Does the world seem like it's dragging along at a different pace? Do you constantly feel like you're the only one who notices "the emperor has no clothes"? Were you constantly teased or shamed for not conforming to what's "normal"? Do you wish you had accommodations for your needs that others readily received?
If that sounds all too familiar, you might be BUGN (Black Underrepresented/Unidentified Gifted and otherwise Neurodivergent).
This is a podcast primarily for Black gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people to learn about and discuss our unique experiences. I'm also here to create a safe and empowering space for all neurodivergent people, especially those who may not officially be identified and those from underrepresented communities. My goal is to move neurodivergence from deficiency to difference and to create a space where labels don't have to feel like pathology.
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Does the world seem like it's dragging along at a different pace? Do you constantly feel like you're the only one who notices "the emperor has no clothes"? Were you constantly teased or shamed for not conforming to what's "normal"? Do you wish you had accommodations for your needs that others readily received?
If that sounds all too familiar, you might be BUGN (Black Underrepresented/Unidentified Gifted and otherwise Neurodivergent).
This is a podcast primarily for Black gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people to learn about and discuss our unique experiences. I'm also here to create a safe and empowering space for all neurodivergent people, especially those who may not officially be identified and those from underrepresented communities. My goal is to move neurodivergence from deficiency to difference and to create a space where labels don't have to feel like pathology.
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Summary
In this episode, I delve into the complexities of anger, highlighting a number of ways that its presence is a pathway to healthier relationships. I discuss the importance of investigating anger rather than suppressing it and, furthermore, how societal norms, especially those dictated by systems of oppression, create extra burdens for melanated and marginalized people. I also share how anger helped me discover I was gifted and how it can help you understand your mind as well. I then provide actionable steps for harnessing your anger constructively to transform your life and community.
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Summary
In this episode, I explore and explain something that can be a bit confusing, the difference between excuses and reasons. Many of us have seen this come up in our neurodivergent communities. It seems we run into challenges when sharing our intent and thought process. It's frustrating because we want to improve and maintain our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, I help you understand how radical accountability and prioritizing connection can foster healthier relationships.
Key Points:
* Radical accountability involves taking ownership of one's actions and their impact.
* Healthy relationships require prioritizing connection over being right.
* Modeling healthy behavior can help others learn how to communicate effectively.
* Being an elite apologizer means acknowledging impact first, then intent.
* Personal growth involves recognizing our own triggers and patterns.
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* Hire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.com
* Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
* ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
* Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
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Summary
In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Reverend Nicholas Young about the intersections of faith, mental health, and the unique challenges faced by gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people. We touch on the importance of community, the role of grief in both ministry and therapy, and how to continue to center love and connection in a world filled with so many challenges. We also talk about the importance of working with Black boys to give them the things we wish we had as children. This is an important discussion for our community. Please connect with Nick and let me know what you think about this conversation!
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Summary
In this episode, I explore the concept of being a mirror in relationships and how we can learn emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. I delve into how our interactions with others can serve as mirrors, revealing lessons about ourselves. I discuss leveraging boundaries, the role of triggers in emotional responses, and the necessity of compassion for oneself and others. We talk a little James Baldwin and Rumi. This episode is about how we take more control of how we feel about our lives, spend less time bound by what happens around us and, ultimately, create amazing relationships that have more compassion, joy and safety.
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Summary
In this episode, I discuss the recent proposal by RFK Jr. to create a database of autistic individuals, expressing deep concern over the implications of such a move. He emphasizes the importance of community, advocacy, and understanding the complexities surrounding autism and neurodivergence. Sheldon calls for collective action against systemic oppression and misinformation, urging listeners to remain vocal and supportive of marginalized communities.
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In this episode, I take my time really digging into the concept of ego, exploring its role in self-awareness and personal identity. I discuss the importance of understanding the ego as both a source of strength and a potential obstacle. I briefly discuss Freud while leaning much more heavily on the thoughts of Mooji and my own thoughts about how we conceptualize our Self.
I talk a bit about psychological theories and then continue my journey by discussing the nature of consciousness, identity, and the transient nature of our experiences. I really go into the complexities of identity, authenticity, and the role of ego in shaping our self-perception. I also make sure to frame this from a neurodivergent perspective, since that significantly shapes how we see and interact with the world. At the end of the day, this is a deep and complex conversation about how to become truly aware of our true Selves so that we can not just survive but thrive through the connections we foster from a truly authentic and unmovable place that isn't bound by current or past circumstances.
