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The Numbing Effects of P*rn Addiction: How Awareness Can Heal
In this episode, I discuss the pervasively numbing effects of p*rnography addiction on physical, mental, and spiritual levels. Discover how addiction traps you in a downward spiral that worsens over time and how awareness helps you break free from this cycle.
By drawing parallels with physical fitness, I explain how addiction, like a lack of exercise, creates self-reinforcing negative spirals. I delve into the specific ways in which porn addiction numbs the body and mind, while also numbing one's spiritual drive toward meaningful experiences. I shed light on the fears and escapism that fuel addiction and stress the importance of embracing life's challenges and risks as part of the healing journey.
Tune in to understand the harmful impacts of porn addiction and discover actionable insights to regain control over your life.
Here's the video about the 5 levels of addiction:https://youtu.be/yLnDilkqGQA
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:30 Understanding the Downward Spiral
03:59 Make the World Unfair in Your Favor
05:03 Physical Numbness
07:09 Mental Numbness
08:29 Spiritual Numbness
09:50 Not for Consumption
11:08 Every Man Feels the Fear
12:34 The Safe Choice but at What Cost?
15:10 Pursuits Worth Failing At
16:58 Fear Keeps You from The Best of Life
19:30 Conclusion
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Everyone who gives advice about how to become a better man is parroting the same checklist:
But here's the problem: if you do this, you're not becoming a man, you're becoming a clone. What's worse, you'll probably FAIL at the attempt to become a cookie-cutter alpha male clone.
In this video, I break down why most masculinity advice is just projection from guys who happened to be good at something. And how blindly following them is not only ineffective, it's unmasculine.
Then, we look at exactly what you can do to avoid the "template masculine" trap and forge your own path instead.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:00 Copy-Paste Masculinity Advice
01:32 What Makes it Un-Masculine
02:26 The Archetypal Masculine
04:00 What Gymfluencers Don't Tell You
06:04 Bodybuilding vs. Public Speaking?
08:39 It's About Affinity
09:02 Become the Explorer
09:49 Physical Mastery
10:39 Follow Your Curiosity
11:18 Try and See What Sticks
12:29 The Truth About Physical Attractiveness
13:50 Doing Your Own Thing is Attractive
14:28 Intellectual Mastery
15:15 What Fascinates You Makes You Fascinating
16:51 How to Stop Having NPC Vibes
17:24 Develop an Awareness/Vibes Skill
18:49 Warning - this makes you extraordinary
20:02 Stop Being Needy
Stop wasting your life, follow your curiosity: https://youtu.be/SnR38xy10fI
Do this if life feels totally meaningless: https://youtu.be/o9hM7s7xzG0
Do you crave real, deep friendship in your life? Do you want to have men around you whom you can trust, who've got your back, who help you grow and challenge you to keep going? In other words: do you want high quality friends?
Let's talk about exactly what it takes to make this happens. In this video, you'll discover why building this kind of friendship requires leadership. And why the world needs men like you to step up into greater social leadership.
You'll see what's been going wrong in the world that leads to such loneliness and disconnection as we're experiencing now and we'll go into the practical steps and tools you can use to change your own social life and the social lives of everyone you touch. By the end, you'll know exactly how to change your social life and you'll understand how this topic relates to the deeply masculine qualities of taking leadership and responsibility.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:54 I had to learn this from scratch
01:45 Relational Leadership
03:05 Overstimulated & Addicted
04:21 Get clear about what you want
05:43 Apply the Filter
07:58 Where to Find the Right People
08:38 Be Proactive
09:06 The Texting Rule
10:11 Create the Perfect Meetup
11:40 Activation Energy
14:10 A Matter of Practice
17:35 Cultivating Deep Connection
19:23 The World Needs You More than You Know
Related videos:
- Honesty & Courage: https://youtu.be/Tv10XZXwMy4
- Communication skills every man needs: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0
- Communication skills, part 2: https://youtu.be/ijVGplE45gI
Also, check out this article I co-authored about how I quickly gather awesome people around me when I arrive in a new place: https://thisistbh.substack.com/p/more-friends-wont-make-you-less-lonely
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There's a lot of talk about semen retention in the men's advice and nofap worlds. Unfortunately, almost everything people are saying about this is plain wrong. Really just entirely missing the point and probably doing more harm than good.
