Conflict is inevitable — but disconnection doesn’t have to be the end of the story. In this episode, I share five foundational truths about rupture and repair in relationships. Whether you’ve struggled to speak up after being hurt, feel overwhelmed by others’ pain, or just want to build more honest and resilient connections, this episode will reframe repair as a path to deeper intimacy — not just something you do when things go wrong.
In this episode, I cover:
• Why avoiding conflict doesn’t protect your relationship — it erodes it
• What real repair actually requires (hint: it has to do with having a resourced regulated nervous system)
• Why repair needs to happen in ALL relationships, not just romantic ones
• How you can still reconnect even if you don’t agree on what happened
• Why successful repair builds safety, trust, and deeper emotional intimacy
Mentioned in this episode:
→ LL's Guide to Rupture & Repair: a 40-page guide to walk you step-by-step through how to navigate rupture, hold your center, and initiate or receive repair with integrity.
→ Join the Waitlist for Rooted WebMy off-Instagram community for women who are weaving relational safety, authenticity, and embodied connection — together.
In this episode, Lindsey speaks directly to men about a common pattern in emotionally intimate relationships with women: the instinct to fix instead of feeling. Lindsey dives deep into why men often respond with solutions or shutdown when their partner is emotional, what emotional capacity actually looks like, and practical ways to stay present instead of seeking control.
Topics Covered:
Why the instinct to fix emotional distress in women doesn't actually work.
Understanding emotional capacity vs. emotional intelligence or maturity.
How cultural conditioning leaves men with low emotional capacity.
Practical, real-life strategies to build your emotional capacity.
Three simple, powerful steps to respond to your partner’s emotions differently.
A special invitation to Lindsey’s men's cohort of Feel Without Fear, beginning June 19th.
Key Insights:
The need to fix is often a nervous system defense mechanism, not malicious intent.
Emotional presence means being with feelings, not immediately fixing or escaping them.
Low emotional capacity shows up as defensiveness, withdrawal, anger, or shutting down—but it's not emotional immaturity; it's overwhelm.
Building emotional capacity is about practicing awareness, regulation, and staying present even when uncomfortable.
Practical Tips for Men:
Regulate before responding: Slow your breath, notice sensations in your body, and ground yourself.
Reflect and validate: Instead of advice, reflect feelings back to her ("That sounds really hard.") and validate her experience.
Clearly ask for space while staying connected: Communicate your needs without severing emotional connection.
Join Lindsey’s Men’s Cohort:
Enrollment is open for Feel Without Fear, starting June 19th, 2025. This program guides men in expanding emotional capacity, becoming more emotionally present partners, and improving relationships through body-based nervous system training.
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Thanks for listening! Share this episode with a man you respect or love who could benefit from building emotional capacity and presence.
In this episode, Lindsey and Chelsea strip away the gloss of influencer culture to reveal what it really takes to build a conscious, integrity-driven business. From the primal survival wiring around money to the shame we carry when our bank balance dips, they share the unspoken struggles that every service-based entrepreneur faces — and how leaning into that discomfort becomes the alchemy of true growth.
What You’ll Learn
The Myth of Followers = FortuneWhy a six-figure audience doesn’t guarantee six-figure earnings, and what really moves the needle.
Money as Survival CodeHow childhood wounding shows up in your relationship with cash and the inner work to rewire it.
Embodying Wealth in All FormsThe five domains of “wealth” (financial, relational, time, nervous-system, and soul), and why you’re already richer than you think.
The Entrepreneurial AbyssA guided free-fall into your worst-case scenario, and how hitting rock-bottom can spark your most creative breakthroughs.
Behind-the-Scenes Real TalkIntimate confessions about bank statements, savings thresholds, team paychecks, and the hidden rituals that keep Chelsea and Lindsey moving forward.
Resources & Next Step
Connect with Us
Chelsea: @healing.embodied
Lindsey: @iamlindseylockett
In this conversation, Drew Wild and Lindsey Lockett explore the intricate relationship between authenticity, trauma, and healing within the context of relationships.
