🔊 Welcome back to ep.006 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch the previous episodes !

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo, and I’m so happy to have you here. 

Today’s episode is very special!! It’s our first guest episode, and it’s with none other than Kelechi Okafor ( @kelechnakof ). Kelechi is a Nigerian-British, multi-disciplinarian with unrivalled wit and intelligence. She is an actress, public speaker, writer and author, pole dance enthusiast, social commentator- to name but a few of the hats that she wears.

In this episode we talk about:

📲 Navigating online criticism and floggings

⚧️ Internalised misogyny 

🙋🏾‍♀️Womanism and feminism

🚺 Femininity coaches 

📖 Kelechi’s book, ‘ Awakened’, and being an author

In this episode, we sit down with Kelechi and talk about what it’s like to be an out-spoken Black woman forging a career and navigating visibility online and the growth that is gained from a good online flogging when you’re wrong. In this episode, we also colourfully discuss the importance of reading Black authors, academics and experts and what it means for literacy that interest in English Language and Literature are declining in Universities. We speak about womanism, feminism, internalised misogyny, and Black-British women; addressing our own journeys and we both voice our suspicions and distrust of the rise of femininity coaches and fascism. We discuss Kelechi’s new fiction book, ‘ Awakened’, and her motivations and influences for writing it. This episode also has a special story time segment / format that I hope you will enjoy as much as myself and Kelechi did.

🍿This is a must watch if you love nuance and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface; then you’re going to love this show!

Thank you for watching.

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🔊 Welcome back to ep.005 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch the previous episodes!

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo, and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode,

📝 In this episode we talk about:

🍿This episode is a must watch if you’re young woman trying to navigate dating and romance; and want to listen to unfiltered, unapologetic conversations about the importance of rejecting shame surrounding sex as a woman and why you shouldn’t internalise it.

If you love nuance and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface, then you’re going to love this show!

Thank you for watching.

Lots of love,

Sayo x

🔊 Welcome back to ep.005 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch the previous episodes !

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo,and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode, we’re talking about humility and the challenge how it is used socially at times.

We also talk about why I don’t believe that Black women should be humble and reject humility! We talk about the ways its social use & dictionary definition differ, and the impact of that on how people perceive humility; humility culture in the U.K.; gender & humility, and why I’m not humble and decided that I can never be humbled!!!!

In this episode we talk about:

😌 Humility fi dead !!

🤔What does it mean to be humble?

💁🏾‍♂️ Why men love to humble women

📲 Social media and humility

👸🏿 Black women and humility

🇬🇧 Humility culture in the UK

🍿This episode is a must watch if you want to be more confident and don’t realise that being humble is holding you back. In this episode, I talk about why humility culture makes me uncomfortable and why I reject it and never internalise humility. Ofc, this is mostly conjecture and all topics are more nuanced than a 40 minute episode will cover, so have the discernment to understand that I know there is more than can be said. To be humble is “ to have a lowered sense of self importance”, and i just don’t understand how that is a good thing.

If you love nuance and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface, then you’re going to love this show!

💬 Let me know in the comments: have you ever questioned how humility is used socially?

In what ways do you see humility to be good and what ways do you think it can be bad?

Have you noticed the disparity in how people try to humble Black women?

Are there any memories you have of people trying to humble you and you realise it was to undermine your confidence or achievements?

Thank you for watching.

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🔊 Welcome back to ep.004 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch the previous episodes!

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo, and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode, we’re talking about sex, baby! I get honest about some of my dating and relationship experiences and how I navigated my sexual curiosity. As a young African woman, trying to navigate the world or romance and dating when culture makes a taboo of women’s sexual desire and expression. Sex is often spoken about as something that is done to women, not with women. Rejecting the shame that is projected onto you as a woman is so freeing! Do not be silenced, sis.

📝 In this episode we talk about:

💕Dating as a young Black woman

⚧️ Sex and the women’s pleasure

🤔 Sexual curiosity

🫣 Shame culture and the conspiracy of silence around sex for women

🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒 Regretful mothers and wives

🍿This episode is a must watch if you’re young woman trying to navigate dating and romance; and want to listen to unfiltered, unapologetic conversations about the importance of rejecting shame surrounding sex as a woman and why you shouldn’t internalise it.

If you love nuance and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface, then you’re going to love this show!

💬 Let me know in the comments: were you encouraged to talk about sex with your parents?

Did you struggle navigating dating as a young woman?

Is talking about sex and exploring your sexuality something that makes you uncomfortable?

Would you say that you have a health relationship with your body?

Thank you for watching.

Lots of love,

Sayo x

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🔊 Welcome back to ep.3 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch the previous episodes !

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo,and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode we talk about:

🗂️👩🏿‍⚕️Therapy and forgiveness

🔮 Over-spiritualising and pathologizing

🤔 Does everything really happen for a reason?

👩🏻‍🏫 👶🏾👦🏼Ms. Rachel and parasocial relationships

🍿This episode is a must watch if you’re thinking about starting therapy, and want to listen to unfiltered, and unapologetic conversations about life and different perspectives.

If you love nuance and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface, then you’re going to love this show!

💬 Let me know in the comments: Have you considered starting thearpy?

Does your parent over-spiritualise things in your life? Is Ms. Rachel the problem or has pathologising gone too far?

In this episode, we’re talking about therapy and my experience with it so far. We are also questioning if ‘ everything happens for a reason’ and why I don’t agree with the statement. This week’s episode strikes a good balance between fun and light playful, but also touches on some deeper topics that will hopefully leave you with lots to think about.

Thank you for watching.

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🔊 Welcome back to ep.2 of Sayo Says! And if you’re joining for the first time, don’t forget to go back and watch ep.1!

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo, and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode we talk about:

👵🏾 Backhanded compliments from older women

🧠 How echo chambers feed into anti-intellectualism

🧐 Intellectual dishonesty, challenging people’s beliefs and your own

👨🏾‍🍼 Twitter and why so many men think they want children

🍿This episode is a must watch if you’re nosey, love to laugh, and want to listen to unfiltered, and unapologetic conversations about life.

If you love satire and a good story time, and thinking beyond the surface, then you’re going to love this show!

💬 Let me know in the comments: Do you make an effort to break out of your echo chamber?

What has surprised you most about dating and communicating what you want?

In this episode, the aim is to get you to take a moment to be introspective and step out of your comfort zone to challenge your prior beliefs; as well as to get you to fall even deeper in love with your host so she can get to 10k followers soon!

Thank you for watching.

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🔊 Welcome to the first episode of Sayo Says!

I’m your host, Adesayo, but you can call me Sayo,and I’m so happy to have you here.

In this episode we talk about:

🏡 Moving back home

🚫 Setting boundaries and being a strict babe

👫🏾 Getting kicked out by a guy

🧑‍🧑‍🧒 Why African parents need to apologise to their children more

🍿This episode is a must watch if you’re nosey, love to laugh, and want to listen to unfiltered, and unapologetic conversations about life.

If you love satire and a good story time, then you’re going to love this show!

💬 Let me know in the comments: have you struggled to set boundaries before? If so, why and has that changed?

Do your parents struggle to apologise to you?

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