You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless. Isn't it about time you did s...
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You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless. Isn't it about time you did s...
You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless. Isn't it about time you did s...
Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud. We talk about: What this season has looked and felt like from his perspectiveThe changes he’s noticed in me and in our relationshipHow we keep the conversation open so he knows how to best support meWhy...
As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself. In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything that’s shaped me, and to consciously step into what’s next; a decade I want to feel rooted, easef...
Steve and I talk about the season we’re in as his girls turn 16 and almost 19, a chapter we used to ache for when they were little and life was full-on. They're more independent, seeking their own adventures and opportunities, and the this time of life we never thought could come fast enough, is here. Back then, we dreamed about what freedom would look like. We talked about moving to Europe the minute they turned 18, chasing adventure, and living this big, wide-open life. But now that w...
How do you let go of the old way when it’s the very thing that built you? How do you trust a new rhythm when the old one got you here? Today, I share ... The 'doing' voice that tells me stay on it, stay in it, don’t you dare let goThe fears that if I slow down I’ll disappear, become invisible, waste my potentialThe soul voice that whispers, there’s another wayWhat it feels like to be wedged between don’t-let-go and surrender-darlingThis is the work of the soul. To risk being smaller in the ey...
After eight years together it’s easy for Steve and me to fall into the rhythm of everyday questions like what’s for dinner? how was your day? and forget to ask the kind of questions that keep curiosity and intimacy alive. Recently, we’ve been using Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? cards as a way to speak more deeply about topics and explore conversations we wouldn’t usually tap into. In this episode, we pulled a card that asked: What is one thing you wish you had been told as a child? We...
I sit with Ashley Hayball-Heald, a previous client of mine, who is a widowed, brave woman, who let love in again after her husband died. She tells the story of how she navigated grief, kids, other people’s opinions, signs from her husband who died, and what it looks like to say yes again to love. Ashley is the founder of Team Hayball and Find Your HOPE. She coaches widows to find their hope again amidst tough times. She’s remarried now, but that didn’t come easily. She’s been through th...
Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling. We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'everything is fine' card. I kept going into the, 'ah, no it's not'. We talk about: The quiet buildup ...
I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud. It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more. That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extraordinary she truly is. This is a letter of humility and of finally...
After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted. People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife. Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement. This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for it to deserve our care and respect. I speak about the pain of wat...
Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other. It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one. We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall sometimes. We thought we'd have some fun with this episode.&nb...
I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter. The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing. This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance. I speak to what it’s like to walk away from the versi...
Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules. Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it. We talk about: How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mixWhy it’s so bloody hard even when your intentions are goodThe messiness of getting it wrong, being misunderstoo...
In this episode, I take you back to a question that unraveled a lot for me: What is enough? Especially when it comes to money. A few years ago, I was chasing the magic million. I thought hitting that number would mean I’d made it as a coach. As if that was the only metric that mattered. Then I stopped and I asked what’s actually enough for me? That question cracked something wide open. I started looking at my money differently. I got right up close to it, every single detail. I sat down with ...
In this episode, Steve and I talk about something we’ve both played into in our relationship - repelling energy. That vibe you give off when you're fixated on what’s wrong with the other person, when you're simmering in judgment, frustration, or unmet and unvoiced expectations. And how that energy pushes away the very thing you actually want to feel with them: connection, closeness, understanding, safety. This one’s for you if you're single and you're not calling in what you want, and if you'...
This episode is not wrapped in a bow. It’s not a how-to. It’s not love and light. It’s not advice. It’s a letter I wrote to myself from the middle of the hormonal hurricane that is perimenopause. From the rage that comes out of nowhere. The anxiety that doesn’t make sense. The noise in my head that feels relentless. The days where I don’t feel like myself and wonder if I ever will again. I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the only one. And maybe, if you’re in your own storm, this will he...
Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion. It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me to be exactly where I was. We speak openly about what that looked like for both of us and ho...
There’s a version of me I’m laying to rest - the one who chased significance, importance, and recognition because deep down, she didn’t feel like she was enough without it. She worked hard to prove she mattered. She strived for impact, for relevance, for acknowledgment. And sure, she did some incredible things… but it often came from a place of needing to feel like someone, instead of already knowing that she is. In this episode, I speak honestly about what it’s been like to let go of that ve...
In this episode, we share a really personal part of our recent family trip — visiting Auschwitz, and what that experience meant for Steve and his healing journey. This wasn’t just a tourist stop for us. It was something Steve felt deeply called to do — to stand there, to feel it, to face a piece of his history, bloodline, and to keep doing the work of processing and healing. I talk about what it looked like to support him through that. Not fix. Not rescue. But stand by him, hold space, and le...
It’s easy to look at someone’s life online and think, “Damn, they’ve got it all sorted.” The polished posts, the reels, the programs, the podcast—it can look like there’s a whole team behind it all. In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like behind the scenes of my business. I’ve got one team member—my assistant—and the rest? I do myself. I record this podcast from home. I edit it. I upload it. I use AI tools to help with captions. I answer my own DMs. I’m in it, just like so ma...
You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless. Isn't it about time you did s...
