Your marriage doesn’t just need better communication—it needs deliverance.This isn’t about personality differences or unmet expectations… this is about spiritual realities that still have legal access to your marriage, your mind, and your emotions.In this episode, Derek exposes why so many Christian spouses are saved but still bound, and how unhealed areas of the soul (mind, will, emotions, and moral capacity) still produce fruit in the marriage today.You’ll learn what it means to walk in sanctification, not just salvation, and how to close every “topos”—every foothold, legal access, and spiritual ground—that the enemy has occupied.🔥 In This Episode:
In this episode, Derek and Jordan go deep into what it means to prepare for your new marriage.
Most spouses interpret distance, silence, or delay as God being against them—but few recognize that He’s actually reordering them.
Before restoration comes reformation. Before covenant is rebuilt, the individuals within it must be remade.This conversation walks through three critical areas God refines before He restores:1️⃣ Preparing Your Emotions — Learning to discern between conviction, pain, and pressure. Training your emotions to submit to truth before the next attack ever comes.2️⃣ Preparing Your Relationships — Understanding how God reorders access and connection. Some people were for your season, but not your assignment. Learn how to discern covenant, seasonal, and prophetic relationships that align with restoration.3️⃣ Preparing Your Intercession — Moving from emotional prayer to spiritual governance. Intercession isn’t performance—it’s representation. Standing before the throne room of grace on behalf of your spouse and family, with the posture of a reconciler, not a reactor.This episode carries deep revelation for any husband or wife walking through the process of becoming.You are on assignment.You are being prepared.Don’t mistake the process for punishment—this is God’s mercy at work.Scriptures referenced: Matthew 15:1–15, Matthew 25:14–30, John 15:2–6, Luke 13:6–9, Proverbs 24:30–34, Romans 1:21–25, Ephesians 4:19, Exodus 32:32, Romans 9:1–5.
In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that often gets overlooked in marriage: the difference between wounds carried into the marriage (pre-marriage wounds) and wounds that arise in the marriage (in-marriage wounds).
If you’ve noticed recurring conflict, cycles you can't seem to break, or strain in your relationship that doesn’t seem to make sense, this one is for you.
We’ll unpack:
Why simply changing the scenery (new job, new house, new spouse) won’t fix the root of the problem.
How to identify whether a struggle started before your covenant or within it.
The difference between trigger and root — what event might have ignited the wound versus what history is actually fueling it.
A useful diagnosis framework (four questions) to help you trace the origin, the agreement you've made, and where the fruit of the wound is showing up.
Common examples of pre-marriage wounds: family dysfunction, step-family trauma, unmet father/mother images, old soul-ties, unhealed childhood vulnerabilities.
Common examples of in-marriage wounds: betrayal or secrecy, poor communication patterns, spiritual imbalance, financial conflict, withholding affection or intimacy, misaligned leadership in the home.
Practical next-steps: How to steward the wound — for pre-marriage wounds, how to renounce unhealthy vows, rebuild identity, seal the temple and fill the void; for in-marriage wounds, how to walk in ongoing repentance, rebuild governance, restore what’s broken, and remove what’s feeding the wound.
Why it matters:
Many couples think their conflict is only about “what’s happening now,” but the truth is that unresolved issues from before the marriage often surface inside the marriage and get mis-diagnosed.
If you treat the fruit instead of the root, you might keep experiencing the same patterns in a new season.
What you’ll walk away with:
A clearer understanding of whether your marital pain is rooted in the past or being created in the present.
A clearer path toward healing: both internal (identity, past wounds) and relational (communication, trust, leadership).
Practical steps to apply in your life and in your marriage that move you beyond mere avoidance or surface fixes.
A renewed hope: you don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle. The difference between pre-marriage and in-marriage wounding can make all the difference.
In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25
The Church is failing marriages...but marriages are also failing the Church.We’ve watched believers show up for service, serve faithfully, tithe consistently and still live in bondage. Why?Because the modern church looks alive, but carries no authority.And marriages keep feeding that same system with unhealed hearts, unbroken pride, and unrepentant patterns.In this episode, Derek breaks down what Jesus actually came to build.He didn’t say, “I’ll build My synagogue.”He said, “I’ll build My ekklesia.”The ekklesia isn’t a building.It’s a governing body of called-out ones, sons and daughters walking in covenant, carrying authority, and legislating heaven’s rule on earth.We expose why so many churches today are spiritually dead:— They avoid deliverance.— They lack discipleship.— They place people in leadership without accountability.— They hide behind programs and personality tests instead of repentance and transformation.But we also confront how marriages have failed the Church, by bringing unclean, undelivered, divided temples into the house of God and expecting revival to come from a place we refuse to purify.This is a call to return.To understand what it means to be the Bride.Because God isn’t just healing your marriage…He’s healing His ekklesia through your marriage.
