In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, a clinical psychologist and neuroscientist, to explore the intricate relationship between grief, the brain, and the body. Drawing from her decades of research, Mary-Frances shares insights on how our bodies physically experience grief, why loss reshapes our inner world, and how cultural and personal differences shape the grieving process.Together, we discuss grief as a rite of passage, the impact of loss on identity, the role of guilt in bereavement—especially in cases of suicide—and the ways in which grief can manifest in unexpected physiological responses. We also examine the shifting cultural landscape of death and mourning, the importance of human connection in navigating loss, and how existential questions arise through grief.With both personal reflections and deep scientific insight, this conversation sheds light on the universal yet deeply individual nature of grief, offering a thoughtful exploration of what it means to carry loss within us.I sincerely hope you enjoy!
On this episode of The Mind Mate Podcast, I chat with the legendary Dr. Kirk Honda about all things therapy, culture, and philosophy. We dive into different therapeutic approaches—what works, what doesn’t, and why it all depends—while unpacking how cultural trends are shaping the way we think about mental health. We also get into some big philosophical questions about what it really means to heal. If you’re into deep, engaging conversations with a mix of insight and curiosity, you’re gonna love this one!
In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Michael Conforti, Jungian analyst and founder of the Assisi Institute, to explore the intricate interplay between archetypes, dreams, and the unconscious. Together, we delve into how patterns of meaning shape our lives, the role of the collective unconscious in human behaviour, and the transformative power of symbols in guiding us through personal and existential challenges. Dr. Conforti’s decades of experience in Jungian depth psychology shine through as he shares profound insights into the mysteries of the psyche and how understanding these universal patterns can foster healing and self-discovery.
Welcome back to The Mind Mate Podcast! Today, I have the absolute honour of sitting down with Dr. Kirk Schneider—one of the leading voices in contemporary existential-humanistic psychology and a true pioneer in the field of depth-oriented healing. Dr. Schneider has an impressive career that spans decades. He’s a licensed psychologist, the past editor of the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, and president of the Existential-Humanistic Institute. He teaches at Saybrook University and Columbia University’s Teachers College and is a Fellow of five divisions of the American Psychological Association. Beyond that, he’s a prolific author, having written or coauthored 12 books, including The Paradoxical Self, Horror and the Holy, Existential-Integrative Psychotherapy, and Awakening to Awe. Today, we’ll touch on his latest contribution, Life-Enhancing Anxiety: Key to a Sane World, which offers a global perspective on existential approaches to healing and transformation. What’s striking about Dr. Schneider’s work is how deeply it calls us to engage with life’s mysteries—the awe, the terror, and the paradoxes that shape the human experience. He’s also the founder of the Corps of Depth Healers, a movement designed to bring depth-oriented, existential practices to communities in need. It’s a radical and necessary initiative in our increasingly fragmented world, and I’m excited to explore it with him today. If you’re as fascinated as I am, I highly recommend diving into Dr. Schneider’s world. Visit his website at www.kirkjschneider.com for more about his work and writings. You can also learn about the Corps of Depth Healers at / @corpsofdepthhealers-ws9nq where you’ll find resources for cultivating healing and awe in your own communities. So, without further ado, let’s dive into an unforgettable conversation with Dr. Kirk Schneider. I hope you enjoy this one as much as I did!
In this episode of The Mind Mate Podcast, I had the absolute privilege of speaking with Emmy Van Deurzen, an iconic figure in existential psychotherapy and philosophy. We delved into the rich terrain of dream analysis and discussed how our unconscious lives can reveal pathways to authenticity. We also explored Emmy's personal journey: her love of Socrates sparked during her youth, the profound impact of growing up in a post-World War II world, and how these experiences shaped her relentless pursuit of life's deepest questions. About Emmy: Emmy van Deurzen is a leading existential psychotherapist, philosopher, and prolific author. Born in The Hague, Netherlands, in 1951, she studied French and philosophy in Montpellier, France, before earning a master’s degree in phenomenology and existentialism under Michel Henry. Emmy's career began in France, where she worked in innovative psychiatric settings, such as Saint Alban and La Candelie, while training in psychotherapy and clinical psychology. In 1977, Emmy moved to the UK, where she contributed to the Arbours Association and Antioch University before founding the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling in London. As an advocate for existential therapy, Emmy has authored influential books, including Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy in Practice. Her works have been translated into multiple languages, and she remains a global authority on existential psychology, helping people navigate crises, dilemmas, and transformations. Her upcoming book, The Art of Freedom, is set to release in 2024. *** Welcome to The Mind Mate Podcast, your compass for navigating life’s biggest questions. Hosted by Tom, a psychotherapist and writer, this podcast dives deep into the heart of existentialism, philosophy, and mental health. Join us as we explore how meaning is shaped across different cultures and belief systems—from East to West, religious to secular. We bridge the worlds of science, art, and therapy, blending philosophical insights with practical tools for living a fulfilled life. Expect thought-provoking conversations with philosophers, therapists, artists, spiritual seekers, teachers and academics who are pushing the boundaries of what it means to be human. Whether you're seeking personal growth, deeper self-awareness, or just curious about the human condition, this podcast will help you navigate your path. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
