Are comedians really just depressed people hiding behind humour? I sat down with Malaysian comedian Kuah Jenhan to talk about the real side of comedy: dealing with grief, performing days after losing his dad, and why death is actually hilarious.
This conversation went deeper than expected. We talked about his 20-year journey in Malaysian standup, how social media is changing comedy, and his show about his late father that he rewrote after almost a decade.
If you've ever wondered what comedians are really like off stage, or why the funniest people seem to carry the heaviest stories - this one's for you.
🎭 ABOUT KUAH JENHAN:Kuah Jenhan is a Malaysian stand-up comedian with nearly 20 years in the scene. He's known for his narrative-driven comedy style, sharp storytelling, and his ability to make heavy topics like death genuinely entertaining. Recently grew his social media following from 5K to 18.6K in 1.5 years.
📍 Catch his show "Like This, Like Dad":
🎟️ Get tickets: http://kuahjenhan.com/tickets📱 Follow Jenhan: https://www.instagram.com/kuahjenhan/
📌 TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 - intro
1:00 - meet Kuah Jenhan: 20 years in Malaysian comedy
4:10 - social media changed comedy forever (crowd work era)
6:38 - “That Show” with Ming Yue
9:20 - are comedians actually depressed?
11:11 - comedians and mental health: breaking the stereotype
13:10 - writing a show about his late father (15 years later)
15:40 - rewriting "Like This, Like Dad" after a 9-year gap
20:07 - why death is actually funny (mourners and crematoriums)
22:36 - Wendy thought she'd die in her 20s (living with no plan)
25:06 - what "Like This, Like Dad" is really about
25:57 - how has death and grieving changed Jenhan’s view about life
29:41 - Jenhan’s thought process in crafting "Like This, Like Dad"
31:38 - performing days after his dad passed away
33:33 - comedy as a form of art
35:01 - the struggle with social media as a comedian
36:34 - going from 5K to 18.6K followers in 1.5 years
40:20 - social media as a new art form to master
46:28 - personality on stage and off stage
47:45 - upcoming shows: Penang, KL, London
49:23 - final message: go watch live comedy shows in Malaysia
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Sitting in my empty apartment before moving, thinking about all the change this year brought. Some I planned (getting married, quitting my job), some I didn't (moving to a new home). Here's what I'm learning about trusting the process when life doesn't go according to plan.Everything changed this year, and I'm finally ready to talk about it.This video is a real, unfiltered conversation about navigating major life transitions in your late 20s and early 30s. If you're going through your own season of change - whether it's a career shift, relationship transition, or just feeling like everything is happening all at once - this one's for you.🌼 TIMESTAMP0:00 - why I'm sitting in an empty room talking about change0:39 - last day in my old home (empty apartment tour)1:21 - expected vs unexpected change (and why both matter)3:05 - sitting with discomfort when life feels uncertain4:15 - lucky girl syndrome and trusting the universe5:01 - being proactive vs reactive in seasons of change5:41 - if you ask for growth, don't cry when it arrives6:22 - learning to let go and ask for help7:14 - what it means to be a "true villager"8:05 - marriage taught me: you don't have to do everything alone8:39 - why I'm glowing through all this change10:00 - come along on this new chapter with meFOLLOW ME FOR MORE:🌻 My Newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Wendy's Instagram - https://instagram.com/wendyvazzy💛 Wendy's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyvazzy🧡 SGBT Instagram - @smallgirlbigtalkFor Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com#personalgrowth #lifetransitions #movingvlog #mindfulness #manifestation #ChangeIsGood #SelfDevelopment #20s #30s #RealTalk
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, it breaks me to see you being stuck in the same vicious cycle, not living to your fullest potential.
Maybe you’re in your 30s, going through a quarter life crisis, or just feeling unfulfilled at work. The truth is—your comfort zone might be quietly holding you back.
In this episode, we dive into:
If you’re tired of living an unfulfilled life and ready to step into your potential, I hope this episode will inspire you to start the journey towards growth, clarity, and freedom.
