Dating tips and advice from your gal. Are you putting your ‘best self’ forward or are you actually showing who you truly are, yes, the goofy parts too. Does your profile reflect different parts of your personality?
I hope this gives you a calmer and more excited approach to dating and yourself. Being honest with what we want from our future partner, from dating, and from ourselves will lead to finding what is actually beneficial and meant for us. Life is for going out there and experiencing new things, making opportunities and finding things and people we love. So are you doing what you can to contribute to a healthy love life?
Link to the I Am app I mentioned: https://theiam.app
ENJOY! INMIY xoxo
😎EP35: The Gap. No, not the store or the thigh gap. The gap between where we are and where we want to be - that uncomfortable gap. That gap that can make us give up easily, self-sabotage and make us create an even bigger gap because we’re not utilising what we have RIGHT NOW. 3,2,1 step into who you want to be, not kidding, do it right NOW🍯😎
ENJOY! INMIY. X
YES you ARE! How to make yourself a priority and how finding my goal and working towards it has really pushed me to put myself FIRST!
Honestly, since finding this purpose and goal, I've had to put myself first if I want to do well at it, if I truly want to achieve what I know I can achieve with this, I have to put myself first. It's like I've automatically created boundaries, stepped into a more confident self and care less what others think. Don't get me wrong, the still caring is there, but it's less because what I think of myself comes first.
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YOU'RE THE BEST!
INMIY. X
You should be the best sex you've ever had, you should absolutely 110% know how to please yourself physically and mentally. When you do, you know how good it can be, so why settle for anything less than? Why settle for people who don't cheer you on, know your coffee order or ask how you like it in bed? I bet you can't answer me that.
I'm not saying you shouldn't lean on others for things, or that you should be hyper-independent and live alone the rest of your life, but I am saying that you shouldn't settle for anything less than your best, don't depend on or settle for less than when you can give yourself the best.
Happy listening, INMIY. X
YESS we can absolutely get caught up in that web of feeling we're not "hot" because we don't look like Chris Hemsworth BUTTTT I'm here to tell you that being HOT is more than aesthetics. Being HOT is about how you feel, how you make others feel and if you're actually staying true to yourself by smashing those goals, living your life and putting boundaries in. It's time to get hotter!
SEND THIS TO ALL YOUR HOT PALS X
BIG BRAIN HUGS,
INMIY. X
Argh my loves, this is such a special episode because it's your voices that are on here. You're sharing with the world, what you would say to your younger self and it's such a privilege to be a part of this. We all have things we wish we'd known when we were younger, and things we would now like to say to our younger selves. Isn't hindsight a beautiful thing. But guess what? You have the amazing opportunity to say these things to yourself now, you can take whichever path feels right for you, right now. I hope you love yourself a little harder after listening to today's episode.
BIG LOVE AND BRAIN HUGS,
INMIY. X
EPISODE 30, I CANNOT BELIEVE IT! EEEEEK! It's so exciting and I love having you all on this It's Not Me It's You journey so thank you for all the support, listens and love!
This episode is all about wanting everything right now and not realising our potential and opportunities in this moment, right now. The outcome is just a label, it doesn't yet exist, but what does exist is your life right now. I hear you, when you desire and want something so much, it's hard to let those thoughts go, but being consumed by them isn't conducive to living and enjoying yourself where you are now. It's the process that makes the magic, not the outcome.
SO MUCH LOVE,
INMIY. X
3 things to do when you're in a pickle. It's so easy to get consumed by our situations, experiences, what's going on around us and inside of us that we forget how to manage things and actually forget that things are doable, if we just do these 3 things. I can't wait for you to listen to this and pop these 3 things in your toolbox. Let me know how you go, rate the podcast, and slide into my DM's over on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyou.pod
BIG BRAIN HUGS,
INMIY. x
Honestly, it's all about finding yourself really effin' cool, so cool you just love yourself so much that you do all the things that help you grow and benefit you. Of course there'll be things we do that aren't the best for us but we learn from them and grow. We often feel "stuck" in situations because we fear making the move that could better us but that means we're not stuck, we're just keeping ourselves in a known situation. Anything come to mind? Grab your earphones and get stuck in. Enjoy.