If you're going to do this, do it right and avoid the pitfalls and mistakes that I explain in this video. Here, you'll learn about the Taoist and Yogic roots of the idea of semen retention, why there are stories of people gaining superpowers from not nutting for a while and what you should and shouldn't do if this is a path of spiritual development you want to take.
Chapters:
00:00 We need to talk about this...
00:41 A quick disclaimer
02:01 What semen retention is NOT about
03:42 What semen retention IS about
04:50 "Moving Energy"
05:58 Okay, but how?
07:56 The Real Thing vs. The Side Effect
09:43 Why it does more harm than good
11:19 Don't Abstain(?)
12:27 Mistake Number 1
14:57 Mistake Number 2
16:17 What it SHOULD Feel Like
18:33 Do this instead
19:39 My personal experience
20:32 Get out of the Struggle Cycle
23:26 The World Needs Good Men
Related videos:
- Why it's harmful to expect benefits/superpowers on a specific timeline: https://youtu.be/bIdb60GrI18
- Don't get stuck in your masculine development: https://youtu.be/nLsEGUF3JUg
- How to develop a healthy masculine communication style: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0
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How do you build self respect? The only good answer to that question is: become a man you respect. Change your behavior so that it is in line with your values.
But how exactly do you do that?
Unfortunately, most guys do this wrong. Especially young, ambitious men tend to fall into the "trap of perfection". That's why I've come up with a simple tool you can use to build your habits and build self respect much more effectively. Use this approach to outperform all the average guys around you (who are constantly aiming for perfection and always falling short).
00:00 Simple But Powerful Question
01:20 How You're Doing it Wrong
02:26 The 3 Questions
02:59 Example 1: Gym
05:21 Example 2: Dating
08:14 Example 3: Relationship
10:25 How You Will Outperform
12:10 The Exception: When to Aim for Mastery
13:30 How Generalists Win
14:52 Try this Challenge
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What do you do when you are struggling with addictive urges? How can you stop yourself from compulsively doing things you later regret and falling back into bad habits?
The most effective tools I've found to deal with these issues are the 2 awareness tools I'm presenting in this video. I call them Spotlight Awareness and Embodiment.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:49 When your bad habit have the most power over you
01:26 Tool 1 - Spotlight Awareness
02:11 Checking in with Thoughts and Emotions
03:09 Keep following the thread
04:23 Underlying emotions leading to addictive behavior
06:03 Arriving at resolution
06:48 Turn it into a new habit
07:20 Tool 2 - Embodiment
07:50 How it Works
08:30 What to do if embodiment feels difficult to access
09:06 Focus on what is most noticeable
10:13 Learning to drop from your mind to your body
11:42 Rest your awareness with sensations
12:28 Why resistance doesn't work
14:30 How to combine these tools
15:37 Practicing awareness
15:58 Use these tools to make real progress
17:22 Conclusion
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The better your self control, the more successful you'll be. It's people who are good at delaying gratification that end up more successful, happier, better off and wealthier, compared to people who have low self control and act impulsively.
Common sense, right?
Well, it turns out that almost everything you've ever been told about self control is actually a misunderstanding. Many studies have shown that people with "high self control" do indeed end up healthier, happier and better off... but when you look closer, "self control" is actually a mis-labeling. What from the outside might look like self control is actually a combination of completely different characteristics.
What's worse, if you want to join this group of successful individuals, trying to exert more self control is actually making things worse, not better.
So let's dig into it and see how this applies to building habits, breaking bad habits and addictions and being smart about improving your life.