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0:00 Intro
0:33 Your comfort zone is quietly stealing your life
3:07 Fear of change: getting through discomfort
6:39 How to get unstuck and break the pattern
8:14 Introducing new habits to escape autopilot living
10:53 Small steps that expand growth & break comfort zone
13:47 1:1 coaching to break free from feeling stuck
14:44 Outro
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Let's be real… we've all thought about leaving our job before, but we always feel like we can't quit because we need the money to survive. So we tell ourselves "we can't afford to quit our job."
But what if the real question you should be asking yourself is: "Can you afford NOT to quit your job today?"
In this episode, I'm sharing reflection questions for your personal and professional growth—the same questions that helped me when I was stuck deciding whether to leave my corporate job. (Spoiler alert: I did quit, and here's what I learned.)
It always feels scary being vulnerable about major life decisions online. But when I started this podcast, my intention was to create a safe space where we can discuss these huge adulting experiences together.
I hope this episode inspires you to ask yourself the hard questions about your career and maybe make a bolder move for your future self 😉
Questions/Journal Prompts from the Episode:
Timestamp:
0:00 Intro: Can You Really Afford Not to Quit Your Job?
2:04 Where do you see yourself in 10, 20, or 30 years?
4:18 Can you afford to continue with your current salary and annual increment rate?
5:32 What does your professional growth look like in your current role and company?
6:49 Can you afford to keep neglecting your health and well-being by staying?
8:40 What is the opportunity cost of staying here?
10:25 Do you have a dream you’ve always wanted to pursue—something you’d regret not trying?
11:51 What does your financial runway look like?
13:32 Quitting for Employment vs. Quitting for Entrepreneurship
15:53 If you want to be an entrepreneur, are you prepared for potentially 2-3 years of earning 50-80% less while working twice as hard?
16:12 The reasons why I quit my job
23:08 What’s next from Small Girl Big Talk?
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27:33 Outro
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Ever feel like everyone else is getting married, buying houses, or having kids… while you’re still figuring things out? This episode is your reminder that you’re not behind—you’re on your own timeline.
In this episode, I’m combining the vlog from my recent Vancouver trip with a short sharing of the 3 biggest life lessons I’ve learned by simply observing my friends during my travel. I got to really assimilate myself into my friends’ daily lives and here’s what I learned:
Whether you’re struggling with comparison, redefining success in your 30s, or simply curious about my recent trip, this episode is for you.
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0:00 episode preview: feeling behind in life, redefining success, comparing timelines
0:29 intro: life in your 30s
1:21 stop comparing yourself – we’re all on different timelines
2:26 lesson 1: you don’t need big city life to be happy
10:50 lesson 2: do more of what you love
16:09 lesson 3: if you want it, go for it
19:38 shift your perspective: your ordinary is someone else’s dream
20:50 outro: what’s next + join the journey
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This episode is one of the most personal and magical stories I’ve ever shared. I recently flew to Vancouver for my close friends’ wedding — a trip I never thought I could afford this year. But the universe had other plans. Through the power of love as a currency, adult friendships, and intentional manifestation, everything aligned. From a surprise flight sponsor to friends opening their homes, this was a real-life manifestation success story.✨
I talk about:
Whether you’re into manifestation, personal growth, or just need a warm, inspiring story about genuine human connection — this one’s for you.
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0:00 Episode Preview
0:28 How I Manifested Travel with Love & Friendship
2:45 The Wedding Invite: Full Circle After Matchmaking My Friends
5:18 How I Manifested Free Travel by Asking for Help
6:53 A Wedding Rooted in Love, Intentions, and Overflowing Support
10:07 Manifesting with Love: Reuniting Through Adult Friendships
16:24 Could This Have Been My Life? Reflection Without Regret
19:57 Bumping Into Sam from Spiraling Higher: A 2025 Law of Attraction Moment
24:25 Manifestation Tips: How to Ask and Receive with Love as a Currency
25:49 Final Thoughts on Self-Improvement, Growth & Friendship Manifestation
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In this cozy reunion episode, we're soaking in the hot tub and diving deep into real talk about setting intentions vs. goals, nurturing long-distance friendships, and prioritizing wellness.🌼😌
During my recent trip to Vancouver (I'll be sharing more about this in the next episode), I was able to catch up with a dear old university friend of mine, Kendall McLaughlin. Kendall and I met through musical theater (we were both in the chorus of a 9 to 5 musical and our university's acappella group) in first year, and throughout my 4 years of university life, we've done countless fun and crazy things together (she's that friend who would do crazy things like Undie Run and No Pants Skytrain day with me 🤪), so reuniting with her after 9 years felt amazing.
