I’m 30, single, and surprisingly calm about a lot of things that used to terrify me. Specifically: I’m not scared of meeting the wrong person again, I’m not scared of judgment, I’m not scared of starting a family later in life, and I’m not scared of falling in love. In this episode I’ll walk through how I got here - mindset shifts, concrete practices, scripts you can use, and examples that made me realise fear was optional. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Ins...

It’s easy to get caught in the mental loop of imagining your ex doing all the same things with their new partner that they once did with you. Those thoughts can feel overwhelming, painful, and hard to escape. In this episode, we dive into how to shift that thought pattern and how to spin thoughts into a more positive thought pattern. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingU...

In this episode, I’m sharing the unexpected and honestly, lessons I’ve learned during my time being single. From learning to love my own company, to realising I don’t miss my ex, to feeling proud (not apologetic) when I say I’m single… this season has been nothing like I thought, and everything I needed. I’ll walk you through the mindset shifts and the practical steps that helped me get here. If you’re healing, rebuilding, or just finding your way, this one’s for you. Want More Like T...

In this episode, I want to take you on a journey of courage. We’ll talk about what happens when your boundaries are broken, the fear of leaving, the deep importance of respect, how to find the strength within yourself, and most importantly, what your future can look like when you spread your wings and walk into a new chapter of your life.So if you’ve been feeling stuck, afraid, or doubting yourself I want you to take a deep breath with me right now and know that by listening today, you’re alr...

In this episode I am talking about one of the hardest things to face after a breakup that feeling when your ex moves on and you think they’ve found someone better than you. It can hit you like a punch in the chest you’re scrolling on Instagram, or a friend tells you, and suddenly it feels like everything you went through was for nothing, like you’ve been replaced. I want you to know right now: that’s not the truth. They didn’t find someone better, they found someone different, someone more su...

We’re told: block them, delete them, unfollow, cut them out. But here’s the thing. You can remove someone from every physical part of your life and still have them living rent-free in your head. And that… is the part no one teaches you how to deal with. So if you’ve been feeling frustrated because you’ve done “all the right things” but your mind won’t stop bringing them up, you’re in the right place. Because we’re going to talk about mental no contact what it is, why it’s so much harder than ...

In this episode I am diving into something so many of you have messaged me about and that is the experience but often feel shame around: moving back home after a breakup. Whether it's your childhood bedroom or a spare room at a parent’s house, it can feel like you're going backwards while everyone else is moving forwards. But this episode is here to shift that mindset completely. If you're in this place right now, I want you to take a deep breath. This is not the end, this is a reset. W...

This episode has sat with me for a while. It’s about something we’re told to be from a very young age, but we’re never actually taught how to do it. Today we’re talking about being brave. Especially when everything’s crumbling. Especially when the relationship ends, your world shifts, and suddenly you have to stand up on your own again even though you're not sure you remember how. I learnt a lot myself whilst building with episode, I think it will provide reassurance and soothe & calm you...

In this episode I talk about how easy it is to lose yourself because you can't control what your ex is doing. But here’s the truth I want to anchor you in today: you can’t control what they did, or why they left, or even how they feel now. That’s all out of your hands. The only thing you can truly control is the way you choose to respond and that choice, every single day, is what will determine how strong you become on the other side. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My Ne...

In this episode I want to talk about something that I know so many of you are sitting with right now and I want to be really honest about it. It’s not just the heartbreak itself that hurts.It’s not just the missing them, or the confusion, or the grief. It’s the frustration. The anger. The heaviness of knowing that no one else really knows what happened behind closed doors and no matter how many times you try to explain it, no one really gets it. And honestly? That can be one of the most isola...

Sometimes, the hardest person to walk away from isn’t the ex who hurt you. It’s the new connection that felt like a fresh start. The person who came along just when you thought your heart might be ready again. In this episode I reassure you and remind you that trusting your gut is the most powerful thing you can do. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ ...

In this episode, I am getting honest about the emotional leftovers: the habits and beliefs we adopted in a relationship that no longer serves you. You’ll learn how to spot what’s not yours anymore, how to rewire your inner voice, and how to rebuild your identity on your own terms. No fluff. Just real talk, practical mindset shifts, and a few gentle nudges to help you come back home to yourself. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram...

When I went through my breakup I wanted to know that it got better and if certain thoughts and feelings became easier. Now 3 years on I wanted to share with you how life looks and feels. I share some tips and some reflections that I have had recently. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

I want to talk about something that a lot of us go through… but few of us talk about out loud. The day you were supposed to get married… but didn’t. The day you thought would be your anniversary… but became something else entirely. I talk about how to cope mentally and physically in this episode. I actually went away to Greece, but I talk about if I didn't - what I would have done instead. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/...

On this episode I am talking about losing your firsts your first house, your first engagement, your first big love… and how to heal when the dream you built with someone else falls apart. Maybe your ex left. Maybe you had to walk away even when your heart didn’t want to. Maybe the life you thought you'd live just… evaporated. I go through how I felt losing the first time I got engaged and my first house with someone. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram ...

Seeing your ex move on can feel like a setback, even if the breakup is old. In this episode, we talk about why it hurts, how to cope, and what it really takes to move forward. From practical steps to mindset shifts, this is a straight-talking, compassionate guide to letting go and choosing yourself again. If you’re stuck in the pain of watching someone else start over, this one’s for you. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com...

In todays episode I am talking about one of the hardest lessons to learn but also one of the most liberating: Let people show you who they are — and stop making excuses when they do.I know this can feel harsh. When someone you love hurts you or disappoints you, your brain wants to make sense of it. Your heart wants to protect the connection. And your nervous system wants to avoid the truth. But what if the most loving thing you could do for yourself… was stop translating their behaviour into ...

In this episode we’re diving into something I know so many of us struggle with the fear of being single. Whether it’s fresh after a breakup or something that’s been lingering in the background for a while, that fear can feel all-consuming. But today, I want to help you reframe it, understand where it’s coming from, and give you the tools and mindset shifts to move through it feeling stronger, clearer, and more grounded in yourself. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My...

I saw this quote on the back of a toilet door - details in the episode. It really resonated with me because for ages I have said I am starting from scratch and it is so normal to think so but in this episode I talk about why you arent, and why your experience will be like your blue print that you carry into a new relationship. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir...

Breakups are horrible but the first swipe post-split? That’s a whole other level of weird. In this episode, I dive into the emotional rollercoaster of re-joining the world of dating apps after a breakup. Whether you're downloading Tinder for the fifth time or dipping a toe into Hinge, I talk about what it means to start over digitally. From ghosting fears to unexpected confidence boosts, I share personal stories, red flags to watch for, and tips on navigating modern dating when you're still h...