What really kills sex in a marriage? Is it menopause—or is it something deeper? In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I (Mary Knight) answer the question so many men are quietly asking: Why doesn’t my wife want me anymore?
We go far beyond hormones and into the hidden dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, emotional leadership, and the ways “nice guy” conditioning sabotages intimacy. I break down why sex drive is about so much more than biology—and why it might never have been about biology at all.
If you’re in a low sex or no sex marriage, this episode is a wake-up call. You’ll hear why your wife may have never fully surrendered to you, why emotional disconnection kills desire, and why so many men wait until it’s too late to face the truth.
This isn’t about blame—it’s about power. Masculine power. And how to reclaim it in a way that builds connection, not control.
If you’re ready to shift the energy in your relationship, deepen your intimacy, and stop waiting for things to fix themselves—this one’s for you.
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Thanks for listening—and remember, it’s not over unless you decide it is.
Captain Save-A-Ho: Why Nice Guys End Up with Low-Sex Women
Are you constantly drawn to women who seem sweet, wounded, and low on desire—and telling yourself she just needs the right man? In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I unpack the hidden dynamic that keeps nice guys stuck in sexless relationships. We’ll talk people-pleasing, birth control, bad boundaries, and the seductive trap of trying to fix a woman instead of actually being with her. If you’re ready to stop shrinking yourself to earn love, this one is for you.
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You thought it meant something. She said all the right things. Then—she vanished.
If you’ve ever been ghosted by an escort—or anyone—you know the pain is real. You’re left confused, rejected, and obsessing over what went wrong. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why this happens, what’s really going on behind her silence, and how you can stop investing your time and energy in pain.
I’m Mary Knight, and I speak from personal experience as a former high-end escort and now as a relationship and intimacy coach for men. I’m not here to shame you—I’m here to tell you the truth that most people won’t. This isn’t just about sex. It’s about entitlement, emotional projection, masculine energy, and the very real consequences of chasing fantasy instead of reality.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of rumination, this video will help you break free. Because waiting for closure is keeping you small—and it’s time to reclaim your power.
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Are you a man who’s ever fallen for an escort—or wondered why so many men do? This video is for you.
I’m Mary Knight, a top dating coach for men who struggle with “nice guy” syndrome, confidence, and relationships. And today, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most complex, misunderstood dynamics in modern dating: men falling in love with sex workers.
🚨 Here’s the truth: Seeing an escort isn’t about love. It’s a transaction.
But when you’re lonely, stuck in a sexless marriage, or emotionally starved, it feels like more—because she’s giving you attention, warmth, and intimacy that you’re not getting anywhere else.
For a lot of men, this is the first time they’ve ever felt truly seen, heard, and desired. But make no mistake: this is a fantasy. And fantasies don’t last.
💡 In this episode, I break down:
✅ Why men project emotions onto escorts (and how to stop)
✅ The cold, hard truth about trying to turn an escort into a girlfriend
✅ Why seeing an escort is a temporary fix (and what to do instead)
✅ The real reason men in sexless marriages risk everything for an affair
✅ How to shift your mindset and build real confidence with women
You can have real, meaningful relationships—without paying for it. But that requires shifting your perspective, building your masculine energy, and learning how to actually connect with women.
I can help you do that.
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Nice doesn’t get you laid. Leadership does.
In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I’m breaking down the real reason “nice guys” get stuck in friend zones, sexless marriages, and fantasy-fueled frustration. You’ve been told to be polite, patient, respectful. But if you’re shape-shifting to earn approval, you’re not attracting anyone—you’re disappearing.
I’m Mary Knight, and I’ll show you exactly why your passivity is killing attraction—and how to reclaim the grounded, sexy masculine energy women actually respond to. This isn’t about being a jerk. It’s about being real. If you’re tired of playing small, this video will shake something loose.
✅ Why respecting boundaries can backfire
✅ How overthinking destroys desire
✅ What “seduction” really means (and how to embody it)
✅ Why so many men secretly turn to escorts
✅ How to lead in dating and marriage—without apology
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What happens when the lines blur between professional and personal relationships? In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of my time as an escort and the unexpected proposal from a longtime client that made me confront my boundaries, my values, and my future. From the allure of financial security to the stark realization of what I truly needed in a relationship, I reflect on the emotional complexities of transitioning from client to potential partner—and why it ultimately didn’t work.
This video isn’t just about my story—it’s about helping you understand the dynamics of boundaries, connection, and what truly makes relationships thrive. Whether you’re navigating challenges in your own relationships or simply curious about the lessons I’ve learned, you’ll gain insight into the importance of self-respect, clarity, and creating a life that aligns with your values.