This episode was recorded very candidly and spontaneously when we were talking about intentions in the hot tub, and I was enjoying our conversation so much that I wanted to invite you (my listeners) into a snippet of my real-life catch-up session with an old friend.
Join us as we catch up with Kendall, reflect on our recent journeys, talk about giving wedding speeches, and discuss Kendall's intention to focus more on physical health and how to make it fun. Whether you're on your own self-growth journey or missing that one friend you haven't seen in a while—this one's for you.🧡
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0:00 Episode Preview
0:24 Intro
2:26 Why We’re Choosing Intentions Over Goals
8:27 How We Maintain Long-Distance Friendships
11:52 Our Latest Intentions: Focusing on Physical Health
14:52 Experience in Galiano Island, Canada
17:43 Final Thoughts & Wrap-Up
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In this episode, I sat down with SPACEDOLLAH (Syed Abdullah) —a Malaysian content creator and science communicator who isn’t afraid to tell it like it is. He shares his raw and honest journey: from hitting rock bottom to becoming a full-time digital creator with a fast-growing YouTube channel.
We talked about everything from how to become a content creator in 2025, what it really takes to go viral on YouTube, and the mindset shifts that helped him move past self-doubt and comparison. No fluff, just real talk about making money online, building your niche, and the fear that keeps most people from starting.
He even opened up about a spiritual experience that pushed him to launch his channel—and how he’s now using content to spark curiosity about science and space.
If you’ve ever wondered:
… this one’s for you.
🎧 Tune in for reflections on purpose, growth, handling negativity, building a personal brand, and why a little madness might be the secret ingredient to this whole digital creator thing.
About SPACEDOLLAH (Syed Abdullah):
SPACEDOLLAH, also known as Syed Abdullah, is a Malaysian content creator and science communicator best known for making science cool, funny, and accessible. From a turbulent past to building a loyal online community, he now uses his platform to simplify complex topics, spark curiosity, and inspire others to create with purpose.
Follow SPACEDOLLAH on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/truedollah/
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0:00 – Episode Preview
1:40 – Intro: Meet Spacedollah, science communicator & content creator
2:24 – How to start your content creator journey (walk the talk)
3:05 – Why Spacedollah became a content creator
4:08 – Step-by-step: How he actually started creating content
4:52 – How long it takes to see results when starting
5:52 – Finding your niche as a creator
6:55 – Spacedollah’s passion for science & space explained
8:26 – IDGAF mindset: Stop worrying about other people
12:05 – Finding your purpose in content creation
13:16 – Making money as a content creator in 2025
15:55 – Gamechangers: What made Spacedollah grow faster
17:22 – Power vs money-based creators: What’s your motive?
19:43 – How to go viral on YouTube (real talk)
21:49 – Why good things take time: The hustle & wait
23:33 – Why people don’t start content creation
24:58 – How this podcast collab happened
26:16 – Using podcasts to grow your personal brand
28:04 – Life-changing moments that shift your mindset
33:03 – You want to change the world? Start with one person
35:38 – Look at analytics to grow as a creator
36:30 – Tell us: What’s stopping you from starting?
37:58 – Why creators won’t be replaced by AI
38:33 – Main fear stopping content creators (judgment)
39:05 – The myth of “needing everything before you start”
41:42 – Handling negativity as a content creator
42:27 – The world revolves around you, not others
42:54 – You can’t please everyone — focus on your people
43:20 – Don’t take advice from people without your goals
46:06 – First financial milestones as a digital creator
49:28 – Why a little madness is necessary in the creator world
50:40 – Final advice for aspiring creators
51:48 – Outro
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POV: Your big sister is calling you out — with love 🧡
This episode might sound a little harsh, but it’s real talk you didn’t know you needed. If you’ve been stuck in the same routine, going through life on autopilot, this is your sign to WAKE UP.
