast, idealized a man after one hookup, and basically scared him all the way off the planet. This episode is about that situationship—the one where I created a whole love story in my head… and he just disappeared.

I reflect on how our standards are built from past pain, how "acting cool" isn't always strength—it’s fear, and why humility in dating doesn’t mean abandoning self-respect. This is for anyone who’s fallen too fast, over-shared too soon, or scared someone away by being too real.

You’re not crazy. You’re just human. And maybe a little delulu.

This episode is for anyone who didn’t grow up with a picture-perfect dad — or any father figure at all. I’m opening up about my complicated relationship (or lack of one) with my father, the impact it had on my self-worth, relationships, and healing journey, and why I’ve stopped letting those wounds define who I am.

We talk daddy issues, real healing, inner child work, and why you don’t owe anyone a relationship just because of blood. Whether you’ve reconnected, cut ties, or are somewhere in between — this one’s for you.

Let’s talk about the not-so-pretty side of female friendships—the jealousy, the gossip, the fake support. In this episode, I’m sharing the real stories behind the drama, the confusion, and the moments that made me ask, “What’s wrong with me?” Spoiler: it wasn’t me. If you’ve ever been betrayed by another woman, felt left out, or questioned your worth because of a friend group… you’re not alone. This one’s for the girls who are ready to heal, grow, and stop shrinking to make other women comfortable.

This week, I'm talking about what it really means to choose yourself. From feeling powerless in past relationships to learning how to grow without dragging others along, this episode is a guide for anyone who’s done with settling and ready to thrive. I’m spilling my truth about obsessive dating habits, relationship trauma, and why this summer is all about me. If you’re single AF and reclaiming your peace—this one’s for you.

Let me take you back to my 20th birthday — my first-ever trip to Miami. Picture this: me and my best friend taking airport shots at 7am , somehow not getting kicked out, and heading straight into chaos.

This episode is about the messy, unfiltered party girl era we all had (or needed), the red flags we ignored in the name of “love,” and why birthdays, booze, and toxic men don’t mix. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and it’s a reminder of how far I’ve come.

Is codependency ruining your relationships—without you even realizing it? In this episode, we get real about the emotional pressure we put on our friends, family, partners, and even coworkers when we don’t know how to self-regulate. I dive into personal stories, self-drag, and hard truths about why codependency isn’t love—it’s fear wearing perfume.

From crying over slow replies to cutting people off for not reading your mind, we unpack how emotional dependency shows up and why it always leads to chaos. Whether you’ve been the overly-attached one or had people rely on you like their emotional life raft, this episode is your wake-up call with a side of humor and healing.

If you’ve ever confused attention with affection, this one’s for you.

In this heartfelt episode where I still add humor, I delve into my personal journey from self-shaming to self-loving, sharing the challenges and triumphs of overcoming deep-seated body image issues. We'll explore the societal pressures that fuel body dissatisfaction, the mental tools that have aided my healing, and how spirituality has played a role in embracing my authentic self.​What to Expect:-Real talk on the impact of societal standards on self-worth-Practical mental tools and affirmations for body acceptance-Insights into the connection between spirituality and self-love-A light-hearted segment on current pop culture moments related to body positivity​Whether you're on your own path to self-acceptance or seeking to understand the complexities of body image, this episode offers a blend of vulnerability, empowerment, and a touch of humor.​Join the conversation and let's navigate the journey to self-love together.

She’s back and spicier than ever—my good friend (and third-time guest!) Tori returns to the mic for a hilariously honest convo about dating delusions, friendship glow-ups, and the hold some men try to put on us (and why it must be broken). 👏We’re spilling all the Hot Girl Summer energy in this one—from dream dates and embarrassing situationships to summer vibe check-ins, red flag realizations, and the real reason you still think about that one man who did nothing special.Whether you're thriving solo, navigating “it’s complicated,” or manifesting luxury-standard love—this episode will have you laughing, reflecting, and raising your standards higher than ever. 💅Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more spicy, soulful convos. And tag your delulu bestie—you know the one.

Ever felt judged, attacked, or misunderstood—only to realize later… it wasn’t even about you? This episode dives into projection—how other people throw their baggage at you (and how you might be doing it too).