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In this episode, I reflect on some things we need to leave in 2024 and some key things we need to make sure we're honing in on for 2025. I discuss things like patriarchy, the importance of internal validation, and the need for authentic community connections. How healthy boundaries and the power of imagination in creating new ways of being change our future? Join me as I think critically about our roles in perpetuating and dismantling oppressive systems while embracing our own power and authenticity moving forward into the new year.
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In this previously recorded episode, I speak with Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist specializing in neurodivergence and giftedness. We explore the complexities of being neurodivergent, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for supportive environments for gifted individuals. Dr. Matt shares his personal experiences as someone who was identified as gifted early but had to wait several years to be diagnosed with ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and the necessity of creating inclusive spaces that recognize and nurture diverse talents. We also discuss the significance of DEI work, the need for community and connection, and the role of self-awareness in navigating systemic issues that impact us all. This is a great start to our discussion that we will pick up again in the new year. Take a listen and check out Dr. Matt's book via the link below as well.
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Summary:
In this episode, I explore the complex nature of grief through personal experiences I've encountered over the past year or so. I reflect on the multiple deaths/transitions that led me to this point in my journey. I discuss the death of our cat, my grandmother, the challenge of ending a long-term marriage as well as the death of Self. Through these stories, I outline griefs as an integral part of love and personal growth. It's likely my most personal episode to date.
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In this episode, I reflect on the emotional aftermath of the recent elections in the United States. I acknowledge the real and healthy grief many of us are experiencing. I spoke off the cuff and without any notes or quotes or prepared thoughts, just my heart. I give the briefest glimpse into why this goes much deeper than whether "my team won". I also mention how it caused me to further reflect on the grief from deaths, divorce and more in the past year or so. I emphasize why and how we should process grief as a natural part of love and connection. Whether or not you listen to the episode, I urge you to seek community and not face this journey in isolation.
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Today we're welcoming back friend of the podcast, Dr. Kimberly Douglass. We're catching up with her and speaking more in-depth about what it means to, as she says, "Decolonize Neurodivergence" as well as why it's so important. Per usual, we just vibe and share our thoughts about how systems of oppression create unnecessary and harmful conditions we must work to free ourselves from, especially melanted and marginalized communities. Dr. Kimberly also discusses her program for women that helps them tackle this problem in their lives.
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Join me for my first guest/collaboriation episode where I was interviewed by Arash Zaghi of the "Square Pegs" podcast. This is one of my favorite episdoes because Arash's vision is very much aligned with mine.
I share my journey as a neurodivergent person, reflecting on childhood experiences, educational challenges, and the importance of advocacy. I discuss how my unique learning needs were often misunderstood, highlighting the critical role of supportive environments and the value of diverse thinking in STEM fields. We also discuss the intersectionality of being Black, gifted, and neurodivergent, addressing systemic biases and the importance of community and self-acceptance. Our discussion emphasizes the need for educational reform to better accommodate non-traditional learners and calls for a holistic approach to learning that recognizes and nurtures diverse cognitive abilities.
Square Pegs Podcast is a series of intimate conversations about navigating life and learning within the neurodiverse community, hosted by Dr. Arash Zaghi, Professor at the University of Connecticut School of Engineering. In each episode, we talk to neurodiverse students and experts in the field of neurodiversity.
Episode Highlights:
00:42 Meet Sheldon Gay: host of "I Must Be BUG'N" podcast
02:18 Sheldon's early school experiences
05:37 Discovering a passion for math and science
07:53 Divergent thinking and early academic challenges
11:10 The impact of real-world applications in education
15:42 Challenges in traditional education systems
27:41 The evolution of cognitive skills
28:24 Embracing uniquely brilliant minds
29:43 Changing systems to fit diverse minds
30:27 Choosing an MBA over engineering
32:18 Innovative projects and missed opportunities
33:39 Starting the "I Must Be BUG’N" podcast
34:42 Challenges of being neurodivergent in marginalized communities
38:08 The importance of diagnosis and acceptance
47:07 Creating a supportive community
53:15 Advice to younger self
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We're back with the conclusion of our latest episode where I talk with the amazing LaToya Hinton, PhD. She is a late-identified AuDHDer who's gifted. LaToya is a mixed methods researcher, data nerd, python programmer and advocate for neurodivergent women leaders. She had so much to share about her experience of seld-discovery, how her relationship with her parents may have impacted her neurodivergent journey and the need for understanding, acceptance, and support for neurodivergent individuals in leadership roles.
