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Can We Fkn Talk?

Ashleigh Scrivener

32 episodes

5 months ago

This episode was sparked by a comment from a TikTok comment which said, “I stopped saying yes all the time and masking so much - and now I have no friends.” Ooft. I felt that. And my honest response? Were they ever really your friends? Or did they just benefit from you always keeping the peace? Today, we’re diving into what happens when you stop people pleasing - especially after becoming a Mum - and realise that the “connections” you had might’ve been built on a version of you that was just...

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This episode was sparked by a comment from a TikTok comment which said, “I stopped saying yes all the time and masking so much - and now I have no friends.” Ooft. I felt that. And my honest response? Were they ever really your friends? Or did they just benefit from you always keeping the peace? Today, we’re diving into what happens when you stop people pleasing - especially after becoming a Mum - and realise that the “connections” you had might’ve been built on a version of you that was just...

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Self-Improvement

Episodes (20/32)

Can We Fkn Talk?

031 | Solo Episode - Why Do So Many Women Hold Onto People Pleasing - Until They Become a Mum?

This episode was sparked by a comment from a TikTok comment which said, “I stopped saying yes all the time and masking so much - and now I have no friends.” Ooft. I felt that. And my honest response? Were they ever really your friends? Or did they just benefit from you always keeping the peace? Today, we’re diving into what happens when you stop people pleasing - especially after becoming a Mum - and realise that the “connections” you had might’ve been built on a version of you that was just...

5 months ago

23 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

030 | Lurinda V - Rebuilding After The Break-Up

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I welcome back the incredible Lurinda for part two of her story - a no-filter, deeply vulnerable journey through separation, solo parenting, personal growth, and ultimately rekindling her relationship. We unpack the raw truth of what it really looks like to choose yourself in the messiest seasons - navigating solo Motherhood, facing the possibility of never having your own biological children, confronting past traumas, and slowly rebuilding a new kind of ...

5 months ago

54 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

029 | Lurinda V - What Happens When You Become a Step-Mum at 21?

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Lurinda Vollmer, who shares her deeply personal journey into Motherhood - starting as a step-Mum at just 21. We talk about what it’s like to suddenly be parenting kids who aren’t yours biologically, the emotional rollercoaster of navigating trauma and young adulthood at the same time, and how loving two little girls shaped the way she later parented her son. Lurinda opens up about the heartbreaking moment she was told she mig...

5 months ago

1 hour 5 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

028 | Bonnie B - The Power Of Not Settling

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Bonnie - a Mum, coach, and a mfkn MILF - whose journey into Motherhood was anything but linear. From an unexpected pregnancy to the realities of a shifting identity, breastfeeding trauma, relationship tension, and business burnout, Bonnie brings her raw honesty and wisdom. We talk about the mindset shifts that helped her transform chaos into clarity, the ways she used self-awareness to stop hiding from her shadows, and why sh...

5 months ago

49 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

027 | Rashelle L - Who Even Am I Anymore?

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Rashelle Leahy - mum of three, business owner, and owner of Intuitive Mummas. Rashelle shares her powerful journey of becoming a parent at 22, navigating life overseas, and the identity shifts that come with Motherhood. We get real about letting go of expectations, feeling lost, and finding ourselves again beyond the "Mum" label. We explore how identity evolves, the pressures of societal norms, and why it’s crucial to give yo...

5 months ago

49 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

026 | Rashelle L - Does Parenting Ever Get Any Easier?

Every stage of Motherhood brings its own unique set of challenges, whether it’s navigating sleep deprivation in the newborn phase, toddler tantrums and big emotions, or the emotional rollercoaster of raising school-aged kids. In today’s episode, I’m joined by the amazing Rashelle Leahy - mum of three who opens up about becoming a Mum in her early 20s, just months after getting married, and how she and her husband faced the pressure of juggling financial stress, growing a relationship, and fig...

6 months ago

45 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

025 | Ashy Anne - Parenting Is Political (Whether You Like It or Not)

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Ashy Anne to dive into the very real, often overlooked truth: parenting is political. From housing affordability and childcare accessibility to tax systems, superannuation, and even the groceries in our trolley - politics shapes every aspect of our lives as parents. Now before you roll your eyes or switch off, hear me out. Politics isn’t just something that happens in Parliament or on the news. It’s in the cost of daycare. It...

6 months ago

2 hours 9 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

024 | Solo Episode - Four Years Into Motherhood

In this solo ep, I’m getting all up in my feels as I reflect on four years of Motherhood. With my daughter’s birthday around the corner, I have found myself comparing who I was in year one - running on no sleep, second-guessing every decision, trying to keep a tiny human alive - to who I am now: a Mum who’s way more solid in herself, who’s done the work, and who’s still learning every single day. I talk about the difference between reacting and responding, what it actually means to be regulat...

6 months ago

34 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

023 | Solo Episode - I don’t want to be a SAHM - Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook

Season 2 is officially coming to a close, and I couldn’t think of a better way to wrap it up than with a solo episode in my Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook series. Today, I’m opening up about why I don’t want to be a stay-at-home Mum - a topic that, for the longest time, made me feel like a "bad Mum". I’ll share the mindset shifts that helped me move through the guilt and judgment that came with this decision, the expectations society places on Mothers, and why I believe there’s so much val...

