Validation. Yeh, I know you felt it.

We crave it, we need it, we go after it, and we change ourselves for it. Why? To fit in. Why? So we know we are liked. Why? Because it makes us feel we're a good person. Does it? Do we really need other people, especially people who don't know us, to tell us that we're a good human?

It's a basic human instinct to want to fit in, it means less enemies, more acceptance into the group dynamic which provides more protection, chances of reproduction and higher survival rates. But that was for when bees were the only thing that had the name "Bumble". Now we can explore our identity and different social groups through a wide variety of; sports, arts, crafts, and so forth... and we're not cavemen anymore. I get it, it feels uncomfortable when someone doesn't "like" us, but you know what's even more uncomfortable? Being someone you're not to try and impress someone you don't know, for the pure sake of getting 100/100 people to like you...let that sink in. I'd rather have soulmates than empty likes. Soulmates keep you warm, support you and encourage you to be YOU.

Are you encouraging yourself to be more you? Or are you running around trying to get those empty likes?

INMIY. X