I break down:
If you’ve been feeling “meh” about life, this one’s for you.
Don’t worry — I say it all with love.
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00:00 Calling you out — with love
00:25 Are you living on autopilot without realizing it?
03:48 The consequences: What happens when you stay stuck
05:57 Habits: Start breaking toxic routines
07:23 Mindset: Get clear with your intention and vision
09:15 Courage: Stop letting fear and failure hold you back
10:10 Main message: It’s time to wake up
10:51 Outro: I hope this episode gave you a loving push
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In this heartfelt episode of Small Girl, Big Talk, we dive deep into the misconceptions about finding your purpose and what it truly means to live a purposeful life. We explore how purpose isn't about grand revelations or dramatic life changes, but rather about being present and understanding what truly matters to you. ✨
Join us as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, listening to life's subtle messages, and finding meaning in our everyday experiences. We'll share personal stories about navigating through difficult times, including experiences with depression and career transitions, and how these challenges can actually guide us toward our true purpose. 🌱
Whether you're feeling lost, questioning your direction, or simply seeking deeper meaning in life, I hope that this conversation will help you approach your purpose journey with renewed perspective. 😌
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0:00 Intro: The Reason Why You Feel Stuck in Life
1:13 “Almost forgot that this is the whole point”
2:45 Start by Asking Yourself Why
4:50 How We Think Finding Our Purpose Looks Like
8:13 What Finding Your Purpose is Really About
8:40 Be Open with What Message the Universe is Trying to Send You
11:19 The Irony of the Hustle - Doing it For the People You Love
13:34 Finding Your Purpose Will Remind You of What’s Important To You
14:34 Outro
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What does it really take to walk away from a stable job and start your own business? In this episode, we sit down with Joy Q. Wang, the founder of Bone and Grey, a modern bridal brand based in Singapore.
From moving across continents to working in media agencies and tech startups, to appearing on Netflix’s The Apprentice: ONE Championship Edition, Joy opens up about her unconventional journey into entrepreneurship.
But this isn’t your typical “I found my passion” story. After facing criticism on a global reality show, Joy channeled that pressure into power—proving doubters wrong and reclaiming her voice by launching a brand on her own terms.
We talk about:
Whether you're thinking of moving across globes for career opportunities, leaving corporate life, starting your own business, or just need a reminder that you’re allowed to take your power back—this episode is for you.
About Joy Q. Wang:
You might recognize Joy from Netflix’s The Apprentice: ONE Championship Edition. 🎥 With a dynamic career in tech—previously serving as Regional Growth Lead at Style Theory and Regional Director of Consumer Growth & Digital at hoolah—Joy made the bold leap into entrepreneurship in 2023. She is now the founder of Bone & Grey Bridal, an online boutique offering customizable, minimalist wedding gowns starting at $300. Drawing from her multicultural roots and tech-savvy experience, Joy is redefining modern bridalwear by marrying efficiency with Asian craftsmanship.
Follow her journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshbang/
Book we mentioned:
Profit First: Transform Your Business from a Cash-Eating Monster to a Money-Making Machine by Mike Michalowicz
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0:00 Sneak Peek: From Tech Career to Creative Entrepreneurship
0:26 Meet Joy Wang: Founder of Bone and Grey Bridal (Singapore)
2:02 Moving from Vancouver to Singapore: Starting Out a Career in Media
5:42 Jumping into the Startup World: Working in Tech
8:02 Leaving Tech to Start a Modern Bridal Business
13:07 Joy’s Gap Year: Acting on Netflix & Life Outside the 9-5
15:12 Behind the Scenes: Filming The Apprentice Asia on Netflix
17:22 How a Gap Year Fueled the Birth of Bone and Grey
18:08 How to Overcome Fear and Start Your Business Journey
20:38 Feeling Discouraged? Let’s Talk Entrepreneur Comparison Traps
22:06 Shifting from 9-5 to Entrepreneurship: What Changes
24:44 Joy’s Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs & Business Starters
25:12 Why You Need a Financial Cushion Before Starting a Brand
28:51 Balancing Mental Health While Building a Business
32:15 Manifestation & Vision: Growing Bone and Grey with Intention
33:46 Bone and Grey’s Mission & Future Business Goals
36:01 Slowing Down: Joy’s Personal Goals as a Creative Founder
37:01 The Story Behind Bone and Grey
38:12 Final Reflections on Creative Entrepreneurship & Growth
40:44 Outro: Connect with Joy & Follow Bone and Grey
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Welcome back to Small Girl, Big Talk! 🌼
I’m returning to the podcast with a deeply personal story—something that happened during my seasonal pod break. I fractured my spine while bouldering and was forced to slow down, focusing entirely on healing.