They discuss how addiction serves as a coping mechanism, the importance of relational authenticity, and the role of the nervous system in fostering genuine connections.
The dialogue emphasizes the need for co-authenticity in relationships, the significance of couples work, and the metaphor of a web to illustrate the dynamics of relational interactions. They also challenge traditional views on emotional states and highlight the dangers of bypassing in healing processes.
In this conversation, they explore the complexities of emotional intimacy in relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, authenticity, and the need to confront assumptions and self-abandonment. They discuss the significance of navigating emotional dynamics, the value of multiple relationships, and the challenges of handling rejection.
The conversation highlights the necessity of building trust through conflict and integrating past experiences into present relationships, ultimately advocating for a more authentic and connected way of relating to others.
Lindsey and Drew discuss the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the importance of depth, authenticity, and communication. They talk about how attachment styles from childhood influence adult relationships and the necessity of navigating conflict with honesty and vulnerability. The dialogue highlights the transformative power of relationships in fostering self-discovery and emotional growth, advocating for a shift away from surface-level connections towards deeper, more meaningful interactions.
They go into the complexities of relational healing, emphasizing the importance of discernment in recognizing the difference between rupture and harm in relationships. The speakers discuss the role of detachment in therapy, the necessity of vulnerability, and the challenges of navigating emotional dynamics.
They also explore the decision-making process involved in parting ways when a relationship becomes harmful, the empowerment that comes from recognizing one's options, and the significance of authenticity in interpersonal connections.
The discussion culminates in the idea that personal development should focus on interpersonal growth, highlighting the interconnectedness of relationships.
In this episode, Lindsey Lockett dives into the frustrating reality that many people face in their healing journey: why does healing still feel so damn hard? Even after years of therapy, self-work, nervous system education, and deep intellectual understanding, many still feel stuck in the same patterns. Lindsey challenges the mainstream approach to healing, revealing that it’s not a lack of knowledge that’s holding you back—it’s your nervous system.
She explains how your body, not your mind, determines whether healing is possible and how perfectionism, pressure, and an overemphasis on cognitive awareness can keep you on an endless healing hamster wheel. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right things" but still aren’t seeing the change you want, this episode is a must-listen.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 Why your nervous system may actually be blocking your healing.
🔹 The difference between knowing about healing and actually embodying it.
🔹 How trauma, safety, and familiarity shape your nervous system’s resistance.
🔹 The four key areas necessary for true healing: cognitive, somatic, energetic, and relational.
🔹 Why healing isn’t about eliminating triggers or always being regulated.
🔹 The difference between genuine safety and perceived safety in the body.
🔹 How healing needs to feel like permission, not pressure.
🔹 Why your healing journey is NOT about perfection or “finishing” healing.
Special Invitation:
Join Lindsey for her FREE Masterclass on February 27th at 12 Noon Central: "Why Your Nervous System Won’t Let You Heal (Yet)". This live workshop will go deeper into the blocks that keep you stuck, how to shift from intellectualizing healing to embodying it, and practical tools for moving forward.
🔗 Sign up here: https://LindseyLockett.com/heal/
Connect with Lindsey:
🌐 Website: LindseyLockett.com
📸 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett
In this deeply insightful and raw conversation, Lindsey Lockett and Kat Lee come together tounpack the complex layers of codependency—what it feels like in the body, how it shapes our relationships, and how we can begin to break free from its patterns.
Drawing from personal experiences, childhood conditioning, and real-life relationship dynamics, Lindsey and Kat dive into:
Resources & Links:
🔗Follow Kat Lee:Instagram |Website
🔗Follow Lindsey Lockett:Instagram |Website
🔗Check Out Lindsey’s Book:Nourish Your Nervous System –Click here
In this powerful episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives deep into what she calls the climax of the series: Authenticity.
Authenticity isn't just about being true to yourself—it’s the entire point of nervous system healing. It’s what lies beneath layers of conditioning, survival patterns, and emotional malnourishment. When we uncover our authenticity, we reclaim our power, our freedom, and our true voice.