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Welcome back to Sex, Love & Soul—I’m Mary Knight, your relationship coach and guide for men ready to break free from the “nice guy” trap and discover genuine confidence, healthy boundaries, and fulfilling romantic connections. Today’s conversation, recorded on a chilly Texas morning as I head to the gym, dives straight into a core issue I see in so many coaching sessions: the struggle to set and honor your own values and boundaries.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re always giving in—compromising your needs, wants, and comfort just to keep the peace—this episode is for you. We’ll explore:
• Why knowing your personal values is non-negotiable for healthier, more balanced relationships.
• How unexamined beliefs lead to one-sided partnerships that leave you resentful and unfulfilled.
• The subtle difference between reasonable compromise and surrendering your sense of self.
• How to trust your inner compass, say “no” when it matters, and attract women who truly respect what you stand for.
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At 34, stepping into a strip club for the first time to work as a waitress, I was catapulted into a world where the lines between safety, shame, and empowerment were blurred. Transitioning from waitressing to stripping, and eventually to private escorting, I found myself navigating through layers of personal and societal judgments.
Welcome to Sex, Love, and Soul, where we delve into the less-traveled paths of relationships and personal growth. I’m your host, Mary Knight, and in today’s episode, I share my personal journey from the vibrant punk rock scenes of Houston to the more secluded life of a high-end escort.
Today, I’ll discuss how my perceptions of safety and control influenced my choices, reflecting on how environments that seem risky can sometimes feel safer due to the control they offer over personal interactions. I’ll explore how independence and financial motivations were critical in my decision-making process, and why I ultimately felt more secure in private settings despite the apparent dangers.
This episode is a candid reflection on the complexities of self-discovery and empowerment within the sex industry. It’s a story about finding one’s sense of security and self-worth under unconventional circumstances.
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Welcome to Sex, Love, and Soul! In this episode, I explore the complex and heartfelt stories behind the “nice guy” persona, as shared by viewers through personal emails. We’ll dive into the different ways upbringing, particularly dynamics with mothers, has shaped the lives of many men—sometimes leading to lifelong patterns of self-sacrifice, suppressed desires, and unfulfilled relationships.
I reflect on my own experiences growing up in a chaotic household with a hypercritical mother and share how those dynamics shaped my understanding of emotions, relationships, and boundaries. Together, we’ll examine why some men struggle to express their wants and needs, and how societal narratives around masculinity and kindness can lead to unintended consequences.
From exploring motivations for certain relationship choices to identifying patterns that undermine your true desires, this discussion offers insights and compassion for anyone grappling with these challenges. Whether you’ve struggled with these issues yourself or are simply seeking greater understanding, this episode provides valuable food for thought.
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Are you tired of being told you need to drop a fortune on a first date just to prove you’re “serious”? In this episode of Sex, Love, and Soul, I—Mary Knight—unpack the new dating pressures created by social media “experts” and debunk the myth that an expensive steakhouse is the only way to impress a woman. We’ll explore why you don’t have to break the bank to show genuine interest, how true confidence and security aren’t measured by designer dinners, and why a coffee date can sometimes be the most honest way to meet someone.
I’ll also cover the damaging messages men receive, from believing you must be six feet tall with six figures to thinking that simply having real desires makes you “dangerous.” These conflicting narratives lead many men to feel stuck, discouraged, or even tempted to ditch traditional dating entirely. The truth? Healthy, fulfilling relationships start with mutual respect, clarity, and embracing your authentic self—no overpriced tab required.
If you’re a “nice guy” fed up with the dating merry-go-round, grab my book, How to Turn Nice into Sexy, and discover how to stay true to who you are while confidently navigating modern dating. You’ll find it at www.sexloveandsoul.com. And if you’re ready for one-on-one support, visit www.sexloveandsoulcoaching.com to schedule a personalized coaching session. Let’s cut through the noise and get back to what really matters: real human connection.
Welcome to Sex, Love & Soul, hosted by me, Mary Knight! I'm thrilled you've joined me for another episode where I go a little deeper into my past life as an escort. Today, I'll continue from where we left off in our last discussion about cam girls, responding to an insightful email that raised questions about the digital transformation of intimacy.
In today's episode, I'll share why, despite the apparent risks, I felt safer working privately as an escort than as a public performer in strip clubs. Although illusory control over my environment, this sense of safety was crucial for me. I'll explore how this need for privacy influenced my decision to leave the more visible world of stripping for the discreet and autonomous life of an escort.
We'll also look at the financial motivations behind my choices, how dealing with shame and the pursuit of independence propelled me forward, and the complex dynamics within the escort business. This includes the often overlooked aspect of financial exploitation by partners—how boyfriends or pimps can manipulate both the worker and the client.
