Shifts and Giggles: Mindset Tools for Real Life Growth
Rafer Owens, Jr | Mindset Coach | Speaker
24 episodes
3 days ago
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how ...
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Got a question or comment? Send us a text! We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if you took “rest” as seriously as “thou shalt not kill”? In this episode, Rafer breaks down one of the most misunderstood commandments — rest. We talk about the cultural obsession with busyness, how Christians confuse doing for God with being with God, and why rest is not a luxury — it’s a command and a gift. You’ll hear practical stories from Rafer’s own Sabbath rhythm (including Mario Party Saturdays with the family), insight from Psalm 23 an...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if the greatest limit on your life isn’t your circumstances—but your mindset? In this episode, Rafer breaks down how Jesus didn’t just come to save you—He came to grow you. A fixed mindset says, “This is just who I am.” But a growth mindset says, “With the Holy Spirit, I can change.” Rafer unpacks why a fixed mindset is actually anti-Jesus, how growth is tied to sanctification, and why spiritual maturity requires believing that transformation i...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if Jesus didn’t just carry your sin—but your stress, anxiety, and emotional triggers too? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. unpacks how emotional intelligence is not just a psychological concept—it’s a spiritual discipline. Learn how your emotions affect your relationship with God, yourself, and others, and how the Holy Spirit wants to redeem the way you feel, react, and love. This episode dives into: Why emotional intellige...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if the freedom you’ve been praying for is waiting on the other side of the trash you refuse to pull into the light? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer dives deep into the difference between denial and suppression and how honesty with yourself opens the door to real transformation with God. Learn how the Holy Spirit reveals to redeem, why pretending everything’s “fine” keeps you stuck, and what it means to come boldly to the Father with...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What does it really mean to deny yourself? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. breaks down Mark 8:34 and challenges the common belief that denying yourself equals suppressing your struggles. Suppression keeps us stuck in shame and guilt, but true denial—done with the Holy Spirit—leads to transformation. Discover how to partner with the Holy Spirit to face your emotions, impulses, and habits honestly instead of pushing them down. Le...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! Love God. Love people. Sounds simple, right? But if it’s that simple, why do so many of us still miss the mark? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down the Greatest Commandment from Mark 12 and shows how it’s not just a rule—it’s a flow. God’s love to us. Our love back to Him. Then love for ourselves. Then love for others. If you’ve ever struggled with self-love, criticism, or wondering why relationships feel strained, this teaching ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! Many Christians have been told, “the heart is deceitful above all things” (Jeremiah 17:9), leaving them afraid to trust what they sense inside. In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. takes a fresh look at this misunderstood scripture, digging into the next verse where God Himself says, “I the Lord search the heart and test the mind.” Rafer shares stories from the Heaven Come conference, his encounter with protesters, and how the Holy ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if the most Christ-like version of you is still trapped under unredeemed feelings, passions, and impulses? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. unpacks what it really means when we say “Jesus came to redeem our hearts and renew our minds.” Too often, Christians accept salvation but stop short of sanctification. Rafer breaks down the biblical meaning of the heart (our desires, affections, passions, impulses) and the mind (our th...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! If you’ve been following Jesus but still feel like something’s missing—this one is for you. In this episode, Rafer takes us back to the foundation: God the Father. Through the parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15, Rafer shows us that the Father is not distant, cold, or harsh—He’s present, compassionate, and deeply personal. You’ll learn how reframing your view of God changes everything: how you live, how you see yourself, and how you love others. T...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! Season 1 Finale: The Start of a Movement We made it, y’all! Season 1 of Shifts and Giggles is officially a wrap—and what a journey it’s been. In this emotional, energizing, and reflective episode, I share the heart behind the show, recap everything we've covered—from emotional intelligence to growth mindset to the full Simple Shift Method—and tell a real-life story of someone who made a life-altering decision after listening. This episode isn’t just ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! In this conversation, Rafer Owens discusses the significance of finding the right tools for personal growth and emotional intelligence. He shares his journey of understanding emotions through intrapersonal communication and emphasizes the importance of using effective tools to navigate relationships and personal challenges. The discussion covers various types of tools, including mindset tools, environmental adjustments, and support systems, and concl...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! What if the story you've been telling yourself is the only thing holding you back? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer shares how he went from hating running to training for a half marathon—and how that unexpected journey revealed a deep truth about mindset. This episode dives into the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, how to recognize which one you're operating from, and why effort always matters more than talent. If ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! Why do we fear failure so much—and how is that fear keeping us stuck? In this powerful episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer shares a heartfelt story about watching his son struggle (and succeed) through the hardest level of a video game—and uses it to unpack why failure isn’t the enemy. In fact, it’s the path. You’ll learn how to reframe failure from being something final to something formative, how your brain actually grows more from failing than su...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! In this powerful follow-up to last week's emotional intelligence episode, Rafer unpacks how to build emotional intelligence—not just why it's important. Emotional intelligence isn’t a personality trait—it’s a skill. Rafer shares raw and relatable stories, including a vulnerable moment with his son and a hilarious but deep lesson involving a coffee cup. You'll walk away with five practical tools to grow your emotional awareness, manage your reactions,...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, we’re getting real about emotional intelligence. Rafer shares the moment he realized he was unintentionally gaslighting his wife—and how learning to name his emotions like “dismissed” and “anxious” saved his marriage and shifted his entire life. Emotional intelligence isn’t soft—it’s survival. If you’ve ever shut down, blamed others, or got defensive without knowing why... this one’s for you. Next week, we’ll di...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! You made progress. You hit the goal. You felt the shift. But now you feel… stuck again. This episode dives deep into the final step of the Simple Shift Method: Evolve Continuously. Because winning once doesn’t mean you’ve finished. And transformation isn’t a mountaintop—it’s a mindset. If you’ve ever asked: “Why do I feel off after I achieve something?”“How do I keep growing when life feels flat?”“Is it possible to stay motivated long-term?”This one...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! When life doesn’t go as planned, most people either give up or keep doing what’s not working—hoping it magically changes. In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, we dive into Step 5 of the Simple Shift Method: Learn and Adjust. Rafer shares what 75 Hard taught him about progress, personal growth, and the mindset shift it takes to evolve. If you’ve ever thought: “Why is this still not working?”“I tried and failed, so maybe I’m not built for this.”“I’m ...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer dives into Step 4 of the Simple Shift Method: Practice Consistently. If you've ever been paralyzed by the "what ifs"—what if it doesn't work, what if I'm not good enough, what if I fail—this episode is your breakthrough. Rafer shares how to break free from fear by taking imperfect steps forward. Whether you're building a business, trying to change a relationship, or shifting your mindset, this episode give...
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer unpacks Step 3 of the Simple Shift Method — Make a Plan — and explains how creating small, specific goals can lead to massive progress. Through a powerful story about paying off $54,000 of debt, Rafer shows how SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) and simple planning helped him and his wife transform their finances — and how you can apply the same principles to any area of y...
Shifts and Giggles: Mindset Tools for Real Life Growth
Got a question or comment? Send us a text! We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how ...