Join Lindsey as she unpacks why living inauthentically feels terrible, how trauma and conditioning disconnect us from our real selves, and why nourishing your nervous system is the foundation for standing in your truth.
Resources & Links:
🔗 Get Lindsey’s Book: Nourish Your Nervous System – Click here (Includes eBook & 7.5-hour audiobook)
🔗 Connect with Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube
In this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives into one of the most essential yet misunderstood aspects of nervous system healing: emotional nourishment. Many of us have been conditioned to judge, suppress, or intellectualize our emotions rather than fully feeling and embodying them. But true healing requires a shift from avoidance to presence, from judgment to curiosity.
Join Lindsey as she unpacks why emotions are not the problem, how childhood trauma conditions us to suppress our authentic feelings, and why embracing the full spectrum of emotions—without labeling them as "good" or "bad"—is critical to nervous system regulation.
Resources & Links:
🔗 Take the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Test: Click Here
🔗 Book: Nourish Your Nervous System (eBook & Audiobook) – Get it here
🔗 More from Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube
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In this episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with part 10, exploring the topic of ancestral nourishment. While acknowledging that ancestral healing is an area where she still feels like a student, Lindsey shares her personal experiences with genealogy, ancestral trauma, and connection to those who came before us.
She dives deep into how ancestral trauma is passed down through generations, from emotional wounds to adaptive survival patterns like addiction, scarcity mindset, and chronic illness. Lindsey also explores the historical impacts of colonization, Christianization, and systemic overculture trauma on our collective and individual nervous systems.
Through personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and practical steps, this episode offers a powerful reflection on how we can nourish our relationship with our ancestors, honor their struggles, and embrace the resilience that allowed us to exist today.
8 Practical Ways to Connect with Your Ancestors:
1️⃣ Research your ancestry and build a family tree using resources like Ancestry.com or FamilySearch.org
2️⃣ Ask living relatives to share stories and write them down for future generations
3️⃣ Display photos of ancestors in your home to honor them
4️⃣ Visit gravesites or ancestral lands and leave small offerings
5️⃣ Call on your well-in-spirit ancestors for guidance, protection, and support
6️⃣ Create an “ancestor plate” at special family meals and offer a portion of food to them
7️⃣ Hold onto meaningful heirlooms like jewelry, tools, clothing, or art
8️⃣ Choose a symbolic sign (e.g., a hummingbird, number, or object) to represent an ancestor’s presence
Resources Mentioned:
🌿 Lindsey’s book Nourish Your Nervous System – Download the eBook + audiobook for $19.99
📖 It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn – Get the book
📖 Ancestral Medicine: Rituals for Personal and Family Healing by Dr. Daniel Foor – Get the book
📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – Get the book
Stay Connected: ✨ Follow Lindsey on Instagram: @iamlindseylockett and @authenticitywitch
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In this powerful episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with Part 9: Relational Nourishment. Humans are deeply relational creatures, just like pack animals, and the health of our relationships directly impacts our nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, and overall resilience.
Lindsey explores how emotional abandonment, modern disconnection, and trauma patterns shape our relationships and why nourishing, reciprocal connections are essential for healing. She shares insights from Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, her personal experiences, and practical tools to build conscious, supportive relationships.
If you’ve ever struggled with finding your people, setting boundaries, or communicating vulnerably in relationships, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
📖 Nourish Your Nervous System by Lindsey Lockett – Get the eBook & Audiobook
📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – A must-read for trauma healing.
📖 Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion by Marshall Rosenberg – Learn conscious communication techniques.
Connect with Lindsey:
📲 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett
🌎 Website: www.lindseylockett.com
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with Lindsey on Instagram. Your support helps spread this message of healing and relational nourishment!
Welcome back to the Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast! After a six-month hiatus, Lindsey returns with an empowering episode that delves into the concept of mental nourishment. In this continuation of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey explores the impact of the voice in our heads, how it shapes our reality, and why cultivating awareness and curiosity is essential for self-healing.