In this special episode, I sit down with Dr. Julien Tempone-Wiltshire to explore the profound philosophical implications of psychedelic experiences. We dive deep into how these altered states of consciousness can reshape our understanding of reality, identity, and existential meaning. Dr. Tempone-Wiltshire brings his expertise in the intersection of philosophy and psychology to discuss the transformative power of psychedelics in self-discovery, spiritual exploration, and mental health. Whether you're curious about the potential of psychedelics for personal growth or fascinated by their impact on human consciousness, this episode offers an enlightening perspective on the subject. ***Welcome to The Mind Mate Podcast, your compass for navigating life’s biggest questions. Hosted by Tom, a psychotherapist and writer, this podcast dives deep into the heart of existentialism, philosophy, and mental health. Join us as we explore how meaning is shaped across different cultures and belief systems—from East to West, religious to secular. We bridge the worlds of science, art, and therapy, blending philosophical insights with practical tools for living a fulfilled life. Expect thought-provoking conversations with philosophers, therapists, artists, spiritual seekers, teachers and academics who are pushing the boundaries of what it means to be human. Whether you're seeking personal growth, deeper self-awareness, or just curious about the human condition, this podcast will help you navigate your path. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
Welcome back to The Mind Mate Podcast! In this special episode, I’m joined by the renowned Jungian analyst and author, Dr. James Hollis. Dr. Hollis has written extensively about the human condition, meaning-making, and navigating the complexities of modern life through a depth psychology lens. Together, we dive deep into the existential themes of midlife, the confrontation with our unconscious, and the role that personal responsibility plays in our journey towards individuation.
Dr. Hollis shares his insights on the nature of self-deception, how we can better understand the patterns that shape our lives, and the importance of embracing uncertainty. We explore the tension between security and growth, the way culture influences our psyche, and the inner work required to move beyond the limiting narratives we've inherited. Whether you're familiar with his work or new to the ideas of Jungian psychology, this conversation offers profound reflections for anyone seeking a more authentic life.
Tune in for a rich, thought-provoking discussion that challenges the ways we understand ourselves and the world around us.
About Dr. James Hollis:
James Hollis, Ph.D. taught Humanities 26 years in various colleges and universities before retraining as a Jungian analyst at the Jung Institute of Zurich, Switzerland (1977-82). He is presently a licensed Jungian analyst in private practice in Washington, D.C. He co-founded the Jung Institute of Philadelphia, served as Executive Director of the Jung Educational Center in Houston, Texas for many years and Director of the Washington Jung Society. He lives with his wife Jill, an artist and retired therapist, in a suburb of Washington, DC. Together they have three living children and eight grand-children. He has written a total of twenty books, which have been translated into Swedish, Russian, German, Spanish, French, Hungarian, Portuguese, Turkish, Italian, Korean, Finnish, Romanian, Bulgarian, Farsi, Japanese, Greek, Chinese, Serbian, Latvian, Ukranian and Czech.
Check him out here:
Dr. James Hollis Website: https://jameshollis.net Books: https://jameshollis.net/hollisBooks.html Jung Platform: https://bit.ly/3yjVhTJ Videos: https://jameshollis.net/hollisVideos.... Upcoming lectures: https://jameshollis.net/hollisLecture...
In episode 211 of the "Mind Mate" podcast, I sit down with my friend Ian Cattanach for an engaging discussion. We delve into the profound ideas of Jordan Peterson, Martin Heidegger, Cormac McCarthy, and David Foster Wallace. Together, we explore the intersection of philosophy, literature, and psychology, shedding light on how these influential thinkers grapple with themes of meaning, existence, and human nature. Ian and I share our thoughts on how these ideas resonate in today's world, making for a rich and thought-provoking conversation. Join us as we navigate the complexities of these remarkable minds and their contributions to our understanding of life and consciousness. *** Welcome to The Mind Mate Podcast, where philosophy meets psychology! We delve into the depths of existentialism and various meaning structures from east to west—both religious and cultural—as well as exploring the intersection of phenomenology, psychological science, art and mental health, blending philosophical insight with therapeutic practice. Expect to hear from philosophers, therapists, artists and academics navigating the frontiers of what it means to be human. Tom, your host, is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
In this episode of the Mind Mate podcast, Tom and Aaron, both experienced psychotherapists, engage in a deep and dynamic discussion about the varying approaches to psychotherapy. Tom and Aaron explore the nuances of existential psychotherapy, highlighting its focus on personal meaning, freedom, and the human condition. They contrast this with clinical and research-based therapies, which emphasise empirical evidence, structured techniques, and measurable outcomes. The conversation delves into the emerging field of psychedelic therapy, examining its potential benefits and the challenges it presents. Aaron, with his extensive experience, shares insights into how psychedelics can facilitate profound therapeutic breakthroughs, while Tom provides a balanced perspective on the need for rigorous clinical research and safety protocols. Additionally, they tackle the crucial topic of relapse prevention, offering strategies and insights from both existential and clinical viewpoints. Through their engaging dialogue, Tom and Aaron provide listeners with a comprehensive understanding of these diverse therapeutic modalities, shedding light on how they can be integrated to support clients’ mental health journeys. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in the evolving landscape of psychotherapy and the innovative approaches that are shaping its future.
