In this special episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes back Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, hosts of the Dateable Podcast, to dive into the insights from their brand-new book, How to Be Dateable.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in modern dating, this episode is a must-listen. Yue and Julie break down what it truly means to be "dateable"—and it’s not about playing games or fitting into outdated rules.
We’re unpacking:
✅ How ingrained dating culture shapes your love life (and what to do about it) ✅ The secret to dating with connection and authenticity (no more surface-level interactions!) ✅ How to identify your needs and define your dating North Star ✅ The 5 Dating Archetypes—Which one are you? ✅ Are you scared of wasting time? Here’s what might actually be draining your energy and focus!
This episode is packed with real talk, laughter, and practical takeaways to help you navigate dating with confidence and clarity.
Tune in now—because the love you want starts with the choices you make today. Enjoy!
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Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, who have become two of the top influential voices in dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the co-hosts and creators of Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They're also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview and the authors of the book How To Be Dateable.
Order Book: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/
Instagram: @dateablepodcast
Ever wondered how your style impacts the way you feel and show up in the world? In this episode, Dr. Sheva is joined by Traci Jeske, a personal stylist and TV style expert, to explore the powerful connection between what you wear and how you feel.
In this episode, we discuss:
Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with practical advice to help you feel amazing in every outfit and confidently express yourself, no matter the phase of life you’re in.
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Traci Jeske is the director of En Vogue Stylist, and a top internationally certified Personal Stylist and TV Style Expert, she helps women 40 and beyond up-level their glamour game to unapologetically create and live the best and most stylish second act ever. No stranger to wrapping up for winter, Traci was born and bred in Canada before establishing her stylish, stiletto-sharp brand in Italy, where she has lived for the last 20 years.
Blending Italian la dolce vita with her flair for fashion and style Traci takes her personal life experiences and her experience of over 30 years in the fashion industry to have women find their unique style, be bold and stand out in a crowd looking and feeling absolutely fabulous while doing so. Traci also travels frequently to style clients and share Personal Styling sessions across London, Dubai, and New York. She loves to work with each individual on a personal level. As a proud #bosslady herself, Traci knows what it takes to stay on-trend, focused, and one step ahead of the glamour game.
Instagram: @tracijeskeofficial
In this episode, Dr. Sheva interviews Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating.
Together, they explore how dating has evolved from the early 2000s to today, the unique challenges singles face in the modern dating world, and what people are truly looking for when searching for lasting love.
Tune in for:
If you’ve ever wondered how to take control of your love life, date with more confidence, or deepen your understanding of what creates a meaningful connection, this episode is packed with insights and guidance for you!
Listen now and share with your besties who are ready to date with purpose and learn from one of the most experienced and top matchmakers in the industry!
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Dubbed the ‘Cupid of Silicon Valley’, Amy Andersen has paired hundreds of clients in the tech world and beyond for over 21 years across the U.S and around the world. Linx is a private referral-based offline dating and social network which uses a combination of research, intuition and a vast network to help clients find love and happiness. Andersen’s ultra-personalized approach to matchmaking has inspired a variety of high caliber, relationship-minded professional men and women to book her services. The discreet upscale matchmaking firm does not publicly advertise its services and only accepts a select number of clients annually, as all bespoke matchmaking is done solely by Amy Andersen, the Founder & CEO.
Instagram: ms.linxdating
Linkedin: Amy Andersen & Linx Dating
Youtube: Linx Dating
TikTok: Linxdating
Ever wondered why breakups can feel so painful- or why one heartbreak can bring up feelings from past endings?
In this episode, Dr. Sheva and Dr. Lori Husband, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships and breakups, discuss navigating breakups and finding strength in healing. Dr. Lori shares the key stages of a breakup, strategies for moving forward with resilience, and how to listen to your instincts to avoid settling.
In today’s episode, tune in for:
Whether you're healing from a breakup or seeking a healthy relationship, this episode has the guidance you need!
Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction and Specialization in Relationships and Breakups
03:01 The Physical and Emotional Effects of a Breakup
06:39 Practicing Radical Acceptance in the Face of a Breakup
09:07 Navigating the Stages of Grief in a Breakup
13:06 Challenges Faced by Both Parties in a Breakup
19:24 Dealing with Guilt and Fear After a Breakup
21:08 Addressing Societal and Personal Pressures in the Aftermath of a Breakup
23:08 Listening to Your Gut Instincts
26:04 Challenges in Relationships
28:23 Finding Love at Every Age
30:12 Relationship Stress and Personal Growth
32:19 Avoiding Overconfiding
37:09 Not Settling and Going for Chemistry
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Dr. Lori Husband, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist of 15 years and has a psychotherapy private practice. She is licensed in multiple states and offers virtual services in her private practice. Dr. Lori specializes in relationships, dating, and break-ups.
IG: @drlorihusband Website: www.drlorihusband.com
Link to download free break-up guide:
Ready to discover what dating with intention truly looks like? In this episode, Dr. Sheva chats with dating expert Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to break down the essentials of intentional dating from start to finish.
Tune in to learn about:
If you’re seeking insight to elevate your dating life, this episode is for you!
Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction and Background
03:04 Being Authentic and Having Fun in Dating
06:11 Setting Boundaries and Being Direct
10:08 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships
13:08 Understanding Relationship Pacing
23:06 Dating Intentionally: Setting Clear Intentions and Having Important Conversations
26:19 Making the Dating Process Enjoyable: Incorporating Activities You Already Enjoy
29:11 The Power of Choice: Recognizing the Value of Choosing a Partner
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Talia Koren is a dating expert and host of the Dating Intentionally podcast.
IG: @dating.intentionally
In this episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Cory Ruth, MS, RDN, who is a Registered Dietitian and PCOS and Women's Health Expert. Cory breaks down Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), covering its symptoms and offering a multifaceted approach to managing it through nutrition, exercise, and lifestyle changes. She explains the impact of insulin resistance on PCOS and shares actionable strategies for improving weight loss, fertility, and overall well-being.
Cory also sheds light on the importance of hormonal health and busts common myths surrounding PCOS. If you're dealing with hormonal imbalances or looking to regain control of your health, this episode is a must-listen!
Keywords: PCOS, weight loss, hormonal imbalances, infertility, women's health
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Cory Ruth, MS, RDN, is a Registered Dietitian and PCOS and Women’s Health Expert. She is the creator of various successful programs, including the PCOS Boss Academy and Get Pregnant with PCOS.
Website: www.thewomensdietitian.com
Instagram: @thewomensdietitian
TikTok: @thewomensdietitian
YouTube: @thewomensdietitian
In this episode, Dr. Sheva is joined by Danielle Bayard Jackson, a female friendship coach and educator, to explore the intricate dynamics of female friendships—why they often feel deeply intimate, yet can also be incredibly fragile. If you’ve ever wondered why women’s friendships can run emotionally deeper than male platonic relationships, or why conflict can shake even your closest bonds, this episode is for you.
Danielle offers key insights into:
Dr. Sheva and Danielle share their unique perspectives and offer actionable advice for building friendships that are not only lasting, but also deeply fulfilling and authentic. Whether you're looking to find your people or strengthen the bonds you already have, this episode is packed with tools to help make your friendships more resilient, meaningful, and sustainable.
If you’ve ever struggled to maintain close connections or felt like your friendships aren’t as strong as they could be, don’t miss this episode. You’ll walk away with practical, real-life tips to build stronger, more supportive relationships in your life- and you deserve that!
Be sure to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates with you!
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Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. She is also the author of Fighting for Our Friendships (May 2024).
Danielle’s coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships, and her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets.
A former high school teacher, Danielle now uses her teaching skills and leverages her background to study what the latest research has to say about women’s cooperation, communication, and conflict.
TikTok: @thefriendshipexpert
Website: www.betterfemalefriendships.com
Friend Forward Podcast (new episodes weekly)
In this episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Yue & Julie from the Dateable Podcast for an insightful conversation about all things dating! Together, they explore the challenges of modern dating, how to let go of the "shoulds" and embrace authenticity, and ways to break free from societal and gender expectations. They also share strategies for creating more fulfilling dating experiences by being present and intentional. Have you ever thought about your dating "why"? This episode dives into the importance of understanding your purpose in dating and how to navigate the process without becoming too attached to the outcome. Learn how to be the main character in your own love life! Whether you're newly single and ready to approach dating with more intention, or you've been in the dating world for a while and are feeling frustrated, this episode is for you!