If you’re a man who’s formed a connection—past or present—with a sex worker and want to understand that bond, you’re not alone. I offer one-on-one coaching at www.sexloveandsoulcoaching.com
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Welcome to Sex, Love & Soul! I’m Mary Knight, and in today’s episode, I’m diving deeper into my past as both an escort and a Madam—an experience many of you have been curious about.
While I don’t often share these stories and never for pure shock value, I believe there’s so much to learn from what men revealed to me about why they chose to see me rather than be at home with their wives. It’s rarely just about sex with an attractive stranger. In this conversation, we’ll look at the complex reality of sex work, from traditional escort services to the rise of cam shows and the motivations behind them. I’ll share what I’ve observed when it comes to the potential for manipulation.
As a life coach supporting men looking for healthier, more authentic connections, I’m here to offer insights into what drives these behaviors, how shame can perpetuate them, and how to reclaim your sense of self and clarity. I’ll also let you know about follow-up videos where I continue my personal story and share practical tips for those navigating relationships with sex workers. Interested in personalized guidance? Visit www.sexloveandsoulcoaching.com for coaching, "How to Turn Nice into Your Sexy Superpower" www.sexloveandsoul.com. Let’s journey together toward understanding, self-awareness, and real intimacy. Join my weekly newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/sexloveandsoul/qt0wogoy7z Stay tuned for the next episode!
Are you the nice guy stuck in relationships that feel more like friendships? Are you convincing yourself it's enough—when deep down, you know it's not? Today, we’re diving into why this happens and how to break free.
Hi, I’m Mary Knight, a relationship coach with a unique background and over 15 years of experience helping men transform their lives and relationships. My journey began as a retired high-end escort and brothel Madam, where I witnessed firsthand the struggles of nice guys trying to navigate love, intimacy, and connection.
In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I’ll uncover:
This is not about blaming or judging—this is about reclaiming your confidence, your desires, and your power. Let’s talk about what it takes to stop settling and create the kind of connection you want.
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In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I, Mary Knight, get into why some "nice guys" struggle with owning their sexuality. Many men arrive on a date with good intentions but often hold back, treating the woman like a fragile victim of male sexuality. This mindset keeps them from truly connecting, both emotionally and physically. I’m not saying men's actions don't sometimes harm women, but most women aren’t looking for protection from your desire—they want to feel your masculine presence. In this video, I explore why men need to acknowledge their sexual energy and lead with it confidently—without feeling guilt or shame. When men believe they're somehow dangerous or predatory just for wanting intimacy, they lose the chance to form genuine, fulfilling connections. This creates a disconnect and push women away. I also talk about the war on masculinity and femininity and how it’s shaping modern dating dynamics. It’s time to unlearn some harmful societal teachings and embrace healthy masculinity in a way that honors both men and women. If you're ready to shift your perspective, embrace your sexual confidence, and improve your dating life, watch now! Have questions or thoughts? Drop them in the comments or email me at mary@sexloveandsoul.com Don’t forget to subscribe for more discussions on love, intimacy, and self-discovery! Ready to Turn Nice into Your Sexy SuperPower - buy my booklet at: www.sexloveansoul.com
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Sex Love and Soul is a place where we cut through the myths around relationships and intimacy, especially for the "nice guys" who struggle to connect deeply with women. I’m Mary Knight, your host, and today, we’re going to explore why being a nice guy doesn’t always get the results you want in your love life and how to shift from being stuck in your head to truly being present in your body.
Women appreciate nice guys, but there's a disconnect that many don’t see: nice guys often live in their heads instead of their bodies. When you focus on your thoughts — “Does she like me? Am I doing this right?” — you’re not truly with her in the moment. And when you're stuck in your head it's hard to express your true desires. It shows up in your dating life as anxiety, premature ejaculation, or even struggling to feel aroused at all. This creates a frustrating cycle where no matter how good your intentions are.
The solution is getting out of your head and into your body. In today’s show, I’ll walk you through a simple exercise that will help you shift your energy to where it needs to be: your core. By grounding yourself, you’ll start to notice how much more relaxed and confident you feel, and how women respond to you differently.
Presence is what women crave. When you show up with real, embodied confidence — not just “niceness” — you make her feel seen, heard, and desired. So, if you’re tired of being misunderstood or stuck in the friend zone, it’s time to change the game.
Being a nice guy can be your superpower — but only if you learn to lead with your full self. In this episode, I’ll show you how to turn your headspace into heartspace and why mastering this shift is the key to having the passionate, connected love life you’ve always wanted.
