In this insightful episode of Dear Matchmaker, host Cat Cantrill welcomes guest Cher Anderton, a mental health therapist, speaker, and educator. They discuss the complexities of dating in today's world and the importance of self-love and self-discovery in navigating relationships. Cher shares her belief that in order to find true connection with others, we must first cultivate a healthy relationship with ourselves. The conversation also delves into common narratives singles tell themselves, the power of vulnerability, and strategies for shifting negative self-talk. Tune in for valuable insights that can help you on your journey to love!

Key Highlights:

• Introduction of Cher Anderton and her expertise in mental health and social-emotional intelligence.
• Discussion on the need for personal clarity and understanding in the dating world.
• The dual approach to love: self-love and the need for connection with others.
• Overcoming negative beliefs about dating and relationships.
• Strategies for personal growth, including self-awareness and asking for help.
• Importance of curiosity in navigating dating experiences.

Links Mentioned:

• Cher’s Podcast: Make Discomfort Your Bitch Podcast
• Cher's Book: Could It Be Better?
• Cher's Website: cheranderton.com
• Join the Free Rolodex: Scottsdalematchmaker.com
• Follow Cat Cantrill on Social Media: Instagram, Facebook, TikTok @catcantrill

Join me as we reflect on how to reignite hope in your search for love, and why choosing to believe in yourself is the first step towards finding a meaningful relationship. This episode is a reminder that love starts from within and how embracing your value can transform your dating journey.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The importance of vulnerability and taking the first step towards finding love, whether it’s attending singles events or simply starting a conversation.
• My personal journey through difficult times and how those experiences shaped my understanding of love and self-worth.
• The misconception that someone else completes you, and why the most impactful relationship you’ll have is the one with yourself.
• How to pour into yourself and become your own advocate, including practical steps to finding joy and fulfillment solo.
• Why having high standards is about seeking a high-value relationship rather than a “high-value” person.

As we move through the new year, let this episode be your guide to putting yourself first and understanding that true love begins with choosing yourself every day. For more tips and updates, be sure to subscribe to the podcast and follow me on social media @catcantrill.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Dear Matchmaker." Join me, as I journey into the transformative world of femininity and self-love alongside Teal Elizabeth, CEO and founder of Relax Into Love Coaching. Teal is a spiritual love and relationship coach specializing in helping high-achieving women build authentic connections through the power of feminine energy.

In this episode, we delve into:

• The role of feminine energy in cultivating authentic relationships and inviting love into your life.
• Teal’s personal journey of transformation from dating struggles to spiritual awakening and creating her own coaching practice.
• Understanding how to create space for a partner in your life, both emotionally and physically.
• The importance of vulnerability and emotional safety in developing deep, meaningful relationships.
• How women can balance independence with embracing their softer side for successful partnerships.
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Whether you're navigating the dating world or seeking to deepen existing relationships, Teal's insights provide a refreshing perspective on how embracing femininity can enhance your personal growth and romantic connections.

For more insights and updates, follow me on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @catcantrill.

Learn more about Teal & Download her FREE Relax into Love Guided Meditations here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/meditations

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Book a complimentary 30 minute free love breakthrough call with Teal here:

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In this engaging episode of "Dear Matchmaker," I invite you into my world as I share my personal journey from running a dance studio to becoming a dedicated matchmaker and dating coach. My story is one of resilience, transformation, and the passion for helping others find meaningful connections.

Join me as I chat with Jose and Brittany on the "Finding Arizona" podcast, revealing how my life's challenges and triumphs guided me to the fulfilling world of matchmaking. From my early days as a dancer to navigating life as a single mother, my path is filled with pivotal moments that led me to where I am today.

In this episode, I discuss:

• My transformation from post-divorce rediscovery to becoming a matchmaker, guiding others on their love journeys.
• How my dance studio reignited my passion for community, connection, and personal growth.
• The power of curiosity over chemistry in building lasting relationships and the importance of being truly seen and appreciated.
• My approach to helping clients enhance their dating lives through first impressions, effort, and authenticity.
• Exciting developments for my matchmaking business in Scottsdale and Phoenix, including an upcoming ribbon-cutting event.

Learn where you can connect with me online and follow my journey on social media and through my podcast, "Dear Matchmaker," available on all major streaming platforms. Join me as I share insights and inspiration to transform your own approach to love and relationships.

