In this vlog episode I'm exploring what can hold us back from change. I share the changes I'm experiencing and the questions that are helping me to see what's holding my back from changing & why I feel so scared to. Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/  

This episode is a really personal one. I’m talking about what it’s been like to go no contact with my dad — how I came to that decision, what it looked like in real life, and why it wasn’t something I rushed into.   I share the messy parts too: the therapy sessions that helped me see some of his narcissistic patterns, the arguments that kept spiraling, and the point where I realized boundaries just weren’t working anymore. For me, no contact wasn’t about holding a grudge — it was about finally having space to breathe, figure out who I am, and stop getting pulled back into the same toxic cycle.   In this chat, I get into: What starting “no contact” actually looked like for me How therapy and boundary work gave me the push I needed The guilt, family drama, and awkwardness that came with the choice Why it ended up being one of the most healing things I’ve done   If you’re thinking about going no contact with a parent (or already have), I hope this feels like sitting down with a friend who gets it. It’s not easy and I hope this episode will support you in making the decision that feels right for you!   Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Grief doesn’t come with a timeline—and six years in, I’ve realised it’s not about “acceptance” or "moving on" but about learning how to live with and integrate both the love and the loss. 💔 In this episode of The Self Development Collective, I share openly about my own grief journey after losing my brother, what has shifted since my “3 years in” update, and the unexpected ways grief continues to shape life years later.   If you’re walking through grief, or supporting someone who is, I hope this conversation offers comfort and connection. Grief is messy, deeply personal, and never looks the same for everyone. In this episode, we explore:   ⏳ What grief can look and feel like six years later 💭 The ongoing challenges that still show up over time 🌙 How loss can shape the way we live day to day 💡 Why respecting our limits and being gentle with ourselves matters in healing   This isn’t about “fixing” grief—it’s about honesty, hope, and knowing you’re not alone in the process of carrying loss.   Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Grief & Milestones/Celebrations // How I Cope & What I’ve Learned   Grief can feel especially heavy during milestones and celebrations. Whether it’s a birthday, wedding, anniversary, or holiday, these moments often highlight our loved one and our grief even more.   In this episode, I share my own experience of navigating grief during my daughter’s first birthday and the insights I’ve found through The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor. Her research on how the brain processes grief helped me understand why milestones make grief feel so raw—and why it’s normal for these moments to trigger waves of sadness.   We’ll explore: Why milestones and celebrations intensify grief How the brain “maps” loved ones who are no longer here Why acceptance isn’t the goal—integration is What I’ve learned about coping with grief during milestones Gentle practices that help me care for myself in these tender moments   If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with grief and loss of a loved one during big life events, this episode offers compassion, clarity, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone. Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

In this episode, I sit down with my school friend Jade to unpack her entire ADHD diagnosis journey: what finally prompted her to seek answers, the childhood signs she now recognises, and how her life has shifted both before and after putting a name on her experience.   🔸 What You’ll Hear: • The subtle signs in school and uni • What led to the decision for a diagnosis in adulthood and motherhood • How Jade navigated the assessment process: gathering school reports, pushing past gender bias, and finding a neuro-affirming psychiatrist • Life post diagnosis • A guest perspective on what an ADHD diagnosis really means—and how naming it can transform your relationships, work, and self-understanding   Whether you’re supporting someone with ADHD or exploring a diagnosis for yourself, Jade’s candid story offers support. It's a great way to explore what the process and experience of an adult ADHD diagnosis can look like.   Join our email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools delivered straight to your inbox—because you don’t have to navigate this alone. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Going through a friendship breakup can feel even more confusing than a romantic one. The signs are subtle, the emotions complicated—and the grief? Often overlooked. In this episode, we talk about the quiet unraveling of friendships that once felt like home, and what to do when they no longer feel right.   If you’ve been feeling emotionally drained, anxious before seeing someone, or like you have to shrink yourself around a friend, this episode will help you explore whether it’s time to let go. I share my own friendship breakup story, the emotional signs I ignored, and how life transitions—like motherhood, grief, or personal growth—can shift our capacity to connect.   