Chapters:
00:00 It all started with a marshmallow
02:20 False Conclusions
03:17 Delayed Gratification = Success?
04:59 "Self Control" is the wrong label
07:29 Trait vs. State
09:40 Self Control is for Losers
11:21 Key to Success 1
14:26 Key to Success 2
17:56 Key to Success 3
21:40 Summary
22:51 Believe Your Own Experience
Sources:
- https://docs.iza.org/dp14920.pdf
- https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39096668/
Footage from:
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8M7Xzjy_m8
- https://youtu.be/4L-n8Z7G0ic
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Men nowadays grow up without anyone teaching us how to become real men. We stay stuck in boyhood for far too long and it's a painful experience! But if you feel lost and confused like many do, it's not your fault. For some reason, you were not given the guidance and life skills that you deserved!
In today's podcast episode, I have a conversation with a friend of mine who had exactly this problem in his life - and then solved it in a very short amount of time. Darriall is someone I've personally known as he rapidly went through the stages of development for healthy masculinity (https://youtu.be/nLsEGUF3JUg).
You can find Darriall here:
In this episode:
00:00 The guidance we aren't getting
01:18 A real life example of breaking free
03:26 Literally leaving the comfort zone
07:41 Fake adversity doesn't work
09:05 What if you can't afford to leave?
14:44 Going Ghost Mode (the wrong way)
19:39 Why you should have a 💩 job
24:18 Get yourself unhooked (or you'll never succeed)
25:42 Why the 🤬 did no one tell you this?!
33:27 The advice you need to hear (not what you WANT to hear)
35:26 Don't get stuck in the trap
37:34 It's still your comfort zone (even if you hate it here)
42:34 Building mental fortitude
44:35 How to meet billionaires
50:04 Do it like a rapper
52:02 Conclusion
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The goal is not just to quit porn, it's to become completely uninterested in porn. And yes, that is possible, no matter how severely addicted you are right now.
Today, we look at a story that explains this. It can be hard to imagine that you'd literally become 100% addiction free, for most people. But once you understand the "alternate reality" that I explain in this video, you'll have a new perspective. This story will show you the true roots of addiction and the mental health issues that are closely tied to it. And it also shows you the way out.
This is about how to become the man who is completely uninterested in porn and other addictive stuff.
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In this episode:
00:00 Intro
00:44 Coping Early On
01:45 Managing vs. Healing
02:06 Once an Addict Always an Addict?
02:52 What Causes Addiction
04:05 An Alternative Scenario
04:33 Early Experiences
05:41 Why We Have Dysfunctional Families
06:33 Negative vs. Positive Imprint
07:58 A Healthy Exploration
09:54 The Unhealthy Reality
11:11 Boys and Girls
13:19 Our Culture Creates Addicts
14:44 Become Immune to Addiction
16:48 The Man Who is Uninterested
17:01 This is Not Just About You
18:05 What to Do Next
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Could it be that using pornography while in a relationship is actually WORSE than cheating? That sounds like a crazy claim, but there are at least 2 ways in which it is indeed worse.
We live in a world where it is normalized to watch porn. Even in a relationship, many people wouldn't be surprised that one partner (or both) still watch porn in secret. It's easy to dismiss this and assume it's harmless. Maybe even a good way to balance out mismatched libidos between the partners!
Unfortunately, this is not the whole truth. And when you look more closely at the long term effects and at the causes underneath, a very different picture reveals itself.
00:00 Could it really be worse than cheating?
00:58 Reason Nr. 1 - Brain Health
01:37 Evolutionary Perspective on Infidelity
02:48 Ethics vs. Health
03:33 Casual Use
05:04 What's better for the relationship?
05:29 The Long Term Harm
06:12 How it all goes wrong
06:29 The "Mismatched Libido" Excuse
07:50 Do women really have lower libido than men?
08:55 Using porn in a "healthy" way?