For more details and updates, visit Scottsdalematchmaker.com and follow me on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @catcantrill

In this thought-provoking episode of "Dear Matchmaker," we address the common pitfalls people encounter in the world of online dating. Many singles approach dating apps with skepticism, assuming that finding a meaningful connection online is improbable. However, with 60% of couples meeting online today, there’s a need to shift this mindset.

Join me as I highlight the importance of moving beyond assumptions and embracing an open-minded approach to online dating. Discover how saying 'yes' more often to profiles that pique your curiosity can lead you to unexpected and fulfilling connections.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The assumptions that often lead women to miss out on potential matches, emphasizing a shift from focusing on photos to understanding bios.
• Tips for assessing profiles genuinely and looking beyond superficial traits for compatibility.
• Encouraging an open-minded approach to dating, allowing yourself to explore connections with those who may not be your 'type.'
• Strategies for cultivating a positive mindset that welcomes the possibilities of finding love online.
• The transformative impact of viewing profiles with curiosity, prioritizing communication and shared values.

Challenge your online dating approach by embracing curiosity and the opportunities waiting to unfold. Reflect on whether your assumptions are holding you back from meeting someone who truly complements your life.

For further insights and to share your thoughts on this episode, follow me on TikTok and Instagram @catcantrill. Dive into this journey of discovering meaningful connections, starting with an open and receptive mindset.

In this unique and introspective episode of "Dear Matchmaker," we explore the concept of self-love and how it can transform your approach to relationships. Drawing inspiration from Don Miguel Ruiz's book, "The Mastery of Love," we dive into the profound metaphor of the "magical kitchen" within your heart, highlighting the boundless love we possess and the power it holds in shaping our romantic lives.

Join me as I share a transformative story that encourages you to embrace the abundance of love within yourself, rather than seeking validation and fulfillment solely through others. This episode offers a powerful reminder of the importance of self-acceptance and understanding your worth as integral steps in finding meaningful connections.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The concept of the "magical kitchen": How recognizing the love within you can empower your relationship choices.
• The pitfalls of seeking external validation and how it leads to dependency and dissatisfaction.
• Why self-love is the foundation for healthier, more fulfilling relationships, allowing you to share love freely and fearlessly.
• How embracing self-worth can help you identify and avoid relationships that don't serve your well-being.
• Encouraging self-reflection on whether your heart is open to giving love without expectation and welcoming love that complements your life.

Find me: www.scottsdalematchmaker.com & www.theheartagency.com

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@catcantrill

Join us for a special episode of "Dear Matchmaker," recorded live at the Iowa Podcast Awards. In this engaging session, we dive deep into the challenges and questions that singles face in the world of modern dating, offering practical advice and strategies for success.

In this episode, we explore:

• Strategies for Communicating Relationship Goals: How to express your intentions confidently and clearly without fear of scaring off potential partners.
• Crafting Unique Conversations on Dating Apps: Tips for avoiding generic openers and creating personalized, engaging interactions that reflect genuine interest.
• Establishing Healthy Boundaries: How to set personal limits early in dating to pave the way for balanced and respectful relationships.
• Understanding Chemistry vs. Compatibility: Recognizing the difference and focusing on long-term compatibility over initial attraction.
• Embracing Rejection as Redirection: Viewing each “no” as a step closer to the right “yes,” and maintaining self-confidence through self-awareness and recognition of personal strengths.
• Creating an Authentic Online Dating Profile: Tips on showcasing your true self through photos and profiles that highlight what life with you could be like.
• Alternative Ways to Meet People: Exploring offline opportunities and the importance of being open to initiating conversations in real life.

For more dating advice and updates, follow me on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @catcantrill.

Thank you to Upload Media Group & Iowa Podcast Awards for this opportunity!

In this episode of "Dear Matchmaker," engage in a thought-provoking conversation with the insightful Dr. Lilli, a naturopathic doctor and relationship expert dedicated to helping individuals transform their relationship patterns and cultivate self-love. Dr. Lilli's journey from overcoming personal trauma and self-doubt to empowering others is both powerful and enlightening, offering listeners a roadmap to emotional healing and personal growth.

Join us as Dr. Lilli shares her transformative story and the holistic techniques she employs to guide clients toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Discover how she combines her background in neuroscience and psychology with her experience in naturopathic medicine to address underlying beliefs and promote genuine self-love.