In this episode, Dr. Sheva sits down with Kelly Nolan, a former attorney turned time management strategist, to share her inspiring journey from the legal world to helping busy professional women reclaim control over their time. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by an endless to-do list or wondered how your day slipped away, this episode is for you! Kelly breaks down how to build a time management system that fits your life and priorities—because, honestly, who doesn’t need more time?
Together, Dr. Sheva and Kelly explore strategies to minimize distractions, boost focus, and approach life with greater ease and intentionality. Whether you're just beginning to think about time management or looking to refine your approach, Kelly offers practical tips for every stage. She also shares advice for single professionals on how to balance dating with a demanding schedule and avoid the overwhelm of frustrating dating experiences to find more enjoyment.
This episode is packed with actionable insights for anyone eager to reduce stress, cultivate balance, and design a life they love. Tune in for an empowering conversation that will give you the tools and mindset to take control of your time—starting today!
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Kelly Nolan is an attorney-turned-time management strategist and mom of two. After experiencing overwhelm as a young patent litigator in Boston, Kelly figured out a time management system to help her show up in the ways that she wanted to at work and at home – without requiring her brain to somehow magically remember it all. She now empowers other professional working women to manage their personal, family, and career roles with less stress and more calm clarity using realistic time management strategies. Her system, the Bright Method, has been featured in Bloomberg Businessweek, and her work has been published in Forbes, Fast Company, Business Insider, and Parents. Learn more at kellynolan.com.
Links:
Free 5-day program, the Reset & Refresh: https://kellynolan.com/reset-refresh
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_kellynolan_/
In this episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Dr. Bana Kashani, M.D., FACOG, a double board-certified expert in Obstetrics and Gynecology, as well as Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. Dr. Kashani dives into the essentials for optimizing fertility and shares the key factors contributing to infertility, including the impact of age on women's reproductive health. Whether you're curious about egg freezing, dealing with hormonal imbalances like PCOS or thyroid-related concerns, or simply want to learn more about how different factors affect fertility, this conversation is packed with valuable information to help you make informed decisions about your health. Together, they discuss the egg freezing process, with Dr. Kashani debunking common myths and sharing what women can realistically expect—from physical and emotional changes to recovery timelines and the ideal age range for freezing eggs. Dr. Kashani also offers lifestyle strategies to help optimize egg quality. This episode is filled with empowering and practical insights for women looking to take control of their fertility journey, now or in the future. Don't miss out on this enlightening and informative conversation!
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Banafsheh Kashani, M.D., FACOG is double board-certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology as well as Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility who has been treating infertility patients since 2014. She has been practicing in Orange County where she grew up since 2017.
After graduating cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa from the University of California, Irvine, Dr. Kashani received her medical degree from University of South Alabama, College of Medicine where she graduated in the top of her class.
She completed her residency training in Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Southern California. There she received tremendous experience in all facets of Obstetrics and Gynecology, but specifically had an interest in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. She continued her medical training and pursued a subspecialty in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at Rutgers, New Jersey Medical School.
After her fellowship, Dr. Kashani practiced at Kaiser Permanente in Orange County, followed by Eden Centers for Advanced Fertility in Newport Beach.
Since Dr. Kashani is focused on providing her patients with the most personalized approach to fertility services and treatments, she opened up her own practice in 2020. Her practice mission is to ensure patients feel comfortable and cared for, since infertility treatments can be overwhelming. Her treatments are tailored to optimizing success rates for her patients.
https://www.banakashanimd.com/
Instagram: @dr.banakashani
In this episode, Dr. Sheva shares the importance of supporting and celebrating single friends in their 30s, especially as those around them are getting married and having children. She highlights the different ways to celebrate friends that aren't focused on one's relationship status, but that allow your friends (or you!) to feel supported, loved, and cared for.
You will learn:
Dr. Sheva offers practical advice on how to celebrate and support your single friends, ensuring that every milestone is recognized and valued. Tune in to learn how to be more supportive even when you're in a different life phase or share this with a friend who needs the reminder!
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Instagram: @drsheva
Ready to Transform Your Dating Life?
