In this episode we talk about what it feels like to be lonely and how to find real connection again. We share personal experiences and simple ways to build closeness with yourself, with others, and with God. This honest and comforting conversation reminds you that you are never truly alone.
Healing from Betrayal: Understanding and Managing ResentmentIn this episode of 'Healing With Worth,' hosts Naomi and Marquelle dive deep into the complex emotion of resentment that often accompanies betrayal trauma. They discuss how resentment is intertwined with grief, pain, and a sense of powerlessness. The hosts emphasize the importance of acknowledging and validating these feelings, as well as setting boundaries to protect one’s emotional well-being. They provide insights on processing grief, moving through emotions, and the necessity of self-care and support. Tune in to learn strategies for managing resentment and fostering a healing journey.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:50 Understanding Resentment in Betrayal Trauma02:46 The Deep Impact of Betrayal Trauma06:47 Navigating Grief and Setting Boundaries10:24 The Role of Self-Compassion and Support20:23 Creating a Plan for Healing23:31 Conclusion and Resources
Navigating Betrayal Trauma: Essentials of Boundaries and IntimacyIn this episode of Healing With Worth, host Marquelle, along with guest Maurice Harker, founder of the Worth Program, delve into the intricate aspects of boundaries and intimacy in the recovery from betrayal trauma. They explore the concept of the intimacy pyramid, emphasizing the importance of creating safety and setting boundaries to facilitate personal and relational healing. The discussion offers valuable insights on how to address emotional and psychological layers of intimacy, the importance of calculated risks, and the need for patience and practice in rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships affected by betrayal trauma.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:45 Meet the Hosts and Guest01:00 Understanding Boundaries in Recovery01:35 The Greenhouse Concept03:18 Challenges in Women's Psychology05:01 The Intimacy Pyramid10:05 Navigating Marital Struggles12:57 Practical Tips for Building Intimacy18:45 The Importance of Verbal Intimacy26:13 Defining Boundaries and Preparation29:01 Nurturing Ideas and Dreams29:45 Preparing for Physical Intimacy31:40 Creating Safety and Trust33:54 Addressing Emotional Intimacy35:18 Practicing Incremental Repairs38:48 Balancing Boundaries and Risks45:31 Taking Calculated Risks46:19 The Intimacy Triangle51:31 Concluding Thoughts and Resources
Emotional Differentiation and Healthy Boundaries in RelationshipsIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss emotional differentiation in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal trauma. They share personal experiences and strategies for managing one’s own emotions without taking on a partner’s negative emotions. The hosts emphasize the importance of grounding, healthy coping mechanisms, and setting boundaries to ensure emotional safety and stability. They also touch on the challenges of dealing with partners who engage in numbing behaviors like excessive video gaming and highlight the significance of support groups in navigating these complex dynamics.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:51 Understanding Emotional Differentiation02:21 Managing Partner's Negative Emotions06:05 Setting Boundaries for Emotional Health08:35 Dealing with Gaslighting and Emotional Manipulation13:38 Coping Mechanisms and Numbing Out19:24 Creating Safety and Emotional Freedom30:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Rediscovering Yourself After Betrayal: Part 2In this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle continue their discussion on rediscovering yourself after betrayal trauma. They emphasize the importance of trust in oneself and in Christ, noting that the healing process takes time and effort. The hosts share their personal stories, tools, and strategies to navigate and recover from trauma. They highlight the value of having a pre-planned strategy, self-forgiveness, and the role of grace in the healing journey. The episode encourages listeners to focus on personal growth, understanding their values, and building new, authentic connections.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:45 Rediscovering Yourself After Betrayal - Part 201:01 Trusting Yourself and the Healing Process02:19 Tools and Resources for Recovery03:01 Navigating Triggers and Trauma Responses08:57 Grace and Self-Forgiveness13:41 The Journey of Self-Discovery19:01 Moving Forward and Setting Boundaries22:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Rediscovering Yourself After Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of 'Healing With Worth', hosts Naomi and Marquelle delve into the journey of self-discovery following betrayal trauma. They discuss the emotional impact of Discovery Day (D-Day) and the stages of healing, including dealing with initial shock, overcoming collapse freeze, and gradually reconnecting with activities that bring joy. They touch on the importance of creating new traditions, the role of passion projects in recovery, and the value of finding supportive, safe communities. As they share their personal experiences and practical strategies, listeners are encouraged to be patient and compassionate with themselves throughout the recovery process.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:51 Discovering Yourself After Betrayal01:57 Coping with Trauma Responses05:04 Reclaiming Joy and Creating New Traditions14:10 Intentional Self-Care and Small Steps21:01 Exploring New Passions and Dreams25:04 Building Authentic Connections29:12 Trusting Yourself Again30:20 Conclusion and Next Steps
