In this episode, we dive into pleasure, sexual empowerment, and confidence with the incredible Goody Howard MPH, MSW. Goody is a world-renowned sexologist, educator, and consultant who has dedicated her life to empowering others through sexual exploration, education, and awareness. From hosting sexual skill workshops to creating sex-positive professional development opportunities, Goody layers her focus on pleasure with her engaging and energetic presentation style. Today, we’ll be discussing the journey to sexual liberation, how confidence in the bedroom translates to other areas of life, and practical tips to empower your sex life within marriage.
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There are moments in our relationships where communication breaks down, and things can start to feel overwhelming. In today's episode, we explore a concept from Dr. John Gottman’s research that can help explain why. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse represent four harmful communication patterns that, when left unchecked, can lead to the downfall of a marriage. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—these destructive behaviors don’t just harm the relationship; they destroy connection and intimacy. But there is hope! In this episode, we’ll not only discuss these patterns but also explore antidotes to help you turn things around and strengthen your marriage.
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John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
The Four Horsemen by The Gottman Institute: The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist
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Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
Today, we’re diving into the critical role of understanding personal values in marriage. Understanding your values isn't just about recognizing what's important to you—it’s fundamentally about how these values shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your relationship.
In this episode, we will explore:
What Values Are: Gain a clear understanding of what values are and how they shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your marriage.
The Consequences of Not Understanding Your Values: Discover what can go wrong when you don't understand your values and how this can lead to conflicts, inconsistent behaviors, and weakened boundaries in your relationship.
How to Identify Your Personal Values: Learn practical steps to identify your own values, including self-reflection, assessments, and feedback from loved ones.
Respect and Acceptance in Marriage: Understand the importance of respecting and accepting both your own values and your spouse’s values, and how to creatively navigate differences to strengthen your relationship.
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Everything has a good side right, but what’s the good side to anger? Today, we learn how to express anger in healthy ways to become better at using it rather than bottling it up, or hurting those around us.
You will learn:
The purpose of anger as an emotion and it’s biological & societal roots.
Effective strategies for men to manage their anger in the moment and beyond?
Guidance on how couples can rebuild trust after conflict.
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Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown: Click Here
Feelings Wheel: Click Here
Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist
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In this episode, we’re exploring the vital role of emotional intelligence (EI) in marriage. Emotional intelligence isn't just about managing other people's feelings or being overly aware of their emotions—it's fundamentally about understanding and managing your own emotions effectively. We’ll look into how EI starts with you, its importance in improving communication and conflict resolution, and how to develop and apply it in your relationship.
In this episode, you will gain:
A Clear Understanding of Emotional Intelligence: Learn what EI is, how it impacts your ability to manage your own emotions, and how it affects your interactions with others.
Insights into Common Toxic Emotional Behaviors: Discover the most common toxic ways people handle emotions and how these can negatively impact your marriage.
Practical Tips for Developing and Applying EI: Get actionable advice on how to build emotional intelligence, apply it in your daily life, and enhance your relationship with your partner.
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TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
Today, we are diving into a topic that we have never discussed before on the show: caretaking and its effect on marriage. Caretaking can involve caring for someone who is physically or mentally ill, be it a parent, relative, or spouse. Recently, we've been thrust into the caretaking role with our ailing parents, and we're navigating this new stage of life while sharing our experiences, how we deal with it individually and as a couple, and offering tips that have helped us manage this challenging phase.
You will receive:
Coping strategies for managing the stress of caretaking.
Encouragement & Acknowledgment for those who are experiencing caretaking in their marriage.
Instruction on how to discuss caretaking responsibilities with others.
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Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
In today's episode, we have a candid conversation about the ups and downs of marriage, focusing on growth, trust, and emotional capacity. We take an unfiltered look into our marriage, discussing our struggles and how we navigate them. Inspired by prominent voices in the black marriage community, we emphasize the importance of sharing both the highs and the lows to provide a realistic view of marital life.
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John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage be Hard
Beleaf in Fatherhood: How Married Are You?
Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist
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In this episode, I address what I. believe is the result of long term porn use in relationships. While some argue it can enhance sexual experiences, others say it breeds discontent, and an inability to connect intimately with one's partner. I will be drawing insights from my personal experiences and those of members in my recovery group who claim shattered marriages, career losses and even deeper dives into other forms of addiction.
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Did you know that 69% of marital conflicts will not be resolved why because these conflicts stem from fundamental differences between the the two individuals in the relationship. These problem are less about the bills, family, or sex but more about how the individual sees and responds to these issues. Lets talk about it, in this episode we will discuss where natural differences come from, how to accept your spouse as a whole person good and bad, our experience and how learning this helped our marriage.
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In this episode, we talk about the sometimes controversial topic of gender differences and similarities in the context of marriage. We discuss how men and women, especially in the Black community, are more alike than we often think. We address the stereotypes spread by the media and common social beliefs, highlighting the need for critical thinking and self-education to strengthen and support marriages.
