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Could it be that using pornography while in a relationship is actually WORSE than cheating? That sounds like a crazy claim, but there are at least 2 ways in which it is indeed worse.
We live in a world where it is normalized to watch porn. Even in a relationship, many people wouldn't be surprised that one partner (or both) still watch porn in secret. It's easy to dismiss this and assume it's harmless. Maybe even a good way to balance out mismatched libidos between the partners!
Unfortunately, this is not the whole truth. And when you look more closely at the long term effects and at the causes underneath, a very different picture reveals itself.
00:00 Could it really be worse than cheating?
00:58 Reason Nr. 1 - Brain Health
01:37 Evolutionary Perspective on Infidelity
02:48 Ethics vs. Health
03:33 Casual Use
05:04 What's better for the relationship?
05:29 The Long Term Harm
06:12 How it all goes wrong
06:29 The "Mismatched Libido" Excuse
07:50 Do women really have lower libido than men?
08:55 Using porn in a "healthy" way?
10:26 What happens when you keep numbing
10:39 Scenario 1
12:07 Putting your life back together
12:43 No longer the man-child
13:41 Scenario 2
14:19 The slow death of a relationship
14:49 Stuck in the same cycle
15:16 Sadly, I speak from experience
16:08 None of this means cheating is good
16:24 The third option
17:23 Make the honest choice
18:12 Set a High Standard
20:26 This is Why You Need to Step Up
21:30 How to Do the Honorable Thing
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Sources:
- The Evolution of Desire by David M. Buss
- The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
- Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan
Related videos:
- The 5 levels of porn addiction: https://youtu.be/yLnDilkqGQA
- How to quit while in a relationship: https://youtu.be/F28Rnel63xY
- Fake desires caused by porn consumption: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzPCWITx0GQ