The Crucial Role of Self-Care in Healing from Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss the importance of self-care for women dealing with betrayal trauma. They address the common struggle women face in feeling guilty about taking time for themselves, emphasizing that self-care is not selfish but essential for overall well-being. They share personal experiences and practical tips for integrating self-care into daily routines. The episode also highlights how self-care benefits not just the individual but their families as well, and they provide insights into setting boundaries and asking for help. Listeners are encouraged to recognize their worth and prioritize their mental and emotional health.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:52 The Struggle with Self-Care03:09 Implementing Self-Care Strategies13:02 Teaching Self-Care to Children17:44 The Importance of Asking for Help24:49 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Navigating Post-Divorce Family Dynamics with Laura AllingerIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle continue their conversation with guest Laura Ollinger, exploring the complexities of family relationships post-divorce. Laura shares practical advice on dealing with ex-partners who exhibit narcissistic tendencies or engage in manipulative behavior, particularly when it impacts the children. The discussion includes strategies for emotional self-care, maintaining boundaries, and rebuilding self-worth while navigating the transition from being a stay-at-home mom to restarting a career. Laura emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with a supportive network and the empowering journey of personal growth despite challenging circumstances. She also touches on overcoming the shame and loneliness that can come with attending children's events alone post-divorce. For more information or to contact Laura, visit her website at positivelyhealthycoaching.com.00:00 Introduction and Recap00:30 Dealing with a Narcissistic Co-Parent02:27 Effective Communication Strategies04:45 Handling Negative Influence on Kids10:38 Navigating Family Dynamics Post-Divorce16:51 Empowering Women Post-Separation18:07 Turning Lemons into Lemonade: Embracing New Potential18:51 Overcoming Challenges: Juggling School, Kids, and Divorce21:47 The Power of Supportive People23:06 Rediscovering Self-Worth and Potential23:57 Embracing the Element of Surprise in Life25:57 Facing Public Situations Post-Betrayal28:36 Navigating Shame and Self-Judgment33:55 Creating a Plan to Overcome Public Anxiety35:15 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
Navigating Family Transitions with Laura Allinger - Part 1In this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle welcome Laura Ollinger, a teen and parent wellbeing coach, to discuss the challenges of navigating separation and divorce when children are involved. Laura shares her insights from both professional and personal perspectives, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, maintaining consistency for children, and using empathy and boundaries to support them emotionally. The episode also covers coping with disrespectful behavior from teenagers and the significance of setting boundaries and understanding children's unique needs during these transitions. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:47 Meet Our Guest: Laura Olinger00:58 Navigating Separation and Divorce with Children02:35 Handling Children's Emotions During Separation05:13 Dealing with Teenagers' Reactions10:07 Setting Boundaries and Managing Disrespect15:23 Personal Stories and Strategies25:21 Conclusion and Next Steps
The Journey of Forgiveness: Navigating Betrayal and Healing with Christ's AtonementIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Marquelle and Naomi delve into the complex and often challenging subject of forgiveness, particularly in the context of betrayal trauma. They discuss insights from the book 'The Promise of the Atonement Cure for Broken Dreams' by Esther Rasband, and share personal experiences and reflections on the process of healing through Christ's atonement. This episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the depth of one's pain, the role of accountability and restitution, and the patience required in the journey toward true forgiveness. The hosts also highlight the necessity of developing a trusting relationship with the Savior to facilitate healing and ultimate peace.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:39 The Process of Forgiveness03:52 Challenges in Forgiveness07:44 The Role of Christ in Healing08:03 Personal Stories of Forgiveness10:59 Barriers to Forgiveness18:02 The Power of the Atonement24:18 Finding Hope and Moving Forward
Finding Hope and Healing in the Face of Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle address the topic of hopelessness, especially during tough times. They emphasize the importance of self-care, positive affirmations, and setting boundaries to regain confidence and self-esteem. They discuss practical steps like going outside, connecting with nature, and seeking spiritual renewal through religious practices. The hosts also highlight the significance of human connections and provide tips for creating and maintaining meaningful relationships. They reiterate that even small, consistent actions can lead to significant improvements in one's emotional and mental well-being.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:55 Understanding Hopelessness and Self-Empowerment02:57 The Importance of Self-Care03:58 Finding Joy in Small Things08:17 Building Connections and Support Systems16:13 Spiritual Healing and Renewal22:47 Final Thoughts and Encouragement28:28 Closing Remarks and Resources