I went from being super independent—podcasting, climbing, and planning my wedding—to wearing a brace, struggling to shower, and needing help with even the most basic things. It was frustrating, humbling, and ultimately forced me to slow down, surrender, and truly rest for the first time in years.
In this episode, I’m sharing what this injury taught me—how I went from resisting rest to embracing it, how trusting the healing process got me through the hardest weeks, and most importantly, how this journey has completely reshaped my perspective on health, patience, and personal growth.
Trust me, It wasn’t easy at all to take things slow while everyone else was buzzing with new year energy, ready to kick ass with their goals 😭
If this episode resonates with you, let me know—I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Thank you for being here—you have no idea how much it means to me 🥹🧡
P/S: Watch the VIDEO version of this podcast if you can 😉
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0:00 how a back injury forced me to slow down & rethink life
1:09 new year intention and 2025 word of the year
2:34 disclaimer: watch the video version!
3:14 storytime
8:14 dealing with panic, and the doctor’s advice: just focus on what’s next
13:18 the reality of pain, helplessness & needing support
16:21 learning to let go, ask for help & trust the journey
19:35 focus on your intention: embracing uncertainty
20:20 trust the journey: healing, rebuilding strength & finding purpose in setbacks
25:15 current life updates: wedding planning, mindset shifts, and career moves
27:35 season 3 updates: adapting, growth & embracing change
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As 2024 winds down, I’m taking a moment to reflect on the year’s journey — my wins, lessons, and what’s next as we step into 2025. In this episode of Small Girl, Big Talk, I react to my 2024 goals, starting with my word of the year: create. From exciting milestones in wedding planning (yes, I found the dress!) to bouldering adventures and career highlights like brand collaborations and digital products, I share the moments that shaped my year.
Don’t miss this heartfelt recap to inspire your own reflections and plans for the new year!
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0:00 intro
1:28 reacting to my 2024 goals: word of the year "create”
4:14 wedding planning milestones: makeup, photos, dress & more
4:41 hobbies & fitness: bouldering & staying active
5:24 career goals: brand collabs & digital products
8:21 mental space: letting go & finding balance
13:10 relationship milestones: love, fitness & support
17:41 financial goals: buying my first car
21:41 personal style & fashion: choosing quality over quantity
23:46 space & home decor: creating a cozy environment
24:31 balancing family and career: sacrifices & missed moments
26:32 lessons learned in 2024: downsizing & prioritizing
27:30 embrace opportunities and don’t have tunnel vision
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30:18 final words: taking a rest before resetting in 2025
31:31 outro
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In this episode of Small Girl, Big Talk, we continue our Foundations for a Fresh Start series by focusing on the transformative power of decluttering. Whether it’s your physical space, digital world, or mental load, clearing out what no longer serves you is key to making space for what truly matters.
I talk about the importance of decluttering your environment — because, as they say, outer order brings inner calm. Then, we dive into the mental side of decluttering, learning how to clear unnecessary worries and prioritize what’s essential for your personal growth. If you’re ready to simplify your life and set a strong foundation for the year ahead, this episode is for you!
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In this episode of Small Girl, Big Talk, I had a thought-provoking conversation with Cheryl Lau, a podcaster and coach who made bold career pivots to create a life she truly loves. Cheryl shares her courageous journey of quitting law school, leaving a Ph.D. program, pivoting between business niche and eventually embracing her identity as a full-time podcaster.
We unpack the challenges of quitting a job or business path that doesn’t align with your goals and how to navigate the fear of letting go. We also talk about the importance of reinventing yourself, redefining success, and trusting the process when making bold transitions.