Welcome back to the Mind Mate podcast! In this episode, Tom and Pauly dive into a lively discussion, blending humour and insight as they explore Jonathan Haidt's new book, "The Anxious Generation." Together, they unpack the book's themes, shedding light on the growing anxiety among today's youth and the societal factors contributing to this trend. The conversation then shifts to the challenges and joys of parenting in the modern era. With a mix of personal anecdotes and thoughtful analysis, Tom and Pauly discuss how modern technology and social media impact both parents and children. They offer practical advice for navigating the digital landscape, emphasising the importance of balance and mindful engagement. As the episode progresses, the discussion turns to the art of writing novels. Tom and Pauly share their experiences, offering tips and tricks for aspiring writers. They delve into the creative process, the importance of authenticity in storytelling, and the challenges of balancing writing with everyday life. Tune in for a fun, engaging, and thought-provoking episode that offers valuable insights for parents, writers, and anyone interested in understanding the complexities of our modern world.*** Welcome to The Mind Mate Podcast, where philosophy meets psychology! We delve into the depths of existentialism and various meaning structures from east to west—both religious and cultural—as well as exploring the intersection of phenomenology, psychological science, art and mental health, blending philosophical insight with therapeutic practice. Expect to hear from philosophers, therapists, artists and academics navigating the frontiers of what it means to be human. Tom, your host, is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
William Flesch is the author, most recently, of Comeuppance: Costly Signaling, Altruistic Punishment, and Other Biological Components of Fiction (Harvard, 2008), and The Facts on File Companion to 19th Century British Literature. He teaches the history of poetry as well as the theory of poetic and narrative form at Brandeis, and has been International Chair Professor at the National Taipei University of Technology (2012) and Old Dominion Fellow of the Humanities Council and Visiting Professor at Princeton (2014-15). *** The Mind Mate podcast provides listeners with tools and ideas to get to know themselves. Psychology-based with an existential twist, the podcast delves into topics ranging from philosophy, spirituality, creativity, psychedelia and, of course, the meaning of life! Your host Tom is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
Dr Julien Tempone-Wiltshire is a senior lecturer in counselling and psychotherapy, who also works as a psychotherapist specialising in complex trauma. Julien holds a PhD in Philosophy and Literature, a Master of Social Work, a Bachelors of Psychotherapy and a Bachelor of Philosophy and Science (1st Honours, ANU). He has previously worked as a lecturer in social work and integrative psychotherapy. He is also a published author with academic research interests concerning grief, trauma and contemplative studies, indigenous philosophy, psychological practice, philosophy of mind and cognitive science, amongst other subjects. *** The Mind Mate podcast provides listeners with tools and ideas to get to know themselves. Psychology-based with an existential twist, the podcast delves into topics ranging from philosophy, spirituality, creativity, psychedelia and, of course, the meaning of life! Your host Tom is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
Kathleen Higgins is Professor of Philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin. Her main areas of research are aesthetics, philosophy of emotion, philosophy of music, and 19th-century and 20th century continental philosophy (in particular, the works of Arthur Schopenhauer and Friedrich Nietzsche). She is author or co-author of eight books, including, most recently, Aesthetics in Grief and Mourning (University of Chicago Press, 2024). She is also editor or co-editor of numerous other books, on such topics world philosophy, Nietzsche, German Idealism, ethics, erotic love, and the philosophy of Robert C. Solomon. *** The Mind Mate podcast provides listeners with tools and ideas to get to know themselves. Psychology-based with an existential twist, the podcast delves into topics ranging from philosophy, spirituality, creativity, psychedelia and, of course, the meaning of life! Your host Tom is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
Hey guys, welcome back to The Mind Mate Podcast! I'm your host, Tom Ahern, and in today's episode, we're diving deep into the fascinating world of psychotherapy through the eyes of two legendary figures: Carl Rogers and Irvin Yalom.
