sometimes, the biggest thing holding you back is yourself. this makes it difficult to grow and build the life YOU want. today, i discuss everything that goes on in my mind. from negative self-talk, my excessive need for control, to blocking myself from having meaningful relationships. join me as i realize that i (we) need help😀🕺🏻 a very raw episode for this one, hope y’all enjoy :)
oftentimes, it’s difficult for us to share what we feel and be vulnerable about it due to the possibility of getting hurt. however, this hinders us from being our most authentic self and can stunt ourselves from personal growth. tune in as tiara and i discuss why we mask our emotions, its effect on us, ways to be comfortable in being vulnerable, and many more! it’s been awhile since i had someone on the podcast, but i hope this can help those who are struggling in some way :)
after months of doing school online and being cooped up at home for a whole year, life can look just like how it was during the pandemic. there were times where i feel stuck, demotivated, and most commonly, anxious. today, i flashback on the things that happened the past 4-5 months ago, discuss what it feels like to go through a pandemic personally, broke down factors that contribute to my academic anxiety, and share ways on how i deal with it. new episodes coming along your way; hope y’all enjoy!
as i’m entering university very soon, i decided to answer your guys’ questions about everything related to university that i wish someone would’ve told me during high school. join me as i discuss my personal struggles applying to different universities, understanding different application systems, debunking the stigma about community colleges, why you should definitely use uni agents, and more! hope y’all had a good listen!
years of friendship has led us to question whether we could still be dependable towards each other despite our limitations. with a couple of misunderstandings and tons of disputes, join tiara, val, and i as we watch our friendship and sanity crumble for carbonara :) make sure to check out this VIDEO podcast episode on spotify for better engagement. you guys ask, we deliver. hope y’all had a good laugh/migrane <3
p.s: arguments & fights were playfully done and no hard feelings were involved; that’s just how we roll lmao. love your friends and always be kind to one another :)
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oftentimes, we think of bad habits as something harmless. though untreated, they can jeopardize one’s health and limit oneself from accomplishing their goals. from identifying and recognizing one's bad habits, setting low aims, forming commitments, to cutting down one’s triggers, today, i share ways on how to achieve a healthier lifestyle by replacing bad habits with good ones! it’s been a while since i did a heart-to-heart episode, so hope you guys enjoyed this one!
there were some sorrow, emptiness, and disappointments last year, but if anything, 2022 has given me plenty of (good) plot twists. from school, health, to even my personal life, nothing ever went the way i wanted it to; but because of this, i am reminded to always expect the unexpected.
with various surprising turn of events, i often doubt myself and the path that i’m in; but with every doubt, i gained resilience. it is at these moments that i am reminded of who should take the pen and continue my story instead. sometimes i have to let go and let God be in control. and as the story persists, 2022 has turned all my graves into gardens. it takes immense courage to have faith in an ending i wouldn’t know or ever expect it to be, but that is where faith comes in, and where the beauty of uncertainty lies.
i want to take this time to thank everyone i know in my life. whether you played a role in my life or not, whether we know or communicate with each other or not, thank you for simply existing. it is at these moments that i realize some people that are most distant or close to you can be your own blessing in disguise.
so, entering this year, pretty late into 2023, i reflect back on experiences and lessons i’ve learned throughout the course of 2022. it’s been awhile since i posted a wholesome, heart-to-heart episode, so i hope you guys enjoy this one <3
keep your head high, face forward into the future, and cheers to a new year full of new challenges and learning experiences up ahead!
to close off the year, val and i finished answering 37 mindful, juicy, wholesome questions for the last day of podmas! there were all kinds of chaotic energy for this one so brace yourself :,) but, hope y’all had a good laugh entering the new year while listening :D
also, i made a poll on spotify to decide which one of us is naughty or nice, so make sure to vote before next saturday, january 7th, and end this debate :)
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a very late merry christmas to those who celebrates! scratch podmas, cause it’s passed the 25th already but, i’ll still be uploading christmas-themed episodes to close this year off. in this podmas episode, tiara, val, and i baked without our senses to test how dependable and patient we are as an individual and towards each other! make sure to check out this episode on spotify, since we’ll be testing out their new video update :0 this is practically a youtube video but hope you guys still had a good laugh lmao
with christmas just around the corner, i decided to create my version of a vlogmas, called a podmas (don’t ask), and post christmas-themed episodes for the next four days. today, val and i answer random and juicy questions to decide which one of us is naughty or nice. hope y’all had a good laugh while listening lmao
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sometimes the best no, is the best yes you can give yourself. in today’s episode, i discuss reasons as to why we people-please such as; fomo, avoiding conflict, fear of abandonment, crave for (unhealthy) love and affection, or simply due to one’s impulsive nature of saying yes to everything! join me in gaining one’s authentic-self by understanding the power in saying “no.” a pretty short & (hopefully) chill episode for this one; hope everyone had a great listen!
