This episode’s guest is Sera Jayne! Sera is a musician, worship pastor, works with an up north sauna company, and is an absolutely beautiful human. Sera blew us away in this episode and you can tell by the energy we have throughout, how much this conversation inspires us.
Sera speaks on their coming out journey and how deconstructing Christianity has led them to finding a new safe space in the form of a church. Andi and Mar share a bit about their own journeys with deconstructing Christianity and redefining what spirituality means to them.
We discuss the illusion of comfort in having control, why change is so scary, and where that actually stems from systemically in our society.
“Everything that’s living is changing.”
We ask questions like, are we meant to understand all the variables? How would it feel for us to just be okay with not having all the answers? What is Christianity or spirituality supposed to feel like?
Sera offers a super great tip that involves 6 questions they choose to ask themselves when they are in a place where they are feeling anxious or out of control.
Sera gives meaning to the root causes of the need for control in our society, specifically for white people; “the centering desire for control, is rooted in internalized colonialism,” and we decided we need an entire episode to talk deeper on this subject.
Cally and Sera dive into their passion for music and how it relates to their lives spiritually. We get the honor of hearing some updates on music they are both gracing the world with very soon.
“We are just music making music.”
Sera shares:
Michael Gungor & The Liturgists podcast
Find Sera @sera.jayne on Instagram
In this episode, two of the Sol Women (Cal + Mar) interview an amazing community leader in the mental health world; the lovely Amy K. Among many things, Amy is the CEO and creator of the event production company “Beautiful Bipolar.” She curates healing, mental health, and wellness events that bring resources, peace, and support to the local community of New Orleans and surrounding areas. This warrior of a human believes that community care IS self-care and that we all have the potential to be more caring and compassionate towards ourselves and others.
The SW talk with Amy about her past as a photography student, a well-known sports journalist for ESPN, as well as what led her to pursue a path in wellness, and what her mental health journey has looked like this far. You’ll hear about stereotypes and common stigmas around Bipolar, and what it’s like to be in a job where women are a minority.
You can learn more about Amy K. and future healing events through her Instagram @beautiful.bipolar or listen to her new radio show “The Beautiful Bipolar Power Hour” 102.3 WHIV every Thursday at 1pm.
“Kindness isn’t Corny”
The Sol Women express their fears and changes of habit when it comes to COVID and share their opinions on the way things have felt for them in this ongoing pandemic. The guilt, fear, and PTSD that can go along with something that drastically changes the way people live their lives is something worth talking about. The SW continue to do their best to stay safe, educated, and mindful during these trailing times.
This episode goes down a path about trusting their own process and learning how to trust themselves within the process of life. The SW go into how they continue to trust their own unique processes even after failure or imperfection, and what motivates them to keep going. They also talk about the struggles of staying motivated at times when their journey doesn't look exactly how they expected it to. Humans are adaptable and the Sol Women agree that's one of the best parts of experiencing life as a human being.
We want to thank you, as always, for being apart of this journey and process with us. If you have any questions, comments, or episode ideas, we love to hear from you. xx
This quick episode is to open eyes and hearts regarding the natural disaster, Hurricane Ida, hitting New Orleans on the 16th anniversary of Hurricane Katrina. One of the Sol Women, Cally and her partner Albert, are New Orleans residents and Cally talks about their experience with evacuating their home and what everything has looked like since Ida hit their city. Please do what you can to donate and educate yourselves on what's happening in New Orleans. There are so many people's lives affected by this, some more disproportionately than others, and some that haven't even recovered since Katrina hit 16 years ago. This city needs our help and our attention.
Here is a spreadsheet of all the places in which you can help and donate:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/109DJha4aQU-Hku5_RfIYw110CrLJ02_wWzHu4ScRGzM/htmlview
Cally has a resilient attitude in this episode and sheds light on the impact gratitude can have in moments like these. She speaks on what gratitude practices look like and she gives some incredible journal prompts for the listeners to begin or add to their own gratitude practice. She also talks about the group she started called Ripple, where she leads breath-work classes and more, and gives ways in which the listeners can join and be apart of this membership.
Check out her website and Instagram for more information on how to join Ripple:
https://www.vesselhealing.net/plans-pricing
@callyskye
Having a gratitude practice not only creates resilience in hard times, but it also creates a positive subconscious reaction and response to obstacles that come throughout life. Thank you for taking the time to listen to this episode, we are grateful for each of you.