Navigating Divorce and Recovery: Insights and Support for WomenIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss the difficult topic of divorce. They are joined by guest Heidi Davies, who shares her personal experience with divorce after a 17-year marriage marked by her ex-husband’s worsening pornography addiction and emotional abuse. The conversation also covers the emotional and financial challenges of being a single mom, finding support through community resources, and the importance of personal growth. Additionally, Heidi introduces her course 'Navigating New Beginnings,' aimed at women who are dating or remarrying after divorce. The episode provides valuable insights and hope for women considering or coping with the aftermath of divorce.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:45 Welcoming Our Guest: Heidi Davies01:02 Discussing Divorce: The Difficult Choice01:39 Personal Stories of Struggle and Faith05:21 Financial Challenges and Divine Support18:22 Navigating Life Post-Divorce29:03 Heidi's Course: Navigating New Beginnings30:35 Conclusion and Resources
Heidi's Navigating New Beginnings Course. Starts Monday 5/12
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Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal Trauma: Key Steps and BoundariesThis episode of the 'Healing With Worth' podcast, hosted by Naomi and Marquelle, explores the complex process of rebuilding trust in a relationship after betrayal trauma. They emphasize the importance of first restoring self-trust, then gradually rebuilding relationship trust through consistent, accountable, and emotionally mature behaviors. The hosts also discuss the role of boundaries in maintaining safety and fostering recovery, and the importance of seeking professional support and community through support groups. The episode provides practical advice and hopes for those navigating the challenging journey of betrayal trauma recovery.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:46 Rebuilding Trust in Relationships02:36 Consistency and Accountability05:05 Recognizing Red Flags11:34 The Importance of Recovery Work26:59 Setting Boundaries for Safety30:29 The Role of Support Groups41:12 Conclusion and Next Steps
Overcoming Roadblocks in Betrayal Trauma RecoveryIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss some common obstacles faced during the healing and recovery process from betrayal trauma. They emphasize the importance of self-work, the challenges women face in early recovery, and the value of support groups. They also touch on the detrimental effects of rushing forgiveness and the significant role of medication in managing overwhelming emotions. Highlighting the phases of healing and the importance of self-esteem rebuilding, the hosts offer insights and practical strategies to navigate the journey effectively. Join Naomi and Marquelle as they provide support, validation, and tools for overcoming the roadblocks to recovery.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:51 Understanding the Obstacles in Healing02:51 The Importance of Self-Work and Support06:12 Rebuilding Self-Worth and Spiritual Strength14:50 Navigating Grief and Isolation16:02 The Role of Support Groups24:33 Managing Mental Health and Medication34:09 The Process of Forgiveness39:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Building Self-Trust After Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Markel discuss the important topic of trust in the context of betrayal trauma recovery. They emphasize the need to rebuild self-trust first before working on trusting a partner again. The hosts share personal experiences and practical tips on recognizing and honoring one's emotions, as well as the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Listeners are encouraged to tune into their bodies and emotions, create a safe space for themselves, and take actionable steps towards healing. The episode concludes with a teaser for the next episode, which will focus on re-establishing trust with a spouse.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:45 Meet Your Hosts: Naomi and Markel01:16 The Importance of Trust in Relationships01:49 Challenges of Rebuilding Trust04:49 Trusting Yourself Again06:24 Listening to Your Body08:26 Practical Steps to Self-Trust09:17 Personal Experiences and Lessons Learned12:49 Establishing Self-Trust14:24 Conclusion and Next Steps15:49 Closing Remarks and Resources
The Betrayal Trauma Summit: Empowering You to HealMarquelle announces the launch of the Betrayal Trauma Summit on March 24th, highlighting an impressive lineup of speakers and topics aimed at addressing the needs of individuals facing betrayal trauma. Key sessions include discussions on establishing a foundation, creating identity statements, aligning with spiritual values, understanding and navigating trauma, maintaining relationships, financial stability, and developing resilience. The summit, spanning five days, features live presentations, Q&A sessions, and breakout rooms, with all sessions available for later access through the Thinkiffic Portal. Attendees are encouraged to take advantage of the resources and support offered by Life Changing Services and its various programs.00:00 Introduction to the Betrayal Trauma Summit00:38 Day 1: Establishing a Foundation02:35 Day 2: Healing Relationships and Navigating Adversity04:12 Day 3: Celestial Orientation and Financial Stability05:42 Day 4: Living in Light and Truth08:02 Day 5: Execution Under Pressure11:38 Conclusion and How to Join the Summit
Navigating Divorce and Forgiveness in Betrayal Trauma RecoveryIn this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss the complex topics of divorce and forgiveness in the context of betrayal trauma. They offer insights into the emotional hurdles faced by women contemplating or undergoing divorce, emphasizing the process of grief, forgiveness, and boundary-setting. Highlighting a five-step model for one-way forgiveness, the hosts guide listeners through recognizing the offense, grieving, disclosing the pain, setting boundaries, and making restitution. They stress the importance of self-care, support groups, and personal growth in healing and recovery, whether aiming to salvage the relationship or move forward post-divorce.
