What do do when life feels hard. Where I have found myself lately and what I've been implementing to help life feel a bit better. Here to normalize the ups and downs and all of the in between as well as offer some helpful tips and tools that have worked for me.
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Hi & welcome to today's episode. We are talking all about finding expanders today. I think this is something we typically do naturally when going after a big dream, goal or desire. @tobemagnetic coined this term and talks a lot about it in their work and podcasts.
Finding people who have gone before us helps to build the belief in ourselves that it is possible. Especially if we can find someone who we can see ourselves in. It helps us to get past our blocks and push ourselves because we feel it might now be possible or we have seen how someone else has done what we want to do, and it gives us a starting place on where to go.
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Xo Shannon
Hi Everyone,
Happy Mother's day. Happy Spring.
Today I wanted to dive into a topic I needed to hear. I talk about this a lot but I still need to hear it on the daily, especially when I'm working on a new project or something I'm nervous about putting out into the world or feeling blocks about.
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Done over perfect.
Messy action over perfection.
Running the race to finish and not to win.
These might seem like counter intuitive things to say but sometimes releasing the pressure can help us create and put our work out into the world. And the more we create and put forth our work, the more we build the muscle and the skill. The more we hone our craft.
Come chat with me over @frommartyrtomagic
Do you struggle to put your work out there? or is it easy peasy for you? How does resistance show up for you? and in what ways are you stopping yourself.
Let me know or use these as journal prompts.
And I hope you have an amazing day.
Xo Shannon
This week I dive into some of the things that have been holding me back and what I'm doing to support myself through this. Taking action came come with a lot of fear. Some of us will assume we are the only ones that feel this way and that it's way easier for everyone else but this is not the case.
Today I dive into some of the tools I have been working with to help calm and regulate my nervous system, work on my negative self talk and rewire new beliefs so that I can keep take action towards what I want in life, in business or work.
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And other tools mentioned today:
The Perfectionism Project Podcast
EFT Tapping tool -Brad Yates Youtube
xo Shannon
Today's interview with author, healer, life coach Marcella Webster. We talk about her book Does this Divorce make me look fat, the process of writing. The Art of story telling.
We dive into her personal experience and wisdom on taking personal accountability, learning to love ourselves unconditionally, and sharing her stories of healing body image, recovering from heart break and having to kiss a few frogs along the way.
You will not want to miss Marcella's soulful wisdom.
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xo Shannon
Hi! Today's episode is a bit of a life update. I chat all about stepping out of your comfort zone. Being ok in the uncomfortable. Not self abandoning when interacting with others or at least becoming aware of this. And all about how NEW desires require NEW and different action.
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xo Shannon
Hi - I'm back. Well kind of. I found a few episodes that I recorded earlier this year that still felt more relevant than ever. This year has felt full, and as I like to say crunchy. Not a horrible year but definitely not smooth. Anyone else? In a reading I had with Jenni from @themediumexperience - she spoke about how she saw my business name. And it was such a great reminder. We are constantly growing and learning and to think we have arrived permanently is some what laughable. We thrive on grow so it makes sense that we would also have to accept the hard part that comes with all the good of expansion. Just a reminder, you're not doing it wrong.
Let me know how you year has been and what you are looking forward to in 2024.
Sending so much love,
xo Shannon
As Halloween approaches and as this eclipse season as had me thinking about my past. I started to think about my experience with the ghost and wanted to see if others had documented anything from this hotel too. And jackpot. There tons of documented stories, from decades ago to current day.
It reminded me that what I felt wasn't a dream.
And I had so much fun learning more about the history of this hotel and pub. As well as hearing others experiences here to help validate what I had also felt.
Have you had any ghost encounters? If so, I would love to hear. Tell me more over on Instagram @frommartyrtomagic
For photos and more info about the hotel and hauntings see below.
xo and Happy Halloween.
~Shannon
I'mmmm back after a little back to school break. Recovering from a busy season and a bit of burn out.
Committing to and goal setting can be so fun, and exciting. Dreamy. But once we start working towards them - this is the hard part. We can talk ourselves out of it. The EGO or self talk comes up loud. Who am I? or insert your inner mean girl here.
Here is a little of what I'm going through as I start my book writing process. I'm so excited for it but it's also kicked up a new level of fear and ego to work through. Yet, this is what I live for. Growth. If we aren't growing we are dying. But also sometimes we are resting.
And highly recommend to write yourself a letter when you are feeling inspired, so you can read back to yourself on your bad days. Or call a friend who believes in you.
Previous Episode EP.28 Do it Anyways
You are amazing. We've got this.
xo Shannon
3 Steps to your morning routine.
As we head back into the fall, back to school and a more scheduled life, Here are my top tips to your new morning routine.
Done over perfect. Life is a marathon not a sprint so focus on 3 days a week and allow for deviation. Think long term and even if you are able to do it once a week for a few weeks, that's a new habit.
I think aiming for everyday or even 5 days a week can be unattainable/ unstainable and much more unrealistic. We are busy. So plan for the unexpected.
Stop with the all or nothing. Be proud of yourself for the little habits. Ie drinking water before your coffee. Meditating once a week. Celebrate the small.