This episode is all about impostor syndrome. What it means, what it looks like, what the women's experience with it has been, and how they've worked to move away from this feeling of being an 'impostor' in their own crafts. Impostor syndrome refers to an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be. It's basically feeling like a phony and as if you are going to be found out as a fraud. It can feel like you don't belong where you are, or that you've gotten there due to dumb luck. This can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise. (verywellmind)
The women discuss their own personal insecurities and how they make daily choices to counter the voices in their head telling them they aren't good enough. They address the topic of what it is they actually do for their careers, and how it can be complicated to explain sometimes. They also talk about the idea of apologizing for every little thing, and how this can take away from the sacred meaning of actually apologizing for something that deserves an apology. This is another raw episode where the women open up and share their minds and hearts. We hope you enjoy listening.
This episode features Cally, Mar, and Andi's experience in New York City together. The women are back to talk about all things New York, the good, the bad, and the ugly. They tell stories from their recent experience traveling to visit Mar in New York and go into detail about what they learned along the way. There were so many beautiful moments along side so many challenging moments and they dive deep into how they worked through their own obstacles along the way.
This episode feels like one of the original Sol Women episodes before the women had guest speakers, you get a lot of typical Andi, Cal, and Mar banter. Stay tuned through the end of the episode for some goofy blooper moments. Thank you for being here and supporting this podcast.
Courtney McNabb is a coach for female leaders in activating wealth energetics through God, Soul and the Feminine. She joins Cally and Andi today for a juicy episode discussing a range of topics that our listeners will love. Courtney discusses what it means to be a She Shaman and the sacred context of She Sovereign. She shares her life story and the big fires that brought her to where she is today.
She speaks on important topics such as the pressures women face with being perfect, thin, and beautiful. She speaks on seeking validation from men, eating disorders, how to transcend this idea of beauty, and what spiritual ego looks like. The women talk about how God is within us but we are not God, and how there is a fine line with spiritual egotism and spiritual knowing.
They go into the topic of pain and how we dramatize our own suffering, which spirals us into ego pain. Courtney touches on the difference between God pain and ego pain. "I don't think we can change our pain, I think our pain changes us," is a direct quote from Courtney in this powerful episode. They transition from pain into pleasure and speak on the value of feeling pleasure more often than pain.
Courtney dives into self intimacy and her journey to get there. The women talk about what feminine energy means and what the wounded feminine vs. the healed feminine can bring into any given situation. They talk about dropping the "cool girl" act and leaning into our yearning body to work with our big emotions and feminine energy to come out feeling more confident and closer to our version of God or Source.
They finish the episode with what trauma is and how it works itself through the body especially when we are ready for it. It's so important not to force trauma out of the body, but to allow it the space and time to flow through us in the way that it needs to, for ultimate healing. This episode is a game changer and we cannot wait for you to hear! We love you!
Find more of Courtney on Instagram @courtneymcnabbco
The Sol Women are officially in season 5 of the podcast! This episode was so much fun for the women to host. They welcome Christine DeLozier, acupuncturist, herbalist, and author of Diet for Great Sex: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health. Her book dives deep into the true catalysts of what makes our bodies fire on all cylinders and the best steps to maintain them through diet for as long as possible.
Trigger warning: this episode speaks on sex as well as healthy food consumption and the topic of body weight and diet is discussed.
The women go into what it means to have great sex, how blood flow, diet, and hormones all have a play into creating the best possible sex. Christine spills some great tips on what the best foods and worst foods for sex are and why, she also shares a date night sex menu!
This episode sheds light on the difference between the societal focus on the male and female experience, their differences biologically when it comes to hormones, and how the function of testosterone plays such a large roll in both.
Christine largely focuses on kindness and what it means to be a giver in a relationship, both in and out of the bedroom, and the importance of focusing on your partner's pleasure. She also touches a bit on traditional Chinese medicine and how that factors into natural and healthy eating habits, as well as how far away Western culture has moved from our primal instincts with food.
The women discussed the controversial term "diet" and what that actually means in the context of Christine's book. "It's not about beating your body into submission, it's not about restriction or diet culture," is a quote from this episode. The women make it known that it's all about listening to their bodies and learning which foods are higher in nutrients and will benefit us long term. This conversation is about breaking the stigma of what healthy really means and what it looks like.