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Why She Put You in the Friendzone: What You're Missing About Female Attraction
In this episode of Sex, Love, and Soul, I, Mary Knight, dive deep into a crucial topic for men—what female sex drive isn't. Many men unknowingly focus on the wrong things in dating, which can land them squarely in the friendzone.
Do you think being respectful or walking on eggshells will make her see you as a romantic partner? You might be surprised to learn that respect, while essential in all relationships, is not what fuels female desire. In fact, female attraction is far more complex, and it's not about winning her approval or being the "nice guy."
This video is the third in my series, explaining how female sex drive actually works—and how it doesn't. From learning why women don't need respect to feel turned on, to understanding why being overly accommodating can backfire, we’ll discuss how you can stop focusing on her boundaries and start focusing on who you truly are as a man.
If you want to break free from the "nice guy" trap and have deeper, more meaningful connections with women, this episode is for you.
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Feeling confused when a woman suddenly needs space, stops responding to your texts, or seems less available? You're not alone. In this video, we'll get into what's really going on when a woman pulls away during the first few weeks of dating. Is it something you did? Or is it just part of how women rekindle their attraction? We’ll explore why even after an amazing date or great sex, a woman might instinctively create distance.
You’ll learn why space can be a crucial part of a woman’s sex drive and how her need for space is not necessarily a sign of disinterest. We’ll discuss key behaviors that might push her away and what to do when she starts pulling back. Plus, I'll share how a woman’s level of attraction influences how much space she needs, and how you can tell if her interest is fading or if she just needs time to re-ignite her feelings.
Whether you're in the first few dates or navigating a long-term relationship, understanding this dynamic is essential. Remember, a woman’s desire for space can be a natural part of building a healthy, lasting attraction. Stay tuned, and let's decode this often-misunderstood aspect of dating.
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Understanding Female Sex Drive: A Guide for Men
Welcome to the first video in a special series designed specifically for men, inspired by the questions I’ve received from my community. While my coaching, courses, and podcast primarily focus on women, I’ve noticed an increasing number of queries from men seeking to understand the fundamentals of female sex drive. This series aims to demystify this topic and provide you with valuable insights.
In this video, we’re exploring the basics of what female sex drive is, particularly in the context of early dating. It’s important to note that we’re discussing general, healthy scenarios here, without delving into the complexities of individual nuances and kinks.
Curiosity and Trust: When a woman agrees to a date, two main elements of her sex drive are triggered—curiosity and trust. She’s intrigued by you and wants to solve the puzzle you represent. Additionally, she feels safe with you, knowing you can handle situations that arise.
The Role of Relaxation: For a woman to feel physically aroused, she must feel relaxed. Safety translates to the ability to relax, which is crucial for arousal.
Beyond Respect: Contrary to common belief, a woman’s sex drive doesn’t hinge on feeling respected for her accomplishments. While respect is important in a relationship, it’s not what turns her on. Overemphasizing respect can sometimes lead men into the friend zone.
Authenticity and Boundaries: Men who are attractive to women know their own boundaries and values. They don’t need to know a woman’s boundaries upfront because they remain consistent in their behavior and values regardless of external factors. This authenticity is a key turn-on for women.
Pride and Accomplishment: A man who is proud of his life and accomplishments naturally exudes confidence, which is highly attractive to women. It’s about living authentically and being true to yourself.
In the next video, we’ll dive into why a woman might say she needs space and what that really means.
What if I told you there’s no such thing as self-sabotage? Would you believe me? There is no dark part of your psyche trying to mess up your life!
This podcast explores the truth behind seemingly unproductive behaviors and what that critical voice inside your head is really trying to tell you.
Your inner critic isn't trying to punish you - it's trying to keep you safe. Our brain’s primary function is to keep us alive, equating the unknown with danger and the familiar with safety, even if that familiar space isn’t fulfilling. When you start feeling critical or picking fights, it’s not self-sabotage; it's a signal that you feel threatened. Understanding this response allows you to address your feelings with compassion rather than criticism, helping you work towards growth and change with a positive mindset.
Join me, Mary Knight, on "Sex, Love, and Soul," as we dive deep into understanding these protective mechanisms of our brain. We’ll uncover why we act out in ways that seem counterproductive and how to navigate these feelings to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Thank you for listening. If you enjoy this podcast, please rate, review, and share it with others who might benefit. If you have any questions or topics you’d like me to cover, reach out at mary@sexloveandsoul.com. I personally answer all my emails and would love to hear from you.
I’ll share actionable techniques you can use in the moment to quickly and effectively resolve triggers.
I’ll guide you through practical steps to move through your emotions and manage triggers with grace and a sense of control. These steps aren’t just theoretical; they’re based on my journey and the methods I’ve honed over the past 20 years.
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