If you’ve been praying for restoration, fasting, forgiving, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode will help you understand why. Many spouses want breakthrough in marriage but have never actually encountered God. Without an encounter, we stay bound to the same cycles—bitterness, offense, pride, self-righteousness, and unbelief.This conversation exposes what really keeps couples from transformation. It’s not always the spouse who walked away, filed for divorce, or stopped communicating. Sometimes the real barrier is unrepentant sin, tolerated compromise, or the refusal to let God confront the parts of us that still produce the fruit of the curse.Scripture shows that when bitterness takes root, it defiles everything it touches (Hebrews 12:14–15). When self-protection replaces surrender, we trade the fear of the Lord for the preservation of self. And when we reject rebuke, we also reject the wisdom that could have saved the marriage.This is not about another strategy or technique for communication—it’s about allowing the Holy Spirit to bring transformation through encounter. Because once you truly meet the living God, you don’t just change your perspective on marriage—you change your nature.If you’ve reached the end of your strength and still desire to see your covenant restored, it may be time to stop asking for relief and start crying out for encounter.
Your marriage pain isn’t random.Every disruption, every cycle, every unanswered prayer — it’s not God ignoring you. It’s God positioning you.But here’s the hard truth most people don’t want to hear:👉 Without purification, there is no restoration.👉 Without holiness, there is no healing.👉 Without consecration, there is no Kingdom positioning.In this episode, we dive deep into:The 5 truths that expose when a marriage is out of position.Why a fractured soul (mind, will, emotions, morals) produces broken marriages.How the enemy exploits chaos to keep your covenant stuck in cycles.Why God uses disruption as love to pull you into consecration.The biblical foundation for why your marriage must be purified before it can be positioned for Kingdom work.This is not just about fixing fights or ending the pain. This is about becoming whole in Christ so your marriage can carry the anointing, calling, and assignment it was designed for.“Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” — James 4:8
Most people in the church, in counseling, and even in marriage ministries don’t realize the truth: DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and the Temperaments are not harmless tools—they are rooted in doctrines of demons.In this episode, I expose the origins of these popular personality systems and show you why they are so dangerous for marriages and families. These tests may look like “wisdom,” but their roots come from occult practices, pagan philosophy, and New Age mysticism.What’s at stake?— Your God-given identity.— Your covenant as husband and wife.— The Spirit-led fruit of your marriage.When spouses start identifying more with personality labels than with the image of Christ, they open the door for division, deception, and destruction. But God has called us to something higher: image-bearing, sonship, Spirit-led gifts, and Kingdom assignments.🔎 In this podcast, you’ll learn:The dark origins of DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and TemperamentsWhy these systems are infiltrating churches and counseling roomsThe biblical warning against doctrines of demons and false wisdomHow Satan steals identity to kill marriagesThe true way God defines His sons and daughtersThis is a counter-cultural teaching, but it’s one every marriage needs.
Marriage is under attack—and most husbands and wives were never taught how to fight for it.In this episode of Prophetic Spouses, Derek exposes the false foundations that have whitewashed marriages and calls spouses back to God’s prophetic design for covenant, order, and restoration.No one prepared you for the real demands of marriage. No one showed you how to engage in spiritual warfare for your family. No one taught you how to integrate your marriage into a community that calls you to God’s vision. But there is hope.👉 In this episode, we’ll cover:Why so many marriages are sick at the heart—and how God restores themWhat Ezekiel says about false peace and flimsy foundations (Ezekiel 13:10–12)How Satan uses marriage as the vehicle to attack your family and future generationsWhy God is restoring the five-fold gifts (apostle, prophet, teacher, evangelist, pastor) to marriagesThe prophetic promises over your marriage, your family, and your futureThis is not the time to be strong in your own power. This is the time to be humble, submitted, and filled with the Spirit of God. The prophetic call is clear:✅ Gospel-infused husbands✅ Gospel-infused wives✅ Gospel-infused marriagesYour marriage carries a prophetic promise—and when husbands and wives walk in unity and gifting, they don’t just change their homes…they shift the church, the region, and even nations.📖 Scriptures referenced:Ezekiel 13:10–12, 1 Timothy 1:18, 2 Corinthians 3:14–18, Ephesians 4:11–12
In this episode of Submission Part 2: Boundaries, Triggers & Traumas, we confront one of the greatest deceptions shaping marriages and families today.Our generation is obsessed with therapy trends, self-protection, and man-made fictions. We’ve traded God’s design for psychological language that soothes the flesh but never heals the spirit.👉 Full disclosure therapy leaves you suspicious instead of healed.👉 Generational “no-contact” preaches estrangement instead of honor.👉 Boundaries have become fortresses of fear instead of standards of righteousness.But here’s the truth:God did not design you with triggers.Boundaries without the Spirit are strongholds.Sons and daughters of God should not be governed by trauma, but moved by the Spirit.We are raising up a culture of believers discipled by psychology instead of transformed by Scripture—and it’s leaving homes out of order, marriages broken, and covenants without peace.In this episode we unpack:✅ Why boundaries are today’s language for strongholds✅ Why unclean spirits and fools are the only ones “triggered” in Scripture✅ How submission is about consecration, not control✅ How to stop studying your spouse’s sin and start walking in God’s peaceThis is a prophetic warning and encouragement: your boundaries are giving power to your spouse’s sin. But the blood of Jesus has the final word.📖 Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, James 3:18, Proverbs 3:5–6, Galatians 5:16, Philippians 4:6–9, 2 Corinthians 10:4–5
Most Christian marriages aren’t stuck because of communication issues, intimacy struggles, or personality differences.