Click here to download my free Dating Audit Inventory! This insightful exercise will help you assess your current dating experience and determine if it aligns with your needs and goals. Start your journey towards intentionality and love today!
Dr. Sheva welcomes Monisha Chandanani, an intuitive leadership coach, to explore her transformative approach to living in alignment with our inner knowing. Monisha discusses her mindfulness-based conscious creation system, See Love Choose, designed to help you align your inner reality with your desired external outcomes.
In this episode, you will learn:
This episode is a must-listen for women looking to deepen their self-awareness, cultivate true self-love, and harness the power of conscious creation. Join Dr. Sheva and Monisha for an inspiring conversation that will empower you to embrace your intuition and consciously create the life and relationships you desire.
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Monisha Chandanani is an Intuitive Leadership Coach and the founder of See. Love. Choose., a mindfulness-based system for conscious creation. She supports both individuals and teams through her work.
Instagram: @seelovechoose
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Ready to Transform Your Dating Life?
Click here to download my free Dating Audit Inventory! This insightful exercise will help you assess your current dating experience and determine if it aligns with your needs and goals. Start your journey towards intentionality and love today!
Instagram: @drsheva
Are you stuck in a cycle of settling in your dating life? Do you find yourself thinking there just aren't enough quality partners out there? Dr. Sheva shares the crucial differences between a scarcity mindset and a growth mindset in dating, as well as how the mindset you hold can impact your dating experiences.
In this episode, you will learn:
You don't want to miss this episode if you want a little encouragement, a clearer perspective, and a reminder of the things you can do TODAY to improve your dating life.
Click here to download my free Dating Audit Inventory! This insightful exercise will help you assess your current dating experience and determine if it's truly aligned with your needs and goals. Start your journey towards intentionality and love today!
Instagram: @drsheva
In this enlightening episode, Dr. Sheva interviews Esin Pinarli, LCSW, to delve into the intricacies of nervous system regulation and healing within relationships. Nervous system regulation is one of the most important life and relationship skills and this episode covers the what, how, and why!
Through insightful discussions and practical guidance, Dr. Sheva and Esin Pinarli offer valuable strategies to help you navigate relationships with greater self-awareness and emotional regulation. Embrace the power of self-regulation to move forward from past unhealthy patterns and create more meaningful and fulfilling connections in your present life.
In this episode you will learn:
Join Dr. Sheva and Esin Pinarli, LCSW, for this transformative episode!
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Esin Pinarli is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and a Master’s Level Certified Addiction Professional (MCAP) specializing in IMAGO therapy, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals, couples, and families suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, dysfunctional family system dynamics, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole.
Instagram: @esinpinarli_lcsw
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eternalwellnesscounseling
Tiktok: @esinpinarli
In this episode, Dr. Sheva shares 6 effective strategies to get you out of a funk and into a space of improved mood. Our feelings are fleeting, but how we choose to respond in each moment can significantly impact how we continue to feel and move forward. Discover practical actions you can take each day to support your well-being in this moment and in the long-term. We could all benefit from additional strategies and even reminders during this time!
In this fun and engaging episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Simone Grossman, VIP Matchmaker at Three Day Rule, to share her top matchmaking insights and dating strategies. Dive deep into the factors crucial for long-term compatibility and love, and discover the key considerations that Simone uses when matching individuals. Specializing in working with men, Simone reveals what men are really looking for when dating. Ever wondered how important chemistry is? Or why it's actually a great time for women to be single? Simone answers these questions and more.
This episode is packed with practical tips to help women navigate the dating scene more effectively, including the do’s and don’ts of modern dating to increase your chances of finding the right match. Whether you’re single or newly dating someone, you won’t want to miss this episode!
Ladies, tune in and get ready to elevate your dating game with expert advice from Simone Grossman!
IG Handle: @matchedbysimone
TikTok: @theinternetenta
Website: https://www.threedayrule.com/
In this episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Dr. Aggie (Agnesa Papazyan, PsyD), a clinical psychologist specializing in Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, learning disorders, and behavioral challenges, to the podcast. They discuss neurodiversity within relationships. Dr. Aggie shares what it means to be neurodiverse, reviews the assessment and diagnosis process, and highlights some of the markers of autism spectrum disorder. Dr. Aggie shares the potential challenges in neurodiverse relationships and ways of coping- many of which can be helpful to any individual/relationship! She also describes how neurodiversity shapes love and the way that intimacy is shown. Tune in to this insightful conversation about ways to better understand and connect within relationships.