Find Christine on her website: http://www.christinedelozier.com
Link to Diet for Great Sex on Amazon:
Other articles where you can find Christine:
https://torontosun.com/life/food/making-reservations-for-romance-with-a-side-of-steamy-sex
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/valentines-day-foods-to-avoid_l_601875bdc5b6aa4bad36a80a?1bk
Amanda Becker of Wild Way Healing joins the Sol Women this week for a unique episode regarding childhood wounds, working through healing our inner child, letting go of relationships that don't serve us, plant medicine, opening ourselves up to vulnerability and so much more. Amanda is an Inner Child Healer, a coach that guides women into greater alignment with their purpose and their true calling. She is host of the Wild Way podcast and you can find her on Instagram @wildwayhealing .
In this episode Amanda speaks on how she coaches women through means of meditation, therapy, mirror gazing, breath work, retreats, and plant medicine. She goes in depth about her techniques as well as gives some examples of her own personal journey with healing her inner child. The Sol Women also share their own experiences and have a meaningful conversation about ways in which they have grown through their traumas.
Amanda educates the listeners on plant medicine (aka psychedelics) and how, when it is used properly, it can cause some major growth and healing in those who are open to it. The women touch on their experiences with plant medicine and share their personal opinions. Throughout this episode Amanda speaks in such an open, loving, and passionate way about the work she does and we can't wait for you to hear.
April is Autism Acceptance month and the Sol Women are so honored to have Claire Mercier on this week's episode to talk about just that. Claire is an aspiring actress pursuing musical theater, an online teacher for English as a second language to students in China, as well as virtually teaches theater to children from all over the world. She discusses what it's been like pursuing acting in New York City during the pandemic and the struggles she has faced.
Claire dives into what self-diagnosis means when it comes to autism and her journey with understanding this neurological difference. She sheds light on how difficult it is for, specifically women to receive an autism spectrum diagnosis. She speaks on her personal experiences with growing up and how she felt internally, which lead her to this idea that she is on the autism spectrum. She states "knowing one person with autism, means you know just ONE person with autism." Each person's experience with this looks different.
The girls speak on imposter syndrome, self acceptance, and what it's like to be defined by labels and diagnosis. We appreciate you listening with an open mind and an open heart.
Find Claire on Instagram @finding.claireity
In this episode the Sol Women have the honor of speaking with Zoë Hansen. Zoë is a Human Design coach, a musician, an artist, and a spiritual channel for human and soul connection. She brings individuals into greater alignment using her gifts and is also a dear friend of Cally.
The women dive deep into Human Design Charts and ask questions about specific areas in their own charts. Zoë gives insight on some of the different meanings behind the 9 energy centers and how Human Design has changed her life. Human Design Charts stem from the combination of Eastern and Western Astrology, the Chinese I Ching, the Kabbalah, The Chakra system, and Quantum Physics. It’s an incredibly multifaceted and detailed reading and it provides a unique type of message compared to other charts out there.
The women speak about the human body having limitations and the importance of taking time to allow yourself to recharge after expelling so much energy, day in and day out, in order to follow a spiritual and enlightened path.
The women go in depth about connecting with Source and how to be fully aligned with your own inner purpose, how to be more aware of the little, yet beautiful moments in life, and the importance of noticing beauty in everything. They talk about the controversy of choosing a creative life path rather than a conventional path and how capitalism plays into pushing humans further away from their authentic purpose.
Zoë wraps up the conversation with a beautiful mantra, reminding us the necessity of getting back into nature, finding ways to become humbled and re-centered, and to remember how quick and sacred our time on earth is.
We can't wait for you to dive deep with us for this episode.
Find Zoë on Instagram @zoeclimbstrees
Cally + Mar sit down with Dena Borman; a creative being, a Yoga teacher, and such a sweet soul to get to know and talk to. The women talk about the importance of stepping outside of your comfort zone, the importance of walking into Yoga with a beginners mindset, and how everyone can do Yoga if they simply want to. They also talk about the importance of extending grace towards themselves and within their own practices.
Dena's philosophy is "I help beginners in all bodies learn yoga." She speaks on what it's like to practice Yoga with different body types, stereotypes and Westernized Yoga, and she dives into where Yoga originated and what it's meant for.