In this episode, Lindsey shares personal insights, client stories, and practical tools to help listeners:
Understand the connection between the nervous system and the stories we tell ourselves. Recognize and challenge the critical inner voice with curiosity rather than judgment. Foster authentic relationships by replacing reactive patterns with thoughtful responses. Nourish mental well-being by being intentional about media consumption and social connections.Whether you’ve been on a journey of self-discovery or are just starting to explore mental nourishment, this episode provides actionable steps and inspiring reflections to support your growth.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What is Mental Nourishment?
Why it’s not about affirmations or positive thinking but rather cultivating self-awareness and curiosity.The Role of the Inner Voice:
How the stories in our heads reflect our nervous system’s state. Ways to identify whose voice it might be (e.g., parents, caregivers, or cultural influences).The Power of Awareness:
How slowing down and noticing the inner voice can shift patterns of reactivity into conscious responses. Examples of how Lindsey has used this practice in her personal and professional life.Transforming Relationships:
Lindsey shares a compelling story of a couple she coached through communication challenges, illustrating how mental nourishment fosters emotional intimacy and authenticity.Practical Tips for Mental Nourishment:
Steps to bring intentionality to social media consumption. Why living a “no news life” can support nervous system regulation. The importance of balancing the mind, body, and spirit for holistic well-being.Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Lindsey’s eBook and audiobook, Nourish Your Nervous System: Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth: A must-read book on spiritual awakening Dr. Russ Kennedy’s The Anxiety RX: Insightful tools for understanding the mind-body connection.Connect with Lindsey:
Website: lindseylockett.com Instagram: @LindseyLockettIn this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey explores the concept of spiritual nourishment, emphasizing that just as we are physical beings, we are equally spiritual ones. She opens up about the challenges of deconstructing harmful religious conditioning and shares her journey of rebuilding a personal, self-defined spirituality after growing up in a rigid evangelical Christian environment. Lindsey reflects on the process of breaking free from religious frameworks and cultivating a practice that feels authentic, intuitive, and open.
Throughout the episode, she highlights the importance of conscious awareness as a foundation for healing and personal growth. By connecting with inner consciousness and embracing spiritual individuality, Lindsey demonstrates how shedding restrictive beliefs can create space for deeper self-trust and connection. She also shares practical tools for energetic hygiene, such as smudging, Reiki, and the "bubble practice," offering ways to maintain energetic boundaries and support spiritual well-being.
Lindsey invites viewers to approach spirituality with openness, experimentation, and curiosity. Rather than relying on rigid traditions or external doctrines, she encourages a more nourishing relationship with personal intuition and consciousness, one that fosters healing, growth, and a sense of inner freedom.
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Get Nourish Your Nervous System as an instant download + audiobook! The Witch's Oracle Cards Moonology Oracle Cards Keepers of The Light Oracle Cards Angels & Ancestors Oracle Cards Find my FREE offers here Find my LOW-COST offers here Follow me on InstagramIn this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey discusses the importance of meeting your basic, physical needs. You know, the "boring and basic" stuff like eating enough and eating nourishing foods, prioritizing your sleep (she gives sleep hygiene tips BEYOND what the internet recommends), time in Nature, and tending to your environment. These are the often overlooked but foundational elements for trauma-healing and overall well-being. Like, if you aren't eating enough or getting enough sleep and time outside, you don't need more nervous system tools or another embodiment practice; you need food, sleep, and time outdoors.
Each basic need is explored in detail, providing insights into how they contribute to a healthy nervous system and the importance of prioritizing them in the healing journey.
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Lindsey Lockett discusses the importance of listening to your body and how to practice somatic listening. She explains that our disconnection from our bodies is often rooted in childhood experiences where our needs for emotional and physical nourishment were not met. She emphasizes that listening to our bodies involves using all eight senses, including interoception, which allows us to notice and feel what's happening inside our bodies. She guides viewers through a somatic listening practice, encouraging them to be present, explore sensations, and describe them using feeling and sensing words. By listening to our bodies, we can gain insight into what they need and take proper action to nourish ourselves.