This is for you if you’re navigating the pain of losing a friend, wondering what’s changed, and seeking compassionate, real-talk relationship advice—without blame or guilt.   🔸 What You’ll Hear: Why some friendships fade even when there’s no big fight Signs of emotional disconnection and subtle burnout The difference between toxic friendships and natural drift How capacity, expectations, and identity shifts create change Reflective questions to help you let go with love   Whether you’re in the middle of a friendship breakup or just starting to question a connection, you’re not alone. This conversation is your permission to honor where you are, and reclaim space for friendships that align with who you are now.     Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Feeling Like You’re Always Helping? Signs of Emotional Burnout in Relationships   In this episode of the Self Development Collective, we’re diving deep into a type of emotional burnout we don’t talk about enough—the kind that happens when we’re supporting others.   This isn’t about work stress or parenting exhaustion. This is about those of us who take on the role of the helper. The fixer. The person who tries to hold everything—and everyone—together. And the emotional tiredness that comes with that.   I share a recent moment in therapy that completely shifted how I understood my emotional exhaustion. This episode talks about the signs of emotional burnout when the challenges we're supporting aren't our own but those of others.   So if you’re asking yourself, “Why do I feel so tired when nothing’s really happening to me?”—this episode is for you.   We’ll explore: What emotional burnout can look like when we’re constantly helping others Why being the “emotional support person” can be draining How emotional tiredness often shows up as anger, resentment, or numbness Why childhood roles may wire us into over-helping What it actually means to set boundaries as a helper   Whether you’re the go-to in your family, your friendships, or just always feel responsible for others—this is a gentle, honest reflection on the emotional exhaustion that can come with that role.   ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – Feeling burnt out but not sure why? 03:10 – The invisible weight of emotional support 06:45 – What “emotional tiredness” can look like 09:20 – Childhood roles and how they shape us 12:05 – Practicing boundaries (even when it’s hard) 15:00 – Reflections + how to reconnect with yourself     Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Making Decisions In Life (How Invisible Family Rules Shape Our Life Decisions) Have you ever found yourself stuck, unsure why you're making the decisions you're making — or why it feels so hard to make any at all? In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about one of those moments. A time when I was deep in the decision-making process and realised I was pushing myself down a path that didn’t actually feel like mine. Through conversations in therapy and reflecting on my experience, I started to uncover something deeper — the invisible rules and generational expectations that had quietly shaped how I made decisions my whole life. We talk about: The invisible family rules that shape our decision making How legacy burdens can show up in our personal growth journey The emotional toll of trying to live up to inherited expectations How to begin making decisions that reflect who you are now — not who others expected you to be This episode is for anyone who’s ever asked themselves, “Why does this feel so hard?” or “Is this really my choice?” It’s not just about how to make decisions — it’s about how to make them with clarity, compassion, and connection to yourself. Whether you're exploring personal development, mental health, or just learning how to stop overthinking every life choice — this one's for you. As always, take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be kind to yourself in the process. Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & personal story03:00 – The emotional cycle of decision fatigue10:45 – What are invisible family rules?14:30 – Legacy burdens & how they show up20:00 – Making choices that reflect your life now29:00 – Final thoughts and gentle reminders   Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox.👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollectInstagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with the inner critic—how it held me back, and how I’ve slowly learned to work with it rather than against it using the powerful lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.   For years, I tried everything: affirmations, mindset shifts, journaling... but nothing helped silence that critical voice inside me. It wasn’t until I discovered IFS that I completely shifted my approach to working with the inner critic.   Together, we’ll explore: What Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy says about the inner critic Why trying to "silence" your inner critic often backfires The connection between your inner critic and childhood experiences A simple but powerful reframe that helped me soften my self-talk Book recommendation: Freedom from the Inner Critic by Jay Earley & Bonnie Weiss   Whether your inner critic sounds like “You’re not good enough,” or keeps pushing you to “do more, be more,” this episode is here to remind you: you are not alone. And there is a gentle way forward.   Resources for this episode //   Freedom From Your Inner Critic - Bonnie Weiss & Jay Early https://www.amazon.com.au/Freedom-Your-Inner-Critic-Self-Therapy/dp/1604079428 No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1785045113 Internal Family Systems - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Second/dp/B0D6NL2Y8C   Join the email community //   Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi //   TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