Carl Rogers, the mastermind behind client-centred therapy, has revolutionised the way we think about the therapeutic process. One of his most famous quotes is, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." Today, we'll explore how Rogers' emphasis on unconditional positive regard, empathy, and authenticity creates a nurturing environment where clients can truly thrive and discover their genuine selves.
On the flip side, we have Irvin Yalom, a pioneer in existential psychotherapy, who brings a unique perspective on the human condition. Yalom's approach is deeply rooted in addressing fundamental human concerns like death, freedom, isolation, and meaning. He beautifully encapsulates his philosophy with the quote, "The therapist is the fellow traveler, not a master or superior; the aim is to guide the patient on a journey of self-discovery."
We'll discuss how his collaborative and humanistic approach helps individuals navigate their existential journeys.In this episode, I'll be breaking down the core principles of both Rogers' and Yalom's therapeutic goals, and how their insights can help us achieve greater self-understanding, acceptance, and fulfilment.
Whether you're a therapist, a psychology enthusiast, or someone keen on personal growth, this episode is packed with valuable insights and inspiration.So, sit back, relax, and join me as we uncover the transformative potential of therapy with the wisdom of Carl Rogers and Irvin Yalom.
*** The Mind Mate podcast provides listeners with tools and ideas to get to know themselves. Psychology-based with an existential twist, the podcast delves into topics ranging from philosophy, spirituality, creativity, psychedelia and, of course, the meaning of life! Your host Tom is a counsellor and psychotherapist who specialises in existential concerns and relationships. He is also a writer who enjoys exploring the ideas that emerge in therapy to help people live meaningful lives. Find out more here: https://ahern.blog/
Welcome to the latest episode of The Mind Mate Podcast! Today, we're diving deep into one of my favourite books, "The Creative Act" by the legendary Rick Rubin. Known for his transformative work in the music industry, Rubin has distilled decades of creative insights and wisdom into this compelling guide, making it an essential read for anyone looking to unlock their creative potential. In this episode, I’ll share my thoughts on the book’s most profound lessons and explore how Rubin’s philosophies can inspire and elevate our own creative journeys. From understanding the importance of vulnerability and authenticity to embracing the unexpected in our work, "The Creative Act" offers invaluable perspectives that resonate far beyond the realm of music production. Whether you're a seasoned artist or just beginning to explore your creative side, Rubin's insights provide a fresh and inspiring framework for thinking about creativity. Join me as we delve into the key takeaways from this remarkable book and discuss how we can apply these principles to our own lives. Get ready to be inspired, challenged, and motivated to take your creativity to new heights. Tune in and let’s embark on this creative adventure together!
I am pumped for this episode of the podcast! We have a truly enlightening discussion with the pioneers of Terror Management Theory (TMT), Dr. Sheldon Solomon, Dr. Jeff Greenberg, and Dr. Tom Pyszczynski. Terror Management Theory, a groundbreaking concept in psychology, explores how humans cope with the inherent awareness of their mortality. Developed in the 1980s, this theory has significantly influenced various fields, including social psychology, anthropology, and sociology. Dr. Sheldon Solomon, Dr. Jeff Greenberg, and Dr. Tom Pyszczynski, through their extensive research and groundbreaking experiments, have uncovered profound insights into how humans navigate existential fears, shape their beliefs, and construct cultural systems to manage the terror of death. Join us as we embark on a thought-provoking journey, exploring the origins of Terror Management Theory, its implications for understanding human behaviour, and its relevance in today's world. Get ready Mind-Maters to delve into the depths of the human psyche and gain a deeper understanding of what drives our thoughts, actions, and beliefs.
Here are some of my favourite quotes from their book ‘The Worm at the Core’:
And finally, here is their suggestion for living a good life:
“Come to terms with death. Really grasp that being mortal, while terrifying, can also make our lives sublime by infusing us with courage, compassion, and concern for future generations. Seek enduring significance through your own combination of meanings and values, social connections, spirituality, personal accomplishments, identifications with nature, and momentary experiences of transcendence. Promote cultural worldviews that provide such paths while encouraging tolerance of uncertainty and others who harbour different beliefs.”
John Powers currently holds a joint position at the University of Melbourne in the School of Historical and Philosophical Studies and the Contemplative Studies Centre. He is a Fellow of the Australian Academy of Humanities and author of 20 books and more than 100 articles, mainly on Buddhism and Tibetan history.
Welcome back everyone! In this podcast, we, Tom and Paul, (holistic lifestyle coach) delve into the complexities of depression, exploring its causes, symptoms, and impact on daily life. We share personal experiences and insights, emphasising the importance of recognising early signs and seeking help. We discuss the correlation between states of non-clinical depression and existential crises/midlife awakenings and opportunities as well as practical tools to manage depression, including lifestyle changes such as regular exercise, healthy eating, and mindfulness practices. We also highlight the significance of social support, self-care routines, and developing coping strategies to enhance mental well-being and resilience. We hope you enjoy the show!