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This episode is part 4 of the NOURISH YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM series. Lindsey Lockett discusses the impact of trauma on the brain and nervous system. She defines trauma as the energy of an event or long-term pattern that triggers a fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response and burdens the nervous system. Trauma can cause a person to become stuck in a loop of disconnection, unhealthy emotional expression, and physical dis-ease. Lindsey explains that trauma changes the structure and chemical activity of the brain, decreases the size and connectivity of certain regions, and enlarges the fear center (amygdala). She also explores the concept of complex PTSD and its symptoms, as well as the link between trauma and neurodivergence (ADD, ADHD, and the spectrum of autism). She provides strategies for healing brain inflammation, including nourishing foods, omega-3 fatty acids, gut health, nervous system regulation, and reducing what she calls "lifestyle inflammation." Links:
This episode is part 3 of the NOURISH YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM series. In this episode, Lindsey breaks down the autonomic nervous system as well as how to recognize signs of nervous system dysfunction and dysregulation. She shares her personal journey of dealing with chronic and mysterious symptoms and how she discovered the importance of the nervous system in physical, mental, and emotional health.
Lindsey explains the different branches of the autonomic nervous system and their functions, as well as the impact of chronic nervous system dysregulation on various aspects of our well-being. She emphasizes the need to nourish and heal the nervous system through a holistic approach that includes physical, mental, ancestral, spiritual, emotional, and relational aspects. Links:
This episode is part 2 of the NOURISH YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM series. Lindsey discusses the myth of the salvation fantasy — a fictitious hope where people believe that finding the right solution or practitioner or diet or protocol or ... will solve all their health and wellness issues. She refers to the various hamster wheels we metaphorically find ourselves on, chasing problems with salvation fantasies but not actually getting anywhere. She also shares her own experience of chasing symptoms and trying various treatments during her own "Hamster Wheel of Wellness" days.
Lindsey emphasizes that there is no one-size-fits-all solution and that the obsession with finding "the right thing" can hinder personal responsibility and healing. She highlights the importance of nourishing the nervous system and listening to the body's signals, rather than relying on external sources for answers.
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This episode is the first in a new series of 12 called NOURISH YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM. In part 1, I'm sharing the symbolism and synchronicities of the spider's web in my work. The spider's web beautifully illustrates how everything is connected — every thread is connected to every other thread in a web, just like in life. When we understand how everything is connected, we don't have to fragment ourselves into different parts and pieces. We can approach ourselves and our healing journeys as WHOLE people, not broken people trying to become whole.
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In this conversation, Lindsey and Kat discuss the importance of nervous system work and the problematic trends they see in the social media world. They emphasize the need for discernment and intentionality when engaging with nervous system tools and programs. They share their own experiences with nervous system work and highlight the importance of honoring the body's wisdom and not rushing the healing process. They also discuss the unethical nature of pain point marketing and the need for connection and support in nervous system work. The conversation explores the trendy concept of functional freeze. They discuss the need for individuals to assess their own capacity and not compare themselves to others. They also highlight the significance of trust and deep understanding of one's own body and its responses. They caution against programs that promise quick fixes without considering the individual's unique needs and trauma history. They stress the importance of trauma-informed support and ethical space-holding and valuing people's nervous systems and sovereignty over marketing tactics.
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In this episode, Lindsey interviews Kate Deering, a fitness and nutrition coach and author of the most revolutionary nutrition book: How To Heal Your Metabolism. They discuss the best way to support the nervous system through metabolic-friendly foods. Kate emphasizes the importance of self-love and increasing cellular metabolism through real food, rest, sleep, and the right type of exercise. They also discuss the pitfalls of restrictive diets and the hamster wheel of wellness. Kate explains the benefits and limitations of keto and low-carb diets, highlighting the importance of carbohydrates for a well-functioning metabolism and nervous system, especially in female bodies.
They also touch on the confusion in the health and wellness world due to conflicting research. In this conversation, Lindsey discusses her struggles with weight gain, hormone changes, and confusion about what to eat. And, more than nourishing the metabolism and the nervous system through food, Lindsey and Kate share how various factors like stress, sleep, sunlight, and nutrient deficiencies can impact overall health.
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