10:26 What happens when you keep numbing
10:39 Scenario 1
12:07 Putting your life back together
12:43 No longer the man-child
13:41 Scenario 2
14:19 The slow death of a relationship
14:49 Stuck in the same cycle
15:16 Sadly, I speak from experience
16:08 None of this means cheating is good
16:24 The third option
17:23 Make the honest choice
18:12 Set a High Standard
20:26 This is Why You Need to Step Up
21:30 How to Do the Honorable Thing
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Sources:
- The Evolution of Desire by David M. Buss
- The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
- Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan
Related videos:
- The 5 levels of porn addiction: https://youtu.be/yLnDilkqGQA
- How to quit while in a relationship: https://youtu.be/F28Rnel63xY
- Fake desires caused by porn consumption: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzPCWITx0GQ
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Quitting porn is often seen as the solution to many problems, but what if it makes intrusive thoughts worse during recovery? Intrusive thoughts are a withdrawal symptom that can be very frustrating to deal with, when you're quitting a bad habit or addiction. Unlike other withdrawal effects, many people find that intrusive thoughts actually get WORSE, the longer you stay clean.
Why does this happen and what can you do to eliminate these unwanted, unwelcome thoughts that pop into your head, once and for all? That's what we're examining in today's video, including a practical case study and the one key insight you need to never have this problem again.
If peace of mind has been difficult for you to get after you quit your addiction, this video contains the knowledge you've been missing.
Chapters:
00:00 This gets worse instead of better?
01:19 Part of the solution is not skipping
01:44 Why do intrusive thoughts happen?
03:21 Normal part of the recovery process
05:05 The crucial difference
06:40 It’s just how the brain works
09:18 Negative emotions are a strong signal
10:18 Your response to intrusive thoughts
11:37 The “emotional charge” model
12:20 How it all connects
13:03 Solutions, Part 1
14:23 Solutions, Part 2
15:15 Solutions, Part 3
17:45 A case study
18:52 How to never have intrusive thoughts
20:36 A new perspective on intrusive thoughts
21:44 One more thing
Discipline and hard work are the keys to success, right? It's how you accomplish your goals and create the life you envision... at least, that's what we're constantly being told.
But while discipline is a useful tool, it's not useful in every situation. And when it comes to achieving your goals, discipline can actually end up slowing you down rather than getting you there faster.
In today's episode, we unpack this unusual idea, so you can know the pitfalls of being overly reliant on discipline and you can detect the opportunities where there is an easier way to get better results.
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To become a man, you must progress through a natural process of maturing: from boy to Knight, to Prince to King.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where this natural progression is denied to most of us. And instead, we have social media, OnlyFans, vapes and junk food to keep us stuck in boy mode...
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The result is clear: we've got a lot of boys walking around in adult bodies, these days. We've lost and forgotten all the tools our ancestors had, to help in the difficult transition, the teach a boy how to become a real, complete man.
Nowadays, we get stuck in childhood in many ways. We become passive consumers of entertainment media and entertainment goods. And yet, no matter how comfortable we are or how much we entertain and stimulate ourselves, we never actually feel good in a lasting kind of way.
The solution to this is to get unstuck and progress through the stages of development that, as a man, you have a natural inclination to go through.
In this episode of the QuitByHealing Podcast, you'll discover the 4 stages of development that every man must go through, how to go through them and where it typically goes wrong.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:00 The 4 Stages
01:08 The Page - looking up to his heroes
01:51 The Knight - adventure calls!
02:23 Play and skill development
05:11 The Prince - time to build
07:19 The crisis at the end of the Prince phase
08:41 Multiple attempts as a Prince
10:05 The King - the mature man, in service of others
11:27 How to apply this to your life
12:25 How we get stuck
13:57 Addiction is seeking a substitute for real development
15:22 The eternal Page
16:24 A world designed to keep you immature
17:40 Getting stuck in the Prince stage
19:12 Avoiding failure is overrated
20:36 You can’t skip to the King stage
22:08 Which stage are you in?
