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The Self Development Collective is a personal development and self-help community that focuses on how to increase our self-confidence and improve our relationships. We chat and share ideas on topics like mental health, self-awareness, beliefs, self-esteem, inner work, and self-confidence as well as relationship topics such as attachment styles, communication tips, boundaries and family systems.
How I Learned To Work With The Inner Critic (Not Fight It) // Internal Family Systems
Self Development Collective
30 minutes 56 seconds
5 months ago
How I Learned To Work With The Inner Critic (Not Fight It) // Internal Family Systems
In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with the inner critic—how it held me back, and how I’ve slowly learned to work with it rather than against it using the powerful lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.
For years, I tried everything: affirmations, mindset shifts, journaling... but nothing helped silence that critical voice inside me. It wasn’t until I discovered IFS that I completely shifted my approach to working with the inner critic.
Together, we’ll explore:
What Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy says about the inner critic
Why trying to "silence" your inner critic often backfires
The connection between your inner critic and childhood experiences
A simple but powerful reframe that helped me soften my self-talk
Book recommendation: Freedom from the Inner Critic by Jay Earley & Bonnie Weiss
Whether your inner critic sounds like “You’re not good enough,” or keeps pushing you to “do more, be more,” this episode is here to remind you: you are not alone. And there is a gentle way forward.
Resources for this episode //
Freedom From Your Inner Critic - Bonnie Weiss & Jay Early
https://www.amazon.com.au/Freedom-Your-Inner-Critic-Self-Therapy/dp/1604079428
No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz
https://www.amazon.com.au/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1785045113
Internal Family Systems - Richard Schwartz
https://www.amazon.com.au/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Second/dp/B0D6NL2Y8C
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The Self Development Collective is a personal development and self-help community that focuses on how to increase our self-confidence and improve our relationships. We chat and share ideas on topics like mental health, self-awareness, beliefs, self-esteem, inner work, and self-confidence as well as relationship topics such as attachment styles, communication tips, boundaries and family systems.