She ensures the listener that you don't have to be flexible to do Yoga and what 'all level yoga' actually means. The women mention the importance of finding the right Yoga teacher in order to feel more connected to their own practice as well as how they make Yoga work for their own bodies. The Sol Women can't wait for you to hear all the information presented in this special episode.
You can find Dena on Instagram @yogawithdena
Andrea and CJ Smith join the Sol Women for an incredible chat about setting healthy boundaries in a marriage and how they've grown from the beginning of their relationship to where they are today. Some noteworthy topics that the group touches on are; building trust and how it takes time and patience, holding space for your partner and taking accountability and ways in which that can be uncomfortable, mind reading and assumptions and how those can cause problems in relationships, as well as personal hardships and growth that has come from those.
We ask if whether being on the same page as your partner every single day is possible or not, and talk through how to navigate moments where you might not be on the same page. Finding the rewards in growing through the uncomfortable conversations, being vulnerable and open in your partnership, and how empowering it feels to grow with someone, are other avenues this conversation takes. These growing points can come in handy in, not just intimate relationships, but with family and friends as well.
Andrea and CJ discuss how we can show up for ourselves and our partners and how it's a choice to be there for someone day in and day out. We can simply do our best in any given situation and we can always find ways to improve + grow closer to those who mean the most to us. The couple speaks on some beautiful little ways in which they show each other love each day and we also get to hear each of their love languages.
It's a challenge to grow more deeply within ourselves and also our relationships each and everyday, learning healthy communication styles can take time and practice. This conversations opens up a lot of important and necessary dialogues surrounding being a human and having human emotions while also navigating spiritual growth.
Find more from Andrea @hiandreasmith and CJ @cjsmith_6 on Instagram.
Cally and Andi do a mini episode regarding insecurities and where they stem from. They each share vulnerable parts of their journals that they wrote in the height of an insecure moment. Insecurities are not personality traits, they are moments we learn from and they show us where we need to love ourselves a little bit deeper.
The women express personal experiences with insecurities in their lives and personal relationships and how they've grown to become more secure and comfortable with who they are. There are a few tips for how to work through feeling insecure in healthy ways with yourself and with others. They talk about how finding the "why" or the root cause for an insecure emotion, is important work, in order to heal and grow from that emotion.
Thank you so much for taking the time to listen. We love you.
Albert is back to chat with the Sol Women about what it’s like to live life as a creative person and choosing your art as your career path. The group answers a listener’s question asking 'how do you know the importance of stopping and stepping away from our passions and come back with fresh eyes versus pushing through the feeling of being unmotivated.' Albert goes into depth about this journey to become healthy and balance within his personal practice, career, and life in general.
An important question that comes up in this episode is “do we work hard because we feel like we aren’t enough, or because we simply WANT to be better.” Mar touches on the difficulty for women to show confidence without coming off as being bossy or controlling and how that plays a role in the individualistic society that we live in.
Albert paints a picture of what it’s like to create in a fear based state versus a flow state. He gives valuable tips and tricks for how to detach and ground himself before, during, and after his creative sessions and processes. The question of HOW we can detach comes up and the group talks about ways in which they practice the art of detachment.
Albert and Cally refer to the book Effortless Mastery by Kenny Werner. The subconscious mind effects everything we do and create, so how can we work on getting right within our own minds? They finish up with conversing about the risk it takes to be who you are and live fully into your authenticity, in a world where that isn’t the “norm.” We enjoyed this episode so much and we hope you do too.
Stay tuned all the way to the very end for a montage of Mar bloopers, which are the best kind of bloopers in our opinion. <3
The Sol Women refer to Elizabeth Gilbert's book Big Magic on today's episode regarding inspiration and creativity. They touch on what it's like to be on a path that isn't "normal" in society and the fears of being a creative and entrepreneur. This episode an apply to any area in your life in which you feel you are taking a path that isn't like everyone else. Taking the path less traveled and choosing to grow each day in some way doesn't always come easy. The idea behind this episode is to shed light on the battles that those who want to grow, learn, and become the best versions of themselves face on a day to day basis.
Fear is a large part of what stops people from moving forward on their destined path and the girls speak to how important it is to share your own unique gifts because you never know who you could help or inspire. It's about committing to creativity and embracing the rarity that is YOU. The Sol Women open up about some areas in which they have struggled and dive deeper into some insight on, ways in which they have moved through and grown from those areas.