They’re stuck because of disorder — rebellion against God’s design for marriage, leadership, submission, and covenant.
In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable reality:
You can’t pray for restoration while resisting the order God established for it.
➔ If you’re still clinging to control, you’re fighting God.
➔ If you’re manipulating outcomes, you’re delaying healing.
➔ If you refuse submission to God’s design, you’re forfeiting the very breakthrough you’re asking for.
We walk through how control and manipulation take root in marriages,
how submission has been distorted by culture and religion,
and why true biblical order is the key to deliverance, restoration, and generational blessing.
You’ll learn:
Why biblical submission isn’t about domination or silence
How rebellion subtly hardens your heart (even when you think you’re "protecting" yourself)
How disorder in your home invites chaos, strife, and spiritual strongholds
What it really means to walk in the power, strength, and covering of God’s order
If you’re tired of surface-level advice…
If you’re desperate to see real change in your marriage…
If you’re ready to confront the spiritual roots that are holding you back—
This episode is for you.
🎙️ Listen now — and let the Holy Spirit open your eyes to the order that unlocks restoration.
Your marriage wasn’t designed to be fruitless, barren, or broken. But if it feels that way, you need to know this—the enemy has been working overtime to keep it that way.
Satan blinds, seduces, and strangles marriages—stealing their spiritual sight, twisting their design, and keeping spouses trapped in cycles of strife, lack, and division. But God’s design has never changed.
In this episode, we’re exposing the real spiritual war over your marriage and why so many couples stay stuck in deception, false judgment, and unrepentance. We'll uncover:
If you’ve been pleading with God for breakthrough in your marriage but feel stuck, this episode is for you. It’s time to open your spiritual eyes, step into alignment with God’s design, and start bearing the fruit of righteousness.
Are You Labeling Your Spouse… Or Are They Spiritually Captured?
We are living in the times that 2 Timothy 4:3-4 warned us about—where people reject sound doctrine in favor of teachings that satisfy their itching ears. And right now, Satan is gaslighting marriages with false labels.
Many spouses believe they’re married to a narcissist, a Jezebel, or an Ahab—and while we won’t pretend these things don’t exist, we also won’t ignore the massive plague of deception surrounding these labels.
The truth? Most spouses aren’t married to a narcissist. They’re married to a spiritually captured individual—governed by the flesh, deceived by unclean spirits, and lacking the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of Christ.
And if you’ve been exhausted in your stand for marriage restoration, it’s not because you’re standing—it’s because you’re accusing. Demonic work is tiring. Satan is using your therapists, pastors, friends, and biased research to keep you in accusation instead of intercession.
In this episode, we expose the spiritual conditions behind destructive behavior in marriage
Using Scripture, spiritual wisdom, and years of marriage coaching, we break down why these conditions are fueling marital destruction—and why the solution isn’t a worldly label, but the power of God to deliver, disciple, and restore.
This episode will challenge you. But if you’re ready to stop using Satan’s blueprint and start walking in biblical restoration, healing, and breakthrough, listen now.
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Is God ignoring your spouse’s sin, or are you still living under the old law? Many believers are unknowingly governed by the law—trained to look for what is wrong, what is missing, and what is not being upheld. This mindset fuels hyper-vigilance, hyper-criticism, and hyper-legalism, leaving many feeling exhausted, anxious, and spiritually stuck.
In this episode, we unpack how the law blinds you from what God is resurrecting, how spiritual discernment is necessary to see beyond the surface, and why transformation in marriage requires stepping into the new covenant. Through scripture and practical insight, we challenge the mindset that keeps marriages in bondage and explore how to walk in the Spirit, not the letter of the law.
Scriptures referenced: 1 Corinthians 15:56-57, 2 Corinthians 3:14-18, Galatians 2:19, Romans 7:6, Romans 8:14-17, James 3:13-18, and more.