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We're back with a new episode where I talk with the amazing LaToya Hinton, PhD. She is a late-identified AuDHDer who's gifted. LaToya is a mixed methods researcher, data nerd, python programmer and advocate for neurodivergent women leaders. She had so much to share about her experience of seld-discovery, how her relationship with her parents may have impacted her neurodivergent journey and the need for understanding, acceptance, and support for neurodivergent individuals in leadership roles.
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Ok, the self-awareness episode is HERE....finally. This is something I've been chewing on for MONTHS but I finally found time and space to start breaking down my thoughts. This first episode covers a lot of ground but is really just about the basics.
I attempt to share my thoughts on:
I share a few visual examples so you can either watch this on YouTube or use the links below. This is a really important discussion that we'll be having throughout this Season. I hope you enjoy. Let me know in the comments and please SHARE!
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In this episode I spoke with Shea Belsky who is the Chief Technology Officer for Mentra, a hiring platform for neurodivergent job seekers. We talked about the impact of more people receiving a diagnosis or even self-identifying as neurodivergent. Shea shares his experience as someone who was diagnosed with autism early in life and how it colors his career and even his recent marriage. He tells us about the work they're doing at Mentra to empower neurodivergent job-seekers to advocate for themselves in ways they may not have felt comfortable or been aware of. They also work to challenge companies on how they're creating neuro-inclusive environments that not only will hire but retain people of diverse neurotypes. We have an encouraging conversation around the future of hiring. Check out the latest episode and let us know what you learned!
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Welcome to Season 2! In this episode we start out STRONG. I had the honor of having a discussion with Angela Davis aka the Kitchenista. She allowed me to create a safe space to discuss her journey of neurodivergent discovery. She shares her thoughts on going from being misdiagnosed when she was younger (all too common for Black women) while feeling it wasn't a perfect fit and ultimately finding clarity through ADHD and autism identification. Angela has built a very successful brand online showcasing her amazing recipes and cooking skills. She's a self-taught culinary virtuoso on a mission to empower home cooks. Listen as she reflects on her experiences growing up and how those insights inform her self-awareness and healing as an adult. We discuss how difficult it can be feeling no one else understands your experience while also having a very public an established persona. Now that she's making meaningful shifts in her life and feeling more empowered to communicate with and choose HER people, we talk a bit about what that looks like. Ultimately, this episode is an emotional exploration of the early-stages of neurodivergent discovery and acceptance. I'm just SO glad that allowed me to create a container for her to vulnerably and accessibly share her story.
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In the final episode of my first Season, I interview Kaitlin Smith, MSW, Founder of Our Wild Minds. We talk about her work creating an amazing community for gifted BIPOC adults. Kaitlin shares her story, including the challenges of facing racism, sexism and mysogyny that created a significant misalignment with colleagues within her preparations to become a psychotherapist. She talks about how these factors influenced her decision to move away from psychotherapy and into the work she's currently pursuing that has even further implications for communities she cares about.
This is an in-depth conversation that covers many areas, including how acorns can help us fight systems of oppession and bring us closer to Octavia Butler. We also talk about topics like the power of recognizing our place within the ecosystem as more than "apex predator". In this conversation, we challenge stereotypes and shift perspectives, discuss discovering a connection to nature, investigate the power of possibility and wonder, as well as the importance of building capacity for giftedness and other neurodivergent experiences.
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In this episode, I have a wonderful conversation with Sydney Elaine Butler, an HR professional and Founder of Accessible Creates. We discuss the importance of centering neurodivergent voices and experiences, as well as Sydney's personal journey and understanding of neurodiversity. Sydney shares insights on improving internal HR practices and workplace accessibility, particularly for women. Sydney also highlights the importance of avoiding misconceptions about neurodivergence when providing accommodations, as well as the need for individualized approaches. We talk about the importance of continuous learning and being open to making mistakes as part of the journey towards inclusivity.
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In this episode, I speak with Dr. Kimberly Douglass, a coach and consultant to neurodivergent adults who also identifies as AuDHD. Dr. Douglass delves into the concept of decolonizing neurodivergence. We talk about how refusing homework for her son helps her push back against the systems that seek to determine our societal outcomes. She shares why genuine curiosity, grace, and connection in supporting neurodivergent individuals is critical. I also learned about how she helps neurodivergent people, especially creatives, unlock their potential and make progress where they've felt stuck. At the core of this discussion is emphasizing the importance of seeing individuals as whole persons and creating space for self-discovery and acceptance.
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