In this episode, we delve into:

• Dr. Lilli’s personal journey of overcoming codependency and limiting beliefs, leading her to support others in healing their relationship patterns.
• The significant role of holistic practices in facilitating emotional and physical well-being.
• Strategies for building a strong self-relationship that serve as a foundation for healthier connections with others.
• The power of questioning negative self-talk and societal standards to foster self-acceptance and confidence.
• Encouraging a mindset shift from fearing rejection to embracing personal value and authenticity.
• Practical advice on how to view oneself with unconditional love and cultivate self-worth as a daily practice.

Dr. Lilli’s insights are invaluable for anyone looking to transform their approach to relationships and self-care. To connect with Dr. Lilli and explore her teachings further, follow her on Instagram at @confidence.reclaimed. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to embrace a vibrant and empowered personal journey.

In this empowering episode of "Dear Matchmaker," we dive deep into the world of health and wellness with Mindi, a dynamic and down-to-earth health coach with nearly 20 years of experience. With a focus on personalized health journeys, Mindi sheds light on her methods to help women of all ages define what "being healthy" truly means to them. Join us as we explore how self-worth, lifestyle changes, and incremental steps can transform your health journey and boost your dating confidence!

Show Notes:

• Introduction: Meeting Mindi and her journey into health coaching.
• The importance of defining personal health and wellness.
• Mindi's philosophy: Realistic and sustainable health habits.
• The impact of diet and nutrition on overall well-being.
• Navigating menopause and understanding women's health issues in midlife.
• Addressing societal pressures and judgment about personal health choices.
• Building confidence through small changes and self-discovery.
• Parallels between health journeys and dating experiences.
• Insights on customizing your health plan to align with personal goals.
• How to deal with external opinions and focus on inner growth.
• Highlight on Mindi's book, "Be Real, Be Healthy," and more resources.

Resources & Links:

• For more on Mindi's coaching and her book, visit BeRealBeHealthy.com

In this episode of "Dear Matchmaker," we sit down with the warm and insightful Janice, a dedicated breakup coach and self-care advocate. Janice's path from early marriage and heartbreaking divorce to becoming a guide for others navigating similar waters is as inspiring as it is enlightening.

Her personal transformation laid the foundation for her approach to helping clients overcome relationship tumult and embrace new beginnings.

Join us as Janice shares her journey and the tools she developed—which are now helping so many find happiness post-breakup. Discover how she transforms heartache into healing, emphasizing the radical self-care that can turn life around and the fresh perspectives needed to move forward.

In this episode, we delve into:

• Janice’s personal story of marriage, divorce, and personal growth, leading her to support others in overcoming breakups.
• The profound impact of crafting new daily routines to facilitate emotional healing.
• The reality of "breakup brain" and how mindfulness can redirect lingering thoughts of past relationships.
• How Janice encourages embracing single life, transforming it into a period of self-love, independence, and vibrant opportunities.
• The importance of developing confidence and understanding that being single does not equate to loneliness, but rather offers a powerful chance for self-discovery.
• Practical advice on prioritizing self-investment and preparing for future, healthy relationships through self-confidence and readiness.

Janice’s insights are a beacon for those at any stage of post-breakup recovery looking to reclaim their life with enthusiasm and joy. To connect with Janice and learn more about her coaching, visit her on Instagram @janiceformichella. This episode is perfect for anyone ready to transform their narrative and embrace a fulfilling new chapter.

In this episode of Dear Matchmaker, we’re joined by the brilliant and hilarious Karen Seltz, a Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT) Facilitator, subconscious mind rewiring expert, and badass coach. Karen’s journey of overcoming addiction and depression using the same mind-rewiring techniques she now offers her clients is both powerful and inspiring. Known for her blend of nerdy humor and life-changing coaching, Karen shares how she helps people release the past, rewire their brains for success, and embody new, fun, and automatic behaviors that bring joy and ease into their lives.

We explore Karen’s playful approach to personal transformation, including why she believes learning happens best through play, and how she uses RRT to remove mental glitches, guiding her clients toward a future full of freedom and possibility. This episode is packed with insights, laughter, and practical tips for stepping boldly into a brighter, more authentic version of yourself.