This is part of our Foundations for a Fresh Start series, where we explore actionable ideas and empowering stories to help you build an extraordinary 2025.
Whether you’re thinking about leaving a corporate job, pursuing your side hustle full-time, or starting over in a new field, this episode will give you the inspiration and clarity to take the next step toward your dream life.
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0:00 intro
1:43 quitting law school & PHD: overcoming asian parents' expectations
6:39 Cheryl Lau’s side hustle coach journey
8:01 transitioning from side hustle coach to thought leader: reinventing your career
11:49 3 core values to embody when pivoting your career for growth
15:15 thought leader club: pivoting towards new business directions
18:39 making career decisions that align with business and financial growth
20:12 creating a business that breaks the mold: embracing entrepreneurship
21:04 embracing the identity of a podcaster over coach
23:38 break the stigma of tying your identity to your income source
25:46 join our community! building connections for personal and professional growth
30:04 committing to podcasting: earning the right to call yourself a podcaster
36:27 are you quitting out of fear or misalignment? understanding career transitions
38:07 mindset shifts for successful quitting and pivoting in your career
39:57 being practical about quitting or pivoting careers: making strategic decisions
41:29 taking your time to quit and pivot—it's okay to evolve slowly
43:20 outro
About Cheryl Lau:
Cheryl Lau is a podcaster and coach who helps entrepreneurs and creators build a compelling body of work that resonates. As the host of the Edit History podcast (previously known as Side Hustle Club and Thought Leader Club), Cheryl guides listeners in sharing their unique stories and establishing themselves as thought leaders, laying the foundation for success in business and life.
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📒 BOOK I MENTIONED: Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
In this episode, we’re diving into the power of acceptance as part of our series, Foundations for a Fresh Start. This series is all about exploring topics that lay the groundwork for an incredible 2025, and today’s conversation is one that can truly transform the way you live your life.
We’ll explore what it means to accept that we can’t control everything that happens to us. From releasing the grip on our past identity to letting go of societal expectations of what our life "should" look like, this episode is all about finding freedom in surrender. I’ll also dive into the idea that our time on this earth is limited, which makes it all the more important to live intentionally and focus on what truly matters.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, weighed down by perfectionism, or like you’re constantly chasing an unattainable ideal, this episode is here to remind you that acceptance isn’t about giving up—it’s about leaning into the flow of life. When you let go, you create space for the dream life you’ve always wanted to unfold naturally.
Together, we’ll uncover the beauty of acceptance and how it can help you manifest a life that feels truly aligned with your purpose. Let’s take that first step toward living with more ease and intention as we set the stage for an incredible new year ahead!
TIMESTAMP:
0:00 intro - embrace acceptance for manifestation
2:27 accept your lack of control in manifesting your dreams
9:17 let go of past identity and manifest your future
12:39 release societal expectations for personal growth
16:01 accept that life is short
20:16 recap
21:15 outro
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As we approach the end of the year, we’re wrapping up the season with a series called Foundations for a Fresh Start—where we’ll dive into topics that lay the groundwork for an incredible 2025.
We’re kicking off this series with a theme that hits close to home: PERFECTIONISM.
If you’ve ever felt held back by the need to have everything figured out before you even start, or if the fear of not being “good enough” has kept you from pursuing your dreams, this episode is for you.
Together, we’ll explore three essential mindset shifts to help you finally break free from perfectionism and create with confidence. We’ll talk about why it’s okay not to have all the answers, why embracing imperfection is the key to growth, and how to stop letting your self-worth be defined by your results. These are actionable steps I’ve learned and lived, and I’m here to share them in the hope that they unlock something within you, too.
If you’re ready to let go of the need for perfection, join The Big Talk Society—a community where we lift each other up, support each other’s growth, and celebrate progress over perfection. Let’s create a space where we can be real, vulnerable, and, most importantly, fearless on our journeys.
TIMESTAMP:
0:00 intro
0:46 invitation to our Patreon community
3:35 introducing foundation for a fresh start series
4:29 perfectionism as the main blocker of your action
5:19 1. you don’t need to know it all to get started
9:40 2. you’re gonna suck when you start, so why not suck now?