This is the final episode of Season 1, and I just want to say—thank you so much for being here. Your time, energy, and presence have meant the world to me. In this wrap-up episode, I reflect on everything we explored this season—from redefining goals and values to building daily vision, staying aligned in our habits, and reconnecting with ourselves in more meaningful ways. I share what I’ve learned through showing up consistently (which I’m super proud of), and why this season has felt like a whole new way of doing self-development—one that honors where we are now, not just where we want to go. We also dive into: 🌱 Why reflection matters just as much as action 💭 The transition into Season 2 and how the focus is shifting to deeper emotional work (relationships, grief, the inner critic) 🧠 My own healing journey with narcissistic relationships and upcoming episodes on cutting ties with a narcissistic parent 🎤 A new Q&A segment launching next season—where YOU can ask anonymous questions about personal growth, relationships, or anything in between - Ask here This is your reminder to celebrate your growth too. Whether you listened to one episode or all of them, I’m proud of you—and I hope you’re proud of yourself. ✨ Take a moment to rest, reflect, and acknowledge how far you’ve come. Timestamps00:00 – A heartfelt thank you01:00 – Reflections on showing up & growth02:00 – What this season taught me03:00 – Season 2 preview: grief, relationships, and the inner critic04:15 – Launching the anonymous Q&A segment05:00 – Why I’m taking a short break + what’s next     Join the email community //Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollectInstagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

I think one of the most confusing and painful parts of growing up is how friendships change—especially when there’s no big argument, just distance… or silence. In this episode, I sat down with my long-time friend Dimitri to talk honestly about what it’s like when friendships shift. We’ve been friends for over 25 years, and our dynamic has definitely ebbed and flowed, but somehow, we’ve always found our way back to that same, easy connection. Still, we’ve both had experiences where friendships just faded—or ended without any real explanation—and it can leave you questioning everything. We talked about: The difference between friendships that evolve vs. ones that slowly drift What it feels like when you bump into someone who used to be a “birthday dinner” person and now won’t even say hi That weird space where you’re not angry… but still hurt How relationships, timelines, life stages, and even effort (or lack of it) change friendships And yes… that sting when someone makes more effort with other people, but not you I also opened up about how my past relationship impacted my friendships in ways I didn’t even realise at the time. And Dimitri shared a story of reconnecting with a friend after 8 years apart—which gave me hope that sometimes, the door isn’t always fully closed. This one is personal, a little messy, and super honest. If you’ve ever had a friendship fade without really knowing why—or if you’re navigating that weird grief that comes with growing apart—I hope this episode makes you feel seen.   Join the email community //Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox.👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi //TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollectInstagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Choosing Ourselves In Our Choices // Making Decisions That Are Less Accepted But More Authentic   Have you ever struggled to make a decision that feels right for YOU instead of what others expect?   In this episode, I'm joined by Dimitri Kyvetos, one of my longest and closest friends of over 25 years. We dive into making choices that truly reflect who we are rather than following the path that's more well regarded or better recognized by family and loved ones.   We explore: - How our similar cultural backgrounds (Greek and Italian) shape the way we approach decisions - The challenge of choosing authenticity over attachment to others' expectations - Why in the long run, we regret the things we don't do more than the things we did do - How making those authentic choices builds inner confidence - it's not about waiting for confidence first!   Dimitri shares his journey of making significant career changes, including his decision to work for himself. We also talk about his thoughts on traveling to Greece solo - something that keeps coming up for him but hasn't happened yet. I share my own regret about not studying overseas in Italy when I wanted to.   Out of everything, that decision still bothers me the most - I did travel to Italy, but never did it the way I really wanted to. This conversation is for anyone who feels stuck between making choices that align with who they are versus choices that others approve of. What decisions have been calling you that you haven't answered yet?   Sometimes the choices that constantly call us are the ones we need to make, even if we don't fully understand why.   Join the email community // Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi // TikTok // tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram // instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook // https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