Key Discussion Points:

• Karen’s personal journey of overcoming depression and addiction using Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT)
• How RRT helps remove mental glitches and rewire the brain for desired thoughts and behaviors
• The importance of play in learning and creating lasting transformation
• How Karen uses humor, joy, and playfulness to guide clients toward deeper healing and lasting success
• The role of embodiment in making new habits automatic, natural, and easy
• Why Karen believes it’s her responsibility to cause shifts in her clients, not just guide them
• Practical tips for releasing the past and stepping boldly into your future

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In this heartfelt 100th episode of Dear Matchmaker, we reflect on the incredible journey of the podcast and share our top six pieces of dating advice for 2024. Drawing on her years of experience as a matchmaker, Cat covers:

1. Why people often don’t really know what they’re looking for in a partner.
2. How dating is a skill set—and a bit of a numbers game.
3. Expanding your age range when dating.
4. The importance of first impressions and why how you present yourself matters.
5. Avoiding the trap of "opinion shopping" and letting go of your type.
6. Why it’s critical to make room for new love by releasing the grip of past relationships.

You can find out more information here:

www.theheartagency.com

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In this special episode of Dear Matchmaker, your host Cat Cantrill shares her top ten commandments to guide you through your first date with confidence and poise. Whether you're new to dating or a seasoned pro, Cat's advice offers a fresh perspective on how to make your first date memorable and successful.

This episode is designed as your go-to guide, something you can revisit whenever you need a quick refresher before stepping out on that all-important first date. Cat's insights are practical, easy to follow, and aimed at helping you navigate the dating world with ease.

Plus, Cat shares an exciting update about Dear Matchmaker being nominated for the People's Choice Award at the Iowa Podcast Awards! Don't forget to cast your vote and show your support.

If you're looking for personalized advice, Cat reminds you that sometimes all it takes is a consultation to shift your mindset and get you on the right path. Visit TheHeartAgency.com for more details.

And, of course, stay connected with Cat on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @CatCantrill for more tips, inspiration, and dating wisdom.

Key Takeaways:

• Cat's Ten Commandments for First Dates
• How to prepare mentally and emotionally for your date
• The importance of being yourself and staying present
• Why revisiting this episode can help boost your confidence

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Show Notes:

In this episode of Dear Matchmaker, we dive deep into the reasons behind hesitation in relationships and the importance of seeking clarity. If you find yourself stuck, unsure, or hesitant about pursuing a long-term relationship, this episode is for you.

Key Takeaways:

• The significance of self-awareness in dating and relationships.
• Why seeking therapy might be the key to unlocking the barriers holding you back from meaningful connections.
• Understanding how past relationships and upbringing can influence your current hesitations.
• The importance of being honest with yourself and others about your intentions in relationships.

Quick Reminders:

• Dear Matchmaker is a labor of love, brought to you by The Heart Agency and Dress for Love. We offer matchmaking, dating coaching, image consulting, and singles events to help you find and nurture true love.
• Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and follow Cat Cantrill on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook @CatCantrill.

In this episode of "Dear Matchmaker," Cat introduces her new 2-3-5 formula, a simple yet powerful approach to navigating the early stages of dating. Cat explains the significance of asking yourself two key questions after each date, giving a connection at least three dates to develop, and identifying five core values or must-haves in a partner. With her signature blend of wisdom and humor, Cat emphasizes the importance of staying curious and open-minded in your dating journey. 

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Matchmaker! 

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Welcome to Dear Matchmaker! 

Join me in this special episode from the hosts of 'Othered" where we talk all things matchmaking, dating and connection! 

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Welcome Jean Atman to Dear Matchmaker! 

Jean is a Soul Evolution Specialist and Quantum Healer. She assists purpose-driven women to embark on a soul-stirring journey of self-discovery, unearthing their true purpose and bravely confronting and releasing the shackles of their past. As they let go of old wounds, they free themselves to embody a brighter future and fully step into their limitless potential, embracing the powerful vision of who they can be.

You can find her here:

https://www.facebook.com/JeanAtmanEnergyAlchemist/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-NrTBudMteZpdUjDmY8Smg

In this episode of "Dear Matchmaker," Cat addresses three key pet peeves in online dating. First, she advises against demanding confirmation on the day of a date, arguing that it stems from insecurity and fear. Second, Cat discourages putting pressure on potential future dates immediately after the first encounter, suggesting instead to give both parties time to process and reflect. Finally, she advocates for presenting one's best self in online dating profiles, likening it to preparing for a job interview. Cat's advice centers on fostering healthy communication, setting realistic expectations, and prioritizing self-confidence in the dating journey.