24:00 Observe the stages in others
25:19 How you can progress to become The King
The stages of development presented in this episode are based on Alison Armstrong's work "The Amazing Development of Men" and I highly recommend you check it out.
In this episode, we're looking at the surprising and powerful benefits of... doing nothing.
Phone addiction, doomscrolling, social media dopamine traps, p*rn... everyone's addicted to digital stimulation these days. And it's causing a lot of suffering.
I know how bad this can get, both from personal experience and from the people I've worked with to overcome their addiction. When you're in the middle of a personal mental health crisis, everything feels overwhelming and hopeless. But what I have for you today is a message of hope. There is one fact of life, one thing that is universally true and that we can actually observe everywhere if we just pay close enough attention, that makes me very optimistic. And once you understand this, you will see that for you, no matter how desperate your situation seems, a solution is much closer and much more immediate than you think...
00:00 Intro
00:29 The Spiral of Suffering
01:27 The Thing Everyone Misses
03:27 Example: Curing Disease
04:33 Removing Interference
05:45 What (not) to DIY
07:07 What About Mental Health?
08:49 A Message of Hope
10:04 Don't Believe Me
11:45 A Fact of Life
12:03 Why this is a "Secret"
13:04 You Have the Power
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https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ ☝️ this is the link for the QuitByHealing Community, all the free courses I mentioned in the episode and for the 21 day QuitByHealing Program. When you use p*rn a lot, one of the consequences is that it changes and warps your desires. It's common for addicts to end up watching content that isn't even aligned with their true desires or even true sexual orientation. In today's episode, we examine the phenomenon and explain how you can "uninstall" those fake desires and return to a healthy, wholesome and authentic sexuality. Note: this is advanced content. If you are only just starting on your journey of addiction recovery, there is better content for you to start with. I recommend the first episode of the podcast: https://youtu.be/MIRntVnoX34?si=dPopq2M7SvNuOucE And this "how to quit" crash course: https://youtu.be/ttNE0Fd9PoI?si=lpu5g8QwD_TMkOdg Chapters: 00:00 An Important Warning 02:13 Emotional Burden 07:16 How to Heal 09:10 Real vs. Fake Desire 12:44 What Happens When You Quit 14:00 How to Develop Healthy Desire The most radical way to quit your addictions and reset your life: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=G7v2cPdbzEjdSJdb What happens if you relapse? https://youtu.be/lNvWG65Ta0Q?si=WHwPbEPpOTf7z4sk Why non-resistance is (scientifically) the best way to change: https://youtu.be/couAdusdd1w?si=dtuBOYkz4SXvWvhr
Do you ever feel like you're trying so hard to improve yourself and improve your life... but you're not making any progress? You're watching all this self help content, reading books, learning strategies, trying new things but you're just not sure if any of it is working. If so, this is the most important message you need to hear. It's what I wish someone had told me 20+ years ago, when my own journey started. Only through years of experience in building several businesses and in developing my own skills (pretty much from total loser to living the dream life) did I finally understand what I'm sharing with you in this video.
Learn my system here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ 00:00 - Intro 01:27 - Building a Successful Business 04:29 - Turning My Life Around 08:17 - Success Paradox 09:41 - Lesson from 2 Stories 10:55 - Why this is a Hidden Truth 12:41 - How to Actually Win 15:56 - Conclusion
Join the QuitByHealing community here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ "You're just doing it because you're single! Once you get a girlfriend or wife, you'll be fine!" This is what many people believe / hope about p*rn use and p*rn addiction. It's just a normal, harmless thing that guys do, right? And once you're partnered, the problems go away... Unfortunately, the opposite is often true and users find that their habit causes even MORE problems when they're in a relationship than when they were single. Today, we'll look at why this is and what you can do right now to prevent your addiction from ruining your next (or current) relationship. 00:00 Intro 01:03 My Story 06:17 How the addiction affects a relationship 08:58 When an addict gets into a relationship 11:10 What to Do: Single 15:28 What to Do: Partnered 17:18 Conclusion How to take leadership in communication & relationship: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0 How to establish healthy boundaries: https://youtu.be/ijVGplE45gI How to completely reset your brain in 30 days: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA Subscribe to the podcast, leave a voice note: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh Watch my interview on the Modern Couples Summit: https://summit.modern-couples.com/#aff=skillmedia
...and realizing this is like a cheat code for life.