Visualizing Our Future Self: Daily Vision for Sustainable Growth The Power of Daily Vision vs. Long-Term Vision In this episode of the Self Development Collective, I explore why visualizing our future self through creating a daily vision works better than focusing solely on long-term goals. From Long-Term Vision to Yearly Vision I share my personal journey of discovering how a 5-10 year vision, while inspiring, can sometimes feel overwhelming and demotivating due to the gap between where we are now and where we want to be. Instead, I've found that creating a more accessible yearly vision provides a realistic stepping stone that maintains our connection to our long-term dreams. Implementing Your Daily Vision in Real Life This approach has completely shifted how I approach my days and weeks: Consider your current life stage (for me, parenting two under five) Identify what's achievable now versus what needs gradual work Implement some parts of your vision immediately Work steadily toward other aspects The yearly vision serves as that middle ground—close enough to feel achievable but still moving us toward our bigger dreams. By visualizing our future self just one year ahead, we focus on the next step rather than feeling discouraged by the distance to our destination. Visualizing Our Future Self with Flexibility Sometimes it's not about waiting until we can do something perfectly, but adjusting how we do it now: Journal once a week instead of daily Connect with friends monthly rather than weekly Maintain consistency with what's possible in your current season This episode completes our series on habits and values, offering a practical way to visualize our future self through both daily and yearly visions. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life's challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

How to Make a Habit That Actually Sticks: The Weekly Approach to Consistency Feeling the pressure to maintain perfect daily habits? In this episode, I reveal why the "never skip a day" mentality might actually be sabotaging your consistency. Drawing from personal experience, I share three practical strategies that transformed my approach to habit-building, making habits more enjoyable and sustainable. Discover how thinking weekly instead of daily, connecting habits to core values, and embracing flexibility can help you maintain consistency without the guilt. Whether you're struggling with how to make a habit stick or looking to create a weekly routine that honors your natural rhythm, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on consistent habit-building that works in real life. Why Traditional Approaches to Making Habits Can Be A Struggle Through my experience as both a content creator and parent, I've discovered that the hustle culture mentality of never skipping habits creates unnecessary pressure. I explain how shifting from a daily to a weekly mindset transformed my relationship with habits, making them more enjoyable and sustainable long-term. 3 Powerful Strategies for How to Make a Habit Consistent I outline three game-changing approaches that have helped me maintain consistency with my habits: • Connecting habits deeply to your values gives you a meaningful "why" behind each action • Thinking weekly instead of daily removes the pressure of perfection • Recognizing there are multiple ways to live out your values provides needed flexibility. How to Create a Weekly Routine That Fits Your Life Using my podcasting journey as an example, I demonstrate how understanding my core value of connection allowed me to: • Shift from an unsustainable twice-weekly schedule to a more aligned bi-weekly approach • Implement seasons in my content creation for better work-life balance • Enhance both my content quality and personal connections The Secret to Making Habits That Last: Flexibility Over Perfection Discover how consistency doesn't have to mean doing the same thing every day by: • Setting flexible weekly goals that respect your natural rhythm • Choosing different ways to fulfill the same value on different days • Removing the guilt from days when habits don't happen as planned   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life's challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/ #HowToMakeAHabit #WeeklyRoutine #ConsistentHabits #PersonalGrowth #SelfDevelopment