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Breaking Stubborn Strongholds in Marriage
In Season 2, Episode 2 of The Established Family Podcast, we tackle the topic of breaking the strongholds that affect every aspect of our lives—from our own minds and marriages to our families and future generations. This episode unpacks how false authority and entrenched spiritual deceptions create these fortresses and why many fail to recognize the need for active participation in dismantling them.
Drawing on powerful biblical passages (such as Psalm 18:2, Psalm 27:1, 2 Samuel 22:2-3, and 2 Corinthians 10:4) and the teachings of Jesus in Matthew 12:29, we explore:
Whether you’re facing recurring challenges in your marriage or seeking deeper spiritual renewal, this episode offers practical insights and encouragement to break free and experience lasting restoration.
What if your stand for marriage isn’t as Godly as you think?Many spouses believe they’re standing in faith, waiting for God to restore their marriage—praying, repenting, and holding on. But what if faith alone isn’t enough? What if your stand has become an idol? What if your obedience is incomplete?In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden dangers of standing for your marriage the wrong way. We’ll expose false stands that look spiritual but are actually rooted in disobedience, fear, and self-preservation. We’ll walk through biblical examples of people who thought they were following God but were actually resisting His will—and how to avoid making the same mistakes in your marriage restoration journey.This is the season of faithful standing—the kind that produces real fruit. But that requires more than hope. It requires action. It requires obedience. It requires truth.⚡ If you're serious about standing the right way, join the Marriage Revival Hub now at MarriageRevivalHub.com. Inside, you’ll find masterclasses, teachings, and a community of spouses fighting for marriage restoration the right way—with wisdom, discernment, and strategy.
In the final installment of The Jezebel Series, we’re diving deep into the emotional, mental, and spiritual dynamics that destroy marriages and uncovering the biblical blueprint for restoration. This episode is not just about recognizing what’s broken—it’s about contrasting it with God’s perfect design for marriage and family.
We’ll press on the uncomfortable truths and challenge the lies that keep you bound:
If you’ve been defensive, blame-shifting, or dismissing hard truths in your marriage, it’s time to compare the condition of your soul to what scripture says about God’s design for restoration. Because restoration isn’t about returning to brokenness or cycles of dysfunction—it’s about returning to covenant.
With a prayer inspired by Paul’s letter to the Colossians, we’ll guide you through how to realign with God’s will for your life, walk in moral courage and personal integrity, and uproot the lies of the enemy.
Let’s take an account of where our hearts and homes stand and declare freedom from the curses of domination, apathy, and narcissism that threaten to steal your legacy.
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MAKE SURE YOU STAY FOR THE END WHERE WE FORGIVE AND RELEASE in order to walk in FREEDOM from these SPIRITS!
In Part 2 of our deep dive into the Jezebel and Ahab spirits, we’re going beyond awareness and into action. If you've recognized the oppressive hold these spirits have on your marriage—or if you feel like the patterns of control, manipulation, or spiritual complacency are keeping you from true freedom—this episode is for you.
Today, we confront the strongholds directly, uncovering how these spirits embed themselves in our lives and marriages, and why only Godly authority can drive them out. Prepare to walk in the power and authority of your God-given identity as we break the chains of control, rejection, and false peace.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
1. The True Path to Spiritual Freedom in Marriage
2. Exposing the Tactics of Jezebel and Ahab in Relationships
3. Why Legalism and Therapy Can’t Heal Spiritual Oppression
4. Embracing Godly Authority and True Deliverance
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In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most challenging but essential topics in marriage restoration: exposing and breaking the Jezebel and Ahab spirits operating within relationships.
Many couples struggle without understanding the underlying spiritual influences driving division, control, and passivity in their marriage.
If you’re exhausted from feeling like you’re the only one fighting for God’s will in your marriage, or if you’ve hit a ceiling in your relationship, this episode is for you.
Together, we’ll uncover these powerful spirits that attack covenant, reveal the biblical truths about their influence, and walk through the path to reclaiming your marriage under God’s authority.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Identifying the Spiritual Battle in Marriage
How the Jezebel and Ahab Spirits Operate
Recognizing the Two Paths of Manifestation
Breaking the Cycle: Standing Firm in Godly Authority
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In this episode, we dive deep into the spiritual and emotional void that many marriages experience when spouses fail to live according to God’s design.
We explore how missing moments, unmet expectations, and brokenness create a painful gap—leaving spouses confused, hurt, and struggling to find healing.
Through biblical truths, we’ll uncover how this “void” isn’t just about what was done wrong, but about who we were meant to be for one another.
We’ll also confront the dangers of willful blindness, hardened hearts, and spiritual laws.
Together, we’ll examine how personal responsibility, humility, and submission to God’s simple spiritual laws can lead to true restoration. Can't wait to hear your feedback fam!