Pick a manageable amount of time. Maybe start with 5 minutes of working out or meditating, instead of an hour, you'll likely be able to fit that in with even a busy day/week.
Bite size attainable habits and planning for real life instead of the perfect unicorn day which almost never happens.
I am working on drinking a glass of water before my coffee, and journaling and working out 3 mornings a week. That being said the workouts will start back regularly in September because . . .summer holidays. But this is exactly the point.
Let me know what you are working on for your morning routines over on IG @frommartyrtomagic
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XO Shannon
Let's stop to give ourselves some credit for showing up, for trying new things, for doing things you said you would do.
Let's celebrate all that we do. Even if it doesn't feel "enough". This is exactly the point. It is ENOUGH. You are enough. And we go first.
Shift things, and start to feel good about what you have done. and all that you do. And I bet you'll start to see others start to celebrate you too.
Keep the convo going over on IG @frommartyrtomagic
As always - thank you for listening.
Xo Shannon
How can we improve the small moments?
Find presence. Enjoying the small moments. The present moments. Finding gratitude for the things that are already happening instead of always yearning for these big events.
Can small decisions and moments add up to big things? instead of getting overwhelmed with the big things.
Are you taking life to seriously sometimes?
How can you create new small moments? Of things you want more of. In small bite size pieces.
Want to create more, spend a few minutes everyday creating (painting, writing)
Want to spend more time with your kids - spend a few minutes everyday - playing a game, chatting, crafting.
It doesn't always have to be in these big uninterrupted chunks of time. Find the pockets and do something that brings you joy.
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Today is a throw back episode. I recorded this 3 or so months after taking a break from Instagram and all social media.
I was finding it hard to be productive, super distracting and just not feeling great.
Needless to say I increased my productivity 10 fold. Felt better than ever and even wrote a book.
Maybe I should take another break soon.
What would dropping social media allow space for in your life?
Keep the conversation going over @frommartyrtomagic
xo Shannon
What are your money beliefs?
Do you hesitate to ask for more?
To ask for what you want?
If there is something you want but don't feel you can afford it. Have you actually looked in it? Have you received quotes? So even if it's not in the cards right now, at least you know what you are working towards. AND maybe you can afford it now. Or maybe you can afford having your house cleaned occasionally when you are busy, once a month?
Have you negotiated your salary?
Do you talk openly about money?
What are you feelings on this?
Are you aware of your energy. Of how precious it is? Or how it can get swayed or you get thrown off track by others.
A quick riff today on some awareness around our energy. How to set better boundaries. Examples of how Elizabeth Gilbert gave a great example when I went to see her live in Vancouver this past April.
Let me know what you think over @frommartyrtomagic
xo Shannon
Hi Babes!! Thank you so much for joining on the Hell Yes Babes Series. Welcome to week 5. Getting bored of our old stories and excuses and remembering our greatness which is just who we are innately.
How The Law Of Attraction REALLY WORKS (Achieve Anything By DOING THIS)| Rhonda Byrne & Lewis Howes
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=30molCgfe4k
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Let me know what you think, what your HELL YES is, what you struggle with and what you wish for future episodes.
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And I hope you have an amazing day.
Xo Shannon
We are back with Hell Yes Babes Club week 4 and we hit 50 episodes for the PODCAST!! I'm going to celebrate this milestone.
Week 4 - for HELL YES BABES CLUB - is all about dreaming big, and then dreaming bigger again. Leaning into the bigger YES.
We are all made of matter. The same molecules and substance as the people you look up to. If it's possible for them, it's possible for us too.
And after life happens, things shift and change, can you continue to dream big even if the time line needs to change. Can you continue walking forward, continue dreaming big even if it looks different than you thought.
At the end of your life you will look back on all that you did and followed through on or accomplished. Not what happened exactly as pictured in the exact timeline set.
Be flexible. Life happens but get back up and keep walking towards what you desire and know it's possible for you.
Tagging @katiepotratz - hypnotherapist I talk about :)
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See you next time,
xoxo Shannon
Hi beauties, Here is week 3. All about leaning into our edges. Moving past our comfort zone. Or where others might be comfortable with us living. Get curious on where you are stopping yourself. NO judgement, but just have a think.
We work on:
Reclaim what you want
Celebrate yourself and what you have already done
Vow to stay curious instead of shut down, figure out what's stopping you, or tripping you up, and then work on that to keep moving towards your hell yes.
I talk about human design authority - find out where if you don't know what yours is https://www.myhumandesign.com/get-your-chart/
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And let me know how your HELL YES's are coming.
Xo Shannon
Hi Beauties,
Welcome to Week 2 of the Hell yes babes club. Learning how to say yes to the life and goals.
Today's episode is all about movement and momentum. How to release what we no longer need or what's keeping us stuck. And how mini or small actions can lead to big goals and YES's. Rome was not built in a day, and actions compound on each other, the starting is the hardest part.
Journal prompts:
Releasing - What do I need to release?
What's not mine?
What are the things I no longer want to carry?
The things that I'm ready to shed?
A reminder that taking action is the hardest part and once we get the ball rolling it gets to be easy and even fun. The other side of taking the action is fun and play. Potential, creativity.
Let me know what you think over on IG @frommartyrtomagic or email me shannoncairney@gmail.com
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xo Shannon