How to Set Goals and Habits That Actually Motivate You: A Simple Framework Want to learn how to set goals and habits that genuinely excite you? In this episode, I share my personal framework for setting goals and habits that connect deeply with your values, making them naturally motivating rather than another item on your should-do list. Why Traditional Ways to Set Goals and Habits Often Feel Challenging Through my podcasting experience, I reveal why traditional SMART goals and rigid habits weren't enough. Learn how I transformed my approach to setting goals and habits by connecting them to core values, shifting from external pressure to internal motivation. Essential Steps to Set Goals and Habits That Stick I share a three-step process to set goals and habits aligned with your values. Discover how understanding the crucial "just because" factor in habit formation can transform your approach. Learn practical methods for setting habits across personal life, work, and relationships, plus how to convert your goals into specific, actionable habits that last. Real-Life Examples of Setting Meaningful Goals and Habits Using my journey as an example, I demonstrate how setting habits based on my value of connection transformed everything from my content creation to family time. Learn how I shifted from setting overwhelming goals to creating aligned, achievable habits that feel natural and sustainable. How to Set Goals and Habits That Feel Authentic Discover how this framework helps you set habits that honor your natural rhythm while maintaining consistency. Perfect for anyone looking to move beyond traditional goal setting to create deeply motivating, value-aligned habits. Join me to learn how setting goals and habits with purpose can transform your approach to personal development.   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/ #PersonalDevelopment #GoalSetting #Habits #PersonalGrowth #LifeGoals

In this episode, I address a powerful Q&A from a listener about navigating emotional boundaries, particularly with a narcissistic presence. 🛡️✨   Join me as I share practical steps and draw from my journey, offering strategies to start setting emotional boundaries and working with the weight of guilt.   🚀 Key Insights: Why emotional boundaries can be tricky Two ways we can work with the feelings of guilt that come with setting emotional boundaries Simple steps that we can journal   This discussion is not just about setting boundaries, feeling empowered to navigate emotional boundaries, and getting to know our guilt. ❤️   ❤️ Have a Q you'd like A? Share your question here 👇 https://forms.gle/41exzfEMEBA2TvmR7   Related Episodes:   ❤️ Boundaries With A Narcissistic Parenthttps://selfdevelopmentcollective.podbean.com/e/boundaries-with-a-narcissistic-parent-setting-boundaries-with-toxic-parents-advice/   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/  

Hey guys! In this episode of The Self Development Collective, I'm diving into something I haven't talked about in ages - goal setting. But here's the thing: I'm approaching it totally differently than I used to. I've been watching heaps of YouTube content lately (you know I've been loving Molly Mae!), and with the start of the year, there's been so much stuff about productivity and goal setting. And it got me thinking - why have I been avoiding setting proper goals for so long? This episode came from a really honest place of reflection. You know those moments when you look back at old journals and realize how much has changed? That's exactly what sparked this conversation. I dive deep into my journey with goal setting - from being someone who had pages and pages of goals and productivity systems, to completely avoiding them, to finally finding a way that actually works for me. In this episode, I open up about my own experiences and share some really personal stories that completely transformed how I think about creating the life we want. I explore why traditional goal-setting methods weren't working for me, and share a powerful realization about vision boards that might surprise you. This episode is perfect for you if: You've ever felt overwhelmed by traditional goal setting You're tired of chasing goals that don't feel meaningful You want to approach your dreams in a way that actually feels good You're looking for a more authentic way to create the life you want You're ready to think about goal setting in a completely different way This is actually part one of a series where I'll be breaking down a completely different approach to goal setting - one that's changed everything for me. I share some really vulnerable moments and practical insights that I hope will help shift your perspective too. I can't wait to hear what resonates with you from this episode. Drop a comment or shoot me an email to let me know your thoughts! #GoalSetting #PersonalDevelopment #RealTalk #AuthenticLiving #SelfDevelopment #MeaningfulGoals   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Growth vs. Change: Embracing Personal Growth in the New Year Episode Description: A Journey of Personal Growth 🎧 Hey guys! I'm so excited to share this transformative episode with you. After having my baby (he's two months old now!), I've been doing a lot of reflection on how we approach growth and development, and I want to share something that's completely shifted my perspective. The Power of Personal Growth Over Change You know how at the end of every year, we talk about all the things we want to change about ourselves? Through my deep dive into psychotherapy and personal growth work, I've discovered something game-changing about how we approach our inner journey. What if instead of forcing change, we embraced understanding through curiosity? Key Insights for Transformation In this episode about authentic development, I share openly about:* Why fighting against parts of ourselves blocks genuine growth and leads to disconnection* How my relationship with anger transformed into a powerful catalyst for understanding* The breakthrough moment in my journey when I stopped trying to change and started getting curious* Why understanding our emotions is crucial for sustainable transformation* Practical strategies for embracing all parts of ourselves in our