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ You're making your life unnecessarily difficult by going after the things you want. Wait, what..? Isn't it a good thing to go for what you want? Well, yes. But there's one problem: the things you THINK you want aren't what you REALLY want. And in many cases, going after what you think you want actually makes it harder for you to get what you really want. I know this may sound a bit complicated, but that's exactly why I recorded this episode for the QuitByHealing podcast: once you understand this idea, it becomes a real life hack. It's what I used to shortcut my way to living my dream life. Sounds like a big claim, but I have the stories from my personal life to back it up. So strap in and take notes. If you get it, this might just change your life. Subscribe to the podcast, leave a voice note: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh 00:00 Intro 01:06 What You Think You Want vs. What You Really Want 01:25 I want the perfect physique 02:33 The Question 03:40 Lifting to Be Attractive to Women? 06:25 A shorter path to your goal 08:35 Direct or by Proxy? 09:07 I want a better jawline 10:04 I want status & respect 11:36 I want to be rich 14:10 Chasing Rainbows 14:41 Un-Addict Yourself 16:59 How to Do This 18:00 Conclusion The ultimate way to quit your addictions, reset your dopamine levels & become a radically better version of you: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=klTCTyDrI2Qcbr7Y The 3 stages of overcoming addictive behaviors: https://youtu.be/dXfLDUFt7jg?si=3i8Zs9zJ7Yq_CcwJ Being bored is good, actually: https://youtu.be/60ak4oTpPG4?si=PgFD5p59RxlC8RM1
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For men, our development is stunted by the modern world and most of us are stuck in "man-child mode" in many areas of our lives. In the last episode, I shared a technique you can use to form deep connections with people (like a mature man) instead of only shallow connections (like a child).
In this episode, we're looking at the flip side of this communication coin: how to establish and defend healthy boundaries.
This might sound simple, but the truth is that A) most likely no one has ever taught you how to do this and B) if you do this correctly, it's absolutely life changing.
If you:
You absolutely NEED the tool of healthy boundaries in your toolkit. 00:00 Intro 01:28 Not Everyone Deserves Your Trust 04:00 What Are Healthy Boundaries? 05:15 An Example 06:13 What Unhealthy Boundaries Look Like 07:36 Mature Communication is Contagious 08:52 Make a Better Impression 09:59 Become a Man of Values 13:46 How to Handle Boundary Violations 15:42 Practice in Small Steps 16:23 How it Changes Your Life 18:12 Surround Yourself With Excellence 19:08 Conclusion
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections. The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through the lens of status. But shallow connections always leave you feeling empty and lonely, no matter how many people you're surrounded by. This applies to both platonic connections as well as romantic ones. In response to widespread dissatisfaction, we see a lot of complaining and entitlement. Everyone's unhappy and in the modern dating discourse, everyone's trying to find someone to blame for this unhappiness. Someone other than themselves, that is. Instead, let's look at exactly why this is happening and how you are being called to step up and take on the role of a mature man and the role of leadership in your relationships. 00:00 Intro 01:40 Two Modes of Connection 04:18 What Does it Mean to Connect Deeply? 08:27 Depth of Connection in Romance 10.37 Don't Know What You're Missing 13:22 How You're Stuck in Boyhood 14:30 Solution, Part 1 17:17 Solution, Part 2 18:40 Solution, Part 3 20:40 Growth Outside the Comfort Zone 21:57 Conclusion