I love numbers, I respect them. But sometimes I think we get lost in the abstract. We forget that behind these statistics are real people, with real stories. If you’ve ever wanted to see beyond the stats and look at people differently, this one’s for you.
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Pictures help us hold on to moments we can’t relive. But, what happens when the pressure to get the perfect photograph overshadows the memory itself? In this episode, I explore our obsession with picture-perfect moments and what it might be costing us.
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Why are some people so earger to erase the footprints of their small beginnings? On this episode, I talk about why we’re often quick to erase the steps that led to our success. If you've ever felt ashamed of your early progress, this conversation is for you.
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We’ve all found ourselves on either side of the conversation, one person comfortable, the other uneasy. One willing to fix things, the other avoiding the talk. What’s the cost of staying silent? If you’ve ever held back instead of speaking up, you might just hear yourself in this one.
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How do you really be yourself without overthinking or overdoing it? I share a personal reset, the tension between authenticity and people-pleasing, and what happens when “realness” goes too far. If you’ve ever felt unsure about showing your true self, this episode is for you.
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We live in a time where everyone’s life is open for comment, celebrities, strangers, even friends. Sometimes it’s harmless, other times it’s heavier than we realize. This episode looks at the fine line between sharing thoughts and crossing it, and why that line is easier to blur than we think.
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Some people just get you no explanations, no long backstories, no defending why you like what you like. This isn’t about cutting people off or creating a “perfect circle,” but about the rare comfort of being understood. In this episode, I talk about finding those people, why they matter, and why the search is both harder and closer than you think.
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Starting is hard. Starting again can feel impossible. In this episode, I talk about fear, over-preparedness, and why lowering your expectations might actually help you keep going. It’s part personal diary, part reminder that the process matters as much as the outcome and that sometimes the smallest, quietest tries are the ones that carry you forward.
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After publishing 21 episodes, I feel like it’s time for a short break to reset and prevent burnout. Thanks so much for tuning in every Friday to listen to me think out loud.
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Spiral 21: I wasn't insecure until they named it.
We all know what self-awareness can give us, but today I want to talk about what it can take away. The grief that shows up when you start noticing things you never had to worry about. The moving target of beauty standards. The way someone else’s comment can make a part of you feel strange, even if it never felt that way before.
What do you do with the parts of yourself that only started feeling unfamiliar after someone else noticed them?
This episode was inspired in part by a post shared by Ogechi Muogbo on Facebook.
Read her original post here: https://www.facebook.com/100011411473790/posts/pfbid021SnnRbU8RrkLjiiD5RW9NK9T6heXe7zHa4ytnNBRhMvrQDdX2iJK51mdo61AFLtul/?app=fbl
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Spiral 20: The Devil You Know: Why do We Stay in Situations That No Longer Serve Us?
We have all made excuses for people's recklessness just because there is a part of them that we admire, and that part of them, the one we love them for usually has little or nothing to do with what they are being held accountable for in the moment.
Why do we do this? Why do we keep showing up for people who’ve already shown us who they are?
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Spiral 19: Maturing early, but at what cost?
You know, we love when children start acting mature early. We clap for them. We say, "Wow, you’re so responsible. You’re so reasonable. You’re so mature." And who doesn’t like that? Who doesn’t love a child that acts older than their age?Because it makes your job easier. And who doesn't want easy? It’s almost like half of your job is already done. Now, you don't have to teach them every step of the way.
But deep down, a part of that child is being rushed. A part of them that they don't get back.
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Spiral 18: What if you became the friend you wanted?
We want people to show up for us the same way we show up for others. But who gets to show up first is usually an internal debate. In this episode, I discuss the upside of showing up first for "our people".
Here's a little question: How much help do the nice, selfless ones actually need?
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Spiral 17: Maybe Consistency Isn't Overrated
Sometimes consistency feels overrated. It feels like showing up daily doesn’t mean anything if you don’t see results.But what if the real power of consistency isn’t about instant results but about staying in the game long enough to grow?Could it be that consistency is less about daily progress and more about keeping yourself in motion, so you don’t fall behind?
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Spiral 16: What if fame had an off button?
Can we talk about what people think fame is? Because that’s not the same as what it really is. In this episode, I’m starting a new series "If Wishes Were Horses, Beggars Would Fly" and we’re beginning with the dream of fame. From the highs of recognition to the pressure of staying in character, I’m wondering… what’s the real cost of being known? And if there was an off-switch for famewould anybody use it?
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Spiral 15: Access Granted
What if every thought, compliment, or criticism needed permission before it could shape how we see ourselves? In this episode, I’m thinking out loud about the mental checkpoints we don’t even realize we have—and how trust, self-image, and past experiences decide what gets through. Who have we given access to… and why? And more importantly, what would happen if we got better at choosing?
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We all say we want open conversations, but do we really allow people to change their minds? From influencers to politicians to everyday social media debates, there’s an unspoken rule: once you’ve taken a stance, you’d better stick with it—because admitting you were wrong? That’s risky.Why do we cling to old opinions, even when we know better? Is it integrity, or just fear? And where do we draw the line between accountability and growth?Maybe the real trap isn’t being wrong—it’s never letting ourselves admit when we are.
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