development journey Real Talk About Personal Growth I get really honest about my experiences - like being labeled "the angry one" and how that impacted my path to understanding myself. Through exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychotherapy (I'm obsessed with Martha Sweezy's work!), I've discovered that real personal growth happens when we get curious about what our emotions are trying to tell us. A Fresh Perspective on Personal Growth This episode is perfect if you're feeling stuck in your journey or tired of traditional self-help advice. I share raw, authentic experiences about how shifting from "how can I change?" to "how can I grow?" has transformed my approach to development and understanding. Embracing Your Whole Self And as I always say - take what resonates, leave what doesn't. But I'm really curious to see how this new perspective might transform the way you work with all parts of yourself. Join me in this honest conversation about growth, where we explore how understanding ourselves, rather than trying to change ourselves, might be the key to authentic transformation. Stay Connected Follow along with my content:* New episodes every two weeks* Deep dives into psychological concepts made accessible* Real-life applications for your journey of growth Links Mentioned The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lernerhttps://www.amazon.com.au/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043 Internal Family Systems Therapy for Shame and Guilt by Martha Sweezyhttps://amzn.asia/d/5qmcKlh #PersonalGrowth #AuthenticGrowth #SelfDevelopment #IFSTherapy #EmotionalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #MentalHealth #PersonalTransformation #GrowthMindset #EmotionalIntelligence Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Conflict Resolution in Relationships: How To Repair After Anger Hey everyone. In this episode of the Self Development Collective, I want to share something really personal about conflict resolution in relationships - and honestly, I'm diving into this topic because it's something I struggle with myself. I'll tell you about a recent situation that happened with my mom, my eight-week-old baby, and a Christmas tree that taught me so much about handling family conflicts. What You'll Learn: A practical four-step framework for resolving relationship conflicts after intense emotional moments Why taking space after conflict can lead to deeper connection and understanding How to communicate your feelings authentically without causing more damage The importance of honoring your emotional experience while repairing relationships Key Topics Covered: My personal story of navigating a sensitive family situation as a new mom How losing my brother changed my perspective on family conflicts and connection Real-life application of the conflict resolution framework The transformative power of vulnerability in relationship repair I break down the framework that's really helped me repair relationships after those heated moments. Through my own story of moving from intense anger to a beautiful reconnection with my mom, I show how this framework works in real life. I'm completely open about my struggles - like feeling punished for taking rest as a new mom, and the complicated emotions that come with missing special moments with my kids. This episode is perfect for anyone feeling stuck after a conflict, wondering how to make things right. Whether you're dealing with family tensions, partner disagreements, or friendship conflicts, I share practical tools that have transformed my own relationships and can help you find your way back to connection, even after those really tough moments. Remember: repair is always possible, and sometimes those post-conflict conversations can lead to even deeper understanding and stronger bonds. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

🎧 Hi there! I'm so excited to share this episode with you where I dive into why changing your life through personal development can feel so impossible sometimes. After taking almost a year off to have my baby and study, I've been thinking deeply about why some self development ideas around changing your life often leave us feeling more stuck than before. In this episode, I share my own journey with changing my life - from standing in a parking lot trying desperately to "think positive" at 20 years old, to discovering why these strategies weren't helping me grow. I talk about: Why replacing challenging thoughts with gratitude lists isn't always the path to changing your life How our "negative" parts often serve important protective functions What happened when I started reading psychotherapy books to help myself change Why understanding ourselves is more powerful than trying to force change How I'm bridging complex psychological concepts into simple, actionable strategies through The Self Development Collective to support inner growth This episode is perfect if you've ever felt frustrated with advice that tells you to "just think positive" or "eliminate your inner critic" when changing your life. I'm releasing new episodes every two weeks, bringing you accessible strategies based on powerful psychological concepts. Because I believe changing your life starts with truly understanding ourselves. #ChangingYourLife #PersonalDevelopment #LifeTransformation #SelfGrowth #PracticalPsychology #MentalHealth #SelfUnderstanding #PersonalGrowth Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/