8 months ago

42 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

022 | Danni W - Twin Motherhood, identity shifts & expectations

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Danni Whiley, who went from living a busy, adventurous life with her own business to the unexpected journey of becoming a twin Mum. We dive deep into the identity shift she experienced and how her whole world changed the moment she found out she was expecting twins. Danni shares the emotional rollercoaster of navigating late postpartum depression and anxiety, shedding light on the silent struggles so many Mums face but rarely...

8 months ago

42 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

021 | Carly B - Mindset, personal growth & letting go of expectations

Welcome back to Can We Fkn Talk? for part two of my conversation with Carly Box. In this episode, we dive deep into mindset, empowerment, and embracing who you truly are. Carly shares her journey of breaking free from societal expectations, especially as a working Mum, and how she’s learned to live life unapologetically on her own terms. We talk about the pressures placed on Mothers to meet certain standards and how Carly navigates judgement and stereotypes to create a life that feels right f...

8 months ago

46 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

020 | Carly B - Resilience, empowerment & navigating single Motherhood

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Carly Box - a single Mum of two, military veteran, and all-around powerhouse. Carly’s story is one of resilience, transformation, and learning how to truly thrive after life takes an unexpected turn. We dive deep into her journey - from her career in the military to travelling the world, starting a business, and ultimately stepping into Motherhood. Carly opens up about the unexpected decision to become a parent, the challenge...

9 months ago

45 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

019 | Ashy Anne - Respectful parenting, activism & cycle breaking

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Ashlee Griffiths, (aka TikTok superstar - Ashy Anne) a passionate advocate for cycle-breaking, respectful parenting, and generational healing. Ashy shares her deeply personal journey of unlearning toxic family patterns, setting firm boundaries, and raising her children with intention, kindness, and respect. We explore the confronting reality of breaking generational cycles and how childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Ashy opens up...

9 months ago

1 hour 5 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

018 | Solo Episode - Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook Series

In this solo episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I’m kicking off a brand-new series: Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook. This series dives deep into my personal Motherhood journey - starting with the highs, the lows, and the unfiltered reality of how I’ve rewritten my narrative as a Mum.I’m sharing everything, from the challenges of falling pregnant with PCOS, navigating perinatal anxiety, and experiencing a traumatic birth, to the game-changing decisions I’ve made - like stepping into a new career t...

9 months ago

45 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

017 | Cassie A - Finding community, connection & embracing vulnerability (Part 2)

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I chat with Cassie Arrowgros, the brilliant mind behind Big Little Wins, a transformative community for Mums in Logan (Qld, Aus). We reflect on how Motherhood holds up a mirror to both our strengths and our vulnerabilities, revealing areas for growth we never knew existed. Cassie opens up about her journey to creating a space where Mums can feel supported, seen, and empowered through humour, respect, and empathy. We also discuss the mental load in relation...

9 months ago

47 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

016 | Cassie A - Navigating identity, control, and community (Part 1)

In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Cassie Arrowgros, founder of Big Little Wins, to have an honest and open conversation about the challenges and transformations that come with Motherhood. Cassie shares her deeply personal journey through infertility and IVF, reflecting on how those experiences shaped her perspective on parenting and identity. We dive into what it means to rebuild your sense of self after becoming a Mum and how letting go of control can be one of the hardest...

9 months ago

44 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

015 | Alice W - Successful career, setting boundaries and flexibility

In this heartfelt and empowering episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Alice Worthy, The Modern Doula, who shares her incredible journey of balancing career and Motherhood. From managing a thriving doula business and a full-time job plus raising two young children with her partner, Alice dives into the realities of identity shifts, societal pressures, and navigating the ever-elusive "work-life balance." We discuss the importance of breaking the stigma around being a working Mum, why da...

10 months ago

49 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

014 | Welcome to Season 2 - Solo Episode with Ash

Season 2 kicks off with a bang as I reflect on the year that was 2024 - its highs, its lows, and everything in between. I’m sharing my journey of prioritising myself, including the massive milestone of bariatric surgery and the transformation it sparked in my life. We’re diving into the power of setting intentions, aligning actions with values, and the tools I’ve used to stay disciplined, like managing screen time and saying no to distractions. 2025 is here, and I’m so ready for it! My word f...

10 months ago

32 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

013 | Carlie S - Culture, generational trauma and mental health (Part 2)

⚠️Trigger Warning: This episode discusses generational trauma, systemic racism, and mental health challenges. In this deeply moving and insightful episode, I continue my conversation with Carlie Schofield, exploring the intersection of Motherhood, mental health, and the impact of generational trauma. Carlie shares her personal journey as a Mother navigating the unique challenges shaped by her Mum’s experience as part of Australia’s Stolen Generation. Together, we discuss the struggles of see...

11 months ago

35 minutes

Can We Fkn Talk?

012 | Carlie S - Identity shifts, resilience & being a working Mum (Part 1)

⚠️ This episode contains discussions about infertility, postpartum struggles, and mental health challenges, including feelings of inadequacy and distress. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Carlie Schofield, who opens up about her raw and honest journey through Motherhood. From navigating infertility and PCOS to the challenges of postpartum recovery, Carlie shares her struggles with the mental load, feeding guilt, and the overwhelming ident...

11 months ago

39 minutes