12:49 3. don’t let the results determine your self-worth and self-confidence
15:04 3 mindset shifts to break free from perfectionism
16:34 your invitation to the Big Talk Society
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In this episode, we're diving deep into the magic that happens when you find your people. We’re talking about how the right community can supercharge your personal growth and make those big dreams feel a lot more reachable.
I’ll share how surrounding yourself with supportive, like-minded individuals can speed up your journey, keep you accountable, and make the process feel a whole lot less lonely. We’ll chat about the benefits of finding people who share your values and dreams, and I’ll also give you some practical tips on how to create those connections that really matter.
Plus, I have a little surprise: an exciting announcement about a new community platform we're launching to bring us all closer together on this journey. 🌟
Whether you’re focused on building better habits, growing into the best version of yourself, or simply wanting a circle that "gets you," this episode is packed with insights on how community can transform your growth journey into something much more fulfilling. Tune in and let’s take this journey together!
TIMESTAMP: 0:00 intro 3:07 how community elevates personal growth 3:47 you get help from people who knows about the topic or industry than you 7:30 you are changing the conversations that you are having 10:56 you have support system to uplift you and keep you focused on your goals and intention 12:58 the power of reciprocity 15:03 accountability 15:49 you have to put in the effort first 18:22 i’m creating my own community and you’re invited! 19:26 what you’ll find in my community? 22:56 this community is for you if you are… 24:21 outro
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Welcome back to the fifth and final part of my Wedding Diaries series! 🎉 This week, we’re bringing RJ back, and the excitement is real — her wedding is just 3 weeks away! We’re diving deep into all the pre-wedding jitters, last-minute preparations, and everything that’s running through RJ’s mind as her big day gets closer.
In this episode, we chat about the first steps in wedding planning — the must-book vendors and services, like photographers, videographers, and venues. We also walk you through the ever-important wedding planning timeline. RJ shares what she’s learned about keeping everything organized on her ever mighty Excel sheet, from managing the guest list to choosing the perfect makeup artist, hairstylist, and even tackling the venue decorations. 💄✨
Thanks so much for joining us on this mini-series — it’s been such a journey, and we can’t wait to hear about all your wedding experiences too. Let us know what you thought of the series, and stay tuned for more exciting episodes ahead!
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TIMESTAMP:
0:00 intro
0:22 3 weeks to RJ’s wedding - pre-wedding nerves!
4:43 what are the first few things you need to decide and book for wedding planning?
6:51 wedding planning timeline
8:38 photographers and videographers
16:23 venues
17:18 guest list
22:58 makeup artist, hairstylist
28:27 venue decorations
29:47 communication
31:56 preparation process (excel sheet)
34:52 interracial marriage (nikah)
37:57 dream bridal gown
42:18 food and catering
43:20 things that you don’t need to plan in advance
44:34 wedding vows
49:53 wrap up
51:56 outro
💖 Introducing the Wedding Diaries! 💍
Wedding Diaries is a 5-part mini series where I team up with my chosen sister, RJ and other guests to talk all about wedding planning and marriage preparation. Weddings and marriage are such monumental chapters in our adult lives, and with my own big day just around the corner (okay to be fair I still have one year to go), I thought it would be fun to take you along and share my experiences and lessons that I’ve learned so far.
Whether you’re in the midst of planning your own wedding, preparing for marriage, or just curious about the whole journey, we hope our stories make you feel a little less alone and a lot more connected.
👰🏻♀️ Part 1 - Our Engagement Stories: https://open.spotify.com/episode/02Y5U8SkhmIIaJHS49XHes?si=e430912453b64526
💍 Part 2 - How Do You Know He's Really The ONE?https://open.spotify.com/episode/79uOmGGH6vlqnDoecW47Hh?si=ed45693dfd294cd0
🙋🏻♀️ Part 3 - Things to Know About Your Partner Before Getting Married
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2SSdBkKs44EchMMMfJd6vY?si=20f9eaf9cdf84e22
🤵🏻 Part 4 - Meet My Fiancé: Proposal, Wedding Planning, & More!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1T3ZBoAbY8EW58HZfbaQFk?si=556ab025c7ca438a
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