for many of us, love is an emotion reserved for special people in our lives. though sometimes, we forget who deserves it more other than you, yourself! today, i invite you guys to come along on this self-love journey by retrieving back one’s self-worth and esteem, being comfortable in one’s skin, gaining self-awareness, maintaining self-care, putting God first and foremost, and balancing one’s needs and others :) hope this was helpful to some of you still struggling to perceive theirs; and hope y’all enjoyed <3
oftentimes, the validation we seek from various places can develop to a fixation. additionally, creating a profound impact on ourselves by questioning our worth. tune in as i discuss what it means to self-validate, its importance, to what extent, and overall, its aim to achieve healthy validation through self-validation practices! hope y’all had a great listen :D
sometimes, we live in our heads so much that we missed everything worth feeling. we hyper-focus our attention on our inner voices that we get stuck in rumination, worries, and assumptions. today, i discuss different kinds of “overthinking scenarios,” broke down the concept of our negative inner voices and how it fuels our need to overthink, shared ways to conquer them, and many more! quite an information-packed episode for this one, but i hope this can help those going through something similar :)
if there’s anything certain in life, it’s that things will mostly happen outside of our control. sometimes, our excessive need to control can lead us to ruminate and cause unproductive stress. tune in as my IB DP psychology teacher, bu karisa, and i broke down the concept of “mindfulness,” discussed ways and benefits of putting it to practice, finding peace in letting go of things we have no control of, and many more! a very insightful episode i’d say :)
also, go check out @/teraspiknik for more information on educational psychology! (and to watch bu karisa's IG live regarding mindfulness)
when we focus so much on the “what ifs,” we tend to forget about the “what is.” as a result, we’re rarely fully present in our lives. today, i discuss what it means to be present-minded, its struggles, and ways to balance living in the past, present, and future. i hope this is helpful to some of you undergoing something similar, and i hope you guys enjoy!
sometimes, holding on does more damage than letting go. in today’s episode, i discuss different types of “letting go” scenarios, as well as what it means to let go, why it’s so difficult, and even the irony as to why it’s called the “art” of letting go. quite a short and chaotic episode for this one, and you’ll see why -_- but i hope this was helpful for some of you going through a similar season :)
when positioned in an abusive situation, your abusers intentionally manipulate you into feeling less. it makes you question your worth, and silences you from voicing out your inner thoughts and emotions. today, i share what it feels like to be a silent victim, how to disregard people from dictating one’s life, allowing oneself and others to express opinions/believes with no restraint, and many more. definitely closing off this series on a good note, hope you guys enjoy!
TW⚠️: abuse
the ugly truth is that violence and abuse is normalized in our country and mental health is looked down upon. during february of this year, tiara and i openly discussed this reoccurring issue by looking at it through victims’ perspectives, breaking generational trauma, understanding short & long term effects, and emphasizing the importance of empathy. ultimately, hoping to shift our society’s mindsets and stop this stigma.
TAKE ACTION! below are hotlines to help and provide psychological first aid for victims of abuse throughout indonesia:
1. Komisi Nasional Anti-Kekerasan terhadap Perempuan (Komnas Perempuan):
National Commission on Violence Against Women (@/komnasperempuan):
2. Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan Anak (KemenPPPA):
Ministry of Women Empowerment and Child Protection (@/kemenpppa)
Hotline tertera berisi enam layanan; yakni pengaduan, pengelolaan kasus, penjangkauan, akses penampungan sementara, mediasi, hingga pendampingan.
3. KPPPA Unit Pelaksanaan Teknik Dinas (UPTD) Provinsi DKI Jakarta:
KPPA of DKI Jakarta Provincial Service Technical Implementation Unit (UPTD):
4. Kementerian Sosial Rakyat Indonesia (Kemensos RI):
Indonesian Ministry of Social Affairs (@/kemensosri):
5. Pusat Panggilan Darurat Lokal:
Local Emergency Call Center:
6. Yayasan Jari (@/yayasanjari):
EDUCATE YOURSELF! expose yourself and broaden your knowledge on the issue:
if you are a bystander to violence/abuse, lend an ear to willingly listen to victims and understand their situation, offer specific help, and continuously be supportive. when someone tells you this is “none of your business,” tell them otherwise. make it your business! take action; it could save a life.
TW⚠️: bullying
bullying is a horrible experience. no kid should ever go through such a thing. it poisons you, but only if you let it. today, i share my experience growing up bullied and how it shaped my character and will to stand up for myself and others. hope to be tackling more of these social issues in my upcoming episodes, so stay tune for those!
TAKE ACTION! below are hotlines to help and aid victims of bullying throughout indonesia:
Ministry of Education, Culture, Research, and Technology (Kemendikbud):
2. Komisi Perlindungan Anak Indonesia (KPAI): 021-319015
Indonesian Child Protection Commission (KPAI): 021-319015
anti-bullying campaign:
@/sudahdong is an anti-bullying movement and community that takes a firm stance against bullying.
counselling opportunities:
if you are a bystander to bullying, don’t be afraid to take action by telling them to stop (involve safe adults if necessary), and make an effort to support and empathize for victims by providing a safe place. breaking the cycle starts by taking action.