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In this episode, Junior and Dr. Jared Kiddoe teach men how to deal with the pressing issue of healing Black men's traumas in America.
Listen to Learn:
*Working definition for mental health & trauma
*Why is addressing trauma so hard for black men? (including how men typically respond)
*How men can process their trauma
Lets us acknowledge your experience and empower you with the tools to support your mental health.
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Show Notes
This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self.
In this episode, we talk about why honesty matters in relationships and what honesty looks like in marriagek. We discuss the journey to being completely honest, even though it's hard. We look at why we sometimes don't tell the truth, whether it's to protect our partner's feelings or because we're scared of how they'll react. We share practical tips for having tough conversations honestly and kindly, without expecting anything in return. Tune in to learn how to build trust and openness in your relationship and how to respond honestly when talking with your spouse.
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Today, we're chatting with Sean and Lanette Reed, a couple who've been married for 25 years. They're here to share their experiences and offer advice on navigating tough times in marriage. From dealing with doubts to finding balance and staying resilient, they'll share practical tips and stories to help couples strengthen their relationship. Get ready for an episode filled with laughter, encouragement, and useful advice for building a lasting partnership.
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Marriage In Transition: Book
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In this episode, we will be discussing the power of community for your marriage. This is often a pillar we don't discuss because we are often taught the “us against the world mentality”. While we agree with guarding your marriage with vigor I believe it is essential that we learn to put our marriage into healthy community environments so that we can thrive. In this episode we will discuss what community is and isn’t, why community is important, and how to build a strong community for your marriage while guarding your marriage.
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In today's episode, we're going to dive into the topic of love using Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love as our guide. This theory breaks down love into three main parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. By understanding these components, we hope to unravel the complexities of romantic connections and shed light on the different forms love can take. I'll also share some personal stories and observations I've gathered from talking to various couples. These real-life experiences will help us explore the diverse ways people express and experience love. Lastly, we'll offer some practical tips and advice based on both research and personal insights.
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In this episode, we're diving into the world of attachment styles – the unique ways we connect with others, influenced by our early relationships. We'll explore why knowing about attachment styles matters for building strong relationships and sharing our own stories to help you understand their impact. Whether it's feeling secure in closeness, worrying about being left, or preferring independence, we'll break down how these styles shape how we love. Join us for practical tips and advice to navigate attachment styles, helping you create deeper, more satisfying connections in your life.
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Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT: Wired for Love (book on attachment)
Amir Levine M.D, Rachel Heller M.A: Attached (book on attachment)
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Today, we're breaking the mold by exploring the idea of going into business with your spouse. Meet Troy & Shantel Brooks, childhood friends turned spouses and business partners, sharing their journey from NYC to Atlanta with purpose, impact, and faith. In their book "Spartners," Troy & Shantel provide practical insights on how working with your spouse can enrich your marriage. Join us as we uncover reflective practices to reveal the value in your partner as a business ally and discover the gifts within your spouse for a purposeful life. In this episode, we will be learning about the Spartnership approach, the dynamics of partnership in marriage and business, and tips and advice for those of you interested in learning more about how to become Spartners.
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If you struggle to say sorry and offer your spouse authentic apologies in your relationship you are not alone. It is human nature to want to defend yourself when being critiqued about your behavior but it is essential that as couples we learn the art and the dance of apologizing. In this episode I want to share all that I have learned. In this episode, we will discuss the importance of apologies, the wrong way to apologize, the different ways people receive apologies, and tips tricks and advice to help you become better at apologizing.
This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self.
Podcast Mentions
Dr. Gary Chapman: The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships
Dr. Harriet Lerner: Why Won't You Apologize?
Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage Be Hard
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There are moments in our lives that stick with us for a lifetime. Some of these moments, however, carry wounds so deep that we bury them, pretending they never existed—Until…… someone accidentally touches it. Then what?..... When left unaddressed, these invisible traumas can cast a long shadow over our lives and, more specifically, our marriages. In this episode, we're privileged to have an expert guide us through this sensitive topic. Joining us is Kaara Kiddoe, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the Co-Founder of Authentic Marriages, a Christian marriage ministry she runs alongside her husband, Dr. Jared Kiddoe. Their mission is to promote emotionally and spiritually healthy marriages in the Black and Brown communities across the globe.
Guest Info
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Whether you're a man seeking personal growth or a partner invested in the success of your relationship, this episode is a must-listen.
Join us in this transformative episode as Rex, a licensed LMFT & Relationship coach, unveils the essential blueprint for men to thrive in their most critical roles within a marriage. We delve into the three fundamental pillars of men's personal development that are paramount to creating lasting, meaningful marriage.
Emotional Intelligence: Uncover how emotional intelligence will strengthen your marital bond.
Spiritual Growth: Understanding your purpose and deepen your connection to (and in) your relationship.
Financial Literacy: Discuss the complexities of managing money wisely.
Don't miss out on the opportunity to elevate your relationship—listen in and begin learning the tools to build a secure future today!
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