00:00 Introduction to Healing with Worth
00:45 Hosts Naomi and Marquelle Discuss Divorce
01:40 The Emotional Journey of Divorce
11:08 Steps to One-Way Forgiveness
22:03 Restitution and Moving Forward
26:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Creating Safety and Boundaries in Relationships Amid Mental Health Challenges
In this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle discuss the challenges of dealing with spouses who have mental health issues and addictions. They emphasize the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining safety in relationships, regardless of a spouse's diagnosis. The hosts provide insights into why relying solely on a diagnosis for comfort might not be effective and stress the significance of self-care and personal healing. The episode also includes practical advice on role adjustments and boundary-setting to ensure respect and safety in the relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Healing with Word
00:06 Understanding Mental Health and Addiction
03:27 The Importance of Boundaries
04:34 Accommodations and Limitations
08:32 Focusing on Self-Healing
14:22 Creating Safety Through Boundaries
24:21 Starting Your Recovery Journey
A Bittersweet Farewell and Moving Forward with Courage
In this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Janeen and Naomi announce Janeen's departure from the podcast as she reaches a new stage in her recovery. They introduce the new co-host, Marquelle, and discuss key takeaways from their journey, including the importance of self-compassion, courage, and community support in healing from betrayal trauma. Janeen shares her thoughts on the process of recovery, the need for continuous growth, and the significance of anchoring oneself to divine identity and intuition. The episode emphasizes showing up for oneself and highlights the unique paths and rebirths in each person's healing journey.
00:00 Introduction to Healing with Worth
00:40 A Bittersweet Farewell to Janine
05:10 Janine's Final Thoughts and Takeaways
11:05 The Importance of Courage and Community
17:12 Rebirth and Moving Forward
25:26 Final Words and Gratitude
26:18 Closing and Next Steps
Understanding Functional Freeze in Betrayal Trauma
In this episode of 'Healing with Worth,' hosts Janine and Naomi are joined by special guest Natasha to explore the concept of 'functional freeze' as it relates to betrayal trauma. They discuss how the term resonates with personal experiences, share insights from various articles, and delve into the physical, cognitive, and emotional effects of this trauma response. Natasha offers practical tools and techniques like eye patching and connecting with nature to help regulate the nervous system. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing and honoring the body's responses to trauma for a healthier healing journey.
4-Step-Self-Care-Protocol-–-Client-Homework.pdf
Articles referenced in the podcast:
https://rootrisetherapyla.com/blog/2024/functional-freeze
00:00 Introduction to Healing with Worth
00:47 Introducing the Topic: Functional Freeze
03:22 Understanding Functional Freeze
04:18 Personal Experiences and Examples
09:10 Symptoms and Effects of Functional Freeze
12:07 Coping Mechanisms and Responses
22:32 The Role of the Nervous System
25:31 Understanding Functional Exhaustion
26:06 The Cost of Pushing Through
26:37 The Importance of Slowing Down
29:32 Recognizing and Honoring Emotions
32:46 Tools for Emotional Regulation
35:42 Practical Techniques for Daily Life
38:59 Healthy Expressions of Emotions
43:05 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability
45:21 Conclusion and Resources