Mar refers to an Instagram in which she has found inspiration @rhiannahajduch
Thank you for listening and sharing this space with us. We are grateful for you.
The Sol Women are joined by special guest Mike Valdez to talk about moving into a New Year and what that looks like for each of them. They discuss their intentions for next year compared to the last and speak about the importance of carrying these intentions into each day, week, month, of each and every year.
Mike opens up about hardships he has gone through and how they have enabled him to grow and become the person he is today. He shares an incredible amount of useful tools and relatable experiences. The group talks about saying "yes" to opportunities and how much value there is in living in a state of flow. Letting go of control was something they all agreed on being something that is hard to do, but very necessary for healing and moving forward into their most authentic selves.
Mike touches on what 2020 has been like from a Person of Color's lens. He elaborates on some of his personal experiences in Social Justice work within his community and career path. This conversation is jam packed with useful information and we can't wait to have you listen! Thank you for being YOU! Happy New Year!
The Sol Women are entering Season 4 of their podcast and they are so excited to present you with an episode regarding sustainability for the holiday season! We talk about how to support small, local businesses for gift giving this year. Specifically Black and People of Color owned as well as Woman owned businesses. They also bring up ways to get crafty and spend less money.
The girls transition into talking about how to deal with family and stressful holiday situations. They touch on the trails of holidays this year having to do with COVID and how to safely handle traveling and seeing family. They touch on having those tough political conversations with family members and how they each flow through those triggers.
They offer tons of tips and tricks for preparing for all things holiday stress!
Here is a list of businesses they suggest:
Wellness: Golde, Plant Apothecary, Oui The People, Lauren Napier Beauty, Wild Lather, Mented, The Honey Pot
Fashion: Brother Vellies, William Okmo, Sincerely Tommy, Third Crown, Want Les Essentels, Omi Woods
Home: Actually Curious, The Spice Suite, Trade Street Jam, Cook By Color, Unwrp
Art: Brownie Points, Yowie, Cleo Wade, Coloring Pins, Oat Cinnamon
The Sol Women have an enlightening conversation with Karen Newell, an author and innovator in personal development with a diverse body of work that rests upon the foundation of heart-centered consciousness. She's been seen most noteworthy on platforms like Dr. Oz and Goop.
She explains what exactly Sacred Acoustics are and touches on important topics such as becoming the observer of your own emotions and self through means of meditation in order to reduce triggers.
They speak about why they do the work on themselves and what their true purpose is regarding being able to help others along their journeys. Karen goes into the concept of Heart Math which tells us how the heart takes in information and sends it to the brain and also puts out energy that others can feel and be affected by.
This conversation also goes into what it's like to feel a deeper level connection with a partner and how that differs from lust or just thinking love and the difference between thinking love and feeling love.
Her personal growth writings, workshops, guided meditations and teachings enable individuals to achieve life transformations towards greater self-fulfillment and contentment, quality relationships and career choices aligned with one’s soul calling.
As an innovator in the emerging field of brainwave entrainment audio meditation, Karen Newell empowers others in their journeys of self-discovery. Using Sacred Acoustics recordings, she teaches how to enter and engage your own consciousness to connect to inner guidance, achieve inspiration, improve wellness, and develop intuition.
Karen is co-author with Eben Alexander III, M.D. of Living in a Mindful Universe(2017). At international workshops presented with Dr. Alexander, Karen demonstrates key practices of consciousness exploration: heart awareness, intention, maintaining neutrality, emotional management and cultivating internal knowing.
Find Karen: sacredacoustics.com
Instagram and Facebook: @sacredacoustics
You can find free 20 minute OM recordings on her website as well as purchase a group of recordings for only $19, or completely free if you can't afford it at this price.
Karen Newell and Eben Alexander also have a Webinar series at unitedinhopeandhealing.com
The girls are back with part two of their conversation surrounding grief. This episode touches more on the side of grief in which we experience through loss of friendships or intimate relationships. They discuss how they have dealt with these types losses as well as how they have sat through grief with their loved ones. There is so much value in understanding how to hold space for someone who is grieving, and this episode highlights some of the best ways to do this.
Thank you for being apart of this two part journey. We love you so deeply.