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Dr. Agnesa Papazyan, affectionately known as Dr. Aggie, is a licensed clinical psychologist and leading autism expert with over two decades of experience. She specializes in comprehensive evaluations for Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), ADHD, learning disorders, and behavioral difficulties, working with children, adolescents, and families. Based in Los Angeles, she runs SoCal Psychology Center and collaborates with school districts and parents to provide tailored assessments and interventions.
Instagram: @dr.aggie
During this episode, Dr. Sheva welcomes Janet Bayramyan, LCSW to the podcast. They discuss inner child work, as well as ways to heal from unresolved past experiences and reconnect with younger parts of ourselves. Dr. Sheva and Mrs. Bayramyan discuss ways to move forward from past traumatic experiences, including infidelity within romantic relationships. Mrs. Bayramyan shares common concerns that bring couples into therapy, as well as provides an overview of various treatment approaches for trauma, including EMDR and brain spotting. This episode is filled with insights to help individuals support themselves from past relational pains and move forward in ways that are beneficial and connected to their relational wellness.
Janet Bayramyan, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in trauma resolution and healing. Certified in EMDR, Brainspotting, and Attachment Focused EMDR, Janet focuses on trauma, infidelity and betrayal, relationships, and self-development at her private practice Road to Wellness.
Instagram: @therapy_with_janetb
Website: https://road2wellness.co/
In this episode, Dr. Sheva discusses the prevalence of misrepresenting one's physical/emotional traits on dating apps and differences in lying patterns between men and women. She also discusses the potential impact of lying on first dates- including the impact of those minor, white lies! This is a must-listen for anyone in the dating world right now. Be intentional about what and how you share who you are when dating- it can impact your personal experience and the relationship!
* Of note, the research article that was stated in the episode to have been published in 2018 was actually published in 2008. Research findings shared in the episode had been summarized based on various articles.
Some articles referenced:
Toma, C. L., Hancock, J. T., & Ellison, N. B. (2008). Separating Fact From Fiction: An Examination of Deceptive Self-Presentation in Online Dating Profiles. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 34(8), 1023-1036. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167208318067
Hall, J. A., Park, N., Song, H., & Cody, M. J. (2010). Strategic misrepresentation in online dating: The effects of gender, self-monitoring, and personality traits. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 27(1), 117–135. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407509349633
Knisely, S. (2014, April 5). The Truth about Online Dating Liars. Flamingle Wisconsin Alumni Association . May 5, 2024, https://uwalumni.com/news/online-dating-research/
David M Markowitz, Jeffrey T Hancock, Deception in Mobile Dating Conversations, Journal of Communication, Volume 68, Issue 3, June 2018, Pages 547–569, https://doi.org/10.1093/joc/jqy019
Dr. Sheva welcomes Dr. Tara, Sex and Relationship Expert, onto the podcast. They discuss the importance of sex within romantic relationships and the research on the frequency of sexual interactions in happy, fulfilled long-term relationships. Dr. Tara shares her perspective and the different theories on sex on the first date...does it get in the way of long-term relationships?! She also shares what to do when there is a mismatch in sexual desire within relationships and tips for initiating sex. Dr. Tara talks about ways to build sexual confidence in and feel sexually empowered. This episode is filled with insights, laughter, and authentic conversation about all things sexual fulfillment and compatibility. You'll feel like you're listening to two friends as they discuss this important topic!
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Dr. Tara is a Los Angeles-based sex and relationship coach, tenured professor of sexual and relational communication at California State University Fullerton, award-winning sex researcher, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, and TEDx speaker. As the #1 sex educator on TikTok and TV host of Celebs Go Dating, it's safe to say Dr. Tara is the internet's resident sexpert. Her sexpertise has been featured countless times in Women's Health, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Men's Journal, Well+Good, Elite Daily, and many more!3. Website: www.luvbites.co
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrbW6PCKjgcxkq3dTvjjeyQ
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/luvbites-by-dr-tara/id1587042783