INMIY. x
Ep27: Settling for Less but still expecting More. Feel seen? Listen to this weeks’ episode and send me a DM, leave a comment, share the episode🤎 The only thing we can expect to change for the better is ourselves. Raise the bar, know your worth, put yourself in situations that help you thrive🤎 INMIY. X
Trust me, we've all been there and hopefully you'll cut your membership to the seeking approval club after listening to this.
Eergh, we all do it but honestly, sometimes it takes a choice or decision we make, that feels bold but in actuality it's just something we've done for ourselves with no one else's "permission" in the form of validation. We've done it because we feel cute, we've done it because we feel this is the best thing for us, or we've done it because we know we deserve to try something new. That's why it feels bold, not only have you broken out of your norm, but you've broken out of the habit of seeking permission to do so. It's time to use that energy to ask yourself what you want, rather than asking others.
ENJOY.
INMIY. xxx
Are you leading with love or with fear, and what's the difference? I promise you'll notice a big, huge, difference if you lead with love. It's time to be honest with ourselves and notice where in our lives we lead with love and where in our lives we let fear take the drivers' seat. I'm with you on this journey and I hope this gives you a huge hug.
Enjoy, INMIY. x
Labels, we all have them and we all seek them and we're all given them. But do you know what yours are? Do you know how those labels dictate your behaviour and what you do or don't do in your life? It's time to take the labels off and learn who you really are. Let's go!
Enjoy,
INMIY. xoxo
Overthinking: we all do it. How do we stop it? Well, we learn why we're overthinking - what about that situation didn't sit right with us, and we learn how to manage it. Is it really as bad as you're telling yourself? I go into how people pleasing and overthinking go hand in hand and how overthinking just makes us feel worse about what actually happened.
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Listen to this episode if you need truth served with a big hug. Listen to it again and again, it's here whenever you need it.
I love this trend, and trust me, you'll love listening to it. This title is pretty self-explanatory so I'll let it do the talking. Pop it in your ears and ENJOY.
Remember, when the truth calls, answer honestly.
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Living in the now and learning to detach from the things we want in life in order to live a richer here and now life.
I absolutely have not nailed the art of detachment, but what I am focusing on is the beautiful life I have created for myself. The things that are meant to blossom in my life will come when the time is right, but right now the time is always right to focus on me. Main character energy, stepping into our higher-selves and discovering who we are again and again. That's pretty much detachment, maybe we are doing alright after all ;)
ENJOY! xoxo
INMIY. x
A question I'm trying to rewrite at the moment is "what is the meaning of life?" and asking myself instead "what gives my life meaning?" and doing more of that.
I talk about my own discomfort of settling in to being myself on the podcast and how not texting that person you're trying not to text is believing that you're worthy of the love and life you're heart desires.
Book I’m currently reading and mention: “The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness” Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga.
I know there isn't such a thing as a "quick fix" but our non-negotiables can be a sure way to boost our mood. What are your top three things that you have to do in order to feel good? I talk about what others have on their list and why looking at our non-negotiables can be a quick and easy way to find a little spark of joy.
Enjoy!
INMIY.x
Square hole, triangle peg - or however the saying goes. Sometimes we try to make things fit, because it ticks *some* of our boxes, because we’re scared we won’t find better, because there’s nothing tangible and our gut feelings aren’t enough evidence for us to walk away from something. Get to know yourself then you’ll be confident enough to walk towards what’s better for you 🤎
Happy listening, INMIY. X 🤎
Validation. Yeh, I know you felt it.
We crave it, we need it, we go after it, and we change ourselves for it. Why? To fit in. Why? So we know we are liked. Why? Because it makes us feel we're a good person. Does it? Do we really need other people, especially people who don't know us, to tell us that we're a good human?
It's a basic human instinct to want to fit in, it means less enemies, more acceptance into the group dynamic which provides more protection, chances of reproduction and higher survival rates. But that was for when bees were the only thing that had the name "Bumble". Now we can explore our identity and different social groups through a wide variety of; sports, arts, crafts, and so forth... and we're not cavemen anymore. I get it, it feels uncomfortable when someone doesn't "like" us, but you know what's even more uncomfortable? Being someone you're not to try and impress someone you don't know, for the pure sake of getting 100/100 people to like you...let that sink in. I'd rather have soulmates than empty likes. Soulmates keep you warm, support you and encourage you to be YOU.
Are you encouraging yourself to be more you? Or are you running around trying to get those empty likes?
INMIY. X
